I do not know how to say what I have in my heart. Orhue Obaseki< I do not know you yet, yet I know all about you just reading the tributes to your late wife. I am also an Obaseki. Doris was well loved and even more loved as we present today. She had a purpose and a mission, though short lived but well worth the journey. She is physically not present, her spirit and soul lives on forever. I never met her, but I love her. Release her so you may find comfort in knowing she is safe and resting. Release her so you can live a fulfilled life to always remember all she taught you and expects from you. Relaese her so Gabriella can have mom to care for her. Doris left you a task,and that task is for you to finish your accomplishments and God favor and destiny in your life. She watches over your daily and guides you in the right path with the total directives of GOD. It feels like the pain will never ease, yet you have no pain because she only showed you how to love. Do not disappoint yourself, Doris, Gabriella and most especially GOD, be the best man you have been destined to become. I love you dearly but GOD loves you even more.
LIVE EVERYDAY FOR HER> 

I can't believe it's a year already.  Seems like yesterday when my brother called me with the devastating news. You were beautiful, strong ,resilient,  loving and respectful. I was elated when you told me you were pregnant and I gave God the glory.  We all couldn't wait for the great celebration but our joy was cut short.  God knows best, we cannot question Him. I loved you because of the way you loved my brother.Ever loving, supportive and caring. I admired you guys so much .Even when things were rough, you were by his side. My brother lost a gem. I think of you and all that could have been but I know you are in a better place. Continue to rest in peace my dear. You ll always be in our hearts Doris Obaseki.

Coming to terms with your death is sure a hard one!

I feel sad that I didn't get to bond with you more before I left home.

The evening my brother told me of your death was the darkest one in 2012!

I cried my eyes out until I realised how terrified my kids were!

You were young, beautiful, elegant yet very respecful!

Infact, there was something extraordinary about you!

My heart pounds and I can't go on.

Rest in peace sweetie, until we meet in Heaven!

Death may indeed be final but memories while alive is eternal. It’s been a year since you left us dearest Doris, but it feels like just yesterday. It’s very hard to accept the obvious fact of your departure, but I celebrate you today because I know you are in a better place. You were such an amazing, adorable and incomparable friend to me. We did everything together, you and I had many dreams and aspirations that we shared, and you were always so positive that we would achieve them. You made such an effort to include me in every aspect of your beautiful life, including the life of Gabriella, before you both left too soon.
I still remember your ever-happy self, filled with so much joy and laughter .You were such a vibrant, intelligent, and hard-working person. You were full of life and had positive attitude towards life. Words can't describe your personalities and how important you were to my life. You took care of me when I was in an accident; your actions saved my life. You not only supported me physically when I was recovering, and while you were pregnant, but you gave me the strength through your prayers and your love to continue. I wish I could have done the same for you in your trying times, but I know that God is very pleased to have one of his angels home. 

I remember how you said, “God has redeemed me” when you were in the hospital during your labor. It was a day like any other when you called me and told me you couldn’t keep our plans, as you were ready to deliver our long awaited Gabriella. Hmmm Life!!! You told me you wanted me to witness the birth of my Goddaughter. I didn’t know that would be the time that God planned for you and Gabriella to go back to him, and it still gets me very emotional that this is when you left me.

When you died, a part of me died too and my thoughts, filled with so many unanswered questions. Realizing how meaningless this life could be.

I remember when we walked the city of Lagos trying to get things for my sister’s wedding, how we would leave the house very early and return late .you were never tired as long as you have your hollandia milk.

I remember when you came to visit me in Abuja, we went everywhere from my office to visiting friends and everyone that met you couldn’t help but love you. Its well! You live on babe.

I remember when you called me to be your maid of honor  when you were getting married and you trusted me on all we needed to do, and when I forgot the bracelet you where to use, all you could say was ooooooh!!!!! And that was it. I can’t forget how you danced in your ball wedding dress and how happy you were.

I have the most beautiful memories of you,too many babe and the ways you made my life so wonderful to live. You have inspired me tremendously, especially through the way you smiled through life. You played a very important role in my life, and family. 

I hope that you and Gabriella are looking down at all of us, who love and miss you dearly. Live on bestest. Forever in my heart. 



May your beautiful soul continue to rest in the bosom of God almighty. Amen

I give glory to almighty God because he is the only one that sees the ending from the beginning and he has intrusted us to always give him thanks,no matter the circumstance.....baba,i thank you. I have no doubt in my mind that,my dearest,sweet and lovely sister is sitting at the right hand of my father in heaven because she gave her life to christ before her death.

