James Dustin Barnes
  • 29 years old
  • Date of birth: Dec 26, 1986
  • Place of birth:
    Atlanta, Georgia, United States
  • Date of passing: Feb 27, 2016
Always loved, always missed, and always remembered.

This website was created in memory of my brother, James Dustin Barnes who was just 29 years old. In looking for the right thing to say in this opening, I realize that there is nothing right or wrong to be said. Dustin was many things but above all else he was a son, a brother, and a bestfriend. He will be missed more than a few simple words can express, but my hope is that with this webpage his memory will last forever. Thank you for visiting this memorial page and remembering my brother. Please also visit the HIS LIFE section for more on my brother and information on a fundraiser we are having in honor of his memory.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 10th December 2016


Thinking about you today and thought I would stop in and leave a note.
It is cold outside it is December and still in Quitman. Never thought it would be this long. I miss you and thought about the big orange set of coveralls we got in Eastern Washington the weekend we went Duck hunting. I will stop by from time to time do not wait up for me


This tribute was added by karla diaz on 24th November 2016

"Happy thanksgiving Dustin, thinking of you today and how thankful I am to have have had you in my life. Everything happens for a reason and I know why God gave me you. Love you, always have, always will."

This tribute was added by karla diaz on 10th October 2016

"Dustin, I'm on my way to the fair and I was just thinking about how last time I was here I was with you. The first place we stopped was the corn the corn on the cob stand, I loaded the corn with every chilly powder I could find, after a couple bites I asked you if you wanted a bite and held it out so you could take a bite. As you bit into it all corn juice along with all chilly powder went straight into my eye. Omg I remember burning so bad, but we couldn't stop laughing. 5 minutes later I still couldn't open my eye, by this point I had stop laughing but you hadn't. Now looking back it's still so funny specially since it started raining and we couldn't find the car by the time we got back to the car we were soaked. Gosh what a mess of a night but we still had so much fun."

This tribute was added by karla diaz on 21st September 2016

"Missing you so much today. So many things happening right now and I just wish I could talk to you, you always knew what to say to calm me. Shelby got married this weekend and all I could think about was you, how you were suppose to be with me, and I hope you were. Not a day goes by that I dont think about you and that smile of yours. I love you Dustin, always have always will."

This tribute was added by TJ Turner on 20th September 2016

"Dustin, still think about ya every day. About a month ago an album came out from one of my favorite bands. It's about the loss of a best friend. It has really helped me cope as I can relate to most of the album.

Oh my god I'm missing you

Oh my god I'm missing you

Out my window, now the world is painted
Perfectly in blue
Time is moving slowly
And my heart searches only for you
In the reflections on the water
In the movement of the leaves
Under the stones by the river
In the shade beneath the trees

My heart will keep on searching
I heard your name sail on the breeze
I turned my head to catch your shadow
But there was nothing there for me

My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you
I've been searching out the window
In my world of pallid blue
And I keep checking my shadow
In an empty room
My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you

Oh my god I'm missing you

Oh my god I'm missing you

The miles stretched between us
They're getting hard to bear
And more and more I find myself
Lost in melancholy stare

My heart will keep on searching
I heard your name sail on the breeze
I turned my head to catch your shadow
But there was nothing there for me

My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you
I've been searching out the window
In my world of pallid blue
And I keep checking my shadow
In an empty room
My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you

Do I surrender to the blue?
Because I'm drowning without you
Spend my time staring at the sun
Just waiting to come undone
The sound of static in my head
My heart is heavy, limbs are lead
Sick of living in a world so cold
I can, I will, I still stay gold

I know I'm doing the right thing
This is where I'm meant to be
But I've been gone far too long now
I just want you here with me

My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you
I've been searching out the window
In my world of pallid blue
And I keep checking my shadow
In an empty room
My heart is breaking slowly
Oh my god I'm missing you

Oh my god I'm missing you

Oh my god I'm missing you"

This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 18th September 2016

Think of you everyday and wish we could go back to the morthwest. I was thinking about Alaska last week and the weeks at Roche harbor. The football games when you were a spartan. miss you and hope Ruby and Stairs are with you. Will stop by from time to time. Dont wait up for me.

