- 84 years old
- Date of birth: Aug 11, 1929
- Date of passing: Oct 5, 2013
|Graham touched the lives of everyone he met and he will never be forgotten.|
This memorial website was created in the memory of Graham Neale who died age 84 following a long hard battle with motor neurone disease. Graham touched the lives of everyone he met and we will never forget him. Please take a moment to add a message below or click on the "Stories" tab to leave a longer message / memory (it doesn't have to be a story!). Thank you. xx
"Today Dad would have turned 86. In his memory and to celebrate his birthday I would like to share with you the book that was made possible by all of you who sent your thoughts and memories about Dad.
Thank you once again for helping to create such an an incredible picture of Dad's life, the impact he had on your lives and on the practice of medicine.
Happy birthday Dad and Grandad, Loving you always and forever,
Fi and Sophia"
"I read with sadness of Graham's death in the BMJ. Graham was the outstanding student in our year at Bristol Medical School. We were full of admiration for his ability to apply himself to the course, and towards the end of the course to realise how much he knew. He was always quiet and modest, but we were not surprised that he went from house jobs in Bristol to the Hammersmith, and later to Addenbrookes. I admired him as a student, and from reading these tributes, he has made an amazing contribution to the care of patients, and has had a lasting influence on his colleagues. What a contribution to life."
"Dr Neale was my first ever "boss" when I was one of his house officers many years ago in Addenbrookes. He was my medical hero ever after and I will all ways remember him for his great kindness and wonderful irreverent sense of humour."
"I had the pleasure of meeting Dr Neale whilst working with Imperial and have referenced his research many times. He was so quiet and modest but such a great role model.
Sincere condolences to the Neale family."
"Graham was so intelligent, caring, and modest. Family, friends, and patients have lost a wonder. His work and compassion will always inspire me, as I told him last year. I hope that the memory of the good he did will inspire and unite all of us to help each other. As it is said, 'The memory of the righteous is a blessing.'"
"My wife Evelyn and I had great admiration for Graham. Despite considerable personal difficulties in his life, Graham achieved an amazing amount and was held in high regard by all who were privileged to know him. He bore his devastating and progressive illness with great courage and fortitude. Evelyn joins me in sending our sympathies and condolences."
"Graham stood out from other doctors. I was very impressed by his courtesy, knowledge, prompt response and the interest and compassion he had for my clients. Even when he couldn’t be of assistance, he thought nothing of emailing long helpful letters listing alternative names and areas I could refer to. His helpful emails were gratuitous. If you didn’t know, this is so rare as to be unique."
"Graham was one of the kindest, gentlest men I’ve ever known and also one of the most modest. What an incredible, brave battle he has fought with that ghastly disease – making sure he continued to use his great gift of intellect right up to the end. Fiona's tale of him with Sophia is hugely moving and I hope will she will be some comfort through the long dark days of grief."
"Graham was a delightful and charming and highly intelligent man who I am sure will be sorely missed by all, and particularly his family. He will forever be remembered by us in North London as the man who introduced us to the boogie board which transformed many people's lives. I send you my warmest thoughts to his family."
"I worked closely with Graham in the patient safety unit at Imperial and we literally all used to refer to him as 'the father of patient safety' and indeed to all of us. He always had time and a smile for everyone. Although Graham is gone, his spirit, his words, his love will always surround you and through you and his work and everyone he has helped, will he never ever be forgotten."
"It's been a huge privilege to have known and worked with Graham during my time at the CSRU. He was perpetually supportive and full of enthusiasm for improving the safety and quality of healthcare. An absolute legend who will be sorely missed."
"I have known Graham since I joined CRSU in 2008. Graham was a true inspiration for all of us who were new in patient safety research. I will never forget his genuine passion for a safer healthcare and his endless support to junior researchers. We will miss Graham a lot. My deepest condolences go to his family."
"As a doctor and a friend, Dr. Neale was truly inspirational and we consider it a great privilege to have known him."
