"Hey, Dar. Nanny and I got your spot all beautiful with a white picket fence, fresh mulch, and your tulips came into full bloom just in time for Mother's Day. It looks BEAUTIFUL! Thanks for sending all the butterflies to me through so many people in my life and in so many different ways! I love them! Keep 'em comin'!  I wish I could turn back time cuz I miss you more than ever. XOXOXO "B"

"Dar,Been trying to be happy not sad when I remember you, some days it's easier than others, but I AM trying! I miss our chats and eggs & toast days (like today,wet & rainy) so I 'll  chat with you here :) K? Still trying to find the "perfect" thing to have as a tattoo in your memory. I've seen lots of things, but I feel like when I see the "right" one, I'll KNOW, until then....? xoxo nanni"

"Dar, Nineteen months ago today my life was changed terribly! The hurt and the emptiness is just as "there and intense" as it was 19 months ago. Like Barb said, We won't even try to fill that void cuz that is "YOUR" spot and no one can take your place. There's only one you, for sure! I miss you lots and that will NEVER change! Keep lookin out for me, K? I need it! Luv ya much! xoxoxo Nanc"

"Me and Nanni went to your space yesterday, cleaned things up a bit, put down new mulch, left you some cool butterflies, pretty flowers and a white picket fence. Your sedum and tulips are coming up. I can't wait to see them in full bloom.  We'll go back over soon and finish up the work on your space and Dad's. You're a tough act to follow, Honey, but we're trying to do you proud. XOXOXO "B"

"Hi Dar, Happy Easter!!  We all celebrate Easter here, but, Oh what a celebration it must be up there!!  I'm guessing every day is a celebration up there, but this must be one of the VERY special ones!! I think of you always, there's something each day that reminds me of you and your unique ways. I miss ya lots!!  As always, keep your eye on me okay ?!  :)  luv ya! xoxo Nanc"

"Hey Dar, Just sittin here thinking about you and wishing I could talk to you for real and hear your voice. So,you were worried about us not remembering you? huh?!! Well, you should have been more worried about us not being able to forget you!! for even a minute!! (not that we could or would even want to). You are one of a kind and are dearly missed by so many people! Luv ya!! xoxo nanc"

"Dar, It's been 1&1/2 years since you left but it feels like FOREVER since we've been together laughing and hanging out. This hole you left in my life remains and I realize I cannot fill it. This spot was yours and yours alone, so I guess I'll just have to deal with this empty place in my life. Thanks for sending the butterflies tho, I need the encouragement!! Luv and miss ya MUCH! nanni :)"

"Dar, a year and a half...some days it feels like just yesterday...others, it feels like a lifetime since you left. I take solace in the realization that you did not live your life with regrets...at least, none that were substantial (you know what I mean). And, thank you, over and over and over again for sending butterflies into my life every day! They make my heart smile.  XOXOXO Love, "B"

"Dar, Went to your house this weekend and visited. It's so nice to see everyone and hang out but sometimes it's a real slap of reality not to have you there with us and us all trying to talk over each other and laughing. But sometimes it's so nice to be able to reminisce about you and laugh about all the times we had.This weekend was one of the happy times! I miss ya MUCH tho!! xoxo nanc :)"

"Dearest Dar, "Where you used to be there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly tip toe-ing around in the daytime....and falling into at night." I miss our talks about work, your sense of humor, and most of all your trademark 'tude! Nan says that you're not just sitting around up there... so whatcha doing? organizing a thrift store? or running the whole damn show? XOXOXO "B"

"Hey Dar, Just been sittin here this weekend thinking about you and wishing I had one more chance to hug you and tell you how very special you are! I really hope God gives you the chance to see me and know my thoughts because I NEED you to know how much you mean to me and how important you are to me. Keep lookin out for me and know that I luv ya LOTS!! and miss you MUCH!!  xoxo nanc :)  (:"

"Hey Dar, Well, all I can say is,thanks for the kick in the butt this past weekend! You were the motivation I needed to stop the spiral and get myself going and in touch with family again. Barb has been great to me and I wish I could turn back time, so the three of us could spend time hanging out together! We miss you so much!! So thanx for lookin out for me even now! Luv ya LOTS, nanni  :)"

"Hi mom, it's time for Curt to pick his freshman classes! Oh, how I wish that you were here to share this OMG moment with me. I know that you are watching over but it's just not the same as a hug. Whenever something happens where you're the 1st I want to tell, I feel lost. I think about you daily and I miss you more each day. I love you!!!XOXO -Dolly"

"HAPPY 30th ANNIVERSARY!! I know dad loves and misses you everyday but today I am sure he is truely feeling your absence. We all feel your absence in our own way and try to comfort ourselves with your memory...but it's just not the same...we ALL would trade ANYTHING to have you here!You are loved and missed more than you could've EVER imagined XOXOI love you mom and I miss you so much!Dolly"

"Today marks yours and Mikey's 30th anniversary. He misses you for sure. He's had to step out of his comfort zone and take care of things that you always did naturally, but he's done so with such grace. He even sends text messages now, shops for presents, hosts our little get togethers - you'd be impressed. I just wanted to say Happy 30th Anniversary - YOU're STILL the LOVE of his LIFE!"

