- 57 years old
- Date of birth: Jun 3, 1956
- Place of birth:
Chalmette (New Orleans), Louisiana, United States
- Date of passing: Feb 7, 2014
- Place of passing:
Palm Springs, California, United States
|Live your dreams....|
Celebration of David B Wells Life
March 15th, 2014
All of you here are a testament to what I think David’s dream was…it was
to treat all people with respect,..
to share a piece of himself with his unique sense of humor...
to be generous to a fault to those in need…
and to always be there as a pillar of strength and wisdom…
I believe he accomplished that and then some.
Before I go further, I want to thank a few people who have really stepped up during this journey which started way back in May of last year. I want to thank them not based on the amount of help they provided but the way they provided it, when they provided it and how they provided it. Each of you never tired of giving genuine hope, encouragement and love…and there was nothing that David could or would do without because of your heartfelt devotion.
Gavin – the cheerleader
Randy – the writer
Dr. Law – the General
Eisenhower 3 East Oncology Staff – The A Team
Rob – Mr. Everything to David AND I
June – Great Teammate and Confidant
My Mom – Loving David as her own
What will you miss about David? I would imagine some of the stuff on my list here is on yours.
I will miss (and missing), his cast of characters Blanche Devereaux from Golden Girls, Ginger Grant from Gilligan’s Island and Dr. David Dickman the sex therapist. For those of you who experienced any and/or all of these characters knows #1, I can’t even come close to re-creating it for you today and #2 how incredibly funny it really was….the kind of funny that was not trying to get attention…but just naturally funny that flowed out effortlessly. I know his family here today can attest that the cast of characters may have changed over the years but the degree of funny has not.
I will miss his giant, blue and very expressive eyes
I will miss his warm, comforting hands
I will miss shopping for and going to Halloween parties with him
I will miss watching him shave
I will miss seeing his uniform laid out on the bed for that day’s softball game
I will miss finding numerous bouquets of roses he shanghaied from all over the condo property.
I will miss packing and heading out for fun trips to SF, Vancouver, Chicago and other cities that are still are on our bucket list.
I will miss being spoiled rotten in every sense of the word.
I will miss the 9,000,000 euphemisms… “too much sugar for a dime” comes to mind…or “a fast nickel is better than a slow dime”…very southern…so you get the picture.
I will miss how he shared me with his family…which by the way treated me like anyone else…because they know that true love is the same love for everyone…and I want to thank you guys for that.
And yes David my love…I will miss how you reveled in combining intimacy and love.
Today we are not saying goodbye to our friend, father, brother, son, uncle or partner, but rather thanking him for being in our lives and that his spirit and memory will live on as long as each of us draws a breath.
Lastly, I received a sympathy card from someone I know and admire who has experienced the loss of her father and then her son. She sent the card at a crucial time when I was struggling with how to in some way still have David with me. In the card she shared this poem with me hoping it would bring comfort when I needed it like it did for her….and it does.
And if I go, while you are still here…
Know that I live on,
Vibrating to a different measure,
Behind a thin veil that you cannot see through.
You will not see me, so you must have faith.
I will wait there for the time when we can soar together again, both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to the fullest.
And when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart…I will be there.
"My Daddyman, SB, LB...etc...I so miss you today...I guess because we always celebrated our birthdays together by going somewhere nice to eat...and then going to the dessert bar CRAVE...It's been almost 16 fast and long months and am trying to live my next chapter as you would have wished...trying to accept Peace and Joy...to be happy and to shine...You will ALWAYS be the love of my life, my rock, my friend, my partner in crime...but most of all an inspiration to be a better person...as you were...Love You and Miss You Forever and Ever...."
"Today you have been gone a year. It has been a tough year. I visited one of you favorite places on the mountain with Barry. I hope you enjoy the roses I left. I think of you often and smile remembering all the funny things you've said over the years. I miss you, and hope you and mom are looking out for all of us here. Love J"
"My dear sweet David:
I felt your presence with me on your birthday . I could just see your beautiful blue eyes and heartwarming smile and imagine you leading the pack of angels with glorious happiness. We miss you and love you.
Your other mom."
"LIVE YOUR DREAMS!
Sometimes, as a parent, lover, spouse, friend, time goes by so quickly for us and we fail to take time to reflect on what our dreams actually are.
First, I thank David Wells for his own unique experiences he quietly passed on to me. He inspired me at times in ways that are intangible. His quiet voice, laughing blue eyes and ability to make you feel like you were the only person in the world that he cared for are tools that we seldom acknowledge receiving. It is now that I take the time to remember him. To you, David, thank you for letting me be a part of your own life.
My life dreams have been lived out through my children, my awesome husband and a handful of very close friends. I thought that my babies were so fulfilling when they were little. Suddenly, they are now grown and there is even more happiness for me through them than I ever imagined. Finally, at age 81, “I get it”. Live your dreams which are to help the less fortunate, love your family unconditionally and enjoy your friends. Work hard and take the time to enjoy your efforts.
s the years pass, our life dreams change as we mature. We take the time to look out the window and see a new dawn. Gratitude is given each morning by me to our Lord. He is always there when we lose our way. Miracles and blessings appear each day. He urges our hearts to want to inspire others and to acknowledge wonderful memories, small or large.
For me, it is important to remind myself to continue to build good character, weather the storms of life and know that we are put here on earth to always think of others. There is joy when I give some of my time seeking out others in my own community who need food, different needs, and an ear to listen to them. A smile can mean so much, both ways.
My life is full because these things are given back to me each time a child calls me, or my husband laughs with me, or a friend touches base. There is no way to explain the happiness this brings to me and I cherish each instance.