There is always a relationship that exist between siblings but ours was extraordinary,just like a light that never goes off.

She was encompasses in business right from childhood and she always want the happiness of people around her.Is very hard to believe that you are no more but i know for sure that am going to see you same day...

My Unubunde,i will always love and miss you.Rest in the bosom of the lord,till we meet to part no more.

Words can not explain how much i miss u,u were more than a sister,u cared so much 4 me,wen i was pregnant,u will always call daily to say send me picture make i see how u cum be#laugh.wen u cam to see me in abuja,we drove round d city and we had fun.i remember how were inseperable during our NYSC days.

wen u told me u were pregnant,i danced and thanked God.we asked me to come to Uromi in December 2011,i could not cum and u were not happy wit me and wen i came januarymi came to meet u in ur mother inlaws place,even wen u were having pregnancy morning sickness,u went to buy pepper rice for me and was pettin me to eat....u were just too caring. Afterwards,u started callin me to prepare to cum wen u deliver o and i will always say i don hear now.i started preparing seriously to cum celebrate the birth of gabriella but death snatched u and gabriella away.....how painful but God knows best. i loved u doris and i will always miss u

Still hard to believe...
I remember all we had and shared together " real good times"
Doris you made the whole room light up when you walked in.
You were loving, kind and respectful
Not a day goes by that i do not remember you
Your outlook was a model of what holds a family together in happiness
We are coping by the Grace of Almighty God.
Love and miss you deeply.        

My angel, which was what you were and would always be.

Days, weeks, months and a year had gone by still leaving me where i was since the day you left me. Some say it heals over time, some say you learn to live with it, others say it takes the grace of God. Others are right because it sure takes the grace and strength of God to carry on without you.

All these while, i have been trying to figure out where we got it wrong, what it was we never did right, what we were supposed to do that we never did; but my dear sister i tell you there was nothing that could have been done that we did not do right.

Was it that you got married like every other young girl of marriageable age? that you got married to the love of your life? that you waited and prayed for the fruit of the womb, which the Lord says is a reward, that it finally came and we were all happy and thanking God? We got it all right with God on our side. We never got it wrong.

But God is faithful; his thoughts are neither our thoughts nor his ways our ways. He has a reason for everything that happens to us; nothing happens without his knowledge. My angel, the Lord took you away for a purpose, he took you to a better place and that is my consolation. Someday when we shall meet again we will be so glad that he took you as at the time he did.

My angel, you were the best sister the world could ever have. With you i found that special love which one hardly finds in Siamese twins not to talk of just being sisters. You were the best, nothing compared.

Unubunde, like i always call you and you would say "mine and yours which is more bunde" (smiling). Words cannot express how much i miss you. I pray and wish everyday if i can just see you for a second. Let me tell you the craziest thing i thought about and imagined.

One of my thoughts on my way back from work one day (i think of you alot on my way back from work because then you would call and knowing that i was still on the road would say eya pele) was about you coming to talk to me through somebody, like the person can see you but i can't and the person goes like Doris sent me to you, she is right here beside me and we can talk through that person, talk about how you are doing and how much we miss each other and so on. It does happen in home videos; can't it actually happen in a real life situation? Silly right but can't help thinking of all the "ifs". 

You remember how we planned our weddings together; we did shopping together because yours was just a few weeks away from mine. You knew all the fashionables, you were a stylish person and always bailed me out of my poor sense of fashion, i could not have bought those beautiful wedding accessories without you or the beautiful stuff you always got for me whenever you travelled or accompanied me for shopping. 

Hahaha! i remember how i would pick some dresses and you would like aunty Clara "ona abeg drop am" and you would go round the shop to get something nice and i would say how come i didn't see this before and we would both laugh at my been a novice in the fashion world. You thought me and now am better.

I always remember the last day i saw you never knew would be the last, i brought Banga soup for you guys and we ate eba together with so much love. We gisted and talked about the baby things your sister-in-law brought from the US for Gabriella. Gabriella’s room was the best, you gave it the best touch. What a great mum you would have made.

My angel, I can go on and on because there are so much to remember and talk about you.  

It has not been easy I must confess, sometimes I just let the tears flow but the Lord has been my strength and he has been faithful.

I miss you my angel.   
May you continue to rest in the Lord.



From my heart. 