This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 6th September 2016

"It is 1st week of September seeing alot of deer moving seaon starts in couple weeks. I remember the time you went back to cat feild and before i got to my stand u shot twice and deer was so bigbit took 3 of us to load. Hope u are at peace and mom talks about u every day. Will stop by from time to time dont wait up. Send your sister a good sign if u can


This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 11th August 2016

Just a hello thought it was time. Mom is starting to come around and Raven is starting school new semester on Monday. I am so proud of her effort and strength through all this. There are alot of things she has had to deal with after you left. I know mom misses you so much and I just hope u are at peace. Ruby I hope is with u and u both are having fun.I remember things both good and bad sometimes and wish I would have said things I didn't. I will stop by from time to time but don't wait up.

This tribute was added by karla diaz on 16th June 2016

"They say time heals all wounds, I just dont think time will ever be able to fix this. I miss you so much, I miss laughing with you, I miss daydreaming and being excited about all things we wanted to do.I just hope that your listening when I talk to you. And I hope that if your watching, that im making you proud. Fear will no longer get in the way of my goals and dreams, if you thought me anything it was to be fearless. I love you and I hope your at peace in a beautiful paradise."

This tribute was added by Raven Barnes on 26th May 2016

"Some days just seem to hit me a lot harder than others. It's almost as if enough time has passed where I can think about you and at least smile without feeling overwhelmingly sad... But other days, like today, I just can't seem to shake the sadness. It's just flat out weird that your gone, that doesn't seem like a very sophisticated or deep word to use to describe the loss of you but it's the only thing that fits. It doesn't seem right, it doesn't seem real, it's just weird. Sometimes I look up at the sun, the clouds, or the moon and I just wonder what your thinking or what you would say to me if I could hear you... But I can never come up with anything... and lots of times I have no
Idea what I would say to you if you were here... So I guess I'm settling for writing my random thoughts on here so you at least know I think about you all the time. I'll always be missing you, loving you, and waiting till we meet again.

This tribute was added by TJ Turner on 19th April 2016

"Dusty, where to begin my brother. Not a day goes by that I don't think about ya man. I've even caught myself picking up my phone to give you a call, only to come back to the realization that you're no longer here. I miss and love ya with all my heart man. I'm glad that you knew that.

With that being said, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on one of our earlier escapades. The year was 2006. After chatting on the phone for a bit, we spontaneously decided to catch the movie 300 at the IMAX. I remember distinctly that you had the bright idea to sneak some beers into to theater, which I was quickly board with. (Keep in mind, this was before they served alcoholic beverages in the theater.) So we go to the Kwik-E-Mart next to the theater only to find their stock was rather depleted. Seeing as how we were at Josie and 635, they had more than enough malt liquor. Begrudgingly, we agreed that we might as well get the most bang for our buck and purchased two Steel Reserve 40 oz. All seemed well until it was time to crotch them and head inside. Now this wasn't just any old bulge, it looked as though we both were suffering from the worst case of elephantiasis documented in the US. After a brief argument of how idiotic we looked and whether or not we'll get caught, away we went, waddling up to the ticket booth. "Two for 300 please."  First step down. Now we headed inside where the real challenge awaited us...a pimply faced ticket taker. With one wave of the hand, you used the Jedi mind trick to temporarily distract him from observing the gigantic, protruding bulge we both shared standing before him. With solid eye contact, he calmly said, "To your left." Surprisingly, he didn't see the seemingly impossible not to notice protrusion and so onward we hobbled down the home stretch. Once we reached our seats at the top row, you poured us up two frothy cold ones in red solo cups you got from the gas station. As we enjoyed the sword and sandal cinematic and drank our high gravity malt liquor, a budding best friendship was well underway.

This was just a microcosm of countless memories we shared."

This tribute was added by Sheri Williams on 6th April 2016

"We miss you so much!!!"

This tribute was added by karla diaz on 5th April 2016


This just still doesn't seem real, I never imagined our goodbye would be forever. So many things I wish I could say, change, and do but the one thing that will forever remain the same is my love for you. I will miss you everyday until I see you again."

This tribute was added by Raven Barnes on 27th March 2016

"Happy Easter Dustin....wish we could rewind time back to when Mom and Dad would put on those ridiculously big time Easter egg hunts for us with the famous Golden Egg. You would get so pissed when I always found it before you because Dad couldn't resist not giving me a hint. We had that huge forest for a backyard in Seattle and we would go crazy running around looking for those eggs! We didn't even care about the normal ones we only wanted to find that one big golden egg, knowing Dad had put a little piece of paper inside it with something awesome as the prize! Missing you and thinking about you a lot today. So many memories keep coming back to me, things I hadn't thought about in such a long time. Just wish I could talk to you, or have you annoy me with your stupid jokes when I am just not in the mood, but I really do believe your still listening. At least I hope you are, because I will always be here still talking to you. Keep watch over Mom today, she misses you so much words cant even describe it. Love you and miss you.

