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Born November 3, 1953. Passed away Friday, August 24, 2012 after a lengthy illness. Allan was the loving husband of Fiona for 24 years and wonderful father to Alex and Lana and lovingly remembered by mother Eleanor Marcy, father the late John Marcy and brother Robert Marcy. A heartfelt thank you to the nurses of St. Elizabeth's who were of great assistance to Allan.

Visitation at Glen Oaks Reception Centre, 3164 Ninth Line, Oakville
Tuesday August 28 from 2-4 and 6-8 p.m.
 Memorial Service at same location on Wednesday, August 29 at 1 p.m.

In lieu of flowers, donations to the Carcinoid NeuroEndocrine Tumour Society of Canada (CNETSC) would be appreciated. 
Contributions may be made online through the Society’s webpage http://www.cnetscanada.org or mailed directly to:

Carcinoid NeuroEndocrine Tumour Society Canada
4103-3219 Yonge Street
Toronto, Ontario
M4N 3S1
Canada
 
With hearfelt thanks from the Marcy family  
 



Lana's Tribute-         

Over the past year other people have looked for the right thing to say. Our family was always looking for the right way to feel. Now I want to find the right thing to say to honor and give credit to everything that he was.

The last year and a half has been very hard for our entire family and mostly my dad. But when I think back all I remember is my Dads determination, fight and strength. My mom always said that this disease was the biggest competition he ever faced, and he never gave up and he never complained. I hope that I have received even a fraction of this great gift that he always had.

 To me he was a coach, comedian, chauffer, best friend, my number 1 fan and the one person that never failed to put a smile on my face. My dad had a talent to make anyone feel good about themselves and could truly talk to anyone. He had a presence that could light up any situation. When working at Longo’s the highlight of my shift would be when my dad came in and yelled something goofy at me over the counter. I’m still trying to figure out who spent more time in there, him or me.

Quite a few years back my dad coached me in basketball for a Hamilton team called Transway that I’m sure a lot of you know. It was a pretty tough season, and our team went through a lot of highs and lows. At our provincial championship we made it to our division finals, and won with a very close game. (I’m not sure the exact score but I know my dad could tell you not only the score but who scored and how many seconds were left on the clock). So when addressing a gym full of people at the end my dad was so proud of our team. He couldn’t keep it together and broke down blubbering crying when giving his speech. Before you knew it the whole team was crying and all the parents from both teams. To my Dad winning that championship was like the equivalent of winning an Olympic gold medal. This story represents exactly who my Dad was to me. No one expected AL Marcy to ever cry, but he was so passionate and put his heart and soul into everything he did.

My Dad showed me that if you don’t want to accept something, then don’t. Keep working at it no matter what and never give in. He demonstrated that in every aspect of his life, especially this past year. Unique, loving, strong, fun, crazy,  unpredictable, inappropriate, hilarious and sweet I miss you Daddy. 


  

