Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette
  • 51 years old
  • Date of birth: Nov 2, 1958
  • Place of birth:
    Springfield, Vermont, United States
  • Date of passing: Sep 20, 2010
  • Place of passing:
    Claremont, New Hampshire, United States
Softly the leaves of memory fall ... Gently we gather and treasure them all.

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.

Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.

We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor,
the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation,
her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life,
then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

 Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery,
read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted so far.

This is a "work in progress" so please come back for a visit soon.

(You can even subscribe to receive email notifications when the site has been updated) 

Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.

You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 20th September 2016

"YESSSSS! Ta-Da! I did it! I finally was able to upload Bruce singing to your Gallery of videos.  Enjoy!  I just LOVE it and I know you will too! XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th September 2016

"Oh yea, forgot to say we went to the cemetery after church and Mom got to see your spot and what we've done lately.  We're gonna get over and "winterize" you and Dad soon. :) xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th September 2016

"Hey girl, I know it's been a while since I've "chatted" with you here but we both know I "chat" with you each and every day in my car.  I still miss you and ALWAYS will but I'm happy to say that I can think of you and smile more often now instead of crying.  There will always be a missing piece in my heart and in our family where you belong and sometimes it is obvious but other times it is SO heart-wrenching because I can just hear a "comeback" that you would have said and it's just not said. Oh yea!! I miss your sass and attitude so much, no one has the same "tude" as you, fer sure!! :)  The Walk was great again this year and we even made it into the paper!!  I hope you can see us as we do the walk and know that this all started because of YOU!!  We miss you and love you more than words can say!! And even if I don't make it here as often as I'd like, just know; you are NEVER far from my thoughts and you will NEVER be forgotten!! xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by lauri bessey on 20th September 2016

"Hello Darlene, Just thought  I would stop by and leave you a note.  Your sisters did another fantastic job with your memorial walk this year.  I can tell they miss you so much.  It was a perfect day for the walk and so many people came out.  I still think of you everyday too, the glass heart paperweight you gave me one Christmas still sits on my desk.  It's so hard to believe it's been 6 years.    xo"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 19th September 2016

"Well Dar, we had the Walk Saturday. We had a really good turn-out...a lot of new folks this year...Chaunee's sisters, daughters and grandsons and a few other families who had recently lost someone. Me and Nanni went to church in Springfield Sunday and got to hear Bruce sing. Oh, just you wait! One way or another, I'm gonna upload that solo for ya. Well, tomorrow will be six years since you went away. I can't say it gets easier, because I still miss you and think of you every single day. But, I am proud to say that Hailey Darlene and Tyler James know who you are and how special you are to me...and they think you're pretty darn special themselves. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 21st August 2016

"Hey, Dar. I know it's been awhile since I've been on here, but don't think that for one minute you've been forgotten. Oh, contrare! In fact, we've been working on your Memorial Walk. It gets bigger every year and even though I got off to a late start this year, we may still have the biggest turnout yet. I sure hope so. You are always on my mind and not forgotten for a minute. I miss you so. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 11th July 2016

"Dar, I stumbled upon this instrumental the other day and just fell in love...I couldn't wait to share it with you.  I hope you like it.  Still missing you each and every day... XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 10th July 2016

"Hey Girl,  I miss you!  I can't believe how VERY much I still miss you!  There are certain times that I feel your absence so very deeply and intensley that it breaks my heart all over again!  I would love to hear your voice and see your beautiful face again, so here is an official invitation to my dreams! Xoxo nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 28th May 2016

"Hey, Dar. Sorry I didn't get to check out the crocuses and other flowers Nanni and I planted last year...we got busy fixing the tarp on Pauline and Freeman's camper and forgot... Today was WAY too hot to go over, but I'll be there tomorrow. I got you a new decoration - it's beautiful! By the way, now I TOTALLY get why you had so many reading glasses stashed everywhere... I really miss hanging out with you. You are certainly welcome to visit me in my dreams, though. XOXOXO "B""