Your little sister always,

This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 17th March 2016


It has been little over 2 weeks and the pain has not let up.Your mom is strong but missing you so much. Raven your sister has shown so much love for our whole family. I miss you and hope you are at peace.

Love Dad"

This tribute was added by Raven Barnes on 16th March 2016

"It's been just under 3 weeks since we lost you... And some how that seems like a lifetime ago and just yesterday all at the same time. There are so many things I keep wanting to say or to be able to explain about how I feel or explain the insane amount of thoughts constantly racing through my head but the biggest thing is I just don't understand. i don't understand why this happened and I definitely don't understand how I have been feeling. We lost you so suddenly and I don't think my mind has even had a chance to catch up yet. But what I do know is I don't want you to ever think I have forgotten you. So many things make me think of you now, small things every day. I hope your truly free and feel nothing but happiness and bliss. You deserved more time but you did a hell of a lot with what you were given. So big brother, I miss you, we all miss you, and I'm just going to keep moving forward but I'll always be thinking of you.
Loving you always and forever,

This tribute was added by karla diaz on 10th March 2016

"“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master."

James thank you for being my soulmate, I will forever be grateful for your love. You loved my reckless soul even when i couldn't love myself, and for that I thank you. You are the angel that believes in me. Rest in peace baby, "I love you with every bone in my body and I just don't know how to deal with it. You're everything that I'm not and you're everything that completes me."

P.S. Give Ruby a big hug for me!"

This tribute was added by Jason Kimball on 5th March 2016

"What a tragic loss. James, my birthday brother. My bjj brother. You left us too soon.
I will remember you as a giving selfless person. I remember before my first tournament last year, you asked how prepared I felt. I explained I would go out and do my best with what I knew. I said my only reservation was with take downs. You didn't hesitate to help. You immediately said, well, let's learn one right now. You showed me a simple double leg/trip take down. Then you had me drill it. TEN times. By the fourth time, my knee was killing me. By the sixth, my whole leg was hurting. You pushed me. On the tenth one, I was so relieved to be done drilling I barely realized the last two were done basically on instinct. Exactly what drilling is for. I was tired and said, thank you. You laughed and problem, but now you need to drill ten from the other lead leg. I just about died. We did ten more and you were great. I thank you for taking the time to help. I never would have guessed our Thursday session would be our last. You gave so much to the kids. The kids and their parents will always be thankful for that. I miss you already and really wish we had more time. Till next time. Osss."

This tribute was added by Aileen Le on 4th March 2016

"What to say... I hate that I'm writing this right now. I remember when we met, I was 14, I instantly fell in love with you.  Who could resist that charm and sense of humor. I've never laughed so much than when I was with you. I'm so blessed to have known your wonderful spirit and happy that we were able to always stay friends, no matter what. I will cherish the love and countless laughs we shared.
I know you'll be watching out for your family. I promise I will too.
I love you and will miss you always James Dustin Barnes."

This tribute was added by Justin Farwell on 4th March 2016

"Breaks my heart you're gone. You were a savage in the gym and always made me laugh. You brightened up the room bro. Very talented... Very very talented. God bless you brother I'll see you again. If anyone knows when the funeral is please message me."

This tribute was added by Kristofer Udan on 3rd March 2016

"Barney i got to know you for a short time. We taught jiu jitsu togethrr and trained together. You were always a good friend to me and i love you man"

This tribute was added by Frankie O'Toole on 3rd March 2016

"Kim, Trent and Raven-

I am so sorry to hear about Dustin's passing.  Andrew really enjoyed his friendship with Dustin and we have many good memories of your time in St. Louis.  I wish that there were words to comfort you. I can see by the photos that Dustin really made an impact on the lives of his students and he looks so happy. Please know that he will be remembered and that all of you are in our thoughts and prayers.
~ ~ Frankie and Mike O'Toole"

This tribute was added by Ashlee Cooks on 3rd March 2016

"Such an awesome person sweet with a heart and soul so BIG my jiu jitsu who encouraged and pushed me and didn't give me any slack because I was a girl and I appreciate and loved him for that and all that he was, love you and miss my friend watch over us and keep us :.)<3

Your bjj sissy Ashlee"

This tribute was added by Les Cole on 3rd March 2016

We are so sorry for the loss of your son while in the prime of life. You and all of his family are in our prayers in this time of great personal loss.  Sincerely, Les Cole"

This tribute was added by Delores Hunter on 3rd March 2016

"Kim, Trent, and Raven, I am so sorry for your loss.  May God in His arms now and always.  Love to you all."