"The saying goes, "You never know what you've got til it's gone." Well, we had you, Dar. We certainly loved you, but we never realized how much til you were gone. There is NO ONE like you on the planet. And NO ONE will EVER take your place. So, no worries, my dear, you will NOT BE FORGOTTEN. We think of you and miss you more than we can say - each and every day.  You mattered to me. Love "B"

"Hey Dar,Not sure what to say. Not a good day yesterday! I so needed to pick up the phone and hear your voice and quick wit to help me thru it. I can't believe it hasn't even been a year and a half since you left,it feels like FOREVER! This STINKS! Well, thanks for letting me vent yet again :) I love and miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanni"

"HI mom! I helped Meg into your dress on Sunday, we both got emotional when she slipped into it.It fit her flawlessly-she looked so beautiful!I think wedding plans may be underway for them!I know you'll be watching the day Johnny and Meg get married but it's comforting that you are incorporated in the wedding in such a major way-THE DRESS!!I love you mom and I miss you SO much!XOXOXO Kimmy"

"HAPPY VALENTINES DAY DAR!  Sure am missing my "eggs on toast" partner! It seems like everything has gone crazy lately and I miss having you to vent to and share with. I am trying to remember you with a smile instead of sadness and I keep on playing Uncle Kracker's song "You make Me Smile!"(it helps) Remember our deal & keep lookin out for me!Thinkin of ya ALWAYS, miss & luv ya much xo nan"

"Hey Dar, Sad days for Kristel. Please give Bella (Boo Boo) a hug and some extra attention for Kristel (and actually from the rest of us too.)  You know Kristel, she has a heart of gold and they are REALLY special to her. So please, take good care of Bella for her okay? Thanks, I knew you would!  Miss ya MUCH!! xoxoxo   Nanni   PS I'm still workin on some poems for you!!"

"Hey Dar, I've been trying to write some poems this past week. Ya notice I said trying?! hahaha  A poet I'm NOT but I've enjoyed trying,it's actually been kinda fun and thereputic for me. I really like writing to you here and now writing the poems,but I sure do miss talking to you! I can't wait to start organizing another walk for you!! It helps me!  I miss ya and love ya MUCH!  xoxo Nanni"

"Hey Dar,My New Year's resolution was to try to be happy when I think of you and not be so sad. Well, I am trying! Many times when I think of you I actually laugh out loud (as B would say) so see, you can still brighten my mood!! I DO miss sharing moments with you tho, when I see Hailey,Madi and Ad I soo wish you were here to share the times with us.I DO know you're watching tho! xoxo nanni"

"CONGRATULATIONS Nana!! Mmeilya Raye Allard was born 1/10/2012 at 5:40pm weighing 6lbs 10oz 19 inches. She is beautiful and bears a stiking resemblance to Addi-cakes. This is grand-baby # 6 (including Hailey Darlene). What a way to start the new year! We all love you mom and miss you terribly but we are all trying to carry on and take you with us as we go. Miss & love you bunches...Kimmy"

"Hey Dar, I think it's absolutely awesome that you're still touching people's lives! For you to attract attention(from people you don't even know) even after you have passed on is amazing, but I shouldn't be surprised cuz you ALWAYS attracted attention and you've ALWAYS been an amazing person and certainly STILL ARE!! Oh Dar, you can still make me smile!!  Love and miss ya MUCH!! xoxo nanni"

"Something to smile about...tonight after Hailey's bath she was all about chewing on her little sea horse bath toy while I dressed her.  I sat her up to comb her hair and tried to pull her attention away from the toy.  "Peanutt", "Hailey", nothing worked, until I said "Hailey Darlene", and she lifted her head up and gave me the biggest smile :)"

"God bless you . You must have been a fab person to know. Please keep looking after your family from there and give them love peace,and courage to carry on without you"

"What a fabulous Christmas present I received a few days back - it was an email from "Darlene."  Though the words were from Mike, I felt like the message was from the two of you.  The love he holds for you is awesome and a real tribute to the relationship the two of you worked so hard to grow.  BTW, I've never heard that many words from him at one time!  I love you, Dar, and you, too, Mike!"

"Dar, it's been 467 days, 16 hours and 3 minutes since you passed. We've ALL missed you every minute of every one. We talk about you often - it's therapeutic. I think some might think it's not healthy to dwell on it, but what do they know? All I know is that life as I know it is dramatically altered and THAT, my friend, does NOT go without notice. Happy New Year, Dar. I miss you. XOXOXO. "B"

"Hey Dar, I didn't make it to your house for Christmas Eve and what a bummer that was I'll tell ya!! I sure did miss everyone; and not being there made me feel sooo  disconnected from everyone. You know how I am in the winter!!  So yes, I'll try harder, I PROMISE!! So anyway, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!! I love and miss you MUCH!! Keep your eye on me,okay? xoxo nanni"

"Well, Dar, soon I'll be headed to your house for our traditional Chrismas Eve.  Your absence will be "the elephant in the room". Nanny and I took the CD's you made me and sorted the songs into two groups: Dar's Sing-a-Long - Rock On! and Dar's Sing-a-Long - Mellow Mix.  I burned the CD's and we're giving them to Kim, John and Amy for Christmas.  I hope they love them. I miss you!! Love, "B"

"Elizabeth Edwards once said that after her son, Wade, died the folks at her law office wondered when she would get over it and get back to normal. She replied, If my arm had been cut off, no one would ever have said that or expected that of me. I get it. I know people  think it's time for me to get over Dar's passing, but I don't know that I ever will. A huge part of me is gone. Period."

"When will this feeling of melancholy pass? I doubt that it ever will. Yes, I smile and fondly remember the good times, but more often, I'm sad that God's plan was to take you so soon. I know the trade-off was to let you go peacefully, and I am so grateful for that - how could I possible go on if you had gone through prolonged suffering? So although I accept God's plan, I still miss you so."

