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Donald Hoyt Pelfrey
  • 68 years old
  • Date of birth: Oct 12, 1947
  • Place of birth:
    Rome, Georgia, United States
  • Date of passing: Jul 26, 2016
  • Place of passing:
    San Antonio, Texas, United States
Let the memory of Donald be with us forever.

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Donald Pelfrey, 68, born on October 12, 1947 and passed away on July 26, 2016. We will remember him forever. Please leave a tribute below or share a story on the Stories tab. Help us remember what a great man he was!

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This tribute was added by Sonja Crownover on 21st August 2016

"I will continue to pray for your family during this difficult time.  There is not a person at AFPC who knew Don that doesn't have a wonderful, fond memory of him.  Always willing to help everyone with a smile and genuine concern.  His spiritual light definitely shined through to all of us."

This tribute was added by Tracie Konietzko on 5th August 2016

"Everyone here at DP2LA/AFPC family sends their thoughts and prayers to Don's family...."

This tribute was added by Paula Pelfrey on 5th August 2016

"Although we didn't get to see him very often we sure did love him! He really made a huge impression on our youngest son.   So sorry to hear he's gone.  He will be greatly missed!  Prayers for the family.  Love Chris, Paula and Cory"

This tribute was added by Kristin Sansone on 3rd August 2016

"As I learned of Don's passing, shock and sadness filled my heart and mind.  I immediately began to remember what a kind soul Don had, and how he was always willing to assist with a computer issue at work (AFPC).  Reading through all the lovely tributes here, it appears I am not the only one who remembers Don as a gentle spirit with a kind heart and a smile. He left the world too early and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family –may you find comfort and peace in the memories you hold close to your heart."

This tribute was added by Kelvin Nobles on 3rd August 2016

"Speechless but grateful. We lost a great man and mentor. I was so blessed to have worked with him and have him in my life for a season. Large presents but very modest, unselfish, and team orient. We were members of men’s worship group and he help learn the true meaning of God. He is a true man of Christ and is present with Lord. It was never all business but personal. We were a family in System Support and he made it not feel like work. I would not be reaching to call him a father figure in my life. From the Nobles family, our heart and prayers go out to his family and friends."

This tribute was added by Kimberly Eidson on 3rd August 2016

"I was very saddened to hear about Don's passing.  He was such a great man.  I worked for him for about 02 years.  He was such a great mentor and helped me through some of the most difficult times of my life.  He is one of the reasons I have succeeded in my career.  He always had a smile and always talked about his children and grandchildren.  My prayers go out to his family.  He will truly be missed."

This tribute was added by Heather Cyr on 3rd August 2016

"I'm not a big sharer. For many of you this will be the first time you've seen me share my life in a very long time. Especially when it comes to grief, I internalize my feelings until I understand them and then pass through moments until they make logical sense to me. But today I feel the need to open up, to share what I am deeply feeling at this moment.
There is nothing that will ever help me fully understand the sudden passing of my father at such a young age, other than the fact that we all perish. He was one of the greats.

I know how much your interactions with him will help you will understand what I'm about to say. I see that in the outpouring of love my family has experienced in people remembering him through contributions on his tribute page, in loving support through cards, emails, hugs, phone calls, dinners, cards and condolences. I know it in shared stories of your fond remembrances of him, his awesome hugs and his good hearted nature.

I share your loss deeply. I also share your feelings of joy in his life and sorrow in his departure. I am sorry for your loss because I understand what it means to lose someone you love and respect.
But I am his daughter and as much as you understood the man as you knew him, there is no way you can appreciate the depths of him on a personal level. He was the PROUDEST husband, father, grandfather, great-grandfather....more than you could possibly understand in your exchanges with him.

I don't say that to diminish your love and appreciation for him, his friendship and affection...your loss. I say this in some infinitesimally small way to help you understand that he was so much more than even your best memory of him can describe. Your short interactions with him are only a peek into the man he was to his family.
They can only incrementally compare to a lifetime of ups and downs and the incredible undying, unconditional love showed through my short 37 years with him. They are only a small piece of the magnificently dedicated, loving man that he was.

He was my daddy.....He is the best part of me.

He molded us, shaped us. He was our cornerstone...our rock, our anchor through any storm. He was our family leader, financial leader, our counselor....but most of all our spiritual leader.

Dad was the one who guided us to our Heavenly Father in all things good and bad. My dad showed us through our whole life how we could lean on the greatest Father of all. The One who loves us beyond all comprehension. He taught of and displayed God through love and grace. He guided us to Him in all things. Our lives are deeply and forever impacted by his commitment to God and a life lived in Christ.

