The smile!
Judith Ann Nicklin
  • 46 years old
  • Date of birth: Feb 11, 1970
  • Place of birth:
    Barrow-in-Furness, United Kingdom
  • Date of passing: May 7, 2016
  • Place of passing:
    Oxford, United Kingdom
Open the door and come on in. I'm so glad to see you, you're like a rainbow coming around the bend

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Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by steve nicklin on 29th May 2016

"I’ve spent countless nights, with tears as Jude slept at my side, trying to imagine the words to say at this point. The horrible truth is, it feels there is nothing worthy I can say. No borrowed poems, no anecdotes; no sentiments or words that come close to capturing a life so rich and a person so joyful.

But as words fail me and destroy me, Judith – above all – deserves my attempt.

It’s almost pointless to try and describe the Judith we all know, love and admire. That boundless personality - ever loving, fun, no hint of the self-conscious, interesting and caring was obvious in an instant. It was present the very first day we met 20 years ago and I was in awe, and never, ever, wavered. She was gifted, committed and a natural at her work; a terror with a credit card; it felt like she collected life-long friends every week and her long standing friends, well they loved her with a love that was pure. And when it came to her family – well then words fail me and I break again.

Even this cruel disease didn’t come close to changing who she was. In private, there was no denial but her fears could be counted on one hand. I would sit on the landing in our house and listen to Jude singing in the kitchen and simply be amazed. The strength of character it took to maintain that view – the one that decided to put life, friends and family first and to almost relegate this disease - is beyond my comprehension.

In losing you, I – we – are broken. Your absence feels like an abyss we can’t measure. But the joy and love you radiated echoes on. In the colleagues who miss your classroom presence, in the wave of love and friendship from countless friends; from family so true and, most of all, in our two incredible, precious children.

To my darling, beautiful wife: as you said to me a few weeks ago I repeat back to you - you are the love of my life. It utterly tears me apart to say goodbye. You changed me for the better in so many ways, led me to a life more colourful than I could envisage, humbled me with a lifetime of true friends and gave me a family complete and loving.

I will treasure every memory, in your memory.

I – we - will love you every day of our lives."

This tribute was added by Alicia Nicklin on 29th May 2016

"By David Harkins

You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her,
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her only that she is gone,
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.

Or you can do what she'd want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on."

This tribute was added by Alex Nicklin on 29th May 2016

"My mum is beautiful
My mum is happy
My mum is good at jokes
My mum is good at making flapjacks
My mum is fantastic at cuddles
I love my mum"

This tribute was added by Emily Haskins on 27th May 2016

"The first time I met Judith was the first time I met my extended family to be 16 years ago. Judith instantly put me at ease and made feel part of the family.

I cherish the advice she has given me over the years. Firstly, about teaching then being a teacher and having a young family and also how to cope with being married to a southerner!

Chris and I will miss Judith so much at future family gatherings.  
I wish I could be there today to say good bye.
Lots of love to Steve, Alicia, Alex and all the family.

Emily xx"

This tribute was added by Katharine Pebworth on 27th May 2016

"Judith was my maths tutor at school and was the only person who made maths fun and understandable for me - which I didn't know was possible! She was also a great friend of my mums and I loved seeing her around as she always had a huge smile on her face."

This tribute was added by katie french on 26th May 2016

"So, my dear friend, on this the eve of your funeral you will no doubt be laughing your head off as Jon and I try and decipher the dress code; ‘Wear something Jude would like’. Our bedroom looks like a tornado has gone off in a jumble sale and I’ve resorted to wine already. There is so much I know you would like, yet not one thing seems to do justice to the event. How can it?

You would be pleased to know that I’ve opted for something colourful. I am pretty sure most people will as you could never be linked to anything less than bright, bold and beautiful.

There are so many memories flooding in as I write this. But in all of them, your laughter permeates through. I can hear it now - your signature trademark combined with a cheeky twinkle in your eye. I vividly remember kitchen karaoke, you belting out 80’s tunes whilst Steve is groaning, head in hands as another Blondie or Wham track assaults his ears!