"Dar, No one can fill the void that you left. Your ability to make us laugh out loud no matter what we were doing (even cleaning the cat box), your sense of self (you never cared what other people thought - you were just you). I so admired that in you. I miss you terribly every day. The babies are growing so fast!  I know you'd love to cuddle them! I hope you're watching at least! Love, "B"

"Hey Dar, I don't know what to write cuz I was really hoping I would have something positive to say but I find I'm not feeling that happy lately. I guess instead of listing all the ways I miss you, I'll just say that I'll keep praying for some peace and comfort and ask that you keep lookin out for me,okay? Miss and luv ya MUCH! xoxo Nanni"

"Hey Dar, Gotta "borrow" some more of your attitude today. It worked out pretty good with the furnace company (altho I know You could have done better) and now I'm off to battle with the bank for Mom. I definitely DON'T have the same flair with the "Tude" as you, but it's getting the job done. I feel so BLAH and I can't pull myself out!! Send me some good vibes, ok? luv & miss ya much nanni"

"Hey Dar, Trying to get the Christmas spirit but not having much luck. This is sooo hard!! I wish I could get my old spunk and spirit back but I think I lost it when I lost you. Thank goodness for Madi Mae and Barb. Madi gives me the hugs and that specialness that only grand kids can do and Barb helps keep the sad times fewer. Miss ya much and luv ya more!! Keep looking out for me K? xo nan"

"Hey Dar, Crazy day today! I miss just shootin the breeze with you! Even as busy as I've tried to stay, I miss you so much! Whenever I have ANY free time, I just want to reach for the phone and call you. This website Barb got goin is a life saver for me!! I kinda feel like I'm talkin to you, but I sure wish I could hear your sassy little comments and your laughter, Miss ya much! xoxo nanni"

"Hey Dar, Had a nice baby shower for Amy, it was small but very relaxed and fun. I think we've all used some of your famous attitude lately,Barb at the shower with the van and me dukin it out with the furnace company for Mom.We definitely don't have the same flair with the "tude" as you, but we're workin on it. We miss you more than words can describe,but we're hangin in there! Luv from me!"

"HAPPY THANKSGIVING,mom!.A new tradition was born yesterday;Barb,Kristel,Hailey Darlene,Nani,and I all did the turkey trot in Sunapee.Next year I'm going to try to get Nat to do the chicken run.Each day continues to be a struggle for me-some days are easier than others but on average,I struggle to keep it together emotionally.I'm always looking for your signs,mom.I love you!XOXO Kimmy/Dolly"

"Dar, I, too, am thankful for the love of family that has gotten me thru this past year...Nanny, Kristel, Hailey Darlene, Kimmy and Mikey especially. I'm also thankful for all the little butterflies you keep sending my way to let me know that you are still hanging out with us. The ones at the grocery store really nailed it for me!  You are STILL WAY COOL! Who'd have thought of that? Love "B"

"Dar, Thanksgiving's soon and I was pondering what I was thankful for this year. Well, I am SO thankful for my faith in God! Because if I didn't KNOW that I WILL see you again, I'm not sure I could handle your passing. But, I believe with ALL my heart, we will be together again. So, I'm thankful for my faith AND for family members that have helped me thru this,we've gotten close. xoxo nanni"

"Hey Dar, I really wish I could say things have gotten easier but they haven't. I will NEVER forget you but I was hoping the overwhelming sadness would subside but NO! I feel like a part of me is missing and I really don't know how to deal with that.I miss you LOTS!! I'll keep trying and you keep looking out for me, deal? Love ya! Nanni"

"Hi mom!  I've been thinking about you all day, but thats really no different than any other day.  I love you and I miss you and I wish you were here.  The past month has really seemed very dark for me and I wish you were here to brighten things up!  I love you and miss you so much, XOXOXO Kimmy"

"Hi mom,the candle lighting ceremony on Sunday was beautiful.Regardless of how many events there are to memorialize you publicly, I will light a candle for you every day, release a butterfly for you every day, walk for you every day in my heart, in my memories, and when I share all of that with others YOU shine through me!I love and miss you SO much! XOXOXO Dolly"

"Hey Dar, I know you were watching on Sunday during the candlelite ceremony when Barb was talking and I can just picture you saying "Oh ya, that's my sister right there" (along with your little shoulder shimmy and head bop). She definitely said what we all feel, you WERE seen, you WERE heard and you will ALWAYS matter!! She did a great job huh? I luv ya!! Nanni"

"Dar, I spoke at the Candle Lighting Service yesterday. It was difficult emotionally, yet comforting in that I welcomed the opportunity to point out how much you STILL mean to all of us. The old saying that God broke the mold when He made you, well, I don't think He used a mold to make you.  One of a kind. There will be no other. I miss you so much I can't adequately put it into words. "B"

"HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM! !I love you so much and miss you even more than that. You are on my mind everyday. Tonight,me,Damien,&the kids are having a birthday cake in your memory, in your honor.    Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear mommy, happy birthday to you!   Enjoy your "heavenly" party!   LOVE YOU, Dolly xoxoxoxoxoxoxo"

"Dear Darlene,

Each day I'm thinking of you.  And especially on your birthday.
My heart hurts, along with your mom's, siblings and family, 'cuz
we miss you SO much.  We WILL see you again!"