"Graham was a very special person with amazing insight and warmth. He was so generous with his time and expertise. He is a huge loss to everyone in the medical profession and to all his friends and family. To Graham everyone was family and we were fortunate to have known him and his caring personality.
Sadly missed with lots of love Colette,Johnny & family."
"I had the privilege of being intern to Graham Neale and Donald Weir many years ago in Sir Patrick Duns Hospital in Dublin and experienced Graham's superb skills in educating a young physician to continually ask questions and to learn from every patient. A superb physician, a great academic and a wonderful man who had a substantial and lasting impact on academic medicine in Dublin."
"Graham was extremely kind to me when we first met at Imperial. We had many wide-ranging discussions and I greatly enjoyed his wisdom, his sense of humour and his kindness. This is a very sad loss."
"What a terrible loss. And what a loss to Medicine and to the next generation. You must know what a "warm spot" all his colleagues and peers had for Graham. I will always remember and treasure my friendship with him - surely the gentlest, kindest, most empathetic and knowledgable Physician that any of us had the privilege of knowing.We will remember Graham with great fondness."
"I first met Graham in 1982 when I joined his Addenbrooke's Nutrition Team as the first Specialist Nurse, we kept in touch ever since. Even now I recall his exceptional bedside manner; he'd sit holding the patient's hand (feeling their pulse of course), speaking softly and directly to them. He was a great man, a role model, an uncle figure to me; greatly missed, never forgotten."
"I really know Graham best from the 1960s when we were both registrars at the Hammersmith Hospital. I remember him from those times as a quiet, modest man and a caring and compassionate doctor, who stood out from the crowd of doctors at the Hammersmith of those days. My sincerest condolences to all his family, Rodney"
"My path crossed with Graham's intermittently throughout our careers. I always respected his intellect and clinical acumen. My thoughts go out to his family."
"I am very sorry to hear about Graham. He was a lovely man and utterly dedicated to his work. I very much enjoyed and appreciated working with him on the few joint projects we had together. I would like to send my condolences to his family."
"Graham was an incredible doctor, teacher and parent, among so many other things. His staying power, commitment and sense of justice never left him and are a great example to all of us. Graham worked out many things for himself but he didn’t keep them to himself. He was an immensely kind and dedicated person; a doctor's doctor. We celebrate his massive achievements and owe him a huge debt."
"When Graham was lead for the Professional Development Spine he used a desk in our office on Thursday mornings. I remember Graham laughing - he always had something fun to say and a joke to crack. Instead of us younger ones keeping him from his work he used to entertain and distract us all in good fun and faith! Graham was a great role model - really dedicated to his work and the students."
"I was one of his SHOs many years ago. GN (as we knew him) was part of the reason I chose gastroenterology as a career and if I have achieved anything then it is partly because of his influence. I consider myself to be lucky to have been part of a golden generation at Addenbrooke's and your father was our leader. I hope that I have managed to uphold the standards and qualities he taught me."
"I worked closely with Graham during his time at Addenbrooke's. I had greatly admired his qualities. All who knew him much appreciated what he gave to his patients and the medical community. Although he came to Addenbrooke's as a gastroenterologist he was always one of the old school of Hammersmith-trained all-round physicians. I much valued his advice. Please accept my profound sympathy."
"I was SHO and then registrar with Graham 1970-72. I learnt a tremendous amount from him. Graham was a distinguished gastroenterologist, who made a major contribution with his research, and a superlative general physician. He worked phenomenally hard always putting his patients, trainees and students first. He was delightful man with a wonderful sense of humour and a pleasure to be with."
"Graham was such a good man and we shall not forget him; a true beloved physician. He was always a true friend and mentor to me and one of my role models. I know that he did not believe in any further life after this one. He said "we live on in our children" and that is certainly true, but I hope and believe that he is alive in some realm of being."
"Graham and I corresponded some time ago about our mutual interest and suggestions for medical education. He was a true force for clinical practice and will be sorely missed at a time when too few are prepared to fight for professional values and standards."