November 5, 2012
November 5, 2012
My deepest sympathies to Allan's family and friends.
November 3, 2012
November 3, 2012
Happy Birthday Allan... we'll be celebrating for you! Hope that you are watching!
September 4, 2012
September 4, 2012
It is with deepest sympathy that I send this message. I was so sorry to hear of Allan's passing. I wish I could have attended the service. I will always remember his visits to our office. I think we talked and laughed about anything and everything and even fitted some business into the conversation before we finished. I will miss those visits from Allan very much.
August 31, 2012
August 31, 2012
Fiona,
I will never forget when you and Allan first started dating. The three of us went out for dinner so that we could get to know one another. It was evident how devoted the two of you were to each other right from the start. Allan's goal was to make you happy, which he evidently did for you always smiled in his presence.
August 30, 2012
August 30, 2012
Fiona,I'm not sure where to start with my very deep appreciation for having shared so many special moments with Allan. We all wish there could have been countless more.Whether it centered around basketball, playing golf at Mississauga or attending Disco's in Toronto (1979) etc. he was larger than life so so witty,funny and engaging.I miss him very dearly and pray for your family.
August 30, 2012
August 30, 2012
My condolences goes out to the Marcy Family in surch a heartfelt time, May God continue to keep you all strong at this time. His Memories will live on.
August 29, 2012
August 29, 2012
When I first encountered Allan it was in an old basketball league(suprise!) I immediately noticed what a character he was and got to know him much better when we became good friends at All Pro Basketball Camp. He was a genuinely warm, caring and funny person. I must take credit for introducing him later that summer to Fiona. Heartfelt condolences to the Marcy family .
August 28, 2012
August 28, 2012
Rose and I feel incredibly sad and send condolences to his family. Al made a difference in this world. He made a difference to all the girls he coached. He made a difference to Rose and was instrumental in helping her to get into Vassar. He made a difference to me in making me laugh and showing how much he cared about what he did. Al mattered in this world and he will be deeply missed.
August 28, 2012
August 28, 2012
A tribute to a larger than life kind of guy, who I shared some of the deepest belly laughs ever. A pleasure to have known you "short bench Al" Deepest sympathies to Fiona and the family.
August 28, 2012
August 28, 2012
Fiona, Lana,Alex,Bob & everyone at General.
Al will be missed. He could always be counted on to source out the most obscure supplies and was happy to do so.A great salesman!
I will miss our lunches, catching up over a beer.
RIP Friend.
August 28, 2012
August 28, 2012
With deepest sympathy. For a few decades "Big Al" was known to many of his opponents as a fierce competitor, a true gentleman and always one with good humour and sportsmanship. It was a privilege to have played against him those many years. He will truly be missed by all of his basketball buddies!
August 28, 2012
August 28, 2012
Thanks for the memories Coach Allan... 
Condolence to the Marcy family..Our prayers are with you..
From Wally , Marie and family..
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Our deepest sympathy from the Aebig family. Allan was a great influence on Meg and an amazing coach. We are so sorry for your loss
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Deep condolences to Fiona and family. We did not know Allan too long about 7 years. When he came and coached for my organisation -Transway we got to know him a lot better and became good friends. He loved to be around people He loved coaching the girls. never known a person so generous with his time to help in anyway. He liked hearing about Transway Basketball history,.He will be missed
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
I send out my heart to you Allan! I hope you had a wonderful life, and continue to be happy wherever you may be. ^-^
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Al will be long remembered for his love of basketball, jogging down my street chasing his dog, and always for interesting conversation shopping at longos on weekend mornings. My deepest sympathies to Fiona, Lana and Alex.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
We are very sorry for your loss. Our deepest and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. He will be greatly missed.
Our thoughts are withe you. The Baier family.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
In memory of Allan: many good times and hard fought battles on the basketball court are remembered by myself and many others. Al will long be remembered.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Allan had a special kind of individualism that his friends and family valued deeply. I have known him since we started high school in 1967 and over the years, though we lost contact from time to time, it was always comforting to know that "Big Al" was there. I offer my deepest sympathy to Fiona, Lana and Alex and the rest of the Marcy family. He was a good man and a good friend.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Fiona, Lana and Alex, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad and difficult time. Alan was a true fighter. Please do not hesitate to call if you need anything at all.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Dear Fiona and family, We send our love and support to you all.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
My deepest condolences Fiona, Alex and Lana. You are in my thoughts at this difficult time, and know that I am here if you need anything at all.
August 27, 2012
August 27, 2012
Fiona, Alex and Lana- I would like to express my deepest sympathies over the loss of your husband/father. You are all in my thoughts and prayers during this time of sadness and loss. May the wonderful memories you have shared together over the years with Allan bring you sources of comfort and strength in the days to follow. His spirit will continue to live on in your hearts forever.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Deepest sympathies to Fiona and the whole family. We are thinking of you at this difficult time. May the wonderful memories of Allan bring you strength and peace.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
heartfelt condolences Fio,to your and your family...never easy...his journey continues though!!
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
from all the Randalls, We send our love to you, Fiona, Alex and Lana and the Marcy-Smith families. You grieve a huge loss of husband, father, son, brother, uncle. All your friends share your pain and will hold a special place in our hearts for Allan...forever. xoxo
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Thinking of all of you at this time. He was a soul that will truly be missed. There will not be a basketball game in our future that he will be a part of in our thought. Thanks for the coaching the memories and the friendship. Keep him in your heart and he will live forever.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Fiona.,