Today my only solace through the incredible loss experienced by one of the greatest men ever to live, is knowing that he guided me to my Heavenly Father. And in that I have confidence I will see my daddy again. I will experience being wrapped in one of those "best hugs ever". I will get to talk with him and experience his presence again. Except that I know the next time I see him it will be in the presence of my Heavenly Father.

Until then, I know that my earthly father is celebrating in his perfect body...forever praising and worshipping my Heavenly Father until the day we meet again. In that I take great comfort and I pray you do too"

This tribute was added by Lee Brooks on 2nd August 2016

"Proverbs 22:1 A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold.

Don was a good man an taught me lot during my internship. will miss him....Praying for Heather and the Family...."

This tribute was added by Barney Clay on 1st August 2016

"Don could light a room or arena with his smile, laughter and sincere way he approached and enjoyed life. Our world will miss a great ambassador of how much life we should strive to enjoy out of each and every day. You are missed already my friend. I am sure the Angels will "want some chicken" and three day cookies."

This tribute was added by Lori Keir on 1st August 2016

"Don was truly a kind and caring person.   When we were both at AFPC I always looked forward to Don's stories, his sense of humor and sometimes his sarcastic wit.  I miss hearing that voice that would always say "what's up trouble".  Don would share his chow chow with me cause he knew I loved it and probably could never make it on my own after he told me how much effort went into making it.  Rest in peace friend.  I pray for peace and comfort for your family until such time as you all are reunited."

This tribute was added by Clara Howard on 1st August 2016

"I have lots of memories of working with Don at AFPC; he was our "life line" with the numerous and on-going systems challenges!  I always enjoyed meeting him in the hall, or in "the trailer", and always received more than computer assistance.  He was quick to share a story, a joke or a laugh.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, his family, as you move through this loss.  Draw on that strong family bond and the precious memories, as you move through the days ahead.

In Friendship and Sympathy,
Clara Howard"

This tribute was added by Ophelia Mays on 1st August 2016

"Great at story telling and told the funniest jokes. I would often ask Don to repeat them so that I could go home and share with my husband. One of my fondest was the story he told about his military room-mate telling him how he just had to make it to “Soul Food Night” at the dining facility and how he laughed when he finally took him up on it and found that, what was being called “Soul Food” was exactly what his mother had fed him his entire life. There were many more and they almost always were told at a time when I really needed a good laugh. Stories about his childhood and growing up in a large family in the south almost mirrored many of my husbands stories. He knew that I loved “hot-water-cornbread” and would sometimes bring me the special (good) cornmeal from Georgia. He and his brothers made the best “chow-chow” and in his thoughtfulness he brought me some back. He was a very special man, honest, kind, considerate and full of love. I called him Georgia Boy!"

This tribute was added by David McLemore on 31st July 2016

"I have been reading some of the other tributes and many of them have the same theme:  he was a gentleman, always smiling and laughing. I remember the same things too.  

I remember one Christmas he and Brenda came to our home.  I don't know the year but it was in the mid 1970s and we were still living in Coosa, Ga.  Don was in the Air Force and the two of them were stationed in Germany and I believe they got to come home for Christmas.  Everyone was excited!  I was probably 11 or 12 years old and always small for my age and Don was so tall but always so gentle, kind, helpful, and down to earth.   For Christmas that year, I got a keyboard or something similar.  Don found out about it and he asked to see it.  He brought it downstairs into the den and began playing Christmas songs!  I had no idea he could play and nobody else in the family, except a cousin, Denise, could play anything--at least that I was aware.  Everyone began singing and it seemed as though he knew how to play every Christmas song.  You know, I really don't remember a lot about the gifts I received from any Christmas but I will always remember that Christmas.  Don made it a special occasion!

I will miss seeing him and I know his immediate family will miss him too.  But, I also know we will see him again one day.

My prayers are with you all.  Please let me know if I can ever help with anything."

This tribute was added by Denise Sims on 31st July 2016

"Brenda, I am so sorry to hear of Donald's passing. I'm not sure if you will remember me but we all went to Calhoun Ave Baptist Church together.  I still have memories of Donald and his parents when I was just a child.  As I looked thru the pictures, I remembered so many of those days (him playing the piano and his 2 oldest daughters)  and enjoyed seeing your lives over the past years that we lost touch.  You have a beautiful family and Donald certainly was handsome!  Keeping you all in our prayers.  Denise Phillips Sims (parents - Richard & Kathryn Phillips)"

This tribute was added by NaNi Martinez on 31st July 2016

"I've known Don since I started at AFPC in 2001 and he has been a life savior when it came to our systems, but he loved the people and what he stood for.  We share the same birthday too. I can truly say he will be missed even after he retired he was already missed.  We now have an angel looking down at us and smiling from Heaven.  R.I.P. Don and may God comfort your family thru this time of sorrow.  One day we'll meet again on the other side."

