I write this with great sadness over the unimaginable loss of my best friend, Fiyinfoluwa Onarinde.
I wonder what you were thinking as your life ended. Did you wonder if your life mattered? Then let me tell you that it did. That in those few years together you touched my heart with your kindness, your laughter, your positive energy. And above all, with your beautiful smile!
As you were dying, did you wonder if people would remember you? Then let me tell you that I will remember you forever and hold you close in my heart. I can’t say it will be easy learning to live with the fact that you’re no more. I’ve to come to terms with the fact that I will never see you again. How easy would that be? I don't know! It is incredibly difficult to reconcile my desire to see you again with the fact that there is no seeing after death.
It shouldn’t have been a secret that I loved you for being more than a friend and closer than family while in school. I remember we both aspire to become notable in our fields and register our names among the best in the world. This had always been part of our discussions each time we had phone conversations. I thought we’re getting closer to achieving that aspiration, but death didn’t allow you to reach the peak.
We launched our struggle to limelight together in 2004 at University of Ado Ekiti, where we lived in the same room and studied for a prequalification for bachelor’s degree programme known as pre-degree. You shone like star and shown a great potential as a prolific poet! After one year you were admitted to study English Language and Literary Studies and I studied Philosophy. Despite studying different courses, we remain close pal and have same career interest and aspiration.
My success story back then in my department and at the faculty level was occasioned by your steadfast encouragement and advices to stay focus. You will fight with me when I mistakenly go afield a bit. You made sure I actualize a befitting feat as an undergraduate student. You showed me a good example of how best friend should be and a standard of knowing a best friend.
Fiyin you’re a handsome man, inside and out, you’re a wonderful friend to me, supported me for over 10 years with your gentle and caring nature. One of your beliefs in life was the importance of being trustworthy with people, saying what needs to be said because it’s good for the relationship and for the soul. Unfinished business causes pain and having peace is essential for a healthy and joyful life. Also, I always admired how you never judged or forced your opinions on anyone, but offered valuable and truthful advice that I will surely miss.
My friend was loving and real. You’re a wonderful husband. Your beautiful spirit will live on through your wife and family, and they will always know how much you loved them. I’m sure you would have tried with all your heart to stay for them (and for me your friend), but God called you, and you had to go.
Now my hope is that you rest in peace knowing you did all that you could and that your newly wedded wife and your family will be fine. When we love people it’s so comforting to know that they will always be with us in our hearts.
Goodbye my handsome friend. I hope that wherever you are, you finally have peace in your heart and in your soul. I sympathize with your newly wedded wife, family, friends and SIU community.
It’s rather unfortunate that I wouldn’t be physically present at your interment. I wished I could be there and love to be there, but I’m across the miles. Please accept my apology for not been able to physically pay you the last respect.
A Poem:
Remember Me
Fill not your hearts with pain and sorrow,
But remember me in every tomorrow.
Remember the joy, the laughter, the smiles,
I’ve only gone to rest a little while.
Although my leaving causes pain and grief,
my going has eased my hurt,
and given me relief.
So dry your eyes and remember me,
not as I am now,
but as I used to be.
Because, I will remember you all,
and look on with a smile.
Understand in your hearts,
I’ve only gone to rest a little while.
As long as I have the love of each of you,
I can live my life in the hearts of all of you.
May God grant you eternal rest!
I’ll see you again, my best friend,
Adeniyi Fasoro (Socrates)