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This memorial is a tribute to our father, John B. Duff, 82, who was born on July 1, 1931 and passed away on October 1, 2013. We will remember him fondly as the great JBD, a large-hearted man of letters, who touched so many lives with his formidable mind and generous spirit.

October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
Miss you JBD. 10 years seems like a lifetime without you. Thinking of you today and hoping you found your reading chair in the great gig in the sky. xxoop
July 3, 2023
July 3, 2023
Dad....hard to believe you would be 92 this year! I think of you so often and share with others some of the amazing things you accomplished in your lifetime. You were a force of nature and our family was lucky to call you our Dad. I'm heading out to pick up some individually wrapped chocolates...just like you like...in your honor. Hope to see you on the other side one of these days.  Thank you.....love Reen
July 1, 2023
July 1, 2023
July 1, 2023.
Happy Birthday, JBD. I've missed you for these 10 years and am delivering all the DQ Blizzards you can eat today when you would have turned 92! Also this last passage from The Dead, which I'm forever grateful you introduced to me so long ago, is for you. Love you, Dad. xxoopatty

A few light taps upon the pane made him turn to the window. It had begun to snow again. He watched sleepily the flakes, silver and dark, falling obliquely against the lamplight. The time had come for him to set out on his journey westward. Yes, the newspapers were right: snow was general all over Ireland. It was falling on every part of the dark central plain, on the treeless hills, falling softly upon the Bog of Allen and, farther westward, softly falling into the dark mutinous Shannon waves. It was falling, too, upon every part of the lonely churchyard on the hill where Michael Furey lay buried. It lay thickly drifted on the crooked crosses and headstones, on the spears of the little gate, on the barren thorns. His soul swooned slowly as he heard the snow falling faintly through the universe and faintly falling, like the descent of their last end, upon all the living and the dead.
James Joyce (one of your faves ;-)
October 2, 2022
October 2, 2022
missing the big guy.....so much i would love to speak with him about. thankful for all the lessons in history that he imparted to us.....comes in handy as i work as a bike tour guide in the columbia river gorge....i channel you all the time Dad. love you
October 1, 2022
October 1, 2022
9 years. Still missing you, Dad. The world is a completely different place since you left. I’m not even sure you would recognize it. 
I think of you all the time. 
Love, Emily
July 1, 2022
July 1, 2022
Happy Birthday Pops. I miss you. Especially your laughter and intelligence. Currently, the world is lacking in both of those. Thinking of you today. Love & miss you. Wish we could go to the movies.
July 1, 2022
July 1, 2022
Happy 91st, Daddy! We all miss you, but are glad you have not been around for the degradation of the United States Supreme Court. Or the pandemic. You timed it right, Dad. You would hate this. Hope you are happy in your heaven where I picture you reading some large tome with your slippers on.
Love,
Patty
October 1, 2021
October 1, 2021
Hi Dad,
It's been 8 years already and I still miss you every day. I hope you are reunited with Mom, who has joined you there and are having one of your lively conversations about politics, sports or culture. I love you.
xxoopatty
July 1, 2021
July 1, 2021
Happy 90th, Daddio! It's been 8 years. Still miss you every day. Hope you're enjoying yourself!
Love you still.
PJDxxoo
October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
Dad....remembering you and your infectious laugh today. I wanted you to know that I have painted some large walls in my house the same color as that tropical linen coral colored blazer you used to wear so well. some might say thats wacky but it sure looked good on you and it looks great on my walls. The whole world has gone to hell in a hand basket and it is best you are not here to witness it....same for Mom. I hope there is some sort of afterlife where you got to hang with the people you love and i hope you have found that nirvana. love you and miss you always......reen
October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
I was thinking about you this morning Dad while walking Kai in Jockey Hollow, and I hadn’t realized at that moment that it was the anniversary of your passing.  I was considering how much you achieved from such humble origins. We miss you every day and always remember you.