"Graham was highly thought of at AvMA, and all the “girls” loved to have a chat with him when he came in to the office – which was often. All our thoughts are with you and the family at this difficult time."
"Those of us who were lucky enough to be at Hammersmith with Graham knew him as the kindest and gentlest of men and a fantastic physician only fierce in his advocacy for his patients. I know that although Graham's end was long expected it will still be a great sadness to you and the family and I would like to extend my deep sympathy to you at this time. Kind regards, Ted"
"Graham was on the Board of Directors with me in Bevin Square. He always was kind, considerate and helpful. He often spoke of you Fiona and spoke of you with pride. Saying goodbye to a parent is the right 'passage of way' but that doesn't lessen the pain. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and hold on to the wonderful memories."
"I have known Graham for a few years, and although we only collaborated occasionally I have always had the greatest respect for his vision and care for patients, and his extremely hard and pioneering work on improving their safety. Graham was loved and respected within our wider group. He was a real exemplary figure, and he will be hugely missed."
"Graham's desk was always piled high with papers and medical records he was reviewing. He made a real difference to people's lives, not only the medical students he taught and the patients he treated, but also through his research. He was very stoic as the MND took its toll; even when he found it difficult to talk, with a smile and a few written words and he could still make us laugh."
"I considered Graham both a friend and an inspiration. His dedication throughout his career was always to improve the lives of patients, students, colleagues and friends. He affected many people, myself included. Not everything has gone so well for me in recent years and Graham offered wise advice and genuinely cared about all those lucky enough to come into contact with him."
"Graham and I met in 2007 in the CSRU and even though I never knew Graham as a practising clinician he was inspirational - I could tell that he was just the sort of doctor I wanted to be - always putting the patients first, very self-reflective and always trying to learn or help others learn from things that could have been done better. We will all miss him but will never forget him."
"Graham was the most delightful of men. He very kindly offered his time and wide knowledge to support a project I was doing for my masters thesis. His generosity has always remained with me and will encourage me to do the same for my students one day. Dr Neale is a man I will remember well for his kindness, generosity and accomplishments as a doctor. My condolences to all his family."
"I met Graham several times at patient safety meetings and he was such an inspiration to all of us working in that area. We were very pleased when he agreed to come up and talk at one of our Scottish meetings and he managed to horrify us all with his report of his research into diagnostic error, which I notice has recently become a much more discussed topic, no doubt due to his influence."
"Graham was our University external examiner until 2012. We were very saddened to hear of his illness then, and are very saddened to hear of his passing now. Graham was an excellent and diligent examiner and made a great contribution to University College Dublin (UCD) and in the wider field of patient safety. He will be a loss to you all and to the wider community. May he rest in peace."
"Graham was an incredibly dedicated man and so generous with his time and knowledge. Graham was an enormous supporter and advisor to us at Chaucer and visited many times to meet with us and share his wisdom and knowledge. Graham had a very important impact on us personally and our work, he had a real insight into our client group. He was a very special man. Please accept our condolences."
"It was a pleasure helping to look after Graham. He dealt with a horrendous diagnosis very calmly and appeared very wise - I'm sure he was a great doctor in his day. Condolences to all the family."
"Graham was one of the very kindest people I have met. He was one of a rare breed, always putting others before himself. I wish there were others more like him in the world we now live in. My condolences to you all."
"My thoughts are with you in celebration of your father's wonderful life and contributions to medical education and practice and in your loss of a great father and friend. May he rest in peace and may you have serenity in your time of bereavement."
"I met Graham while I was doing my PhD at Imperial College in 2003. Graham was at the CSRU and helped me with a project on patient record reviews I did in India. Graham was always very kind and helpful and had the patience to answer all my crazy questions and guide me whenever needed. He always had a smile on his face and I will remember him fondly. A great man and no doubt amazing father."
"I was sorry to hear of Graham's passing. He was a truly excellent human being and touched many people here at UCL. So many students and junior doctors fondly remember him as their wise and kind personal and professional development tutor. He taught this not just the lesson but through his actions and his humility."
