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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Cara R, 32 years old, born on March 26, 1983, and passed away on May 14, 2015. We will remember her forever.
May 14, 2023
May 14, 2023
My mind knows

you are in a better place, where there is no pain. You are at peace. I understand that, I just wish I could explain that to my heart.
March 26, 2023
March 26, 2023
I wanted to preserve life before you were gone. I didn’t want to know grief. But the pain kept me connected. It meant that I loved you, it meant that I would always be a little broken, it meant that our love filled all of the empty spaces. It meant that you would be with me... forever.”
March 27, 2022
March 27, 2022
I miss you bigger than the moon. There is light in the sky but I cannot see it. Your love is with me. Please somehow let me feel it. I know there is light in your love.
Happy birthday sweet Cara.


Dear Jesus, thank You for giving us the beautiful picture of Heaven in Your Word, where you said that there will be no longer would there be any more curse or any more night. I look forward to that time, for I know I will be with You and will be able to see my earthly
daughter Cara in Heaven. Please comfort my daughter Cara with the thought that one day we will be together again. Lord, if I need to make any changes in my life so that I can see her in Heaven, please forgive me and guide me to the assurance of my salvation and my future home in Your presence in Heaven. Amen.
March 26, 2021
March 26, 2021
I miss you bigger than the moon. There is light in the sky but I cannot see it. Your love is with me. Please somehow let me feel it. I know there is light in your love.
Happy birthday sweet Cara
December 22, 2020
December 22, 2020
My hand is empty without yours in it, and my heart is broken without you in my world.
 I Miss you very much much,Your daughter's are doing great your granddaughter is awesome little Zamora.
 Once the heart gets too heavy with pain, people don't cry. They just turn silent. Completely silent.
May 14, 2020
May 14, 2020
The first time they laid you in my arms,
you were so small and precious,
the perfect gift from above,
and in an instant I fell in love.

From a girl to a woman, I would watch you grow,
it was the perfect plan, you know.

But I didn't realize just how it would happen so fast.
I just wish that I could go back and relive the past.

For the plan I once had
would no longer be.
When God called you home
I felt so all alone.

The day we had to part
left a big gaping hole in my heart.

Now every day I wake and cry,
for I never had the chance to say goodbye.
Then I think of your laugh and smile,
and know I will see it again in just a short while.

I often speak your name..
now all I have are memories
and your picture in a frame.

Your memory is my keepsake,
with which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping,
I have you in my heart.

I will miss you and think of you with love,
and know that you are with our loved ones above.

                    Rest in Peace, Cara
                             Love, Daddy


May 14, 2018
May 14, 2018
It's just me again baby girl. Can't believe it's been 3 years since you're passing seems like yesterday I miss you more and more everyday goes by. I just wanted to drop and tell you I love you.
Your daughters are turning out to be beautiful women you would be so proud and your granddaughter she is very precious. Love always your Dad
May 14, 2017
May 14, 2017
Happy Mother's Day beautiful Sweet Cara.
Your kids are doing very well. You're a grandmother now she's very beautiful you would be proud of your daughter he became a very good mom thanks to you miss you very much love Dad
March 27, 2017
March 27, 2017
Happy Birthday in Heaven, Cara. ❤️ I truly am lost without you. I miss and love you so much!!!
March 26, 2017
March 26, 2017
Cara today is your birthday and I just went through our memories. Thanks for blessing me with all the love, inspiration, and thoughtfulness. I miss you more than anything. Happy birthday to my beautiful daughter.

On your birthday, my words are not enough to express that how much I miss you and the amount of the happiness & memorable moments that you gave to my life. You will be always in my prayers & will never die because you’re forever in my remembrance.
Cara, though your absence is painful and heartbreaking for our family, I console myself by knowing that you are now with God & from heaven, you take care of our family and guides me. I love you Cara!! Happy birthday in heaven, Cara my sweet Angel!!
March 26, 2017
March 26, 2017
Happy Birthday Cara I know you looking down on your mom and dad and your 3 girls and granddaughter they all miss you dearly
And they love you so much
Me and your dad talks about you just about every day
Love your uncle Patrick
May 14, 2016
May 14, 2016
The first year the hardest.

The loss of children is a pain all bereaved parents share, and it is a degree of suffering that is impossible to grasp without experiencing it first hand. Often, when we know someone else is experiencing grief, our discomfort keeps us from approaching it head on. But we want the world to remember our child or children, no matter how young or old our child was.