John
October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
Dear Dad,
Today is the seventh anniversary of your death and we all still miss you more than you know. I think of you daily and now, since Mom is gone too, I think of you together. Missing both of you all at once. The world seems to be teetering on the verge of disaster, especially in the White House, and I'm glad you are not here to see it. But I hold out hope that Democracy will be restored, the pandemic will be wrangled under control and we can all meet again to celebrate you and mom and the beautiful family created from your auspicious coming together. Love you and miss you, Dad.
October 1, 2019
October 1, 2019
Dear Dad,
Six years now and we're all still missing you like it was just yesterday. We love you and honor your memory every day, especially when we visit your haunts in Chicago, Lowell or at Seton Hall. You live on in our memories and we carry you in our hearts always.
Love, Patty
October 1, 2019
October 1, 2019
Missing the Big Guy today. Wish you were around to see us take Chicago by storm at front and center in the Loop with Teatro ZinZanni. I think of you every time i walk into the tent Dad. I imagine you there in your hot pink sports coat working the room. Love you.
July 1, 2019
July 1, 2019
Happy Birthday Big Guy. We miss you. Love, Emily
July 1, 2019
July 1, 2019
Love you, Dad. Miss you more than you'll ever know. Happy Birthday! xxxooopatriciajeanellenmaryduff
October 1, 2018
October 1, 2018
Casey at the Bat
BY ERNEST LAWRENCE THAYER
A Ballad of the Republic, Sung in the Year 1888
The outlook wasn’t brilliant for the Mudville nine that day;
The score stood four to two with but one inning more to play.
And then when Cooney died at first, and Barrows did the same,
A sickly silence fell upon the patrons of the game.
A straggling few got up to go in deep despair. The rest
Clung to that hope which springs eternal in the human breast;
They thought if only Casey could but get a whack at that—
We’d put up even money now with Casey at the bat.
But Flynn preceded Casey, as did also Jimmy Blake,
And the former was a lulu and the latter was a cake;
So upon that stricken multitude grim melancholy sat,
For there seemed but little chance of Casey’s getting to the bat.
But Flynn let drive a single, to the wonderment of all,
And Blake, the much despised, tore the cover off the ball;
And when the dust had lifted, and men saw what had occurred,
There was Jimmy safe at second and Flynn a-hugging third.
Then from 5,000 throats and more there rose a lusty yell;
It rumbled through the valley, it rattled in the dell;
It knocked upon the mountain and recoiled upon the flat,
For Casey, mighty Casey, was advancing to the bat.
There was ease in Casey’s manner as he stepped into his place;
There was pride in Casey’s bearing and a smile on Casey’s face.
And when, responding to the cheers, he lightly doffed his hat,
No stranger in the crowd could doubt ’twas Casey at the bat.
Ten thousand eyes were on him as he rubbed his hands with dirt;
Five thousand tongues applauded when he wiped them on his shirt.
Then while the writhing pitcher ground the ball into his hip,
Defiance gleamed in Casey’s eye, a sneer curled Casey’s lip.
And now the leather-covered sphere came hurtling through the air,
And Casey stood a-watching it in haughty grandeur there.
Close by the sturdy batsman the ball unheeded sped—
“That ain’t my style,” said Casey. “Strike one,” the umpire said.
From the benches, black with people, there went up a muffled roar,
Like the beating of the storm-waves on a stern and distant shore.
“Kill him! Kill the umpire!” shouted some one on the stand;
And it’s likely they’d have killed him had not Casey raised his hand.
With a smile of Christian charity great Casey’s visage shone;
He stilled the rising tumult; he bade the game go on;
He signaled to the pitcher, and once more the spheroid flew;
But Casey still ignored it, and the umpire said, “Strike two.”
“Fraud!” cried the maddened thousands, and echo answered fraud;
But one scornful look from Casey and the audience was awed.
They saw his face grow stern and cold, they saw his muscles strain,
And they knew that Casey wouldn’t let that ball go by again.
The sneer is gone from Casey’s lip, his teeth are clinched in hate;
He pounds with cruel violence his bat upon the plate.
And now the pitcher holds the ball, and now he lets it go,
And now the air is shattered by the force of Casey’s blow.
Oh, somewhere in this favored land the sun is shining bright;
The band is playing somewhere, and somewhere hearts are light,
And somewhere men are laughing, and somewhere children shout;
But there is no joy in Mudville—mighty Casey has struck out.
No joy in Mudville, Dad. Still miss you every day. xxoopatty
July 2, 2018
July 2, 2018
Happy Birthday, the day after, Daddy. I was flying all day yesterday on your birthday, thinking of you after a great Dufforama in Hawaii. We all think of you often, it's clear. You are still present, Dad, with us forever. Love, Patre.
July 1, 2018
July 1, 2018
Happy Birthday Dad, we miss you. We all just returned from a great family trip to Hawaii which you would have loved. Thinking of you all the time.
October 2, 2017
October 2, 2017
There's no joy in Mudville without you, Dad. Miss you. xxoopjemd
October 1, 2017
October 1, 2017
It has been 4 years since you left. I believe if you were still here this country would be in better condition. I miss your intelligence and your laughter. Love you Dad.
October 1, 2017
October 1, 2017
Thinking of you today Dad. Hard to believe it's 4 years since you passed. You would be very proud of the fact that 4 of your grandchildren are in school at Columbia College Chicago. Thank you for that prescient gift Dad. it is the gift that keeps on giving. Always with love....reen
July 1, 2017
July 1, 2017
Happy Birthday, Dad. We all miss you very much. Hope the reading is going well and that you are enjoying plenty of cream soda and banana, rocky road, pistachio ice cream! Love you, Patty.
October 1, 2016
October 1, 2016
Emily's right, Dad. You wouldn't believe this election.
I think of you so often Dad and miss you every day. You would be so thrilled to see three of your grandchildren soaking up your legacy at Columbia College Chicago. I know that you are watching over them. They feel you and love you for what you have given them. Keep them safe, Dad. I know you will. Enjoy that book. Love you, Patty.
October 1, 2016
October 1, 2016
It has been three years since we lost you. More if you count the years that Alzheimer's slowly took you away from reality. I wish I could tell you about my life. You would be happy about my travels. I think of you whenever I visit a new place. Three of your grandchildren are at Columbia College thanks to you. They are doing well and enjoying Chicago. I miss you. Love, Emily Anne 

