- 36 years old
- Date of birth: Jun 21, 1977
- Place of birth:
Trenton, New Jersey, United States
- Date of passing: Oct 7, 2013
- Place of passing:
Sanibel, Florida, United States
|Let the memory of Barrett be with us forever|
This memorial site has been created in memory of D. Barrett Anding, who was lost to us so suddenly on Monday, October 7, 2013. We hope to grow the site as a way of remembering Barrett; a loving Father, Husband, Son, Brother and Friend. We encourage you to post not only a short tribute below, but please take the time to share any stories, photos or videos that you have of Barrett by clicking the "Stories" tab above. In addition to being a way for us all to remember Barrett, these will be saved for his daughter Jacqueline to reflect on as she gets older. Cards and letters can be mailed to Jaqueline and Dayna at 6447 Pine Avenue, Sanibel FL 33957
In lieu of flowers, the family has requested that donations be made to the education account that has been set up for Barrett & Dayna's daughter, Jacqueline. Checks should be made out to "Jacqueline Anding" and can be mailed to Joe or Leslie Anding, 291 Ferry Landing, Sanibel FL 33957. The memo field on the check should ONLY SAY "Jacqueline" on it.
Additionally, donations can now be made via credit card or PayPal account and processed securely through PayPal (you do not have to have a PayPal account to contribute). We are trying to resolve a technical issue that is preventing us from adding the the PayPal "Donate Button" to this page. In the mean time, you can still make credit card and PayPal donations by clicking on the link below. If you choose to make a contribution via credit card, you will receive an error if that same card is associated with an existing PayPal account.
We truly appreciate all of the kind Tributes, Stories and Photos that have been added to this site.
PLEASE WATCH THE VIDEO SLIDESHOW OF BARRETT BY CLICKING THE "GALLERY" LINK ABOVE
"Dear Joe, Leslie, Devan, Brian and Jacqueline,
You have all been in my heart and on my mind these last few weeks. I miss you all so much and especially Barrett. He was such a shining star and he is shining much brighter in Heaven."
"Allan and I share your sadness on this day of memory in Barrett's honor.
Elise and Allan Hall"
"Dayna, Jacqueline, Leslie, Joe, and Devon, I hope our warm thoughts for Barrett and your whole family help on this difficult day. Thankful for knowing him and think of him every time I make or serve his "Chowder" at the East End Deli. Miss playing poker with him as well. Take Care."
"Our thoughts and prayers are with all of the Andings on this sad anniversary date."
"Like most days I remember Barrett today. Today I remember him for giving the best bear hugs, or as we called them, Barrett hugs. So, a great big Barrett hug today for everyone as we remember one of the best. Always in our hearts. Love u B"
"Dayna, Jacqueline, Leslie, Joe, and Devon my thoughts and prayers are with you all today. Peter S."
"Thinking about Barrett today on his birthday!!!!!!!!!!! June 21,2015"
"I didn't know until this summer that Barrett had a favorite flower! It is the sunflower and I think that is fitting since the first time Brrett came to visit our family state side was when we lived in Kansas and the Kansas State Flower is the Sunflower. It reminds me of his smile always sunny and bright. I don't know what we would have done without the Anding family when we moved to Berlin Germany! That is where we all met and became immediate friends. Barrett and sister Devan where a breathe of fresh air not to mention Leslie and Joe! We will miss him forever!"
"I will always remember Barrett"s infectious smile and the way he always made me feel that I was an important part of his life. He had the ability to make everyone that he knew feel special."
"Thinking of you today on your birthday Barrett! I'll never forget it, the summer solstice. Miss and love you!"
"I know today is a tough one for you all! It is Barretts birthday and we all miss him! Happy Birthday to Barrett!"
"Dear Joe and Leslie,
Joe, I am an old friend of yours -- Carole Walters - and I came across Leslie's FACEBOOK quite by accident and learned that you lost your beloved son Barrett last year. I just want to say how very sorry I am. We lost our beloved son Keith over 25 years ago when he was 21 years old, so I KNOW the grief and suffering you are going through. I can only tell you that as the years go by the suffering does get less; and most importantly, you will see the Lord use the loss of your son in many different ways in your lives -- I know that sounds impossible at this point of your loss, but it is true. The most important thing of all is to KNOW that Barrett is with the Lord and you WILL see him again.