Good bye Nigeria's rose

May you ever grow in our hearts

You were the grace that placed itself

Where lives were torn apart

You called out to our country

And you whispered to those in pain

Now you belong to heaven

And the stars spell out your name

And it seems to me you lived your life

Like a candle in the wind

Never fading with the sunset when the rain set in

And your footsteps will always fall here

Along Nigeria's greenest hills

Your candle's burned out long before

Your legend ever will

 Loveliness we've lost

These empty days without your smile

This torch we'll always carry

For our nation's golden child

 
And even though we try

The truth brings us to tears

All our words cannot express

The joy you brought us through the years

 
Goodbye Nigeria's rose

May you ever grow in our hearts

You were the grace that placed itself

Where lives were torn apart

 
Goodbye Nigeria's rose

From a country lost without your soul

Who'll miss the wings of your compassion

More than you'll ever know

OMONYE(WE ALL HUNGRY FOR A BABY) IS HER NATIVE NAME AND IT COMES TO PLAY THAT WHEN THAT WHICH SHE WAS HUNGRY OF WAS TO BE GIVEN TO HER,THE COLD HANDS OF DEATH DID NOT ONLY DENY HER HAVING THE BABY BUT ALSO TOOK HER LIFE!WHAT A COMIC-TRAGIC END OF MY FUN TO BE WITH SISTER'S LIFE WAS.STILL A SHOCK TO US SIS THAT U LEFT SO SOON,GOD KNOWS BEST.

    DIDI,HOW TIME FLIES,A YEAR ALREADY,SEEMS LIKE YESTERDAY.

    SIS,I REMEMBER WHEN I CAME TO SEE YOU GUYS DURING THE EASTER CELEBRATION LAST YEAR,HOW YOU WERE WORRIED ABOUT GABRIELLA'S ROOM NOT IN ORDER YET BECAUSE THE FURNITURE GUY WASN'T THROUGH WITH HIS WORK YET AND ALSO WAITING FOR BABY'S CENTRE RUG TO ARRIVE FROM DUBAI!GABRIELLA'S ROOM WAS THE MOST PIMPED ROOM IN THE HOUSE AND NOBODY GOES THERE TO SLEEP BECAUSE IT'S FOR OUR AWAITING GABRIELLA,I ALWAYS SMILE AND SAY DIDIBASKI AND SHE REPLIES THAT'S MY NAME.CONTINUE TO BLESS HER SOUL LORD!

     DIDI,I ALSO REMEMBER HOW YOU ALWAYS STRESS ON MY COMING TO LAGOS IMMEDIATELY YOU GIVE BIRTH AND I TOLD YOU WHEN I'M THROUGH WITH ACADA STRESS,I WILL SURELY COME,HOW YOU CALL ME YOUR HUSBAND'S YOUNGER BROTHER BECAUSE YOU NOTICED THAT HE LIKES ME ALOT AND I ALSO CALL HIM ARUBA(MY PERSONAL PERSON),YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY ELDER BROTHER,MY INLAW AND MY FRIEND FOR LIFE MR.ORHUE JOSEPH OBASEKI,LOVE YOU LOADSSS.... BRO.

      DIDIBASKI,FLASHING BACK TO CHILDHOOD DAYS,HOW WE ALWAYS DIG IT OUT LIKE CAT N RAT BUT GREW UP TO BE BEST OF FRIENDS BECAUSE WE UNDERSTOOD EACH OTHER WELLA AND HOW RESOURCEFUL U WERE RIGHT FROM CHILDHOOD AND ALSO TOOK ME ALONG TILL YOUR DIEING DAYS WHEN I HELPED MARKETED SOME OF YOUR DUBAI GOODS,SIS,HOW MUCH CAN I SAY ABOUT YOUR IMPACT IN MY LIFE!YOUR SOUL IS BLESSED IN THE LORD BECAUSE YOU WERE AND STILL A BLESSING TO EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY.

      I PRAY THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD RAISE UP HIGH AND PLACE MRS.DORIS OMONYE EHIKHAMHEN OBASEKI'S SOUL IN HIS RIGHT HAND AND GRANT HER ETERNAL REST THROUGH CHRIST OUR LORD!AMEN.