This tribute was added by Bill Ballou on 3rd March 2016


I am so sorry for your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

This tribute was added by Mitch Monis on 3rd March 2016

"I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have no words to express how I feel so I will let the Bible speak for me:

‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain...' - Revelation 21:4"

This tribute was added by Lacey Gonzales on 3rd March 2016


We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this most difficult time. Jesse & Lacey Gonzales"

This tribute was added by Sue Phillips on 3rd March 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Please know that you are in my prayers."

This tribute was added by cynthia espitia on 3rd March 2016

"Praying for you..."

This tribute was added by RICHARD WILLIAMS on 3rd March 2016

"Although I never knew Justin, I know his father very well. So, therefore, I know Justin must have been a great man. As David Harkins wrote:

Do not shed tears when I have gone but smile instead because I have lived.
Do not shut your eyes and pray to God that I'll come back but open your eyes and see all that I have left behind.
I know your heart will be empty because you cannot see me but still I want you to be full of the love we shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live only for yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of what happened between us yesterday.
You can remember me and grieve that I have gone or you can cherish my memory and let it live on.
You can cry and lose yourself, become distraught and turn your back on the world or you can do what I want - smile, wipe away the tears, learn to love again and go on.

Peace to your family.
Richard & Philip"

This tribute was added by Wynema Sirmans on 3rd March 2016

"Kim, You and your family are in my prayers."

This tribute was added by Elizabeth Iocca on 2nd March 2016

"I am not sure if picture number 38 was from our trip to Hawaii or St. Thomas. But I'm thinking St. Thomas as Dustin and Anthony both look like they had too much fun! Dustin had us all laughing with his antics. He had such a great smile. May he rest in peace.
Raven, he would love what you are doing for him. My heart goes out to you and your parents."

This tribute was added by Chris Venegas on 2nd March 2016

"For the short amount of time we knew you, you played a key role in one of the proudest moments of me and my son's life. You were there for him during his first tournament and coached him through to victory. For that we will always be grateful. Rest in peace James (Barney)!"

This tribute was added by Shane Turner on 2nd March 2016

"James was always awesome! He had a great sense of humor and would always help me with my jiujitsu.  He had a very charismatic and magnetic personality."

This tribute was added by Jody Wilson on 2nd March 2016

"" Trent, Kim, and Raven...
  Such an incredible tribute to Dustin!! Our love, thoughts, and prayers shine  
  down on each of you during this most difficult time...
   Much love, Jody and Mary Wilson""

This tribute was added by Darlene Highsmith on 2nd March 2016

"I am happy to have spent time with you Dustin & your Mom, Kim before Christmas! She has been my life long friend & we enjoyed sharing stories with you. Raven came after Christmas & we laughed some more! You are a handsome, intelligent, caring young man as I could tell. Love and prayers for your wonderful family. You definitely left a mark on Earth, will see you again. God Bless you all"

This tribute was added by Tim c on 2nd March 2016

Sorry to hear of your loss. Just know I'm here for you and your family if you all need anything. My thoughts and prayers are with you and you family.

Tim Crews"

This tribute was added by Reita Seidler on 2nd March 2016

"Trent, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time, we are so sorry to hear of your loss.  Blessings, Al and Reita Seidler"

This tribute was added by Laura Krieger on 2nd March 2016

"Trent, I am sending many prayers your way for healing.  This tribute is amazing.   Laura Krieger"

This tribute was added by Terry Brown on 2nd March 2016

"So so sorry to hear this news God Bless!"

This tribute was added by Joyce Black on 2nd March 2016

""Trent, Kim and Raven,    Chuck and I are thinking of you at this very difficult time.  We love all of you and you are in our hearts.
Joyce & Chuck"

This tribute was added by Robert Johnson on 2nd March 2016

"Trent this is such a great loss that I simply have no words. My thoughts are with your entire family at this time. Robert + Betty Johnson"

This tribute was added by Trent Barnes on 2nd March 2016

"I miss you so much and have to believe you are still watching out for your mom! Love you Dustin"

This tribute was added by Holly MacTaggart on 2nd March 2016

"Trent, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts are w you and your family.  Best,  Holly"

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