I also lost my husband Johnny last year after a long illness. His passing was a blessing as he had suffered for many years. I'm so happy that he's now with the Lord and no longer in pain. Maybe one day we can get together as I live in Ormond Beach -- just south of Port Orange where your daughter lives, if my information is correct.
God bless you both,
"Just signed up to run my first marathon through your back yard in Bucks County this November. I am dedicating my run to you, Devan and your parents!"
"I am so sad to hear the news of Barrett's passing. I have so many fond memories of him in my class at Sol Feinstone. He had an infectious smile and made me smile so much with his wonderful sense of humor! I am sure he is smiling down on all of us now. Love, Darlyne"
"I'm so sorry to hear the shocking news of Barrett's passing. I knew Barrett from summers spent on Fire Island. My deepest condolences to his Family."
"Your sad story begins with Barretts' passing in the prime of his life.
Leaving a wonderful small family, mom, dad and a sister. Why? We earthlings don't have the answer.Out thoughts are with you, much love Margaretha Wexler, NJ WWI Chapter"
"My deepest condolences to Leslie, Joe, Dynea, & Jacqueline on such
a devestating loss. May You go forth with strength and determination
and many happy memories."
"I saw the notice of Barrett's passing on the Prep website. My son graduated in '97. Leslie, I remember your passion for Second Hand Joe's and the story you told of Barrett starting out in a size 14 Boy's jacket as a freshman and ending up as a senior in a 2XX.
There are no words to express my sorrow for you and your family...my deepest condolences. God Bless you all."
"Joe & Leslie - so very sorry to hear about your loss. We can only imagine how difficult this is. We are thinking of you.
Rich and Ann"
"Dear Leslie and Joe, our deepest sympathies to you and your family.We are thinking of you all.Pete and Anne Lyon"
"The pictures of your family show the deep love you have for each other. Our prayers are for you and Dayna and Jacqueline. We pray that you can feel all the prayers and thoughts coming to you from so many people."
""With every friend I love who has been taken into the brown bosom of the earth, a part of me is buried there; but their contribution to my being of happiness, strength and understanding remains to sustain me in an altered world."
~ Helen Keller"
"What a beautiful tribute to Barrett this morning at the Mass at St. Isabel's. Such an outpouring of love by so many shows how much Barrett meant to so many. May that memory be a comfort to you in days to come. God bless you all."
"We are grieved to hear of your loss and extend to you our most sincere sympathy on Barrett’s death. This is--and will be--so hard. We hope all the years of love and memories will be a comfort to you. “Memory is the only the only friend of grief”--Rumer Godden.
Sanibel Shellcrafter Friends"
"I'm deeply sorry and saddened by the loss of your dear son. Another bright star illuminates the heavenly universe and shines down on those he loved so dearly. Treasure the good times and memories, and know he will live on through the little daughter he loved so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time."
"My deepest condolences. I am so very sad for all. I dont know why things happen but somehow have to believe in the bigger plan of life. I am here for you to cry or talk with anytime. My heart is so heavy and my prayers are with you.
"My heart aches for you all during this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers go out to the whole Anding family. I have fond memories of Barrett and he was always such a wonderful person just like his parents and sister. My family and I will continue to pray for you all.
Love, Lauren Schell Kowalewski"
"Dearest friends, Leslie, Joe, Devon,Dayna and Jacqueline,
Your loss and sorrow cannot be measured. We pray for your strength
during this devastating time.. May the sweet memories of Barrett's
life sustain you now and forever. Love, Harry and Toni"
"Barrett was a great friend and part of our 'Seafood Factory' gang. I will never forget the laughter and antics that occurred daily. He was so happy to have found the love of his life and become a husband and father. Dayna and Jacqueline, I hope the days ahead bring healing memories and lots of support for you and your family."
"Leslie, Joe, Devan, Dayna, and Jaqueline,
There is no way to even begin to comprehend what you are all going through. The only hope is that the thoughts and prayers of others and your own faith will help you get through this horribly tragic time. Barrett was as special as his parents and sister and will be missed by all who knew him."
"I am so deeply saddened by Barrett’s passing. We loved and cared for him so much. His joy, his radiant energy, his bear hugs...
My heart breaks for you all, and the pain you are enduring. It is incomprehensible to me. I will pray for peace and comfort for your family and all who loved Barrett. He will forever be in my thoughts and heart."
