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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Davin Douma, 44 years old, born on October 1, 1967, and passed away on January 18, 2012. We will remember him forever.
October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
Today is your 53rd birthday and I so wish you were here so we could celebrate you! I think of you every day as I go through life wishing I could share life’s experiences with you - your life was cut short way to soon.  It would be so great to have one more conversation with you to see how you are and what you have been doing. I don’t know what happens after this life on earth but I hope you can feel how much we love you and miss you! Happy birthday Davin - we love you always.
June 18, 2018
June 18, 2018
Not a day go's by that I don't think about you my beautiful boy. I miss you Davin. Our book 'Reaching the Shore' has been well received, thank you for all your help. We have received letters from some of your old friends who thought so much of you and thank you for all the help you gave them in prison, they looked up to you and admired you. I hope you are happy, will soon have or already have a sweet loving family to watch over you.
Love, MOM
October 5, 2016
October 5, 2016
Happy belated birthday, Davin. I thought about you throughout the day, but didn't have a chance to get on here because we thought Morgan was in labor. I was so excited to think my new grand baby would be born on your birthday, but it was a false alarm!
I still can't believe you're gone. I miss your letters and how you always kept up with my growing family. And I just miss you.
I love you...Happy Birthday
October 4, 2016
October 4, 2016
Happy birthday! I miss you so very much. I think of you less, and less as the years go by, but I still I"m not able to read your letters without crying. So many years I couldn't see you, and now I never will again. That is what hurts the worst. To all who do not appreciate your loved ones. Don't wait to tell them you love them, and savor every moment.
October 1, 2016
October 1, 2016
Happy birthday Davin. I think about you every day and miss you so much. You are always in my thoughts and I am always thankful I was lucky enough to have you as my brother and I was able to spend time with you those last months you were with us. I always think you are out amongst the stars, walking along a beach or reading a book underneath a tree. It would be your favorite things to be doing. Love you and miss you.
July 11, 2015
July 11, 2015
You were my friend. My brother. You showed me a way of peace thru martial arts. You once asked about my writing how the world would be effected by it...... the answer is unimportant. The question you asked ordered my thinking in a new way which changed my life. I hope you have found YOUR answers now. I love you brother.
January 18, 2015
January 18, 2015
This place is a dream. Only a sleeper considers it real. Then death comes like the dawn and you wake up laughing at what you thought was your grief.---Simone Weil

Davin now that you are awake you will find the answers to some of your questions. I miss you and will always love you. Have fun now.

Mom
November 6, 2014
November 6, 2014
"They say there is a doorway from heart to heart but what is the use of a door when there are no walls."----------Simone Weil

There are no doors in my dreams so please visit me Davin.
I miss you, Love, Mom
February 13, 2014
February 13, 2014
oh my. I just found out? I am in tears. Although it has been many years since I have spoken to Davin I think about him often. He was such a blessing and touched my heart forever. Love you always and forever Davin. Love Jennifer

I still have the trinket box you gave me. I'll treasure it always.
January 19, 2014
January 19, 2014
Dear beautiful Davin, I carry you with me, I am never without you. Where ever you are your light of a hundred suns will shine.

Loving you forever,

Mom
January 18, 2014
January 18, 2014
Davin is .....was a true Warrior......one who's Soul is the winner! When you were in Davin's presence you were reminded that we are Souls living in human bodies. He used what was given to him to the highest level. He helped others and he was responsible for himself. A very beautiful human. I am fortunate to have met him. He is a Gift! xoxoxo
January 20, 2013
January 20, 2013
I have shared the article I wrote, "Tribute To Davin Douma" with my students. They are deeply affected and touched by Davin's life story. His story really engages them and they ask a lot of questions about his life. So even though Davin's life has ended he is still having a positive impact on others.
January 18, 2013
January 18, 2013
Its been a year since you passed onto another place and we all think of you every day and you live on in our hearts and minds. I will post another of your writings in tribute to you,, we love you Davin. .
October 2, 2012
October 2, 2012
As I open my eyes this morning,
I look to the heavens above.
I whisper, Happy Birthday, Dear Davin,
And send you all my love.
I miss you beyond compare.
May the heavens glow with 45 candles tonight.
Love, Traci
October 1, 2012
October 1, 2012
Happy Birthday my dear brother. I hope you are exploring the universe and spreading your peacefulness and words of wisdom where you are now. Maybe you are even writing the greatest novel of all. I miss you every day and am so glad I got to spend time with you those last few months before you left us. I lit a candle for you today. Love you - Deborah
October 1, 2012
October 1, 2012
Blessed Davin! I met you only a couple of times, and....those few times made a deep impression on me. You were one of the most "awake, conscious, and heart felt" human beings I have had the pleasure of meeting. I feel grateful having met you! Thank you for your beautiful face, heart, mind, and focus! Thank you for the book, too! God Speed dear heart! ~ love~om shanthi~
October 1, 2012
October 1, 2012
Dear Davin,
  No one could be more proud of a son than I am of you.I miss you so much, but I am glad that you are getting a well deserved vacation from earthly life. Happy Birthday! I will always love you.
                                          Mom
August 3, 2012
August 3, 2012
Davin,what a wonderful guy you were here on earth.You are sorely missed! Peace and love.
April 2, 2012
April 2, 2012
Davin, my brother, my friend.. words were never hard for you to come by, you had so much to say and wrote so eloquently and so much in your short time here. I find it hard to write myself because I cant find the words to describe the loss I feel. I feel you with me though and see things to remind me of you every day. Love you.
March 17, 2012
March 17, 2012
I thought of you again today, as I have every other day since you left. I thought about how I wish I had gone to the hospital to see your face, hold your hand and hear your voice for the 1st time in 28 years. When none of it made sense, and just as I was about to lose faith, someone whispered in my ear, "Heaven needed a hero".
February 9, 2012
February 9, 2012
Davin was my step-son. His courage, kindness and many other fine qualities made a deep impression on me. He was an inspiration and I feel grateful to have been part of his family.