PS You wouldn't believe this Presidential election...
July 1, 2016
July 1, 2016
Thinking of you Dad on what would have been your 85th birthday. We all miss you and talk about you often....citing your larger-than-life personality and your penchant for flashy duds. I am grateful for the opportunity you have given to your grandkids to attend Columbia College in Chicago. You would be proud to know that Madelaine and Henry will join Claudia there in a few months. Madelaine is very excited and appreciative as well. You are/were the ultimate negotiator, Dad. With love....Reen.
July 1, 2016
July 1, 2016
Happy Birthday, Dad. Thinking of you, as always. We miss you. xx pjd


Remember

Remember the sky that you were born under,
know each of the star’s stories.
Remember the moon, know who she is.
Remember the sun’s birth at dawn, that is the
strongest point of time. Remember sundown
and the giving away to night.
Remember your birth, how your mother struggled
to give you form and breath. You are evidence of
her life, and her mother’s, and hers.
Remember your father. He is your life, also.
Remember the earth whose skin you are:
red earth, black earth, yellow earth, white earth
brown earth, we are earth.
Remember the plants, trees, animal life who all have their
tribes, their families, their histories, too. Talk to them,
listen to them. They are alive poems.
Remember the wind. Remember her voice. She knows the
origin of this universe.
Remember you are all people and all people
are you.
Remember you are this universe and this
universe is you.
Remember all is in motion, is growing, is you.
Remember language comes from this.
Remember the dance language is, that life is.
Remember.

Joy Harjo, 1951
October 1, 2015
October 1, 2015
Dad....i have been thinking about you alot of late...in anticipation of this 2 year anniversary of your passing. i am still sad that i didn't get to say goodbye. you were a warm and bright light in my life...throughout my life....i don't know that you ever really understood how much i loved you. i remember that day when i was visiting you and i had to say goodbye to you in the middle of the art institute of chicago....when you took me to the magritte exhibit and there were hundreds of people trying to see the art....and i was standing in the middle of all that chaos and you had to leave and i was just standing there crying because i missed you and didn't want you to leave. there were so many instances in my life when i was moved to tears in connection to something regarding you. i didn't want to disappoint you and i always wanted to spend more time with you. thank you for all that you did to make a great life for me and our family.....your gifts keep on giving. love reen
October 1, 2015
October 1, 2015
We all miss and think about you often Dad. I especially miss being able to ask you a question about anything and you would invariably have an answer.  If not you might say, "the next he tells you that - you tell em".
I love and miss you Dad.
John
October 1, 2015
October 1, 2015
Dear Dad, It's been two years and I still miss you like it was yesterday. We all love you, Dad, and keep you with us when we're together. xxoop