"Dar, it's your birthday and I miss "singing" you a birthday fax.  I've taken the day off to spend time in reflection of how much you still mean to me.  I just want to say that even though you weren't famous, you left your mark on this world, and yes, you were seen, you were heard, and you did matter - you STILL matter to me each and every day and always will.  I miss you so much!  Love, "B"

"Hey Dar, Happy Birthday!!  Wish you were here to celebrate the day with but I know you're celebrating where you are and I bet it's quite a celebration!! and don't worry, we'll celebrate your birthday here for you too. Sure do miss you!! Love ya!!  Enjoy your day!  xoxo Nanni"

"Mornin Dar, Just lettin you know,I sure do miss my "eggs on toast" partner!  It's a cold, wet, YUCKY day, exactly the kind of day you'd say "Come on up and we'll have our eggs and shop". I am so NOT looking forward to cold,snowy weather;makes me feel BLAH.Barb says I should snowshoe,I just may have to do it to get thru the winter.She says it's fun,I hope so,I need some fun! Miss ya xo Nan"

"Hey Dar, Next week is your birthday! Barb and I are going to get together, not sure what we plan on doing but something special to honor you!! Still doing ALOT of reading to help me cope and toTRY to adjust.  I've read some helpful things but I still miss you soooo very much(and ALWAYS will). Keep lookin out for me, okay? I love you. xoxo Nannie"

"Hi Mom!Dad gave me a beautiful Pandora bracelet for my birthday.He has such fantastic taste.The very first bead on my bracelet was a lung cancer ribbon bead and the second bead was a butterfly.I carry you with me all day,everyday.I love and miss you so much mom!Send me your signs mom, I'm always looking for them!XOXO Dolly"

"Dar,I keep waiting for it to get easier(they say it gets easier with time)Well,they are wrong!In fact,it gets harder cuz the reality of missing you EVERY day hits me!Sometimes I feel so empty I just don't know how to deal with it,I actually miss you more each day! xoxo Nanc"

"Dar, not sure why I wait till the 20th each month to commemorate your passing. I am keenly aware of your absence every minute of every day. I see now that I will never get over losing you and life will never return to normal. I am a different person now. I am broken. Love, "B"

"Hi Mom!Today just isn't the same without getting to hear you say "happy birthday" and give me a hug.I miss you today just like everyday but today I miss you even more.I love you mom!XOXO Kimmy"

"mom,dad text me for the first time the other day.You'd be so proud.Marlee looks so much like you and John.Hailey looks like Drew but it mommas girl.Addi is making remarkable progress, and the new baby girl is due at the end of Dec.Curt & Nat are growing like weeds.miss n love you"

"Dar,I so have my good days and my bad days,ALL my  days I miss you,but some days I can think of you and smile and some days I think of you and all I can do is cry.I miss you so much.It amazes me how I still see new ways and times that your absence devastates me.miss you xoxo nan"

"Dar,Had Madi Mae's 2nd birthday.I kept remembering her 1st and the fact that you came all the way here,even as bad as you felt.You came because you knew how much it meant to me!Another reminder of all the things you'd do for me.Incase I didn't tell you THANKS!I miss you xoxo nanc"

"Hey Dar,The KWS kids UNANIMOUSLY agreed upon having the Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette Foundation as their community service project! So,we will be having some bake sales and stuff to earn money to donate. I was THRILLED when they got excited about it,YEAH!I sure do miss you!xo Nan"

"Mom,I went to the cemetery in Springfield yesterday and brought you flowers.I miss you mom & I love you so much.My life isn't the same without you,theres not much more to say beyond that.I'm different without you and can't ever be the same.For better or worse,I am forever changed"

"Dear Darlene,

Today I've been reading the many, many notes to you from Barb, Nancy and Kim.  They touch my heart SO much that I feel like crying with all three "girls.""

"Oh Dar, exactly one year ago you took your last breath and your spirit moved on to a better place. I know you're hovering about keeping an eye on us. We're trying to keep on keepin' on, but NOTHING is the same with you gone - and no where near as much fun! We miss you so much! "B"

"Hey Dar,Can't wait to get some pics of "your walk" so we can post them on the gallery.I know you musta been smilin to see us all walkin and talkin.I'm so glad Anita took pics so I could just enjoy the walk and the memories.Today is a hard day(altho they've all been hard)xoxoNanny"

"Dar,Can't believe it's been a year!It's been a REALLY tough one I'll tell ya!The whole dynamics of EVERYTHING has changed without you.Some days I don't know how I'll make it,then something happens that pulls me thru(gotta believe that's you & God lookin out for me)miss ya,xo nanc"

"Saturday was a perfect day for a walk,even better,it was a perfect day to take a walk and just think of you!It was a day you would have enjoyed;blue sky,brisk air,mild breeze,and good company!We all felt your presence there in our own ways!I love you & miss you so much,XO DollyXO"

"Dar, "Your walk" on Sat. was great! I'm always thinking about you but it was nice to do it in a different way and include others. Barb did a GREAT job putting it all together,she did you proud!(but you knew that).I wish you were here with us,we miss you so much.Luv ya!!xoxo Nanc"

"Dar, we did your walk yesterday. We had perfect weather. I couldn't help noticing the butterfly that flew in front of me midway through the walk. I'll take it as a sign that you were well aware and that was your way of participating. Still missing you all day, every day. Love "B"

"Mom, we released a butterfly in your memory on Saturday.  It was beautiful!I miss you so much,  mom.  If theres a heaven I know you're in it looking down.  Keep looking out for me, mom, and send me your signs, I'm always looking for them!  I love you and miss you!  XOXO  Dolly"

"Dar, the Wings of Hope Butterfly Release was awesome - we're not alone in mourning the loss of a loved one. Good to know. We're finalizing the details for your walk and trying to drum up interest - hope to do you proud. I miss you so much words can't adequately describe. Love, "B"

"Hey Dar, We released your butterflies today and it was awesome,so beautiful to see them all flying around! Some people don't understand but I don't care; you will ALWAYS be a part of my everyday life! You are a part of me;always have been and ALWAYS will be! Love Ya xoxo Nanc"

"Hey Dar,B & I are releasing butterflies to you on Sat.I'm looking forward to it,(although I'd much rather you were here)I LOVE to be doing things that are for you,reminders of you or ANYTHING to do with you!I wish you were here with us in person,not just in spirit.Miss ya!xo Nan"

"Mom,11 months without you feels like an eternity.I feel so lost without you,like my life has lost direction.It's like you were my anchor and now,without you,I'm drifting into a sea of nothing with no idea what direction to head in and no hope of finding my way.I love you,mom!"