My deepest and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. If there is anything I can do for you, please do not hesitate to ask.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Dear Fiona, Alex and Lana, eventually memories of who Allan was, the man you married Fiona, the vital, active man and father he was will take over who he became as he suffered for so long. Dwell in those happier remembrances as you heal and find peace.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Hi Fiona,
Lori and I are very sorry to hear of your husband's death. We never had a chance to meet him, but knew of him through you and my sister. We hope that you find comfort in the warmth of your family and friends.
Ric and Lori
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
I am so sorry Fiona, Alex and Lana. Allan will be missed. May your special memories bring you comfort and peace.
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
My prayers are with you Fiona, Alex, Lana.
xxoo
August 26, 2012
August 26, 2012
Dear Fiona, Lana and Alex,
My deepest sympathies to you and the rest of your family. Just know you have the support and love of all your friends during your time of grieving and in the days ahead.

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November 5, 2012
November 5, 2012
My deepest sympathies to Allan's family and friends.
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Al

August 24, 2013
I was thinking about Al last week. I had come across a series of individuals in a particular day who appeared to be sleepwalking through life. They didn't care about what they were doing and it was readily apparent to whomever interacted with them. This made me think of Al. Al always threw a great deal of passion into the current task at hand. He was not afraid to 'ruffle feathers' when he saw something that he didn't think was correct or proper. His personality was imposing to some but I viewed those who felt imposed upon as afraid of life. Al loved life and he displayed this quality with everyone he interacted with. The world needs more Al's. One final thought. My interaction with Al came about by a small, thoughtful, gracious gesture he performed that few do and which told me everything about the man. I was in the process of deciding who I wanted to coach Rose the following season as her team had broken up. She was at a summer event that Al was involved in. At one point in the practice Al told the girls to switch the jerseys they were wearing, red to blue to mix the teams up. Now I have seen other coaches give this same instruction but only Al did the following; upon giving the instruction Al immediately put his hands on his knees and looked directly down at the floor and waited long enough for the girls to have switched jerseys. Of course they all had t shirts and sports bras underneath but out of respect Al still averted his eyes like the true gentleman that he is. At that exact second I knew this gracious, thoughtful gesture told me this is the guy.

Hendrix and Hoops

August 27, 2012

Allan coached the Transway basketball team that my daughter Julia played on.  We spent a lot of weekends with Allan over a 2-3 year period and had some good laughs.  

The conversation landed on music one day and I found out he was a big Hendrix fan and an aspiring guitarist.  He knew I was a guitarist as well and asked if I could tab out the main riff/bass line of a Hendrix song 'Who Knows'.  I never did get a chance to hear him play, but he seemed pretty excited about getting the guitar tab. 

Here's to you Allan. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zA3FG0OBF-k 

Every Morning

August 26, 2012

Every single morning I would make my way to the Marcy house where I would wait in the morning chaos until Lana, Mr.Marcy and I would hop into the car and drive to school. Allan, I still probably owe you so much in gas money... but you always knew how to put a smile on Lana and I's face in the mornings. You were always the most hilarious adult I knew. It seems like yesterday that you were hollering out "10 point for hitting the old lady!". Life goes by faster than anyone ever knows, but I will always have my mornings with you and Lana in my heart forever. Rest in Peace. Love, Stalker<3

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