“Time drops in decay
Like a candle burnt out.
And the mountains and woods
Have their day, have their day;
But, kindly old rout
Of the fire-born moods,
You pass not away.”
― W.B. Yeats, The Celtic Twilight: Faerie and Folklore
July 1, 2015
July 1, 2015
His soul had approached that region where dwell the vast hosts of the dead. He was conscious of, but could not apprehend, their wayward and flickering existence. His own identity was fading out into a grey impalpable world: the solid world itself, which these dead had one time reared and lived in, was dissolving and dwindling.

A few light taps upon the pane made him turn to the window. It had begun to snow again. He watched sleepily the flakes, silver and dark, falling obliquely against the lamplight. The time had come for him to set out on his journey westward. Yes, the newspapers were right: snow was general all over Ireland. It was falling on every part of the dark central plain, on the treeless hills, falling softly upon the Bog of Allen and, farther westward, softly falling into the dark mutinous Shannon waves. It was falling, too, upon every part of the lonely churchyard on the hill where Michael Furey lay buried. It lay thickly drifted on the crooked crosses and headstones, on the spears of the little gate, on the barren thorns. His soul swooned slowly as he heard the snow falling faintly through the universe and faintly falling, like the descent of their last end, upon all the living and the dead.

James Joyce, "The Dead"

Missing you so much, Dad. Happy Birthday. Love, PJD
July 1, 2015
July 1, 2015
Thinking of you today Dad as it would have been your 84 Birthday. You were taken from us too early and I wish you were still here with your facilities intact so that you could enjoy the family that you helped to create. We all think of you fondly and miss what you brought to the party. Loving you always and thinking of you more than you know. x reen
October 1, 2014
October 1, 2014
Dear Dad,
A year has gone by since you left this world but I feel your presence every day. I am constantly reminded of all the progress you made throughout your career. You had a positive effect on so many lives and that keeps you present on this earth. I miss you, Dad. We all do.
Love, Emily
October 1, 2014
October 1, 2014
Thinking of you Dad. I find I talk to you out loud a lot…hoping that you will help me figure things out. I wish you were still here with us. I love you Big Guy…..you showed me the way. x reen
October 1, 2014
October 1, 2014
Still thinking of you, Dad, wherever you are. This is the first anniversary of your death, but even after a year I still feel your absence from the world like a fresh wound. Thinking of you. Love you, Dad.
July 1, 2014
July 1, 2014
Happy Birthday, Dad. We miss you. Love from all of us.
July 1, 2014
July 1, 2014
Full of Life Now

Full of life, now, compact, visible,
I, forty years old the Eighty-third Year of The States,
To one a century hence, or any number of centuries hence,
To you, yet unborn, these, seeking you.
 
When you read these, I, that was visible, am become invisible;     
Now it is you, compact, visible, realizing my poems, seeking me;
Fancying how happy you were, if I could be with you, and become your comrade;
Be it as if I were with you. (Be not too certain but I am now with you.)

Walt Whitman
October 25, 2013
October 25, 2013
This Tribute to Our Father, John B. Duff follows more than my 50 years of being the recipient of a kind, generous, funny and brilliant father. We all loved him enormously and what he leaves behind is his legacy of great accomplishment in the field of higher education, the Harold Washington Library in Chicago and a slew of people who admired his generous spirit. Rest in Peace, JBD.