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 10th May 2016

"Hey girl,  So, I haven't sat and "talked" to you here lately but you know I am ALWAYS thinking of you and we "talk" in the car ALOT, so it's all good, right???!!!  Sometimes I think it's our "conversations" that keep me going when I'm driving late at night.  :)  I keep looking for a really special poem or picture or something to put on here for you but something always happens... the internet goes wacky, the kiddos show up, someone comes into the office, etc.. and so it hasn't happened yet.  I know you don't care but I just wanted to share something with you for Mothers Day, anyway... I WAS thinking of you and missing you (as always).  Now I'm trying to wrap my head around our end of the year program for KWS.  So, Happy be-lated Mothers Day!!! I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 6th April 2016

"Hey girl, I've been looking for something "special" to put on your page and I haven't found "it" yet but I decided I'd still "talk" to you even tho I don't have my special poem yet. Been busy with lots of different stuff lately and haven't spent a lot of time here but I am ALWAYS thinking of you. I miss you like crazy!   Pretty soon I'm gonna go pretty up yours and Dads spot ; if it ever gets nice out again!  Anyway ..... Just want you to know you are not forgotten and I love you!  Xoxo nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 12th March 2016

"Dar, "It is Well With My Soul" is my new favorite "oldie done new"... I just HAD to share it with you!  Enjoy!  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 7th March 2016

"Good Mornin'!  Well, it's that time of year again...tax lien season.  Nanni has taken over your duties as the official "label sticker oner-er" and she's an outstanding proofreader, too!  We're thinking of changing things up a bit for your memorial walk this year.  Today is Abhijeet's 24th birthday...give him a hug, okay?  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 17th February 2016

"Hi,  I am soooo sad right now and since I know you know how I feel.....
I am just gonna sit here with you and cry!   Well, now I look like hell!  
Gotta pull myself together now, Thanks for lettin me hang with you, and I'll be back to chat soon!!   I miss you!!   You are NEVER forgotten!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 26th January 2016

"Hey Dar, today I was able to deliver the very first act of kindness as part of your foundation's "Good Deeds Project". We funded a couple gas cards to help a patient in palliative care get to and from their chemo treatments up at DHMC. Your old friends from hospice are gonna help us reach out with more Good Deeds. I love that they all remember you and want to help us carry out this mission in your honor. So exciting! We're doing our best to keep your memory alive because we love you and we miss you. You were the one and only Dar and your life mattered to us SO MUCH....it STILL does! XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 19th January 2016

"Hey girl,  I keep waiting to write until I have something funny, happy or profound and that's so NOT happening.... so here I am just saying  "HI!" and I miss you!!  Seems like a lot of people are leaving us and joining you lately.  "B" and I did some talking this weekend about your foundation and I think I need to get more involved with it so I feel like I have a purpose again.  :)   Well, I gotta jet, I just wanted to pop in and say "hey" and I luv & miss ya MUCH!! talk again soon   xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 14th January 2016

"Well, Dar, this morning Dorine Cobb let go of her suffering and pain.  Please welcome her with open arms.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 13th January 2016

"Well Dar, one of our friends has come to join you. Chaunee decided to let go yesterday. Like you, she fought the good fight - long and hard. Like you, she was feisty and determined to make the best of her last few months on earth. I'm sure you two have a lot of catching up to do. Show her the ropes...help her get used to her wings... XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 1st January 2016

"Happy  New Year! !  I  miss you more than I thought was even possible!  Just know that you will NEVER be forgotten!!  I luv ya MUCH!!! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 25th December 2015

"Hey girl,  Merry Christmas!!!   Everything is so different now and I know it's natural and it's okay but sometimes it makes your absence so much more heartbreaking.  (as if that's possible)  Anyway....  I just wanted to say Merry Christmas.... I love you .... and I miss you!!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 25th December 2015

"Merry Christmas, Dar!  We didn't gather at your house last night...first time in 35 years, or so... but that's okay. New traditions are coming along, but you'll never be forgotten. Thanks for being a part of my dream last night...must have been my Christmas present. So cool to see the same ol' Dar.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 20th December 2015

"Merry Christmas, Dar.  I uploaded a clip from our 2007 Christmas video for Mom.  It's in the Video Gallery.  I couldn't wait until Christmas to share it with you, though.  I know you're gonna love it.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 17th December 2015