"Dar,I can't believe it's been 11 months! Reality is really hitting me full force and it's hard to take. So many times I've just wanted to call you and hear your voice and your unique sense of humor and I can't!! I HATE it!! I miss you!! Keep lookin out for me,luv ya!! xoxoxo Nanc"

"Dar, 11 months without you after sharing nearly every day of our whole lives. You were so brave and strong, yet meek and sweet. I'm haunted by your trembling lips. I would give anything to have saved you. I'm only glad that God let you have a peaceful passing. I miss you. xoxo "B"

"Dar, Well,we spent my b-day together as always,it was a little different this year but you were still a part of it.Barb and I just chilled out together and made sure you were okay then took a dip in your pool,it was nice and relaxing but we still miss you so much! Luv ya! xo Nanc"

"Dar, Gotta tell ya,we're all trying to "keep on keepin on" but it's not easy. You left us all with  many wonderful memories but we were also left with an emptiness that is so hard to deal with. We miss you! You definitely are one of a kind!!!!  "Luv ya! xoxo Nanc"

"Mom,2 years ago yesterday ALL of our lives were changed forever...especially yours.I remember 8/10/09 so vividly;I knew after Eric,your PT called me that all of our lives were forever changed somehow...yours especially.I MISS YOU SOOO MUCH!!!I LOVE YOU, MOM! XO Dolly"

"Dar, One year ago tonight, you snuggled into your comfy bed at the Common Man Inn after promenading in your gown, munching on Rice Krispie Treats and relaxing in the hot tub. You slept so well that we had to keep checking to make sure you were still breathing. What a fond memory!"

"Dar - Me, Nanny, Kristel and Hailey Darlene did a "trial run" of your walk today. It's a doozy-6.5 miles- but worth every step! The route passes some of your favorite places. It's going to be September 17th. I hope we get a lot of walkers. We just wanna do you proud. Miss you, "B"

"10 months have gone by since you passed.The nightmares are getting worse and the flashbacks affect me daily.Every part of me aches from missing you so terribly.I'm desperate for a sign.I love you and miss you!Love Dolly"

"Dar, I thought of you all day yesterday - well, I pretty much do every day anyway. I feel broke. There are only a few people who truly understand how losing you has affected me. I will never be the same again. I guess this is my "new normal" as Kimmy would say. I don't like it."

"Thank God for the babies. They bring joy to our otherwise shattered lives. I hope you can see Marlee Mei and Hailey Darlene - how absolutely precious they are. I wish you were here to cuddle them. I know that they would both think you are "all that". I miss you so much! Love, "B"

"Dar,It's been 10 months and I still miss you terribly and think of you ALWAYS! At times I feel paralyzed by the loss of you;you were such a huge part of my life. Barb has been a HUGE help,she talks with me about you and it helps. Remember you are always in my heart!Luv ya!Luv me!"

"HI Mom!I'm starting a new job next week.It's time to grow up & get a REAL job; But, as excited as I am for it, I still feel empty not being able to share this next chapter with you.I love you and miss you and think about you ALWAYS!  LOVE YOU, MISS YOU...Dolly"

"How ironic that the part of dying Dar was afraid of was not death itself, but that we'd move on with our lives and forget about her. NOT! "Oh, contrare" as she would say - quite the opposite. We go through the motions of our lives but, Dar, you are ALWAYS in our thoughts. Love "B"

"Dar,I really enjoy the get togethers we've been having,but I wish we'd done this when you were still with us.If I could turn back time,there are so many things I wish I'd done and said and I pray that you know that!I miss you more than I can say! Keep looking out for me! Luv Nanc"

"Dar, We've all become so close since you died. Trying to hold each other up, I guess. I'm glad we're there for each other, but I still wish in the worst way that you were here to enjoy our little get togethers. If I could turn back time you know I would. I miss you so! Love, "B"

"Dar, I will never forget you, hell, I can barely function without you being the center of my every thought. I think of you ALL the time and miss you terribly. No matter what we did, you ALWAYS made me laugh - out loud! Don't know how you did it - just "Dar being Dar" :)  Love, "B"

"Mom, I feel like I am getting closer to having a breakdown because I'm miss you so terribly and I feel so lost without you.Please keep looking out for me and keep sending me your "signs" that you are close by.  I love you and miss you SO much!!  XOXO  Kimmy"

"Mom, it's been 9 months.I don't know what else to say except that I miss you to the point it physically hurts.I have a shrine next to my bed of your photos and some things of yours...that helps a little.I love you mom and I miss you so much.XOXO Doll"

"Dar, still miss you SO much! I think of you constantly. Had a little dream of you - not much to it, but we hung clothes on a clothesline together. It was nice to share that moment with you. I listen to the CD's you made me ALL the time. Love, "B"

"Dar,It's been 9 months of missing you.We've been spending time together and it's been fun, but at times I look around and miss you so much I feel like I can't breathe.Keep looking out for me okay?Luv ya Nanc"

"Dar,We're getting together soon to talk about doing a walk in your memory.I can't wait to start working on your foundation,I think it might help me.We're all staying in touch and spending time together but we miss you terribly!Luv ya Nanc"