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October 1, 2023
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Miss you JBD. 10 years seems like a lifetime without you. Thinking of you today and hoping you found your reading chair in the great gig in the sky. xxoop
July 3, 2023
July 3, 2023
Dad....hard to believe you would be 92 this year! I think of you so often and share with others some of the amazing things you accomplished in your lifetime. You were a force of nature and our family was lucky to call you our Dad. I'm heading out to pick up some individually wrapped chocolates...just like you like...in your honor. Hope to see you on the other side one of these days.  Thank you.....love Reen
July 1, 2023
July 1, 2023
July 1, 2023.
Happy Birthday, JBD. I've missed you for these 10 years and am delivering all the DQ Blizzards you can eat today when you would have turned 92! Also this last passage from The Dead, which I'm forever grateful you introduced to me so long ago, is for you. Love you, Dad. xxoopatty

A few light taps upon the pane made him turn to the window. It had begun to snow again. He watched sleepily the flakes, silver and dark, falling obliquely against the lamplight. The time had come for him to set out on his journey westward. Yes, the newspapers were right: snow was general all over Ireland. It was falling on every part of the dark central plain, on the treeless hills, falling softly upon the Bog of Allen and, farther westward, softly falling into the dark mutinous Shannon waves. It was falling, too, upon every part of the lonely churchyard on the hill where Michael Furey lay buried. It lay thickly drifted on the crooked crosses and headstones, on the spears of the little gate, on the barren thorns. His soul swooned slowly as he heard the snow falling faintly through the universe and faintly falling, like the descent of their last end, upon all the living and the dead.
James Joyce (one of your faves ;-)
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Eulogy for JBD

January 20, 2014

One of my strongest memories is of Dad sitting in his chair in the living room with a biography of Grant, or Lincoln, or Churchill obscuring his face; his leg swung crosswise over the other knee, shaking his slipper. He’d come up for air now and then, but it was when he was reading that he was at his most relaxed. It was in books that the boy from the Valley first discovered himself. Reading, knowledge, education were the things that developed the mind that would go onto to help so many others throughout his remarkable life.

My brothers and sisters and I are happy to have this occasion to honor our father for the warm and generous guy that he was. I speak not only for myself here as I honor him, but also for Michael, Reenie, John, Robert and Emily, as well as for Helen our mother, who was so crucial to the extraordinary man JBD became.

It’s difficult to sum up a life like JBD’s, with its myriad accomplishments; how he pulled himself up through education to rise above the poverty of his childhood with determination, intelligence and grace. Knowing the limitations of his parents ─ his father John, an uneducated milkman and his mother, Mary, who emigrated from the West Coast of Ireland at 18 with nothing more than a sixth grade education ─ the struggle of the Irish in America became something very important to my father, something to overcome.

It’s fitting that he became a scholar on the subject of Irish Americans while a professor of history here at Seton Hall. He also was a great storyteller in the way that all the Irish are great storytellers, and it was clear that he wanted his children to know about Ireland, and about the importance of understanding one’s roots.

It was from our father that we first heard mention of County Clare, County Louth, and Galway Bay, all the places where he still had aunts and uncles and cousins. It was our father who told us about the great Irish writers like James Joyce, Oscar Wilde and Yeats, or about the Abbey Theater in Dublin; and also we heard about moments in history such as the Irish Rebellion, the Irish Potato Famine, and the Easter Rising. He would often recite lines from poems or suddenly break into “Danny Boy,” in his famously painful yet endearing, tone-deaf voice. Even when we were very young, it was clear to all of us how much Ireland meant to my father. Likewise his relatives back in Galway thought much of our Dad’s success as an educator and politico back in the states.  Upon a visit to his Uncle Pat’s home in the early ’80’s my older sisters witnessed a whole wall of photographs featuring JBD with various political luminaries including John F. Kennedy and Hubert Humphrey.

One of the highlights during his period as the President of the University of Lowell was the benefit of having celebrity guests dine at our house where our good friend at U Lowell Ernie Kagnas, may he rest in peace,  presided with joy over the kitchen during these special functions. All the staff were happy to work for JBD because he was kind to everybody, no matter if you were on the food service staff or a guest of honor. Everybody liked to come to our house because of the graciousness of our parents and the sense of celebration and friendship that they generated.

On one occasion, we had the great Irish actor Milo O’Shea to dinner, and on another, the poet Seamus Heaney. Both Irish guests were an absolute delight for my father; a bit of the old country coming home to him. Dad was the kind of man who was able to bask in the glow of these kinds of privileges, to enjoy them thoroughly, and engage everybody around him to do the same. He appreciated his life and his appreciation was infectious.

