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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Howard "Deak" van Arsdale, Jr., Ph.D., 76 years old, born on July 29, 1937, and passed away on May 12, 2014. We will remember him forever.

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Poul Van Bremen
April 11, 2020
April 11, 2020
Around 1975 Deak was in the Laurier in Amsterdam and gave us lessons in psychology connected with drug addict problems and his method. The "Laurier" was a means of help for people who had their passports stolen, was a means for sick people who did not want to go to a hospital and in the B Building were a means for heroin addicts who wanted to kick off with the cold turkey method, so without tablets, but going to an arduous way of becoming self conscious. However, Deak was "very American" and did not always understand the Dutch culture and certainly not the West European Dutch Culture. In spite of that we learned a lot of other different techniques that we could apply, thanks to him. Rest in Peace Teacher Deak ... .

Poul van Bremen Mulder pablo141995@hotmail.com
Thomas Kelleher
July 29, 2018
July 29, 2018
Happy Birthday Deak! We miss you buddy. Tom, Ana and Anita
Christopher Araujo
September 3, 2016
September 3, 2016
Deak was a very good friend when we lived in San Jose. We used to go over to his house and play pool in his living room. He was also an excellent cook. I wish that we had learned the recipe for his broiled green pepper dish. I also remember that Deak loved to read and had quite a library in the room in the basement of his home. We lost contact when we move to Texas for work, but he was never forgotten. RIP my friend. You were quite a gentleman and a scholar.
Angelo Deleuse
March 22, 2016
March 22, 2016
I was a client of yours and in my early 20's . You where very kind and where an integral part of my healing ,rebuilding my trust amongst adults and validating my feelings and letting me know I was not crazy. You let me know I had the right to have compassion for myself as I do for others and made me feel safe and sane. Rest in Peace my friend I will always remember you and you still have a positive influence in my life even beyond the grave.

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Poul Van Bremen
April 11, 2020
April 11, 2020
Around 1975 Deak was in the Laurier in Amsterdam and gave us lessons in psychology connected with drug addict problems and his method. The "Laurier" was a means of help for people who had their passports stolen, was a means for sick people who did not want to go to a hospital and in the B Building were a means for heroin addicts who wanted to kick off with the cold turkey method, so without tablets, but going to an arduous way of becoming self conscious. However, Deak was "very American" and did not always understand the Dutch culture and certainly not the West European Dutch Culture. In spite of that we learned a lot of other different techniques that we could apply, thanks to him. Rest in Peace Teacher Deak ... .

Poul van Bremen Mulder pablo141995@hotmail.com
Thomas Kelleher
July 29, 2018
July 29, 2018
Happy Birthday Deak! We miss you buddy. Tom, Ana and Anita
Christopher Araujo
September 3, 2016
September 3, 2016
Deak was a very good friend when we lived in San Jose. We used to go over to his house and play pool in his living room. He was also an excellent cook. I wish that we had learned the recipe for his broiled green pepper dish. I also remember that Deak loved to read and had quite a library in the room in the basement of his home. We lost contact when we move to Texas for work, but he was never forgotten. RIP my friend. You were quite a gentleman and a scholar.
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My Summer Therapy with Deak

February 8, 2021
by Gregory Bader
I know this is much delayed, but I have only recently started thinking about what happened to Deak. I think I have a great story to add.

Back in the summer of 1974, I was in the middle of a program at the University of Oregon studying for a PhD in political science, financed by an NSF grant I was awarded by the department.

I had a very good friend with whom I was going to go on a driving-camping trip all over the country beginning in the middle of August, and we had more than some issues between us. He connected me with Deak, who was waiting for his PhD to be formalized, but who was still seeing students in a free practice.

Deak spent three weeks with me EVERY day for an hour or more each time, pushing me gently but firmly to sort out those issues and deal with them. (The only diversions from our discussions were the whooping sounds that his pet monkey occasionally made from his cage on the other side of the room!) 

Bottom line is that Deak was an immense help in assuring me that there was absolutely nothing weird or unusual about what I thought was toxically unusual about me. And, of course, he didn’t charge anything for that help. 

When my friend and I were driving out of Eugene to start our trip, we actually passed Deak in his car, with the pet monkey sitting alongside of him, leaving Eugene in the rear-view mirror.

He was a wonderful man who assisted me more than I can say. (I never finished my PhD, because I quit at the end of the third year of the program and went to law school instead.)

 I knew very little about his private life, of course, but was delighted to read about the “happy sides” of it on this memory site. Just sorry I missed out on some of his cooking!

Greg Bader, Eugene

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