Didibasky as i always call u or ador ador, d last time i saw u was at tracy house,we played ,laughed hugged. Didn't know that would be our last hug, then whn we were abt to leave u said to me PRISCA gist me now i laughed n i said we have been here since, that will be next time,i remember the day we came to ur house to eat cocosion rice for so many yrs i ve nt eaten that food n it was sooo nice n i remember telling u that we will come back for more,thinking abt the whole thin right now im crying doris!!!!!! i wished i was never in nigeria last yr to expirence it,is it the fish joint we always go to or the beach,SEE the good memories we go on n on,for that few mnths i was in lagos each time we were together it was  always fun fun fun never a doll moment with u!! words re nt enough am still speechless,Its hard to be believe u re gone, but our solace is that we will get to see u again on d last day, when the righteous will be cut up with the Lord in Heaven. Words can not express how much we miss u Doris, but we sure do... Rest in peace D... i still cant believe u re gone,u have gone to meet the lord,and know u re wit ur creator and u re very happy over there,but one thing is for sure we miss u soooooooooooooo much here on earth,we will see again on dat glorious day,RIP MY BELOVED DIDIBASKY.

We have never met,but one day u added me up on fbk.probably bcos u ve seen me somewere at home(.Uromi).ur beauty caught my fancy,n i remember thoes tymes i scrolled thru ur pix,bimming with beautiful smiles,sayin God i want a daughter just as cute as u.And then ur smile.with a very crazy day,mere lukin at ur pix,one cud just slip off havin gud drimsss.And then u uploaded weddin pix.i probably almost shed a tear,ur beauty was striking,just like how bright the african sun shines in d day.And the next news was R.I.P Doris.i never knew u,i never saw u,but i shed Tears for such wonderful beauty gone just too soon,such wonderful infectious smiles.Awwwwwwwwww.how painful,cudnt stop reading comments of pple of how u touched lives and were simply the best wife.wish u stayed for hubby,bt trust me i know God knows best.probably u can hear me somehow.plssss.i still need a baby Gal just as cute as u.God pls let my Wish come true.Sobbbs

Mrs. Obaseki, is what I choose to call you. I choose to call you by your married name because I remember it like yesterday how excited and optimistic you were about being married and starting a new family with your husband. You wasted no time telling me about your lovely husband and your plans to raise your children abroad and I suggested Canada as one of the best countries of the world for raising children. You said and I quote: “brother Austin you know now…. and I said, I understand but don’t worry, everything will be fine when you are ready to migrate, just let me know when you are truly ready to migrate to Canada”. The conversation ended and I returned to Canada believing you would call me one day to tell me you are ready to migrate to Canada but that phone call never came. Instead I got a call to my amazement that you died after a stillbirth; it was the most devastating moment of my entire life. I still can’t come to terms with it, that your death could've been prevented.

It was the first and only time I met you and I liked you immediately. I'm so very glad that I had the privilege of meeting you during that short visit to Nigeria in December of 2011. We were together at the New Year's Eve crossover night service at St. Anthony's Catholic Church, Uromi, Edo State. We danced like no one was watching in celebration of the new year (2012). It was a short but memorable night at the church together.

Just as yours husband said in his post, who are we to question God. In everything we give thanks for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

Your tragic and untimely death made me now think about people who take life too seriously and worry about the temporary things of this world.

Your legacies will live on. We love you, but Jesus loves you more. Continue to rest in the bosom of our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, till we meet again.

Honey as I use to call you. Still cannot believe you are gone.

Everyday I come to the reality that you are no more. Remember the morning of the day u passed away! How we ate together and begged me to give you my meat! Didn't know that would be our last meal together! We were very happy on our way to the hospital because we have been looking forward to that day!

The video of the celebration was already playing in our heads. But death chose to take you away. I sometimes question God why He allowed it but who am I, a mortal being to question God. You left a big hoe in my heart which I can never be healed. Remembering all the good times we had and will not allow me go out alone. You thought me how to become a business man and how to deal with situation. I always call you the hustler! The woman with a man's heart!

Hmmmmm. My consolation for now is that you are in a better place. Both you and Gabriella who I never get to know or her know the loving parents she had. Whose birthday we ought to be planning by now with joy in our hearts. Regrets the times we fight and quarreled. But we still remained glued together. You were my manager and my backbone. A friend,a sister and a mother to me.  Continue to rest in peace till we meet to part no more.

You will forever live in my heart.. Miss you everyday especially when I take my shower and eat @ the dining table. We always do that together. Not to forget how u do magic with a little we had to prepare a delicious meal. Hmmmmmm. Short of words..

Ur death really slowed me down and made life meaningless. But thank God you are happy where you are.

Miss u so so much. RIP my real love!!