"Graham was a great & wonderful man and the world, his friends, &, of course, his family, will be the worse without him. Motor Neurone disease is a terrible thing, but Graham continued to help others right to the end. I'm so glad the he & his granddaughter Sophia got on so well; a big thing for him at the end of his life and a big thing for her at the beginning of her's."
"Graham, I remember when we first met in Dublin in 1976, I had to translate the Dublin accent for you and how much fun we had together. You had a huge influence on my early career and I always admired your complete integrity, clinical, academic and human. I was able to implement these values in my own life and work in Birmingham and am grateful for your guidance and support to me throughout my p"
"Graham was an inspirational figure for those of us who were just beginning to face the problems with patient safety. He was a leading member of our patient safety research unit and a pioneering researcher in this field. He will be fondly remembered by us all for his dedication in improving the safety of patients. He was ahead of his time in openly admitting to the errors in patient care."
"I only knew Graham through email starting 1 1/2 ago. But, he seriously rocked! The work he did around the response of the law to clinical error, his endeavours to encourage a different approach (and his input into developing the NHS Redress Act), and his indefatigable energy - proved and continue to prove, inspirational to me. He was a great intellect and kind and generous with his time."
"I didn't know Graham very well but was always struck by his incredible intelligence, sharpness but also his humility when talking to others. He was a great man and who made a huge contribution in many ways."
"Graham was a great friend since 1963; a superb & dedicated clinician; an excellent teacher, researcher & writer; a devoted husband, father & grandfather; & a courageous, inspiring patient with a drawn-out, progressive disease. He will be sorely missed and will always be an inspiration as to how a life should be lived & how to face the end with courage and equanimity. Farewell, dear friend!"
"I got to know Graham quite well over the last 10 years, meeting him first when I worked at the NPSA. He was a fine man with a real commitment to his patients, his students and the NHS. I've no doubt he has inspired many young professionals over the years who will remember his wise counsel well."
"I only met Graham when he came to the SITraN Open Day. His joie de vivre, and enthusiasm for life and his courage and stoicism when facing the devastating effects of MND were readily apparent. Fiona gave him tremendous love and support throughout his illness and must I am sure have been a great comfort to him. Please accept my sincere condolences following your sad loss."
"Dr Neale was my tutor in 2009-2010. He always had fantastic stories to tell our group and helped us to really understand how to help patients by paying attention to details. He wrote an excellent reference for my application for my BSc course. I am so grateful for all his help. My thoughts are with his family at this time. He was a wonderful man."
"Dear Graham, You were an extremely knowledgeable and incisive medico-legal expert. Your astute clinical judgment was matched by real kindness towards claimants (who frequently need this) - a rare combination. I will miss not only the academic rigour you brought to our discussions, but your sense of humour. Thank you. Joachim"
"I am very sorry to hear of Graham's death and my condolences go to all the family. Graham was a great support to me on the PRISM study which ran from 2009 to 2011. I will always remember him as a wonderfully wise man who remained very approachable and down to earth and was always willing to help."
"Graham had a very big impact upon how I practise medicine and his advice proved invaluable in finding a specialty and Consultant post which have proved exceptionally rewarding and fulfilling for almost thirty years. You are in our thoughts at this sad time."
"I am very sad to hear about Grahams death, my thoughts are with his family and friends. Graham will be missed by the department and his contribution to education and healthcare on both personal and professional levels are a tribute to him."
"Thank you Graham for being such a kind support during my first year as a PDS tutor - & here I am some 8 years later!"
"Graham, we will miss you. You were a great brother-in- law and friend. You were there for all our family in times of medical emergencies and always so interested in our family activities. You will always be remembered fondly.
'The world is a poorer place for your passing' Vera, Shaun & Family"
"Graham was a truly wonderful colleague and I will miss him greatly. Even once he stopped working, he would come and visit. I used to look forward to his visits and listen intently to his wisdom. He stood out in his compassion for students and colleagues and always had more to give. I will always remember him with respect and admiration."