"Oh Dar, the time's - they are a changing...makes me miss you more and more...  
One thing that will never change is how much I miss you and how relieved I am that God took you peacefully...   XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 16th December 2015

"Christmas is coming...although it doesn't look or feel like it... I was gonna wait until next week to change your background music, but I thought you (and Nanni) would like this surprise. Besides, I have a surprise for you (and Nanni) for Christmas, so I thought the timing was right. It won't be long before some of our earthly friends are going to join you...Chaunee Baker, Dorine Cobb, Debbie Corcoran... but I know you'll head the welcoming committee and greet them with open arms. I miss you so much ~ you have no idea. Glad you're at peace. Always remembering you ~ Always missing you ~ Never forgettiing you... XOXO XO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 15th December 2015

"Hey girl,  Well, Christmas is just around the corner and it sure doesn't feel like it or look it!  There's no snow and there's no YOU!!  There are so many people that I wish I could just scoop up and make everything all better for them. I hate to see people sad and upset. It makes me feel so sad to see it!!  I miss talking to you and hearing your voice and your "tude".  :)   I wish I could give you a great big hug right now!!  but since I can't, I would really love a visit!!  Please keep lookin out for me and remember..... you are NEVER forgotten!!!   Luv & miss ya MUCH!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 27th November 2015

"Dar, thought I'd change up your background music to my absolute favorite...Yanni's "In the Morning Light"...I pirated it from one of your CD's. I played it all the way to and from your house when I used to go hang with you that last summer. I've got a surprise for you for Christmas...I'm so excited I can hardly stand it. Still thinking of you always...You are welcome to pay me a visit in my dreams...(just sayin') XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 26th November 2015

"Hey there!!  Happy Thanksgiving!!!   I thought of you today but of course I do every day but today as I was basting the turkey I could just picture you peeling the crunchy skin off and eating it!  Made me stop and smile as I pictured it. :)
Just wanted to pop in and say Hi and let you know I'm thinking of you!  
Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th November 2015

"Hey girl,  Missing you like CRAZY!!!  No eloquent words ...... just ....
  I MISS YOU!!!  You are NEVER forgotten    EVER!!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 13th November 2015

"Hey Dar,  Blah, just blah!  That's how I feel lately!  This is gonna be a looooong winter if I don't find some enthusiasm!  I can't seem to muster up any excitement.  Keep lookin out for me, K?  Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! Xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Kristel Davis on 2nd November 2015

"Happy Birthday Dar, you are always in my thoughts and heart ♡"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 2nd November 2015

"Hey girl, so my tribute to you and for your birthday celebration, I watched a marathon of ......  Wait for it..... Yup!  Touched by an Angel!!!   Wish you were here watching with me!  Happy Birthday!  And know you are NEVER forgotten! Xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 2nd November 2015

"Hey Dar, Happy Birthday!!  I wanted to go to the cemetery yesterday and just sit and listen to your tunes but I got a chance to help Jess by taking the kids. I know you understand! I absolutely don't need to be there to be thinking of you, I am ALWAYS thinking of you!! I hope you are having a beautiful celebration in honor of your birthday!  I think I may have eggs on toast for supper tonite!! :)  I miss you but I'm glad you're happy and healthy now!!!  Luv ya MUCH!!!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 2nd November 2015

"Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar! I wish you were here so we could do something special to celebrate. I'll have to do something later in your honor...make some grapenut pudding, upload a new song or pic for you...we'll see. You are in my heart and on my mind EVERY single day. I will never stop missing you. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 31st October 2015

"Good morning!!  I was pretty bummed that there wasn't going to be a candle lighting ceremony at St. Mary's this year and then Pastor Kerry got a hold of me and said we were having a special candle lighting service to honor all the Saints in our lives!! How awesome is that, huh?!!  Altho I don't need a special day or special ceremony to remember you, it's nice to do something special in honor of you and your life. You had so many special qualities about you that I miss terribly! As I sit here I just keep thinking how much I miss your calls. I really would LOVE a visit from you!! :)  So, I'll be lighting a candle for you tomorrow and wishing you an early Happy Birthday!!  I luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th October 2015

