This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Blaine Deatherage-Newsom, 35, born on July 21, 1979 and passed away on December 31, 2014. We will remember him forever.
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Leave a tributeWe have known each other for close to fifty years. My heart goes out to you for Blaine - you and Ric were there for him, and he thrived on your love. I know that a few words cannot change things, but I want you to know that your many friends love and support you, wherever we are.
All the best, and all my love.
Steve
One of the worst moments of my life came in 1996 when I walked into Wilson High School one day around noon to take Blaine a book he had forgotten at home. I knew it was his lunch hour so I went straight to the cafeteria. I quickly began scanning the room, wondering how I was going to find him amidst the noisy and chaotic crowds of laughing, chattering, bouncing-up-and-down students. Then I saw him. There he was, sitting all alone in his wheelchair, at a large round table intended to seat a dozen. In fact, when I looked more closely, I could see that other students had moved chairs from his table to others nearby, crowding in where there wasn’t enough room, so they could be near their friends.
The next sound I heard was that of my heart breaking into a thousand pieces. From that moment, I could no longer deny that despite his engaging and sociable nature, as every year went by, Blaine was becoming more and more isolated at school and in the world. The other kids, through no ill intention, just overlooked and swept by him more and more often as they moved faster and more confidently through the world. The enormity of that reality nearly flattened me.
For the next several years, I feared that this would be Blaine’s lot in life. I focused on making certain that at least at home, he would feel he entirely belonged. At least he can connect with other people via the Internet, I comforted myself. For a while I didn’t have the strength or courage to imagine he would find a place in the real world where he utterly feels included.
Then he found Free Geek and the world changed for both of us. At least four days a week, Blaine gets up and gets himself ready and heads to Free Geek where he volunteers as an assistant build instructor and helps people in need learn how to build and repair computers. If Ric can’t take him, Blaine takes the bus and wheels the several blocks from the bus stop to the front door. When Ric tells me that when he drops Blaine off he hears several people call out, “Hey, Blaine, glad you’re here, there’s something we need you to take a look at,” my heart mends itself and soars like a hawk. I didn’t dare dream this day would ever come. What I see happening at Free Geek, both for Blaine and any number of other overlooked people in our world, is nothing short of magic.
If you are one who looks for good places to make your tax exempt cash donations at the end of the year, during the season when we all try to remind ourselves of our good fortune and our opportunity to share it with others, I heartily recommend you consider making a donation to Free Geek (see enclosed materials & SASE). I can’t imagine a more important contribution.
Thank you so much for lending an ear, a very happy holiday season to you and yours,
Marie Deatherage
http://www.freegeek.org/blaine-deatherage-newsom-youre-awesome/
Peace,
Mike
I did not have the pleasure of knowing Blaine, but I do know Marie's love and caring for her son. Marie is a devoted, creative and "always there" mom. I admire your motherhood, Marie.
Alice
We have known each other going on 45 years now, and even though we are thousands of miles apart, I still love you for many things - especially for your unfailing devotion to Blaine.
From your old friend in Chicago,
Steve
uplifting. He made all around him better.
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Please be patient.
Getting ready to watch the Huskies take on Alabama in the Peach Bowl, New Year's Eve 2016, 2 years exactly since Blaines passing. Wish you were here Blainey. And for the Seahawks game tomorrow, so we could rock our Blue Cheese Heads which we bought and painted in support of the Hawks. We're so awesome.