"Graham was an inspiration. He was a great story teller and would use these stories as a reminder of the importance of proper care for patients. To the very end he was making helpful suggestions via email to help me with my research project. He will be hugely missed at Imperial. I send my deepest condolences to his family and thank you Fiona for your email."
"Grahams dedication to improving patient safety was inspiring and I feel very lucky that I had the opportunity to work with him. He was a kind, caring and generous man and always went out of his way to help me with both work and non-work related matters. Graham touched the lives of so many people and his presence at the CPSSQ will be sorely missed and always remembered."
"Graham was such a lovely man, who was kind and generous to his colleagues and his students. He was kind and wise, and very giving. I was terribly sad to hear of his passing, and send my heartfelt condolences to his family."
"Great memories of a wonderful friend and brother-in-law. He will be sadly missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him. Rest In Peace. Tony, Mary Anthony & Heather"
"Graham broke the mould (& my tooth when teaching me to swim under water!). He was broad minded, very understanding, slightly left-field, and, all round, a genuine caring person. No pretence. Just a straight forward dedicator to medical science. A clever, clever man who enjoyed football. In respect, I salute Graham for all he achieved and his legacy will live on (& on). x Dorset Neales"
"On behalf of Caroline and Jill Sims:-
Graham will always be remembered as a caring man who helped so many people. He contributed so much to his profession, his research and to the well-being of his patients. Never to be forgotten."
"'Caring','compassionate', 'supportive' Graham was all of these things. His determination to succeed was evident from an early age and throughout his life he strove to do his very best in all he undertook. A keen Arsenal supporter and much loved and respected family member he will be fondly remembered by all those whose lives he touched - friends, family and patients aike."
"From a patient perspective, Graham was in a class of his own. He did not tick boxes. Instead, he was a medical super sleuth, giving individual attention to each patient, regardless of his time and personal effort, often into the night, until the correct diagnosis was achieved. His passing is a sad and a devastating loss to medicine."
"I remember Graham so well over many years. At Hammersmith Hospital in 1963, I succeded him as HP to Chris Booth and I was so impressed by his wonderful reputation with his patients. I have kept in contact over the years and recently I was so impressed to observe his courage inthe face of such a terrible illness. He was a wonderful man"
You were an enormous supporter and adviser to us at Chaucer Clinic and Gainsborough Foundation and so generous in sharing your wisdom and knowledge. We miss you already. Nick Charles & Team"
"Our very dear and special friend Graham we will miss you terribly as a family we are very honoured to have known you and eternally grateful for the dedication and constant support you gave us after losing Dad 'Brian'. It is because of you we could rebuild our lives but also gain a wonderful friendship with you, Fiona and Sophia. Our thoughts love and support are with all your family. xxx"
"Thank you for your support of my own work and that of the Clinical Human Factors Group. I'm deeply aware of the passion with which you supported the "patient safety" movement as it grew, and especially your support of those of us harmed."
"I was very sad to hear of Graham's passing. It was a privilege to work with him at UCL and he was a wonderful colleague and mentor. He will be greatly missed."
"Graham was a true gentleman, exceptional teacher and pioneering gastroenterologist who has inspired a generation of doctors. His pearls of clinical wisdom, always delivered with humility and a twinkle in his eye, will be recounted to the next generation by those fortunate enough to have been influenced by him. We will all miss him. Peace and quiet at last. With fond memories, Max Pitcher"
"One of the first things that struck me about Graham was his incredible mix of charisma and caring. I have always felt that he was such a great person and I feel lucky to be one of the people who got to work with him and benefit from his knowledge and insight. Rest in Peace Graham, you won't be forgotten. Cath x"
"Graham was a hugely impressive teacher and doctor and I really enjoyed working with him . He struck me as being exceptionally kind to everyone with whom he came into contact.He was particularly modest and considerate and seemed to go out of his way to find information , resources and ideas to help his colleagues, students and patients."