"Dar,As you know,we went and took care of Dad's grave and had a little ceremony for you as we put you to rest with Dad. Barb bought some gorgeous decorations for you and your spot looks beautiful. We miss you so much Dar,you are NOT forgotten,luv Nanc"

"Dar you'd be so proud of your sisters. They have tried to fill in for you with your kids.  You have an amazing family.  You did an awesome job!  I'm taking a lesson from you to make every minute count and to not sweat the small stuff.  Miss you Dar"

"Oh Dar, it's been 8 months - I miss you so. I wish we could turn back time. There are so many things we all would have done differently. I'm sorry I didn't learn more, do more, speak up for you sooner. So very, very sorry. Love, "B "

"Mom,it's been 8 months without you and most days I hurt just as much as the day you died.I cry daily because I miss you so terribly.I know thats selfish and I'm sorry for that.I can sense you sometimes and then I miss you even more.I love & miss you"

"Dar,Can't believe it's been 8 months.I think of you and miss you each and every day!Not a day goes by without my heart breaking with the loss of your humor,your smile,your kindness,your friendship,well with everything about YOU!I love you Dar Luv Nan"

"Dar, I see you in your kids. Kim is just incredible! Loving, compassionate and caring. Amy has your love and determination to bulldoze any obstacles that come Addison's way. And your Johnny is lovin' life as a new dad! I hope you're watching!"

"Oh, Dar, you were so right! Being a grammie is the best! Hailey Darlene was born Friday night. Everyone is healthy and happy. Just as Kim was amazing taking care of you, well, she took great care of Kristel, too! No surprise, though. We are so lucky!"

"Mom,there was a new addition to the family on Friday;Hailey Darlene Davis was born at 8:32pm on 4/22/11.She weighed 6lbs 11oz and was 19.5 inches long.Kristel was AMAZING and Drew was fantastic with her!We all had you there in our own way.We love you"

"Mom, today marks 7 months without you.I still struggle each day to find my way without you.I think about you all the time and miss you terribly.I love you so much!Love & miss you...Dolly"

"Dar, it's been 7 months. You had such a profound impact on all our lives. I never realized how much I would truly miss you every day. It sure was nice seeing you show up to meet Marlee Mei. I hope you come take a peek at Hailey Darlene, too!  Love,"B"

"Well Dar, It's been 7 months and it's not getting any easier!! I miss you terribly!! The only thing holding me together is knowing you're happy in Heaven with Jesus and with Dad,on the selfish side though, I wish you were here with me!! Love ya,Nanny"

"Dar,Well the warm weather is beginning and you know what that means,time to get out the dancing shoes!Springtime won't be the same without you,but I'll try to keep up the traditions of dancing,shopping,gardening and taking care of Dad's stone.Miss ya"

"..my pregnancy and best of all, would tell me what to say to people who think I have gained too much weight :)  I know you are up above looking over me though, what a comfort!  I will miss you and love you always!"

"Dar, Hailey Darlene is almost here!  I know that even though you won't be there in person to see her birth that you will be with me somehow.  I know that if you were here in person that you would be telling me how to get through this final stretch of"

"Dar, Mike met Marlee last night. So did Amy and Nanny. By the looks of the photo of Amy holding her, it looks like you met her as well! Congrats, Nana! Isn't she beautiful? I KNEW you hadn't gone far.... Love, "B"

"Dar,I saw pictures of your new grandbaby,she is so beautiful!I know you see her too and are proud as can be.I can't wait to hold her and give her a kiss and hug for you.Can't wait to tell her wonderful and funny stories of her Nana.Luv & miss ya Nanc"

"Dar, your granddaughter, Marlee Mei, was born Monday night. She is perfect! It is good to see John feel such joy. I posted photos of her in your gallery. Your spirit continues to live on and you remain a vital part of our lives. Love, "B"

"Mom, Johnny welcomed his first daughter last night, Marlee Mei Paulette.Johnny is over the moon; and as happy as they are, I know they wish you could see her, even though you did get to meet her first.She was 5lbs 8oz and 18 inches.congrats Nana!! XO"

"Hi Mom!  It's been 6 months without you and I'm still trying to find my way.  I miss you everyday and wish you were here with us all.  What I wouldn't do or give up just to have a hug and for you to say "it's ok, dolly".  I love you mom! Kimmy"

"Dar, it's been 6 months. I always admired that you "marched to the beat of your own drummer" - didn't abide by anyone else's rules. You were yourself - plain and simple. I can hear your response, "That's right."  :)  I miss you so much! Love, "B"

"Hey Dar, It's been 6 months(1/2year)since I sat and talked and laughed with you. I miss just being with you and doing nothing,just being.I can't even explain how different things feel and are without you,we all miss you so much!Luv and miss ya! Nanc"

"Dar,The baby showers are coming up soon and I'm having a really hard time thinking of going to them without you there.I know I'll have fun but I always feel like something is missing and there is! it's YOU!!Things REALLY aren't the same without you. In the older days your humor, spunk and sass were unmatched and then later your sweetness and humor was sooo endearing! I miss you so much! Luv Nan"

"Dar, Over and over, each and every day, no matter what I'm doing, my thoughts never wander far from you.  I miss chatting with you about titles!  I'm finishing up a search of property in Canaan and noticed on the plan that the Appalachain Trail runs right through it!  I know you'd find that facinating since Johnny hiked part of the Trail.  Oh, how I wish you knew how much I miss you! Love, "B"

"Dar,
There have been many family news that has needed to be passed on, and I have had to do some of it.  Everytime I said this is Dar's job.  You were the one who kept everyone posted.  I am so grateful for the times I had with you.  I miss you."