"Barrett, ich werde Dich aufrichtig vermissen! Deine Gradlinigkeit, Aufrichtigkeit und Deinen Humor werde ich für ewig in meinem Herzen tragen - "Alles klar, keiner weiß bescheid"
Dein Freund Philipp."
"Barrett... what a good friend! Always looking out for those he cared about, full of spunk, a hot head at times, but only because he was so passionate! Some of my memories.. Not letting me drink cherry bombs any more, because he knew how toxic they were, always asking me how my life was going, introducing me to Dayna and Jacqueline. A genuine person with a big heart. RIP my friend."
"Jacqueline you will be proud of your father always.
You have the same charisma as him and are therefore blessed with success and happiness.
I lost my father also when I was young and it was very hard but you (unlike me) have the best mother and family that can help fill the void in your heart which extreme sadness brings"
Please know how much your EMP family is thinking of you and your sweet Jacqueline right now. Barrett was always a sweet soul and a breath of fresh air. I can't even begin to realize what you're going through. But please know we love you."
"I am so touched by this beautiful family and photograph~
We all search for the "right" words of comfort~ we find no words that can ease this amount of grief~ When I've looked thru the photographs, I see love. Love of wife, daughter and family. We all need to live life like Barrett~ Barrett reminds us how sweet love and life can be."
"Dear Joe, Leslie and Family....Words are inadequate at this difficult time. We hope and pray for the love and support from those closest to you at this truly sad time in your lives. Wishing you continued strength, the comfort you can draw from loved ones, and the treasured memories you carry in your hearts.
Sincerely, Chris and Gail Thomas"
"I did not know Barrett but I cannot imagine the pain the family is going through with his loss. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. Your Pan Am family is there for you."
"If only I could wrap my arms around you and abate the loss and grief that I know you are feeling now and for some time to come. In time I Know you will find a safe place for your Barrett in your hearts as we did for our Dianne. With Empathy and so much Love My Friends"
"We are Sanibel neighbors of Joe and Leslie and while we didn't get to know Barrett, in reading the wonderful tributes above, we have truly missed knowing a wonderful man. The loss of a child is unimaginable and our hearts and prayers go out to the Andings. Also to Dayna and his precious daughter, Jacqueline.
Elise and Allan Hall"
"Our deepest sympathy. Where memories lead, our hearts will follow. Hoping that your memories will bring you and yours to a place of peace in your heart. Maggie Feiner, F.I.S.H. of Sanibel."
"Our deepest condolences go out to you, Dayna. Our thoughts and prayers have been with you and your daughter. Our island has not only lost a great friend, but a respected mentor in the culinary industry. Your inner light will always shine on, Barrett. Cheers to you, my friend. XO"
"Our deepest condolences on the loss of your son, Barrett. We will all be praying for your strength in these coming days and weeks.
The Fanning Family"
"Always had a smile and was a genuinely good guy with great character. Only knew while at Prep, but the kind of guy you don't forget and only remember fondly. You've left a positive effect on this world that I know will be lived out through your daughter."
"Joe, Leslie, Dayna, and Jacqueline...
Please accept my heartfelt condolences at the great loss of your son, husband, and father. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May the good Lord ease your suffering."
"We remember Barrett's childhood in Wash. Xing. - he was often Leslie's shadow as she volunteered with Devan's activities. In his sudden and premature death, a terrible tragedy has struck your loving and generous family. We mourn your loss with you and will keep you all in our prayers. Love from Bob and Linda, Cathy, Judy, Jen and Elizabeth"
"Dear Jacqueline, I didn't know your father well, but I know he was a bright light in your grandparents life. You will all miss him. I pray you remember the great father he was, the life he wanted you to have on Sanibel. I'm so glad you and he went to visit your great-grandfather a couple of weeks ago and had a fun adventure together. Love to you."
"We offer our sincerest condolences to you, Joe and Leslie, and to your family. We were so saddened to read your email. Words are completely inadequate at such a sorrowful time, but we do want you to know that we are praying for all of you that Jesus and His Blessed Mother will wrap you in their comforting arms and hold you close during this unbearable sadness. Deacon Ed and Marie."
"There are no adequate words to express our feeings and our sympathies. What a horrible shock for all of you. Please know that you are in our thoughts, hearts and prayers. May happy memories and your faith sustain you.
Sue and John Lawson"
"Though our time was short, it was memorable.
His love of life touched all that he met.
The world has lost a great man.
My thoughts and prayers."
