- 49 years old
- Date of birth: Jun 6, 1965
- Date of passing: Oct 22, 2014
|Let the memory of Cynthia be with us forever|
Ilene Oakley Carmack, 87 and her daughter, Cynthia Ann Carmack perished Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 at their home at 2579 Hwy 15 North in Creedmoor when a fire started and flames engulfed their home.
Both were longtime residents of Granville County and members of Olive Grove Baptist Church in Creedmoor. Ilene was the daughter of Lynwood G. Oakley and Eula Frances Oakley.
Ilene retired from 39 years of employment with Liggett and Myers Tobacco Company in Durham, NC in 1985. Gifted with an extraordinary green thumb and a love for gardening, she kept a large vegetable garden on her property for many years. Known for her generosity, strength of spirit, love for animals and kindness, she will be sorely missed.
Cynthia was her sweet, loving daughter, born with Downs Syndrome. Cynthia loved to laugh and her laughter was contagious.
The two were inseparable in life and now in eternity.
Ilene was a loving Mother who gave sacrificially to her children to the end and Cynthia was a cherished sister.
Surviving are a daughter, Nancy Holth Adrian, of St. Charles, MO and a son, Harvey Lee Carmack of Creedmoor.
Ilene was preceded in death by her son Thomas “Tommy” Carmack in 1994 and her former husband, Harvey Carmack as well as a sister, Mary Frances Langdon.
Visitation will be 2:00 pm at Eakes Funeral Home on Saturday, November 1st followed by a memorial service at 3:00 pm conducted by Jonathan Barbee, Pastor of Olive Grove Baptist Church.
The family would like to thank the employees of Revlon, members of Olive Grove Baptist Church and the community at large for the outpouring of love and support during the aftermath of this tragedy.
"Dear Nancy, Buddy and Ashley,
It is with great heart felt sympathy that I write to you all today. I had wanted to be there to offer friendship, love and compassion. I hope knowing that I love you all and feel in some ways you are my family too will at least bring you all a little bit of comfort to know you are loved. They say Life is a journey... and if this is the case, your mother and Cynthia have made the most beautiful journey ever into eternity.
But there were many journey's. Happy family journey's to St. Louis, to the beach, to Texas... and memories.... happy memories that I hope you all will let embrace you when the going gets hard and the sadness feels overwhelming. Always remember the fun times, the laughter and know that "CABIN 13" is now Mansion 13 and there will be many rooms for everyone someday.
I remember the first time I met your mother. She was warm, friendly and smiling. She greeted me with her sunny southern drawl that only people who'd lived in North Carolina or Virginia would understand. She was a gracious soul and a loving mom who cradled the strength of a warrior. Although we had talked on the phone many times, meeting her reminded me of my grandmother in many way... always making sure everyone else was taken care of. Every phone call ended with "Ya'll be good," or "Ya'll take care."
Another time, I think it was Easter when you all came over for brunch, she wanted to help. I just wanted her to relax and enjoy not having to work. After dinner, We were all sitting down to have dessert, and coffee talking and telling stories when someone said Where's mama? We found her doing dishes and asked her to sit with us. She did but you could tell she would rather be busy than sit idle.
I believe that was the same visit that Mikayla and Matilynn met Cynthia for the first time. They went in the bedroom to play "Barbie" and might have taught Cynthia to play beauty shop with the "Barbies." Ashley came in to tell us that they were doing something but we told her to just enjoy playing. and we'd be in to check on them in a few minutes. When I went in to check on them, all four of them had scissors and barbies. Several Barbie dolls donned new styles that day....Spiked hair... Spiked hair was not in fashion that year. Matilynn started to cry that her doll was now ugly but Cynthia started laughing and said a mouth full of words that none of us understood until the last word which was "Funny!"
and we all laughed.
When we travelled to North Carolina for our book signing event, your mother invited us over for dinner. I remember how excite she seemed to be to have company for dinner. She seemed to like having us there and I was glad to be there. She made chicken nuggets because that's what she thought the girls would like. She talked about the salsa she had made and canned herself from the tomatoes she had grown. She opened up a jar for us to use as a dipping sauce and it was quite delicious. She even gave me a jar to bring hone with me which I stuffed into my shoe and packed in my checked baggage. She insisted I try beets...I never liked beets but I tried one. Next she brought out greens beans... not just ordinary green beans, but the old fashioned ones canned in a jar after hours of painstaking work of breaking beans. I don't remember what all she brought out that day, but I know she kept thinking of other things to bring out once I loved the salsa. And Cynthia loved the company too it seemed. She would say "good" with every bite and when the watermelon came out for dessert, she had Mikayla and Matilynn laughing so hard. She took their rinds and told them they were good. I don't think I have ever heard so much giggling. her laughter was contagious.... whatever she thought was funny, might not have been to funny to others, but her laughter was contagious and spread quickly.
When we left she made sure we had money to get back on and that we wouldn't need anything.
I remember her and Ashley once arguing over something, maybe a Barbie doll and Cynthia started laughing and giggling. Soon Ashley was laughing too. Ashley said "its not fair she makes me laugh and right now i just want to be mad at her." But she couldn't and she probably didn't really want to anyway. If she did Cynthia was not going to let that happen.
Ilene and Cynthia will always be a part of our happy memories and they will be missed by many. I love you guys and please know that I am praying for you all and want to be there for you.
"Family of Ilene & Cindy Carmack. I am so sorry to hear of the tragedy and the passing of these two sweet, kind, loving people who I have known since the eighties. They were customers of The Cleaners which I managed. Cindy was always laughing and her mother so sweet. I enjoyed seeing them come in. Prayers are with the family. May you find peace in knowing they are enjoying the streets of gold laughing and no pain."
"Hello Nancy and Buddy. I am Deborah Carmack Gates, one of George Carmack's daughters. My mother Della worked with your mother at Leggett-Myers for years and really thought a lot of her. I have met her several times over the years and she was such a nice, friendly person. I only met Cynthia one time and she was laughing about some thing and it was such a happy sound.
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time."
"Hello Nancy and Buddy. Know that I am thinking of you and praying for you during this difficult time. I only met your Mom and Sister a couple of times but they were both so sweet and Cynthia had the laughter of an angel. Now she is dancing with the angels."
"Hello Nancy, and Buddy, It's been a long time. I am Nita Carmack Smith. I am your cousin. Watson's granddaughter. I called him daddy. I was so deviststed to hear about your mom and Sister. Aileen had a heart of gold and will not be forgotten. Our memories and home movies will be great memories. As for Cynthia, despite her disability she was a ray of sunshine and yes her mama did spoil her. I remember going over to you alls house and she had gotten something new ,and she was so excited to show use. I am so sorry that I haven't seen you all in many years. But you got married and moved away, and Buddy you was always working. The last time I saw your mom and Cynthia was about 10 years ago they both came to the house to pay respect when Mary Ann Carmack died. Your mom and Cynthia came by many times after that to see us. I love you both an I'll see you Nov.1st. Looking forward to it."
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