Jude, you were definitely one in a million. Your courage over the last sixteen months was mind blowing, simply incredible. You were determined not to let cancer define you and it never, never did. You are the definition of ‘living life to the full’. You were a wonderful friend with an incredibly generous and vivacious spirit that I know will live on in Alicia and Alex. I miss you as I know so many will. I just wish you were there tomorrow. It would be one hell of a party with you. A simple, perfect celebration of an amazing person, sent off with bucket loads of love. xxx"

This tribute was added by Ness Bennett on 25th May 2016

"One of her more recent Wallingford friends, we got to know a little (but sadly not enough) of Judith through school, daughters, a crazy annual camping event (Walfest) and the occasional girls night out. Just a few perfect memories; she was always friendly, up for a giggle and would be keen to give anything a go (watching Alicia at Cass's party last year she loved the idea of being pulled around a lake in a 'ringo' by a speedboat!). A truly inspirational, fun-loving northern star. Her legacy will certainly live on through her wonderful family - our thoughts are with you Steve, Alicia and Alex (and of course Judith) with love from Ness, Simon, Cass, Amelie, Darcy and Josie x"

This tribute was added by Angela Knight on 25th May 2016

"Judith and I worked together at OCC as Maths Consultants.  Later we worked together running Subject Leader conferences.  I recall the excitement of working to support Teachers and students and the laughter but most of all the ability that Judith had to cut to the chase and extract the real issues.  I will miss coffee and wine, the madness of conferences and the wise words.  Rest in peace after a brave fight."

This tribute was added by Suzannah Wake on 24th May 2016

"Judith worked closely with me and the maths team at what was then BCC, helping us out of special measures.  I'll never forget her tireless enthusiasm for raising the confidence of those children in her care.  She really got those teenagers believing that they could and would achieve, and I am certain that they worked harder for her than they had ever done before.  She was really inspirational to work with, and her legacy will continue with all those who learned from her."

This tribute was added by Kath Oldham on 23rd May 2016

"As a member of the maths team I worked closely with Judith. It was always a pleasure to work with her. Our journeys to Sandbanks were memorable. My thoughts and prayers are with her family."

This tribute was added by Carole Galvin on 23rd May 2016

"My key memory of working with Judith at OCC is one of laughter and mischief combined with a passion for quality learning.  God bless you Judith. X"

This tribute was added by Bethan Owen on 23rd May 2016

"Judith was a very special friend and colleague whom I met some fifteen years ago. We first worked together in a school that brought its daily challenges! Judith was then part of the team that delivered the four -week summer transition programme over two summers for Future Foundations. Her  professionalism and positive approach to all her work was an inspiration for those with whom she worked.
In the past year I have seen Judith cope and embrace her illness in a way that has been a support both to other cancer sufferers and those of us looking on
Thank you Judith for the very happy memories."

This tribute was added by Kay Martin on 23rd May 2016

"Judith was my friend. We would meet for coffee and stay for lunch, we would shop for clothes giving real opinions (my wardrobe is full of things that Judith said I must get!) We would look at houses to buy - how can I convince Steve? she would say. We would talk diets and eat biscuits and chocolate brownies, we would watch films with the kids and share their popcorn, we would laugh and occasionally cry. We would give sound advice and temper some reactions.

Judith continued to be Judith despite being ill, she never lost her compassion, her sense of fun and her love of life. She always looked forward, (her latest plan for a new house was only just over 2 months ago!), she loved her family and friends as we loved her.
I will miss her terribly."

This tribute was added by Nilofer Khan on 22nd May 2016

"I knew Judith long before coming to Fir Tree, in the days when she was Maths Advisor. I remember when she brought little Alicia to the office as a baby and then Alex, how proud she was of her two beautiful children and how we clucked around them with gentle laughter. I then had the privilege as Head to get to know Judith more and her family. I will always remember her support to me in my early days of being Head. Dear Judith, your smile and friendship will never be forgotten. Rest in peace dear friend."

This tribute was added by Lucy Breeze on 22nd May 2016

"Dear Judith,
I read this poem and not only thought of our wonderful friendship but of all the close friends you have and how we all share these sentiments and feelings of loss.

Farewell my friend you are leaving
It's time for you to go
Your friendship was a blessing
And I will miss you so
We shared so many secrets
You brightened up my days
You brought me so much happiness
With your kind and loving ways
You lifted up my spirits
When I was feeling blue
No matter what was happening
You knew just what to do
We ran between the raindrops
And walked beneath the sun
Ran barefoot in the summertime
And oh, we had such fun
Through all the ups and downs of life
The good times and the sad
From high school days to golden years
The best friend I ever had
God is here to take you home
Now you and I must part
I love you and forever
You will live within my heart.