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October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
Today is your 53rd birthday and I so wish you were here so we could celebrate you! I think of you every day as I go through life wishing I could share life’s experiences with you - your life was cut short way to soon.  It would be so great to have one more conversation with you to see how you are and what you have been doing. I don’t know what happens after this life on earth but I hope you can feel how much we love you and miss you! Happy birthday Davin - we love you always.
June 18, 2018
June 18, 2018
Not a day go's by that I don't think about you my beautiful boy. I miss you Davin. Our book 'Reaching the Shore' has been well received, thank you for all your help. We have received letters from some of your old friends who thought so much of you and thank you for all the help you gave them in prison, they looked up to you and admired you. I hope you are happy, will soon have or already have a sweet loving family to watch over you.
Love, MOM
October 5, 2016
October 5, 2016
Happy belated birthday, Davin. I thought about you throughout the day, but didn't have a chance to get on here because we thought Morgan was in labor. I was so excited to think my new grand baby would be born on your birthday, but it was a false alarm!
I still can't believe you're gone. I miss your letters and how you always kept up with my growing family. And I just miss you.
I love you...Happy Birthday
Recent stories

Not sure who this is with Davin

October 1, 2016

He is very young here in prison but I would love to know who this is 

Eternal Journey

January 18, 2013

This is a part of someting called Eternal Journey that Davin wrote which seemed appropriate today since he passed away a year ago. I like to remember this when it hurts to think he is no longer here.  

"I am the universe.  I am all of its constituents.  I am infinite and everlasting.  I was born in the cauldron of earliest creation and I will be present when the last photon fades.  I am eternity by another name.

I was told on Monday, April 4th, 2009, that I might have something bad.  (I have been sick since August of 2008).  I have been sick a long time with an illness I always attributed to something auto-immune.  But it could be cancer as well.  I have discovered that nothing sharpens the senses like a dose of mortality.

What have I accomplished in my life?  What do I amount to?  My most significant accomplishments are in the martial arts.  I have achieved a level that is rare.  I'm a master of three systems.  Two of those systems are arts that I created or modified from existing arts.  Tai chi is the first art I mastered.  Second came Evolutionary jeet kune do.  And third came aikido.  All of the arts I now practice are my own.  My style of tai chi is called the Five Element style.  My style of jeet kune do is called dao nei chuan.  And my style of aikido is called The Method.  All of the styles I created are superior to their original versions.

My other contribution to the world is my writing.  I think I am a competent writer, but not an outstanding one.  My writing is unique because of my unique perspective, and not because of my skill.  As of this date (April 11, 2009) I have written three novels, three novellas, and around thirty short stories.  I think I have the potential to be a much better writer, so long as I have the time to develop the skills".

Davin contributed so much more than this to others in prison, to his family and to his friends.  He always listened, he had a wonderful sense of humor, and he never gave up.  He always asked how you were and what you were doing before he would talk about himself.  He loved his father, his mother, his brother, and I and his best friend outside of the prison walls, David.  I think we always felt that love over the years even when we were separated from him by prison walls. There were no walls around his heart.

Love you Davin  

My time with Davin

March 10, 2012

I met Davin for the first time in 1988.  He spoke to college students at SWOSU in Oklahoma, along with 2 other men, about recidivism.  One of the pictures on here remind me of Davin's posture, dress and look that day.  He is sitting on a table in a t-shirt and jeans.  The three men were excellent speakers, but Davin was easiest to talk to. He made you think and explained things so that we could all understand it.  I then began to go to the Granite Reformatory weekly with the college to the "Lifers" ,meeting. This meeting involved 50 or more men that were in prison for life, thus the term, Lifer. I remember Davin watching out for all of us when we walked through the yard and while we were locked in the room with all the men. He was completely aware of his surroundings and knew each man.  Davin and I began our letter writing and through that he became a part of my life.  He was so talented in many ways.  I was always amazed that he could survive in such a horrible circumstance.  I would go to visit him at Lexington, Oklahoma and found that even the visitors were not treated very well.  He made the very best of a awful situation.  I think Davin was God's tool for others in prison  to see that a person can flourish even when given very little, when hope seems far away, and even when your life is at stake each day. He gave others hope in their own lives.  I am sure that others in prison with him grew personally just from knowing Davin.  He definately touched those of us outside of those prison walls too. His strength and will power to better himself was truly inspiring.  We wrote many letters and through them, I was able to grow, learn and make it through some difficult life times.  And Davin was there to help me along the way.  He was always postive and encouraging.  I will miss him. No one can replace him.  But I am a better person to have known him and loved him. 

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