"Momma,today is 5 months without you.I miss you terribly and have a constant ache in my heart.I'm still struggling to find something that resembles normalcy but haven't found it yet.I love you so much mom, and miss you so much that it physically hurts.I feel better knowing that you are watching over us.I love you, mom!"

"Dar,We thought of you with love today,but that is nothing new. We thought about you yesterday and the day before that too. We think of you in silence,we often speak your name. Now all we have is memories and your picture in a frame.Your memory is our keepsake, with which we'll never part. God has you in His keeping and we have you in our hearts. Luv Nanni"

"Dar, It's been five months.  We often lie awake at night when the world is fast asleep, and take a walk down Memory Lane with tears upon our cheeks.  Remembering you is easy - we do it every day. But missing you is heartache that never goes away. We hold you tightly in our hearts and there you will remain.  Life has gone on without you - But it will never be the same!   We miss you! Love, "B"

"Dar, We all loved you so much and feel a profound loss in your passing. Me and Nanny have grown really close to Mikey and the kids. I can hear you now, "Yeah, sure, wait till I'm gone!" Nanny's right - You Make Me Smile! In reality though, it's because of you that we have each other and need each other. Oh, how I wish you were here! I miss you! Love, "B"

"Dar,Yesterday I missed you horribly!It was the kind of day we would've jumped in the car,turned on the tunes,rolled the windows down and cruised.Tomorrow will be 5 months since you left us and I still miss you more than I can even express.Today I'm watching a marathon of Touched by an Angel and I miss having you by my side.Know that you're always in my thoughts and in my heart! Luv ya! Nanni"

"Me and "all the girls" are planning baby showers for Kristel and Meg.We're having fun doing it.You aren't far from all of our minds while we've been planning the parties.Of course we all would prefer that you were there.We have thought of a way to still have you at the showers.I miss you more and more each day and theres not one minute of one hour of one day that I don't think of you.I love you!!!"

"My dear niece, Darlene,

You were a lot like me in that we weren't timid about voicing our opinions on an issue.  BUT, you were such a loving and caring daughter, sister, wife, mom and grandmother!  You are sorely missed and my heart feels an emptiness without you here.  I will see you again when our Lord returns for HIS children.  I love you!"

"Hey Dar,I've been reading this book "Glimpses of Heaven" trying to feel a little better about things. It makes me feel good about where you are but it hasn't helped me feel any better about being without you,I still miss you soo much I just don't know what to do.I listen to your CD's all the time and they do help me smile as I remember all the fun times we had but I still miss you terribly!Luv Nan"

"Hi mom!4 months without feels like eternity.Dad hasn't changed the voicemail greeting so I find myself calling when dads not there just so I can hear your voice again.I think about you constantly and the wall next to my bed is covered with pictures of you.I love you mom and miss you SOOOO much!"

"Everybody at the Chester, VT Town Office misses Darlene very much. We loved it when she would come into our office. She always had stories to tell us and we loved listening. We know from her stories that she loved her family very much. We thank you for sharing this website with us. We can now see the faces and read the stories of the family that Darlene loved so much. Debbie Aldrich, Town Clerk"

"Hey Dar,It's been 4 months and they sure have been tough without you!I read Barb's message and I agree with what she said.On the one hand I keep reaching for the phone to call you but then again I feel like it's been forever since I was with you talking and laughing.Seems like I'm missing you more with each day,it certainly doesn't seem to be getting ANY easier.Miss ya&Luv ya Nanc"

"Dar, it’s been 4 months that you’ve been gone.  Sometimes it feels like you've been gone forever; other times I forget that you're gone and get ready to call you.  I think about you constantly – day, night, ALL the time.  I have a gaping hole in my heart that just won’t heal.  Life is not the same with you not here.  It’s not fair that you’re gone! It was TOO SOON!  I miss you sooo much! Love, "B"

"Dar, I got a miniature tea set with pink flowers and gold trim.  It's beautiful!  I'll keep the creamer, Nanny gets the sugar bowl, Kimmy, Amy, Kristel, Meghan, Princess Natalie and Jessica each get a tea cup and saucer to keep in your memory.  I'll put a teaspoon of your cremains in the tea pot and we'll all go to Dad's grave in the spring so you can be with him here and up in Heaven. Cool,huh?"

"Hey Dar,WOW!!Things sure are different without you!We are all trying to hang in there with our chins up but we ALL sure do miss you!You had a special way of making us feel better.I'm sure it was different for each of us but you knew what would make each of us smile.I sooo miss talking with you and just hanging out. Like I said though,we are all trying.Keep watching out for us PLEASE! Luv ya Nanc"

"Hi mom,make a place beside you for Fuzzy.Fuzzy's health was failing quickly,so dad did the humane thing by having him put to sleep.Poor dad,I know you're watching over him.So now you & Fuzz can watch over him.Nat's fish Bubble's needs a place beside you too;she died 1/10/11.It's been a tough week!I love you & miss you!"

"I miss you, mom!I miss being able to call you up after having a bad day (like today) and being able to vent to you about it.You'd always have something to say to make me feel a bit better or give a hug or whatever!Life's just not the same without you.I'm definately NOT the same ole' Kimmy without you.I love you mom!"

"Dar, not a day passes that I don't miss you and think of you.  I have your picture on my desk so that I can see your smile when I am having a bad day.  The girls are all doing a great job of keeping in touch and being there for eachother; I am the worst at keeping up the communication.  No one brings everyone together quite like you did!"