"Dearest Joe & Leslie, Paul & I are truly sorry for the loss of your beloved son Barrett.
We will keep you & your family in our prayers.
The only joy in this tragic loss is that He is in Heaven.
I would like to think that God needed His help...Maybe He will be feeding all the angels in Heaven."
"Another Prep brother shocked to hear of the sudden passing of Barrett. He had such a great attitude and outlook on life. It may have been many years since we last crossed paths, but his smile and laugh will not be forgotten. Sincerest condolences to the family."
"Barrett, Dayna, and Jacqueline...as a co-worker with Barrett, I can attest to his professionalism and dedication to our mission and to his very positive impact on our quality and our market success. In remembering him, we will, also, be remembering your love and support for him during the many long hours away from home. Truly, his "glow" was a reflection... a reflection of a happy home."
"We were all shocked and saddened to here the news. Our deepest condolences to you during this sorrowful time."
"Words can't describe the shock I felt at the news of Barrett's very untimely passing. He was a true friend to so many. We shared a love for food and he encouraged me to chase my dream in going to culinary school just as he did. His spirit, I know will live on through Dayna and Jacqueline, and through all of us who loved him so.
Nancy Sobel Butcher"
""The Tide recedes but leaves behind bright seashells on the sand, the sun goes down but gentle warmth still lingers on the land , the music stops ,and yet echoes on in sweet refrains..for every joy that passes, something beautiful remains......" there are no words, just know all your friends and those Barrett touched are there for you. We are sooo sorry for your loss. Luv, Susan & Andy"
"I didn't know Barret well..I met him just a few times. I have to say what I remember most was a very welcoming personalty and friendly smile. Very, very sorry and so sad to hear of his sudden passing. Praying for his Family, Wife and beautiful little Girl..just gone to soon.."
"Barrett lived life to the fullest - with a big smile and an outgoing personality. He always made me smile. He will be missed by so many. Condolences to Joe, Leslie and the entire family. You are in my prayers."
"My love and prayers go out to the Anding family: Joe, Leslie, Devan, Dayna and Jacqueline along with deepest sympathy for your loss. There are never the right words but I know you are all strong enough to get through this most difficult time. You are in our hearts and thoughts."
"Always smiling and laughing is how I remember Barrett best!
His high school days were full of fun and an easy going outlook on life. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers!
I'll look back fondly of our short time we spent together at the Prep and have a smile on my face! God bless!"
"I knew Barrett well in high school when I drove a proud but few group of Prep men in from Bucks County Barrett would get dropped off and still be half asleep as we made our way into downtown Philly. He had a contagious love for life. Barrett was eager, sincere, and full of energy. Moreover, his spirit glowed. All these years later, his impact on my life will be felt forever."
"Though I didn't know you well, thank you for your friendship and kindness to my daughter Faviana. I know you played a role in her passion for cooking, restaurant biz and Sanibel. Always a smile and kind words when I saw you. Prayers to you and your beautiful family."
"We are so sorry to hear of your devastating loss! What a shock. How could such a thing happen?
We send our deepest sympathies, and want you to know you are in our thoughts and our prayers.
Bill and Nancy"
"My heart is heavy as I lay down to go to sleep tonight, knowing the pain you all are experiencing. I wish there was some word, some prayer, some gesture, some way to ease your pain. I cannot imagine a worse pain. I wish so much this did not happen to your loving family. I pray God will send angels to hold you up through this ordeal and comfort your wounded hearts. ...Bless you all. - E."
"My family and I express our deepest condolences to your family and will continue to keep all of you in ours daily thoughts and prayers. Barrett and I shared many classes together at the Prep and I will always remember him for having a great spirit and outlook on life.
I will remember him fondly."
"Barrett, it’s always the REAL people who pass too early, I don’t get it. Whenever we hung out you were the most non-judgmental and no BS type of guy. Ask you a question and you got a straight answer. You never embellished your success stories nor sugar coated your failures, you were always real. A quality that is rare in my experience. All the while being funny and a blast to hang out with. You ma"
"Truly sorry to hear the sad news. As other prep classmates have expressed, I remember Barrett well and fondly. He'll be deeply missed. Thoughts and prayers."
"I went to the Prep with Barrett and remember him as a kind hearted soul with a contagious smile. He embodied the Prep motto of 'men for others'. Although we did not keep in touch after high school - I remember him fondly. Prayers for his entire family. Rest well"
"To Dayna and family, I am truly ,truly sorry and saddened by this. Barrett was a good friend, and an amazing person all around. He will be forever missed by his Fire Island family. Rest in peace Barrett Anding."