"Graham's modesty and caring, his ability to forge ahead in the face of adversity, his enthusiasm to learn and teach, will live on in many of his ex-students and patients and in his daughter Fiona who has exchanged with him so much caring. Long may we remember him and cultivate his humanitarian qualities"
"I had the pleasure of working with Graham in 2009/10. His pleasure of teaching students was clear to all. He generously shared his experiences and work on patient safety and moved us all so much closer to recognising harm in the way we need to if we are to make the progress we all wish for. Healthcare is richer for him and I am thankful and privileged to have known him."
"I am so pleased to have known Graham - he was a fantastic doctor, researcher and communicator, who always made time to show genuine concern and interest in others. A fantastic role model. I feel honoured to have known him."
"Graham was both a superb physician, and the most inspiring teacher I ever had the pleasure of meeting and knowing. His enthusiasm for everything he undertook was exemplary. It was simply a priviledge to have known him both as a friend and head of Medicine. While he was with us in Dublin he was an enormous help in the evolution of our Medical School."
"When I wrote theBBC play that began AVMA Graham was the very first doctor I met who stood up against negligence. I was pretty naive. I could not believe so many doctors would hide behind a wall of silence. Bless you Graham - there was no lip service - you really did put the patient first. From Peter and Cynthia."
"May I express my sadness in hearing about Graham's passing. I was a speech therapist that worked with him in Watford and fondly remember our discussions about technology and mobile "apps" and increasing his knowledge of everything techny. Certainly, his love of teaching and wanting to share his experiences with students was something I will always remember - Nick"
"It was a pleasure to work with Graham. He was a conscientious, thoughtful and caring doctor who cared about patients. I will miss him."
"Graham's humanity, humility and integrity made him the ultimate role model for students and colleagues alike - our lives are all the richer for having been touched by his (fondly remembered by a fellow UCL tutor)"
"Graham was a very kind and thoughtful uncle. He was always very interested in the whole family and wrote lovely letters especially at Christmas. We will all miss him."
"Though our lives touched only briefly, Graham's warmth, kindness, and also his depth of expertise, shone into our hearts and minds and will not be forgotten. With love from Karenna and David"
It was such a privilege to get to know you during my stay in England. There are so few real gentlemen left in this world and you were one of them. You were so calm and gentle and I enjoyed some lovely conversations with you. I can only imagine the void you have left in Fi's life. Fondest wishes. Dina (South Africa)"
"Graham was a wonderful, caring man and has helped countless people through is passion for good patient care and patient safety, as a doctor, a researcher, a trustee and volunteer with the charity Action against Medical Accidents (AvMA). Will always be remembered by his friends at AvMA."
You were one of those amazing teachers and mentors that we as your students were only lucky to have. Your life stories were an incredible inspiration to me and I am so grateful that you were my teacher.
"You always have those few teachers in your life, who you can never ever forget and Dr Graham is certainty somebody who I will always remember for the rest of my life. He was a fantastic teacher; his enthusiasm in teaching medicine to his students was just so awe-inspiring; he would always have so many medical stories to tell us &I would always look forward to them and feel really inspired."
"Graham has always been one of my heroes, introducing me to my first patient as a medical student in Dublin (1979). His wonderful combination of achievement, humility, integrity, humour and a clear moral compass led to an all too brief encounter with the fog and ambiguity of medical practice in Dublin. His legacy is extraordinary, and our sympathies are with his family at their great loss."
You were a great doctor, teacher,Dad and family man ,but you were what is rarely seen these days , a true humanitarian.Your selfless interest in helping others was outstanding . It was a real joy and privilege to have known you .They broke the mould when they made you!God Bless.Gillian and Michael"
"Dad, no words can express how much I love and miss you. You were an amazing teacher and role model. You gave me a reason to fight through the toughest of times and inspired me to make the most of every day. You will always be my hero and my everything. I will always love you and treasure our time together. I could not have asked for a better Dad or Grandad. Thankyou for everything. Love Fi"
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