- 72 years old
- Date of birth: Jan 27, 1942
- Place of birth:
Artesia, New Mexico, United States
- Date of passing: Jun 7, 2014
- Place of passing:
Joplin, Missouri, United States
|Let the memory of Durelle "Butchie" be with us forever.......I will always love you Mom...........|
"Happy Mother's Day, Mom, it just wasn't the same without you. I didn't feel like doing much of anything. LOL stayed in bed most of the day. The kid's called me all day which was adorable. They called around 2 and told me to come now. I did and I was okay after being with them. We played the WII, of course I lost, but it was fun. Pumpkin cheated, little stink. It was fun. I enjoyed it immensely and glad that I went. I miss you terribly and Grandma Cathy. You both were always in my corner and y'all listen when I needed someone to talk too. Love and Miss you dearly!!!"
"Butchie, I hope you can see these notes and know how much you are loved. You have left a legacy of a wonderful family and friends who miss you very much. I have so enjoyed getting reconnected with your family...great people, but then what else would I expect? Happy Birthday, Cousin.
"Happy Birthday Butchie, we think of you so very often and still after several months cannot believe you are gone, Mom and I still drive by your house when we are out for a drive. I miss our 10:00pm conversations and you as my friend and the best listener. Love you and miss you very much."
"Happy Birthday Grandma.... it's been a rough few months.... take it easy today mom."
Missed speaking with you over the holidays especially New Years Day. Think of you often and have a hard time not being able to pick up the phone and call whenever I fell like talking with my wonderful friend. I do talk to you, just have to receive the answer in my heart."
"Hi, Mom it's a new year. Spent some time with the grand kids yesterday. It's was fun, they are growing so fast. The holidays were okay, just didn't feel it. I miss you dearly, our talks!"
"I had Mom on my mind all day. I keep hearing her say "How you" she always seemed to run it all together dropping the "are". As I walk from one building to the next at work and I come upon a person I say "Hello" to in my head I hear her saying "How you"..It makes me smile and I know she is near."
"It has taken me a while to put into words what I want to say about my Mom. She taught me so much, but unfortunately never knew how much I valued her wisdom and teachings. My Mom was one of those women who was our pioneers. She faced her first heart ache and disappointment when she was accepted to Texas Tech, yet found out she was pregnant with my brother, which her hopes and dreams of being something were set back, she became instead a mother to my brother then to me. Her teaching was that though we wish for something and it may not come, still hold onto hope. My mother and I are a survivor of domestic violence at the had of my father. To this day he denies ever touching us. My father beat my mother one last time which ended in her being deaf in her right ear for the rest of her life. as I watched my mother fight to stay on this earth she relived her life and came upon that very scary time for her. She cried out for help he is hurting me, all I could do was hold her hand and whisper she was safe. She taught me to survive no matter what. She was one of the first divorcee's in Hobbs NM. I can remember getting into fights because someone talked bad about my mom. She has and always be my"Hero", I miss my Mom daily, I get angry because I feel bad for letting her go, was I right in stopping treatment or was I wrong, should I have gone against her wishes? No, I did what every good daughter does, obey what their mother ask of them to do. Please leave your thoughts and comments. She deserved so much more in life. One thing is for sure she was rich in friends whom loved her dearly and that I can cherish, her friends have shown me how much she was and is loved. I thank each and every one of you who were there for her. Thank you to my cousin Debra for listening to my rantings and to my step brother Mike for being there to let me lean on. Most of all, thank you to my family, and best friend and her family. Without ya'll I would be a mess. You all are my blessings that I am thankful for each and every day."
"I knew Butchie in High school and visited with when we would run into each other after we got out of high school, that is, until both of us moved away from Hobbs and lost our connection with each other. We did get together at the reunions and we were fortune to have some short private conversations. There was not bad or controversial, but our talks were pleasant and after we finished a normal "how are You and what is happening" we talked about the future and our plans. We never told each other that the plans or hope we had were foolish or not worth pursuing. We actual encouraged each other to pursue our plans wished each other the best of success, we talked as old friend and never had a hiatus in our friendship. Please do not get me wrong, we were not in the best friend category, but we always talk and spend a little time with each other when we seen each other. I will miss the talks as they was open and free, which was very rewarding to me and I hope they were to her. May God bless you, her family members, and remember all of us who knew her are praying for his hand to guide you forward and heal your hearts."
"It has taken me a while to figure out what i wanted to say. My relationship with my grandmother wasn't that close. We always spoke on the phone and I can count almost on one hand how many times I have actually seen in person. When she became sick she contacted me in an effort to form a relationship and inform me of her decisions . I regret not having the relationship with her that my own mother has with my children, however I thank God and appreciate the little bit of time where I got to know her, learn about her life, and listen to stories of our family. Whenever we talked she seemed to be petting one of her cats and drinking a Dr. Pepper. She was very feisty and always made me laugh, and it tickled her when I told her that she and my daughter Kimora reminded me of fairies because they were so petite.
To my mother:
I know you are grieving more than anyone else but i want you to know that your not alone and you are stronger than you think you are. This time has been extremely difficult but there are brighter days ahead.We love you very much and cherish all the time we have with you, and in the words of your grandson " eat a piece of candy so you feel better "."
"Buddy and I were long time friends of Butchie. We had many things in common but our love for animals was always our first. We will miss her greatly. Prayers to you and your family Marshawn."
"I am so sorry to hear about Butchie. I worked with her several years and loved her very much. She will be greatly missed. My prayers are with all of her loved ones."
We are so sorry to hear about Butchie. I am Butchie's first cousin; her mother Pauline and my mother Irma were sisters. Unfortunately, the family has been pretty spread out so I only was able to see Butchie a couple of times (that I remember -- there was another time when I was a baby) when we would go through New Mexico. My memories of the entire family are that they were all very kind. I remember getting in the car after leaving the house once and my father chuckled saying that Butchie never missed a thing; that she reminded him of a cute little critter whose dark eyes darted around absorbing everything around her.
I am so sorry we lost contact over the years; we go through Joplin sometimes on the way to Kansas, and had I known that Butchie was there we would have visited. Please keep in touch, and our heartfelt sympathy and prayers are with all of you.
"The best way to honor someone who is not with us anymore is to continue living our life and keep their memory alive through everyday events. Butchie would have wanted that, and expected nothing less from all of us.
You're not around, but your memories still remain captured in our hearts. You were like an angel that came and made our lives beautiful, and now that you are in heaven, we know you are doing the same.
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be. So he put his arms around you and said come to me. Your safe now and without pain.
Thank you for being in my corner, it was great knowing you. Now you are with your family that you lost sometime ago, tell them all hello for us and I feel better knowing that you will be looking over all of us.
I love you Durelle "Butchie" Barton, you left behind an incredible daughter, shes hurting now but i have a team of friends and family who love her and will stand by her side through this."
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