"Good morning!!!  I'm sooo pissed right now!! I have been trying for 2 months now to put a new picture in your gallery and this STUPID computer won't let me get to your gallery!!! That shouldn't have stopped me from coming here and talking to you but you know how I am.... I was hell bent on THAT PICTURE!!! Well, yes, I've finally decided that I'd rather come talk to you without the picture than not talk to you at all. I know, I know, took me long enough right? Obviously I haven't given up but I did want to visit before I got too frustrated and just shut this thing off like has been happening lately. Anyway, HI!!  I was SOOO sick this weekend and all I could think was... if this is what Dar felt like when she went through chemo, I don't know how she did it and kept her cheer, sass, and spunk up!!  I miss you more than I can express and sometimes more than I feel like I can handle!!  Right now is one of those times!!  Just remember... You are NEVER forgotten and you are ALWAYS missed!!  I LOVE YOU!!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 16th October 2015

"Naturally, your pic is the wallpaper on my computer...and when it goes into screensaver mode, a whole array of family photos come and go...the kids ALWAYS hollar out, "Dar!" or "Hi, Dar!" when your pics come on the screen.  I just love it.  The other day, I was polishing my chain and Hailey asked if she could hold the tear drop with your ashes in it while I did it...well, she asked if she could hold Dar...anyway, then she asked if she could have my Dar necklace and my Dar ring when I die and go to be with you in Heaven.  I love that they know how special you are to me even if they never got to know you themselves.  She's only 4 for crying out loud!"

This tribute was added by Kristel Davis on 20th September 2015

"Missing you!  Xoxo"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 19th September 2015

"Dearest Dar, when Amy called me that day to tell me you would be leaving soon, I found myself not believing it could really be happening, yet I felt a sense of urgency to be by your side. It was a lot like the day you called to tell me that Dad had been in a car accident and "they had read him his last rites". I thank God a million times over that we were with you in your final hours to make sure you knew you were loved and that it was okay to go. I never wanted you to go, just wanted you to be at peace. I keep telling myself over and over that God might have let you stay longer, but would we have been there with you? Knowing you passed peacefully has been a saving grace for me. Still, I miss the silly, sassy, outspoken, loving, caring, tireless Dar ~ the one and only.  A piece of me died with you that day...we were sidekicks for so many  years. Nanni and I have become much closer as we struggle with our grief. I never shy away from talking about you, but it is refreshing to talk and reminisce with her because "we're on the same page". Some think we should be "over it" by now ~ but the ones who truly know what you meant to us "get it". I will never stop missing you and I certainly will never forget you... XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 18th September 2015

"Hey girl,  As I sit here and remember the last few times I was with you, I feel different things.  I am so glad I had the chance to spend time with you but I wish I'd known how close to the end you were because I would have held you and told you how very much I love you!!!  I'm sure you know how very special you are to me and how much I love you but I wish I'd said it one more time!!! I miss you so terribly!!!  For real, a piece of me died with you.  You really had a way of bringing out my silly, crazy, wild side and now I feel like I've lost that part of me!!  Thank God for Barb,  cuz she has helped me to keep it together and she has been here to walk this road of grief right along with me.  We miss you so much!!! You silly girl,for you to think that we might forget you!!! NOT a chance!!!  You will never be forgotten!!! and you will ALWAYS be missed and loved!!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 31st August 2015

"Oops!  Forgot to tell ya...Nanni and I sneaked by to say hi to Mikey Sunday. It was SO good to see him! He really misses our little visits.  We need to get over there to hang out again soon. There's a box of your stuff he wants us to go through. Oh, yeah, I think the pool is finally dying...the liner is ripping away from the sides. I may have to buy a few packets of tomato seeds... Poor Nanni...what will she do?"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 31st August 2015

"Dar, the 5th Annual Six in the City: 10K Memorial Walk was a success! So was Mom's surprise 80th Birthday Party.  I'm so glad we were able to include you in that...I know Mom loved it. I'll upload pics of both events to your Gallery when I get a minute...in the meantime, You are Loved, You are Missed, and You are Never Forgotten!  XOXOXO, "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 25th August 2015

"I was watching TV the other night...20/20 or something like that...and a woman was murdered...anyway, her name was Darlene and her family and friends called her "Dar"...when they spoke of her, it was with the same love as when we speak of you.  Funny, she was a feisty sort who spoke her mind, and yet was one of the most loving people...well, I'm sure you know the rest..."