"Farewell To Carol"  by Judy Marriott"

This tribute was added by Sophie Kemp on 19th May 2016

"Judith, you were the first person I met when we moved to "the Square" and you were so welcoming despite having just given birth to Alex! I loved our doorstep chats and cuppa's whilst playing games with the kids, getting thoroughly addicted to Bejewelled, and drooling over the latest offerings from the Boden catalogue! Your warm heart, sunny smile, infectious laugh and generous spirit will be greatly missed. Much love to Steve, Alicia & Alex from the Kemps xxx"

This tribute was added by Sian Shipway on 18th May 2016

"You were so welcoming when we moved onto the square in
Wallingford. Your smile and Northern accent were instantly warming and I knew right then we had made a wonderful decision to move to the area. Your love of life, fun and family were infectious, making all the street parties and gatherings so meaningful and memorable. I feel so privileged to have known you and the memory of you will live on. Rest in peace Judith xxx"

This tribute was added by Michael Neatis on 17th May 2016

"In the late 80's, Scorpio and Whispers (nightclubs) were much more fun when Jude and her mates were there. Rest in peace old friend."

This tribute was added by Emma Richardson on 16th May 2016

""Judith......You were funny, kind, opinionated (I loved this), loving, friendly, happy, selfless, brave, the list goes on.  We've had some funny nights, putting the world to rights and dividing the dinner table with you & Paul in the Northern corner, and me & Steve defending the Southern corner".  However, the funniest moment for me was from fairly recently............we were having a daytime coffee and a natter (read gossip) when the postman knocked at the door to ask if he could leave a parcel for a neighbour......"of course" Judith said ................only to find he was carrying a full sized adult bike in to the hallway - we laughed, and laughed and laughed.  "I feel very honoured to have met you, and this is how I want to remember you, with a twinkle in your eye and a beaming smile on your face.  Your spirit will shine on in Alex and Alicia and bring comfort to Steve to see you shining through - Much love to you all xxxx""

This tribute was added by Emily Bates on 15th May 2016

"Such a beautiful, happy,  lovely lady, I met Judith at St Nics as our sons are same age she was always friendly and lovely to me and asking how Alfie was getting on. Sorry to hear of your passing rest in peace Judith you will be missed and my thoughts are with your family x"

This tribute was added by Jane Liddle on 15th May 2016

"From my work with OCC as a Primary Maths Consultant I had the great privilege of working with Judith on some cross phase training.She lit up the room , and inspired and enthused all of our teachers with her ' can do ' approach .Her family were always at the centre of our conversations at coffee time.Love and prayers .xx"

This tribute was added by Catherine Gibbin on 15th May 2016

"Judith, I am struggling with words but somehow I know you will understand. You trusted me with the care of two of the most precious parts of you - your beautiful children. I was honoured and touched that you allowed me to be a part of their lives for all these years - they are like family to my family. I promise you that I will always be there for them, helping them in the way that you would expect. In them I see so much of you: your strength, your courage and love of life. I have experienced losing my mum in childhood and I will use this to help Alex and Alicia keep your memory alive and to find a way to live life with you in their hearts, remembering how much you loved them, always. I read this and thought of you: 'There are some who bring light so great to the world that even after they have gone, the light remains.' You are an inspiration - I will never forget you, Northern lass, from this soft Southerner, Cathy. xxxx"

This tribute was added by Sarah Bissell on 15th May 2016

"I first met Judith the day we moved nextdoor when she rang on my doorbell with a bottle of fizz ("no need to find the corkscrew" she said!).  We have shared many years of tea,  doorstep chats, comparing notes on small boys and the goings on on the square! Christmas has always been made more special by the communal Christmas tree and mulled wine shared by the neighbours - all organised by Judith! We will miss your sparkle and the sense of fun you bought to life on the square. xxx"

This tribute was added by Laura Haddock on 15th May 2016

"Judith and the whole family welcomed us with open arms when we moved next door several years ago.  She was our first taste of a real neighbourly neighbour.  We enjoyed several evenings in the company of Judith and Steve, at least I think we enjoyed them, the wine flowed so freely that the occasional hazy patch of memory did persist the next day.  We keep coming back to the same street no matter where life takes us and neighbours like Judith are the reason why.  She is a sad loss to the world, a constant source of a beaming smile and a kind word.  I think the best tribute we can offer is to try to be the neighbourly neighbour that Judith was and keep that friendly welcome and wonderful kindness alive in our community.  Love to you all from Laura, Rob and Lily x"