"Dar,It's only a week into the New Year and I can't even count how many times I could've used your advise and humor to deal with all the STUFF that's going on with KWS.I can almost hear you say,"You want me to call them for you?I'll tell them what's up and like it!" Although I never had you do it,I miss that backup.I have a meeting soon,I hope I have some of your gusto for it.Wish me luck. Luv nanc"

"Dar, I wished I'd known how near the end you were and how fast you were leaving us cuz I NEVER would have left your side if I'd known,I would have stayed with you 24/7,I would have done ANYTHING for you and I just wanted you to know that.I think of you always and like that song says, I wish I had one more day with you. Miss you LOTS!! Luv you LOTS, Nanni"

"Happy New Year mom!We had a lil gathering at your house last night so Nanny could give dad the info on your star.Its very obvious when dad reaches his max when remembering you, but he handles himself so gracefully.You'd be proud!I think we all feel so much comfort knowing you're looking down on us everyday;so now your star is a daily reminder of that fact that you're watching!love & miss you,dolly"

"Dar, We went to your house last nite and gave Mikey his gift(your star)So,now there's a "Dar star" up in the Heavens.Mikey tried to find it but it was too cloudy,can't wait til he can point it out so when I think of you I'll have a focus point to look at.I miss you so much,it's so hard to have the same excitement about things without you here but I'm trying. Happy New Year!! Luv ya!! Nanni"

"Well Dar, it's New Year's Day. Me, Nanny, Jess and Madi joined Kim, Curt and Nat, Amy and Add to hang out with Mikey for a while last night. I know you never really rang in the New Year partying, but we all just wanted to be there for one another. It is SO not the same without you! I know you were there in spirit, but we miss your sense of humor desperately! Happy New Year, Dar. Love, "B"

"Christmas wasn't the same without you!We all did our own private parts to make it through but we all shared an unspoken knowledge of sorrow.You'd be proud of dad and how he handled the holidays.He has been honest with his feelings and upfront with his limitations because of his feelings.He loves you so much,we all do!We all miss you too!I'm sure your Christmas was beautiful!xoxo your dolly"

"Dar, I went to your house last night for Christmas Eve and spent the evening with Mikey, the kids and Barb & Skip.We talked and remembered times with you,which was nice but also sad.Things just aren't the same without you.I miss your humor,your voice, your laughter and your friendship so much.  Miss you and Love you!!  Nanny"

"Well, Dar, it's Christmas Eve.  We made it through the evening at your place.  It wasn't the same without you, but we all did what we could to get each other through it.  You would be sooooo proud of Mikey and the kids - how they honor your memory and look out for one another.  Many gifts were given in your memory.  You are NOT forgotten - not for one minute!  Merry Christmas, Honey.  Love, "B"

"Hey Dar, It's been three months today since you left us but I feel like it's been forever.I wish I could figure out how to fill up this whole that's been left in me without you but I haven't found a way.I'm keeping in touch with Mikey and the girls and that helps to keep you closer.They're great,but of course you know that,you raised them.I love you Dar and miss you bunches!! Nanny"

"Hi mom...Three months without you seems like a lifetime!I miss you everyday.All those trips to Hermit Island with Barb and Skip didn't prepare me for missing you like this!Thank God for B and Nan checking in;I feel you in them whenever we talk,write,visit,hug etc.I'm glad you raised me to be close with them because I feel like they're surrogate moms.NO ONE can EVER take your place though!Love you!"

"Dar, it's been 3 months.  I still miss you every minute of every day.  We’re going to your house Christmas Eve - even Skip.  Nanny will be there too!  It certainly won’t be festive, but we’re all doing the best we can to help each other get through the holidays.  Just wanted you to know that Nanny and I are keeping our promise and doing our best to look out for Mikey and the kids.  I Love You, "B"

"Dar,I'm trying to get ready for Christmas,but I miss you terribly!!I miss going shopping with you,out for brunch and just bouncing my gift ideas around with you.Let me tell you,thrift store shopping is not the same without you!I miss my shopping partner!!I'm trying to pull it together but I can feel the emptiness of your absence in my life every day.I love you,I miss you and Merry Christmas Dar!"

"Dar, I know that you grabbed the best seat in heaven - right beside Dad!  I also know that you're looking down as we try to pick up our lives.  We're trying - some days are better than others.  We all miss you terribly!  Personally, I just don't know how to move on.  I'm stuck."

"I miss Dar so much!Dar was always more than just my sister,she was my friend,confidant,my "go to" person for everything.I'm also realizing she was my core.I feel very lost without her,I feel like I've lost my spark and I'm trying to figure out how to get it back.The only thing that keeps me sane is knowing she is with Jesus and Dad and that one day I'll see them again.Til then-know I love you Dar!"

"Dar I miss our phone calls and when you worked in W. Leb we would see each other all the time.  I miss knowing that you would always call with any news about the family good or bad.  I miss knowing you were always there if I needed to talk. We all need to take lessons from you.  I am so thankful for the time we got to spend together the last few months. I Love you Dar."

""Forever Missed" says it all! Although not my first niece (that place will always belong to the dear one responsible for this awesome Memorial-her big sister, Barbara), Dar was someone who taught us all a few things about "pushing the envelope." Dar's often boisterous ways and her uncut/unedited humor made her the life of every party worth attending! She seemed to bring out the best in all of us!"

"I miss you, mom!  I have you with me all the time and I think about you always.  I'm trying to figure out life without you but I don't think I'm making much progress.  People say "I just want to get back to normal"; For me, "normal" incuded you, mom, so I'm trying to figure out what my new "normal" is.  I love you and miss you!"

"I feel like I've lost two Dars - the Dar I grew up with who had the tough shell but was a softie thru and thru, who would do ANYTHING for me - and the Dar who emerged in the last year who was so meek and mellow.  I miss her terribly!"