My own expectations of “living my dreams” have changed through the years. It is my fervent desire that in whatever way I have helped someone else, or given love and nurture, will in some way inspire even one person to continue their own DREAM. May you all experience peace and serenity in knowing when you also pass on the dreams of life. You know the feeling in your own heart that I am talking about. Remember to say “I love you” to someone who needs it.
To you, Barry, and Monty, who are here today to celebrate David’s life, thank you for letting me in on your dreams. Go forward and never give up. Remember, David, our Warrior, is looking down and urging us to keep on living our dreams. The supreme happiness will be when God’s Plan for each of us has finished and we, too, will travel over the rainbow to once again be with David and all we have loved before and have gone to a better place.
Kathy Leach 3-14-14"
"This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one
We will remember him forever.
* June 3, 1956 – February 7, 2014 *
Please join us in celebrating David’s life
March 15, 2014 3:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.
390 E. Santiago Way, Palm Springs CA 92264
Attire: Whatever makes you feel good!
Bring a single rose…
Live your dreams…
Please visit David’s Memorial Website at www.forevermissed.com – David
Donations accepted in David’s name for Gilda's Club Cities
"David Bryan Wells
David Bryan Wells was born in (Chalmette) New Orleans, Louisiana on June 3rd 1956 to Mary and Fenrick Wells. He was the last child of four. He is preceded in death by his beloved mother Mary and survived by his father Fenrick Wells, brother Marty Wells and sisters Beth Nance, June deHaan, daughter Emily K. Wells, nieces and nephews Jennifer Cobb, Cherryl Maxted, Adam Wells, Michael Wells, Rene Wells, Meredith Hillman and Ron Hillman (and their families).
David’s dad Fen was in the Navy until 1980 and therefore the family followed wherever they sent him. As a child he also lived in Pensacola Florida, Detroit Michigan and Buffalo New York for short periods of time…but his formative years was spent in Garden Grove and Costa Mesa California.
As a teenager David was a member of the local 4H club because of his love for animals. He had a horse named Dolly. He turned her into a show horse and won multiple awards and ribbons. She also foaled once for him. David used to reminisce about all the hours he rode her around golden rolling hills and scrub oaks which eventually became the sprawling city of Irvine. In addition to his horse he also raised a Holstein calf and a herd of goats. Let’s also not forget about his beloved Snoopy the dog. While in High School David was one of only two freshmen on the water polo team. He was very proud of that accomplishment as well.
David also had a love of music and was quite good at the Clarinet, so much so that he had a music scholarship offer but turned it down to become a Veterinarian. He originally went to University of Southwestern Louisiana to get his pre-Vet degree, but decided half way through to get his undergraduate degree in Speech Pathology instead. After completing his undergraduate degree he received his Master in Speech Pathology from Louisiana Tech University…and then began an impressive career in 1981 that lasted 33 years.
Through his career David held various levels of responsibility in the Rehabilitation Arena. David’s served as a manager, program manager, director and regional manager over not only speech, but occupational and physical therapy specialties as well.
He and his wife at the time Clara relocated to the desert from Shreveport, Louisiana in 1990. They brought along their daughter of two years Emily Katherine Wells and then began his love affair with the desert. The bulk of his career was in the Coachella Valley, starting at Desert Hospital, Palm Springs as Director of Speech Pathology and Audiology.
David practiced in the Palm Springs/Desert area until 2008 and then spent a short period in Los Angeles for two years. After Los Angeles his most rewarding work was a brief 9 month assignment as a roving Rehab Director in the Bay Area. It not only was his second most favorite place to be next to the desert, but he was also entrusted to save failing rehabilitation centers embedded in nursing homes and assisted living centers. He succeeded beyond anyone’s wildest dreams.
After the roving Director of Rehab position ended in mid -2011, David moved back to his first love Palm Springs where he and his partner Barry had a condo. Up to that time the condo was an escape from the intensity of Los Angeles. He worked the rest of his life at The Fountains of Carlotta in Palm Desert. He also worked frequently in hospice and home health programs throughout the valley.
In closing David was a true Southern Gentleman, with a wonderful, soothing voice, big, blue eyes and a “bedside manner” that transcended from the medical arena to all who knew him. He loved sunrises, clouds, flowers…especially roses, orchids, tulips, calla lilies and hydrangeas. He maintained his love for animals and obviously was a magnet for ANY dog or cat. At a time he was quite the Country and Western “hoofer”. He discovered softball in 2012 and absolutely loved the game AND the comradery with his teammates. He was the ultimate teammate, happy to be a part of NOT THE PART.
Most of all though he treated everyone with respect…born out of having total humility and grace about himself. I believe that is his true legacy. He left this world with one wish for himself and all he touched.
Don’t ever hold back…take the chance, make the sacrifice to….
LIVE YOUR DREAMS…"
You left so many wonderful memories for all of our family and were such an inspiration in becoming our beloved Warrior. I treasure the memories of your humor, fabulous blue eyes and eloquent voice. Peace be with you; someday, we will be together again. My prayers for comfort and serenity to all you left behind.
"your other mother"."
"David...you were loved and are missed immensely! You were and always will be a part of our family! You brought out the best in everyone whose life you touched!"
Words can't express what your e-mails and correspondence meant to me. You helped keep me sane when I needed reassurance I wasn't the crazy one, well not in those instances at least : ). You made me feel loved. You helped me remember my own dad. I love you. Thanks for being such a great Uncle. I have so many things I want to say but not the words to express them correctly. Just thank you for caring about me. Love Always"
"Oh, How I will miss my brother!"
"I will miss you every day for the rest of my life. You will always be in my heart and I'm incredibly thankful for all our wonderful memories. Dad, you're irreplaceable and I will see you again. Through the good times, and the bad, I have always loved you and always will."
"Will miss your kind voice, beautiful smile. But will always have fond memories of the times we spent together. Alex and (Bill)"
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