If you see something that reminds you of my child, tell me. If you are reminded at the holidays or on her birthday that I am missing my daughter, please tell me you remember her. And when I speak her name or relive memories relive them with me, don't shrink away. If you never met my daughter, don't be afraid to ask about her. One of my greatest joys is talking about CARA.
March 28, 2016
March 28, 2016
Daughters are a source of immeasurable joy for her parents. Long before a daughter is born, she is deeply loved. Daughters are often a mother's best friend, her ally, and her most precious treasure. For a father, a daughter is often the apple of his eye, his princess. It is no surprise then, that a parent's love for a daughter is so intense and selfless. For this reason, the loss of a daughter can bring on a range of difficult emotions including numbness, guilt, anger, emptiness, disbelief and deep sadness. Happy birthday sweet Angel

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May 14, 2023
May 14, 2023
My mind knows

you are in a better place, where there is no pain. You are at peace. I understand that, I just wish I could explain that to my heart.
March 26, 2023
March 26, 2023
I wanted to preserve life before you were gone. I didn’t want to know grief. But the pain kept me connected. It meant that I loved you, it meant that I would always be a little broken, it meant that our love filled all of the empty spaces. It meant that you would be with me... forever.”
March 27, 2022
March 27, 2022
I miss you bigger than the moon. There is light in the sky but I cannot see it. Your love is with me. Please somehow let me feel it. I know there is light in your love.
Happy birthday sweet Cara.


Dear Jesus, thank You for giving us the beautiful picture of Heaven in Your Word, where you said that there will be no longer would there be any more curse or any more night. I look forward to that time, for I know I will be with You and will be able to see my earthly
daughter Cara in Heaven. Please comfort my daughter Cara with the thought that one day we will be together again. Lord, if I need to make any changes in my life so that I can see her in Heaven, please forgive me and guide me to the assurance of my salvation and my future home in Your presence in Heaven. Amen.
Her Life

The Unbelievable Thread

May 14, 2018

I cannot understand
how two people
who used to be so close,
whose souls were knit
so tightly together
could suddenly
be parted
and stripped away forever
from each other’s arms
mere whispers
used to draw our hearts together,
but now even my loudest cries
fail to bring you back to me
how can it be?
how can you suddenly
be so far away from me?
must I accept your passing
as a fitting end to what we’ve had?
should I accept that from this moment
there will always be a chasm between us
one that I can never cross
to see you
and to be with you again
not even for a single happy while
have you really gone away
have you really left me
all alone
can’t you hear me now as I speak
can’t you see me now as I search the skies
for traces of your smile?
O how I wish you could see me now
And how I desire that all this time
that I’ve been praying,
you’re really sitting there, listening
gazing at me
loving me
as you’ve always done before
How I pray
you have not really gone,
that you haven’t left my side at all,
not even for a short lonely while
That all the while I have been weeping
you’re holding out your hand
catching my every tear
that all the while I have been praying
you’re praying with me, too
and with all the angels
in whose company
you now walk amongst
Who knows indeed?
who knows?
maybe you haven’t really left
maybe the love we’ve had
has woven a golden thread
between you and me
a thread that shall remain
as surely as love remains
a thread that shall draw us together
forever
and we’ll never ever need
to say goodbye

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Grief

May 14, 2021
Ever since my 32-year-old daughter Cara passed 6 years ago today, I’ve been obsessed with stories about grief, my own included.




I keep retelling my story over and over again, examining it from a dozen different angles, trying to navigate this landscape of loss without a compass. I know I’m not the first person searching for meaning in a world that no longer makes sense — and I certainly won’t be the the last — but popular culture denies the pain of grief at every turn. I thought I had it under control: The-Grief.



Turns out I don't



I WILL GRIEVE FOR A LIFETIME



Period. The end. There is no "moving on," or "getting over it."  no fix, no....



solution to my heartache. There is no end to the ways I will grieve and for how long I will grieve. There is no glue for my broken heart, no exilir for my pain, no going back in time. For as long as I breathe, I will grieve and ache and love Cara with all my heart and soul.



There will never come a time



where I won't think about who



Cara would be, what she would look like now, and how she would be woven perfectly into the tapestry of my family. I wish people could understand that grief lasts forever because love lasts forever, that the loss of a child is not one finite event, it is a continuous loss that unfolds minute by minute over the course of a lifetime. Every missed birthday, holiday, milestone should-be back-to school school years and graduations of her daughter; weddings that will never be; able to see her grandchild that should have been but will never be seen- an entire generation of people are irrevocably altered forever.



This is why grief lasts forever. The ripple effect lasts forever. The bleeding never stops

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