"Leslie, Joe, Devon, and Dayna,
All the words in the world cannot express our sorrow in learning of Barret's death. Nothing anyone can say or write will ease the hurt and the loss you all are experiencing now. Please know that you are and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Fran, Kevin, and Sheila join us in expressing our deep sorrow of your loss."
"Leslie, Dayna and Joe, there are not enough cards, flowers or words to express our sadness over the loss of your beloved Barrett. Our deepest sympathies to your family during this difficult time. It just is just not fair.
Joan and Bill Von Bergen"
"I was deeply saddened to learn of Barrett's untimely passing. As one of the few boys from Bucks County who went to the Prep, we often traveled to school together. He was always a gregarious, upbeat presence during those rides, which at the time seemed so long. How short they were. My most heartfelt sympathies to his family. Damian"
"I think Barrett must have created good karma. He was such a fun-loving, enthusiastic person in his essence. I was his classmate in elementary school (maybe as far back as kindergarten?), and when I think of Barrett there is always a smile (and now tears, but first the smile!).
My Love to the Andings -Jamie"
"My deepest sympathy's to Andy's whole family, this is such terrible news, I went to the Prep with Andy, and have great memories about him, I will be praying for his entire family"
"Dear Joe, Leslie and Family, we have no words to express how we feel and realize that there truly aren't any words. Therefore, we pray to the holy spirit to guide you through this devastating times. Kris Falkenstein"
"Dear Leslie and Joe, we have no words to express our deepest sympathies, we send our deepest condolences and prayers. We will be praying for you and your family and be with you in spirit on October 12. We are very shocked by this news and your entire family will be in our prayers. May God give you the strength it takes to go on. Love, Karl, Mary and Family"
"I am one of the Oak Beach Arnold family, and I am devastated to learn this news. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I have known Leslie and Joe for over forty years, and my heart breaks for them."
"That great smile is now an eternal smile shining upon us.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all."
"I can't think of any words to comfort your pain...but I will pray for Barrett and, most of all, for the family that loves him. A life taken way too soon...may he rest in peace."
"I went to work yesterday and arrived to an empty kitchen We loss a beautiful soul so happy about what his future was to become My heart and prayers are with his family, so sorry for your loss"
"My deepest condolences to the Anding family on Barrett's passing. Barrett was a classmate of mine at the Prep. I was friends with Barrett beginning in our freshman year and we became close following our Kairos retreat in 1995 as we spent a couple of days together in our small group. He was a very good person, a happy guy, and always supportive. I will miss him very much. My prayers and thoughts ar"
"My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Hospitality on Sanibel is a little less hospitable now with the loss of Barrett. Thanks for the help with the Chinois at the Deli B."
"I'm devastated to hear the news of the passing of my friend, Barrett. We shared a million and one laughs on our drive every morning to St. Joe's Prep. He was quick to laugh, joke and had an easy smile. He took life in stride and loved to say, "Take it light," to departing company. Sending my love to his family who invited me and so many of us to "Anding's Landing" over the years."
"I was a classmate of Barrett’s at the Prep and I wanted to extend my deepest and most sincere heartfelt condolences to the entire Anding family. I will always remember Barrett for his big goofy smile in high school and for having such a great accommodating family host a bunch of us after our senior prom. My prayers and thoughts are with all of you during this difficult time. God Bless."
"We are so sad. We send our deepest condolences to the whole family. Sweet thoughts for Jacqueline.
Prayers and love, Nathalie and all the French part of your family."
"I knew Barrett from the Prep. We enjoyed many, many laughs together. Even though we did not keep in touch after high school, that huge smile and contagious laugh will be missed. Thank you, Barrett. I am a better man for knowing you."
"I expected to see you coming through the front door after we talked last Friday. I know things were getting tough, and I was hoping to ease the burden and the stress. I am sad I won't get to see you and talk about how things are going."
"I am devastated and there are just now words. Your entire family is in my thoughts and will always be! Much love, Emily"
"Our deepest condolences to your family on this tragic loss. Heaven is a brighter place with one new angel now. May happy memories keep you all comfort. Prayers and love, Lisa (Pantas) McPeak, daughters Haley and Leah , plus the Pantas family"
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