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 25th August 2015

"Are ya ready? Gonna be a BIG weekend! The 5th Annual Walk paying tribute to you and Mom's 80th birthday party...of course we've arranged for your presence to be known... I SO wish you could be here "in person" but I know you'll be here in spirit. No matter how busy our lives become, we have not and will not ever forget the one and only you. "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 24th August 2015

"Hey girl,  Your walk is this weekend and I keep thinking ...... it's been 5 years??? then I think ... it's ONLY been 5 years???  I feel like it has been a lifetime since I've seen and talked with you!!  I miss you so much!!!  Some days are better than others but EVERY day I miss you!!  But never fear ... you will NEVER be forgotten!!!  Luv ya!! xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 11th August 2015

"Hey Dar! I saw this video of Steven Tyler's tribute to Paul McCartney and I just HAD to share it with you...if it ever finishes uploading...it'll be in your video gallery. You're gonna love it! Enjoy! We're gearing up for your annual Memorial Walk. Trying to make it the biggest and best yet...and, we'll be following up with a surprise 80th birthday party for Mom. No worries, I got you covered. You'll be there in a special spot with a copy of the birthday letter you gave her 10 years ago. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 7th August 2015

"Hey Dar,  Just wanted to say "Hi" and we miss you!!  Getting ready for your walk and the party and I'm so glad Barb is making a special spot for you at the party but we sure do wish you were here!!! Still missing you and Never forgetting you! Luv ya!! Xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th July 2015

"Hey girl,  So, I dedicated last Thursday afternoon to you!  I went to your house and hung out at the pool, I swam, lazed, swam some more and thought of all the times we hung out around that pool; then I went to the Farmers market.  Today is the 20th and I went to your house again and took another dip in the pool and of course, thought of you!!!  "B" and I also went to the cemetery and brought you some more butterflies and some wind chimes.  We sat and had a picnic with Hailey Darlene and Buggie, and when we left, it was adorable. As we were driving away, we said goodbye and Hailey and Tyler both were waving and saying "Bye Dar!"  So sweet and yet so sad!!   I wish you were here!!!  We miss you SOOO much!!!  We're getting ready to start putting the walk together and the party. During those times I really feel your absence, still hurts too much!!  Again, I have to remember, you are happy where you are and you have wonderful company!  But I miss you!!  Keep lookin out for me!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 15th July 2015

"Hey, Dar.  I turned 58 today...yikes!  Nanni came up for a visit..awesome! and did a sweet thing and sent me a birthday "card" on facebook from you...and, of course, I loved it. Got a Happy "B" day, "B" message from Mikey this morning...Played hide and seek with Hailey Darlene and Buggie tonight...so much fun!  I sure hope that you and Dad get to see and enjoy all that goes on down here...I miss you so...as the song goes, For you, I'd wait a million years....XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 5th July 2015

"Hey Dar. We went to Mikey's yesterday. The weather was yucky but it was still good to see everyone. I need to change up your background music again...could use a little help (*hint*hint*). You wouldn't believe how much me and Hailey talk about you...she is so intrigued and curious about relationships, dying, heaven. Knowing that you're up there makes it all less frightening...for all of us. But I STILL MISS YOU and keep you in my thoughts each and every day. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th June 2015

"Hey girl,  Miss you!!!  "B" and I went to visit you and clean up your "spot" last weekend and planned on visiting today too but as you know Nana has come to be with you and Dad. She's a sweetie, you're gonna love her!!  Matt is so sad, wish I could help him cuz I know how much it hurts to have your heart broken when someone leaves. Give her a BIG hug from Jess and Matt okay?  I will get back over to the cemetery but you know I don't have to be there to be thinking of you!!  I am ALWAYS thinking of you and missing you!!  Hugs to you!!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

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