After JBD graduated from Our Lady of the Valley high school here in South Orange and went off to Fordham University in 1949, a new life began for him. He served in the United States Army from 1953 to 1955. He must have picked up some marching songs there because whenever we went for a hike with him he would invariably break into: 

“Don’t you listen to him Dan,

He’s a devil not a man,

And he fills the burning sands with water; cool, clear water…

Old Dan and I with throats burnt dry

And souls that cry for water,

Cool, clear water.”

We laughed every time he told us he was “a cook in the army,” because anybody who knew my father knows that cooking wasn’t in his repertoire. Later, he would become a gourmand, a lover of all varieties of food, taking pleasure in sampling the foods of the many countries to which he traveled. He was either cunning or just lucky to have married our Italian mother who, as it turned out, became one of the best cooks any of us or our friends has ever known. It was a coup for my Dad, considering the odd culinary scene at his childhood home in the Valley. I’ve gleaned that Wonder Bread, milk and canned goods were the mainstay at Central Place.

After he received his B.A. from Fordham, he received his masters from Seton Hall University followed by a PhD from Columbia University, all in history. By 1955, he had married and started a family with our mother. That’s where we came in.

It’s a tribute to my parents that the best memories of our family were formed around the dinner table. We all had a voice at the table. This is where our father asked us about what we were doing in school, and what we thought about certain things that were going on in the world. My parents discussed local and national politics here and we soaked up their views, their innate fairness and Democratic perspective, particularly during 1968 when my father ran for the NJ Congress on an anti-war platform; or during any of the Democratic campaigns that were important to my parents.

Inevitably the talk would turn to some family story. “Tell the one about Johnny and Robbie having the knockdown, drag-out fight at Sequoia National Forest,” somebody would say. “Or when John gave Gram-Dandy directions in the car at age 4; or that time the Country Squire broke down coming back from the Cape; or the one about Patty beating Toni Hope in the track meet; or when we found out Emily was born!”

We loved the family stories and my father was funny the way he told them. It was apparent he enjoyed all of it, as did my mother who, by the way, has a great laugh, which egged him on. At some point, after Emily was born, my father would stop everybody talking and say: “And now the Bay has something to say!” And Em would stand up in her high chair, hands on hips, and say something completely precocious and hilarious, and we all roared.

My father was the oldest of four brothers, Tommy, Joseph and Peter, may they all rest in peace, who were very much main characters in many of the family stories that we told. Christmas-time visits to our Uncle Tommy and Aunt Ginnie’s house in South Orange and the bedlam that ensued there, with our five Duff cousins leading the shenanigans, were always memorable. I remember Uncle Tommy reciting Shakespeare after a cocktail or two, and Joseph, who was mentally disabled and an insatiable pop music lover, listening to Cousin Brucie on his 200th transistor radio, and who shouted “Heal!” after we said grace or had a toast at dinner, a tradition that Reen has kept tried and true. And then there was Peter, the kind and boyish savant who kept detailed diaries of the Duff family genealogy, idolized his big brother John, and had a sweet place in his heart for all of us. This is all in the Duff canon.

My father was a Yankees fan and a Jets fan, but also rooted for the teams in the cities wherever he lived.  Somewhere he is smiling about the Red Sox winning the World Series; he loved Boston and there are so many friends from Massachusetts that certainly loved him, too.

He coached his kids in youth leagues for baseball and football, and at track and field events, and showed obvious pride whenever any of his children excelled at a sport. He could recite the narrative poem “Casey at the Bat” from memory and was a casual connoisseur of fine wine. He loved Woody Allen movies and “Upstairs Downstairs” and “Sherlock Holmes.” He was an excellent poker player and had a long-running game with his fellow professors at Seton Hall and later at U Lowell. Later in life, he thoroughly enjoyed winning pretty regularly at the casinos near his Palm Desert digs.

JBD was always stylish and was the only man of his size that could pull off the favorite pink blazer in summer, bright red wool jacket at Christmas, and a variety of colorful argyle sweaters and socks.

He was a man who could remember everything he ever read, could beat all of us handily at Scrabble, and told us the pond near our Cape Cod house in Dennisport was “John B. Duff Lake,” and we sort of believed him.

He was affectionate toward all of us.