This tribute was added by Patty Rivera on 30th July 2016

"I met Don so many years ago while at AFPC. Always had a smile on his face and willingness to help everybody. He and I had many interactions because of the length of time I worked there. He always had a story to tell and a smile on his face. He will definitely be missed. Heaven has gained another angel but also a great story teller! My condolences go out to his family."

This tribute was added by Lee Tanner on 30th July 2016

"I was seven when Uncle Don married Aunt Brenda. I remember I was in awe of how his hair was so blonde and how big and tall he seemed against my tiny Aunt Brenda. He was always so very kind and gentle and loving with all of us. He made us kids feel important by engaging us in conversation. I wasn't used to that. And though times we got to see him were few and far between, I feel a heavy loss. I pray for Aunt Brenda and for all of his girls and family. I know he would want you all to take comfort and to be at peace. I am so happy I was blessed to get to have him as my Uncle Don. God Bless you all. I love you."

This tribute was added by Melissa Strange on 29th July 2016

"My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this difficult time.  I had the privilege of meeting Don shortly after I started my civil service career and he was like the work dad for all of us 20 somethings.  Kind, worked hard and always had a smile on his face.  Family and Christ were definitely important in his life.  I'll always remember the aerobics classes downstairs in Bldg 663-- Don, Brenda with little Heather and Jana running around!  As Don would say "be good."  Peace be with you all."

This tribute was added by Elvis Mejia on 29th July 2016

"I met Don back in 1996 always so helpful with our computers and very professional. He had a sweet personality and was always willing to help no matter how busy he was.  I never forget how happy he was when he found out he was going to be a grandfather and I never forgot what he told me one day "Grandchildren were a blessing from God for not killing our own" this has stayed it with me throughout the years. I will always miss you Don!"

This tribute was added by Rita Rivers on 29th July 2016

"Don was always so helpful to me here at AFPC. Even when he was very busy, he would always stop for me. He always made me feel like I was the special one around here... The last time I say Don he was beaming with pride when he talked about his children and grandchildren. He was so happy in retirement and looked GREAT!!! My heart goes out to the family. He loved you with all his heart."

This tribute was added by Bob Fishback on 29th July 2016

"Don made an indelible impression on everyone he came in contact with.  I met him at AFPC while I was still on active duty and was responsible for computer support within my division.  Needless to say, I dealt with him quite often and he never let me down.  He was always helpful and always had a story to share, usually of his wonderful family!  Don, although you will be dearly missed by us, Heaven is celebrating because another angel has arrived!  God Bless!!!"

This tribute was added by Sandy Edgecomb on 29th July 2016

"Heaven gained another angel.  I met Don at AFPC and because we were constantly moving stations, he would take care of the computer moves and he had patience like no one else.  Don truly had all the fine characters of a 'gentleman'.  Truly blessed to have known Don."

This tribute was added by Jamie Beattie on 29th July 2016

"I have known Don for many years and will never forget the way he made people feel. He cared deeply about all of us, his family was so important to him.  Don always had a story to tell about his children or grandchildren; he loved them with all his heart and soul.  His smile and laugh were contagious.  He always took the time to help people and we missed him the day he left AFPC.  I remember Don telling me he was ready to retire and spend more time with his family and just enjoy life.  It was obvious how much he truly meant it!  Don put a retirement countdown calendar on my desktop when I had about ten years left until the big day.  That calendar is now at 5 months and 2 days!  Time goes by so quickly and we need to learn how to enjoy every minutes of it, just like Don did.  I will miss him, but will always remember him. No doubt there was a special piece of heaven reserved for Don Pelfrey."

This tribute was added by Patti Moore on 29th July 2016

"I met Don at AFPC as a civilian employee when the center was just beginning to stand up. When I'd pass Don in the hall we'd exchange the greeting of the day and share a friendly hug and smile he was known for. Don was the man with all the answers when I had an issue with my computer and I still have many of the helpful tips he sent in emails to keep our systems up and running. If the opportunity was there he'd share a story and ease the stress of the job and leave me laughing as we went on about the tasks at hand. I missed him greatly when he retired and am sad to know he's passed away. Offering my prayers and sympathy to his family as they cope with the loss of such a wonderful man. God bless you all."

This tribute was added by Donna Morris on 28th July 2016

"A mans life is remembered by the way he lived his life.  I never knew anyone who didn't love Our Daddy.  He loved with his whole heart and was one of the smartest men I've ever met. He loved his family and taught us about God and how to forgive.  I can't wait to see him again!  Waiting for that great big hug that I already miss!"


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