When I came out to Mom, my single greatest fear was, like so many others in the world, I would be abandoned; Mom would cease to love me, and once again I would be alone. Where would I go? Who now would be my touchstone, mentor...my sage?
As I share this story with you now, I can't imagine how I ever feared losing Mom's love back then, but fear is insidious when fueled by some around you.
When I told Mom I was gay, she began to cry - given parents don't usually cry out of joy, I'm thinking this isn't going to end well. Regardless, my fears of coming out were so unfounded. Mom stands up, with tears streaming down her face; walks over to me; wraps her arms around me and - while I don't remember much of my high school trig, Latin, or chemistry, I've never forgotten what she said...
"I'm so happy you have discovered who you truly are; when you find someone to love, please bring them home so I can love them too."
With those simple words of compassion, love and acceptance, Mom saved my life...
Part of the joy Mom and I shared in the years after, was when the two of us would talk about how many lives she has touched through me - how many people have felt the support she so freely gave me, and thus have chosen to accept and love themselves for who they truly are. Without her bedrock love, hundreds of people would not have experienced the acceptance each of us who inhabit this planet can easily give and so richly deserve. Way to go Ma!
A bazillion hugs and love,
Your Kid