We often heard my father’s famous line: “The next time he tells you that, you tell him …” He never finished the line, of course. It was for us to finish. It was for us to follow his lead as a person of self-respect and resolute confidence. It was my father’s complete confidence in his abilities, along with his open-minded generosity toward all people, which made him special.  My siblings and I have often remarked on the amazing audacity of JBD, who we sometimes fittingly called “The Big Guy.” He wasn’t afraid of anything. He had complete and utter certainty that he could become the first lay Provost of Seton Hall University, the first president of the University of Lowell, the first chancellor of higher education in Massachusetts and the first non-librarian to become Commissioner of the Chicago Public Library. Build the largest public library in the world in a major metropolitan city? Why not? Turn Columbia College Chicago from a small urban non-residential school to a major residential arts college? Sure, no problem.

But, beyond all these accomplishments is the singular aspect of my father’s personality that surprised those who met him, befriended him or became his colleagues. Mary Claire Mathews, a member of his staff at both Chicago Public Library and Columbia College Chicago, summed up this quality so well when she said, “His spirit of generosity was unmatched, he was always reaching back to pull others up, attending to those in need and providing support and assistance whenever he could. He connected with people, he cared and he made a difference. That's what made him exceptional.”  

He loved those colleagues closest to him and often brought staff with him from one job to another, as he did Ms. Mathews, an African American whom he once had to defend against the racist behavior of some of his staff, whom he promptly fired. 

There are so many friends and colleagues for whom he made a difference and who were important to my father; too many to mention here. But one colleague who must be mentioned is his faithful, right-hand man Roger Schinness, who passed away earlier this year, may he rest in peace, and who remained a close and dear friend to Dad and to the entire family from the early days at Seton Hall all the way through to Chicago and beyond. 

Finally, my father was delighted and proud to be “Grandpa” to the eight children who will carry on his legacy. Claudia, Nicky, Henry, Casey, Charlotte, Madelaine, Emma and Kathryn have always been in his heart. He loved spending time with them all and showed each of them great affection in the time he knew them before he fell into the fog of Alzheimers.

JBD was a kind soul with a large heart and great sense of humor. We all loved him very much and will miss him forever.

Rest in peace, Dad.

Thank you all very much for coming to Seton Hall for this tribute and for helping us to honor John B. Duff. The Big Guy would have loved this.

A Tribute by Mary Claire Mathews

October 24, 2013

As I reflect on your father, JBD, I'm convinced that his MAJOR accomplishments were not professional. And, I say this having spent 50 percent of my work-life working for institutions he headed (Chicago Public Library, Columbia College Chicago). In fact, when he left Columbia, I'd worked 75 percent of my career under JBD.

I, by no means, want to minimize his professional achievements, but those are not the things that made him stand out. It was always his personal characteristics that permeated everything he did and served as the foundation for all his successes. 

I'd always wondered about his parents and upbringing - just what had gone into producing this man. He had a natural ability to see a person's strengths and bring out their best. Often, he saw potential in people, before they saw it themselves, and provided the opportunity for them to learn, grow and achieve. And, without being weak - because there was nothing weak about him - he had a depth of compassion and understanding that is so unusual for a man of his background, accomplishments, stature and generation. JBD touched so many people, changed so many lives and built so many careers. 

I thought he gave up on politics much too soon, because he would have been outstanding in Congress or the Senate. But, then maybe I wouldn't have known him. One of his most remarkable traits, which never ceased to amaze me, was his ability to ALWAYS get what he wanted, no matter how many opposed his idea in the beginning. By the time it was over, people were signed up with enthusiasm and happy to give him whatever it was. Astounding, how many people can do that? (Joyce and I always said we wished we knew how he did it.) This special quality also evoked a trust and loyalty in those around him that is unsurpassed.

I could go on for hours, reminiscing (and crying) about JBD, but I won't. We worked hard, 
accomplished much and had lots of fun. So, for the record, while in the next few days the professional accomplishments of JBD will be highlighted, he was so much more than that. He impacted the lives of so many people. His spirit of generosity was unmatched, he was always reaching back to pull others up, attending to those in need and providing support and assistance whenever he could. He connected with people, he cared and he made a difference. That's what made him exceptional.

Your loss is shared by others who knew and loved him. I hope you will find some comfort in knowing that your father was the best of the best, he is a part of you and will be with you always. John B. Duff will always be remembered by me with deep love and profound gratitude and his spirit of generosity missed. 

MC Mathews

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