This tribute was added by Rachel Eccles on 14th May 2016

"So sad to hear of Judith's passing. My son is the same age as Alex and they've been at school together since starting. I didn't know her well but she always said hello and had a smile on her face!
Sending love and prayers to the whole family xxx"

This tribute was added by Beverly Mallion on 14th May 2016

"I knew Judith from my time working at Oxfordshire County Council, so sad the world has lost such a lovely lady, my thoughts and prayers are with Judith's family xxx"

This tribute was added by Tina Louise on 14th May 2016

"I worked with Judith for two years on the OCC Maths team. She was a warm, supportive and funny colleague. Such sad news. My thoughts are with her family xxx"

This tribute was added by Claire Gadsby on 14th May 2016

"I worked with Judith as a consultant at Oxfordshire county council and was lucky enough to call her a friend. She was a woman of warmth, fun and enormous integrity. She had a wonderful way of cutting to the chase - I once heard her ask a teacher  "is that the kind of lesson you would want for your own child?". Gold dust. We will all miss you Judith. Gone but never forgotten xxx"

This tribute was added by Alexandra Hewitt on 14th May 2016

"I've heard so many tributes to Judith from Heads of Maths across Oxfordshire, I wanted to share some of them with you: 'I thought a lot of her and always thought she did a brilliant job'. 'She was a great friend to the Maths department at our school'. 'She was really inspirational'. She will be sorely missed by all who worked with her, and many prayers are being said for the family."

This tribute was added by Lucy Breeze on 14th May 2016

"The memories keep flooding in dear friend, I just wish I had more time to share in your fantastic company, laugh some more and learn some more of your infinite wisdom! Like the time we were camping and sat up drinking outside the tent until very late....Judith made us sit under a tree so our noise would be muffled and not wake the children! That same night we decided we should have been sisters after many more glasses and intellectual conversation! Love you lots and always will."

This tribute was added by Dave Duck on 14th May 2016

"I have a lot of good memories of Judith 'Roberts' at sixth form. She was always caring and generous. She had a great sense of humour and helped me through some tough times with her optimism, a smile and a laugh. Rest in peace Jude."

This tribute was added by JIll Ling on 13th May 2016

"How sad to hear that Judith is no longer around to pass on her wisdom, good sense and advice, all with fun, infectious joy and a beautiful smile. I loved teaching Alicia in year 2 and interacting with her gorgeous mum then and as a governor at St Nicholas Infant School. Special hugs and prayers to Alicia"

This tribute was added by Neil Graves on 13th May 2016

"Deeply saddened with the loss of a great friend, Jude the Prude. Our lives, loves, families and children have been inter twined for 25 years and we miss you deeply already. Rarely have we met someone with such a "life force" as Jude. All our love from your African family, Neil, Tiyapo, Vicky and Tawanda xxx"

This tribute was added by Steve Palmer on 13th May 2016

"Have so many good memories from our time together at 6th Form College. There always seemed to be Jude, Seema, Martin P, Brian, Tanya and others in our group that hung about together for a couple of years. Jude was so intelligent, always smiling and fun, it was nice when Facebook reconnected us but we never really chatted or spoke. I sort of thought that one day we'd all get together and laugh about the old days. Too sad, too soon."

This tribute was added by Jean Goodspeed on 13th May 2016

"Judith   was my nephew wife.she was a Loving caring person  will be  greatly miss wonderful with her friend/ my Heart goes out  to family and friend special her mum @ dad Godbless judith"

This tribute was added by Tabby Roberts on 13th May 2016

"Unfortunately I never had the pleasure of meeting Aunty Judith but from what I have seen she was a wonderful, kind hearted, humourous woman who was so full of life and definitely left before her time.
If I had had the honour of coming face-to-face with the woman who grew up with my father and aunt I would have given her a giant hug and thanked her for having touched so many lives. You can see the impact that she left through friends, family and anyone who knew her.
It is a sad day when someone who is so good leaves this world well before they should."

This tribute was added by Chrissie Spring on 13th May 2016

"I met Judith when we worked as consultants together. She had a ready smile and a contagious laugh and I remember that moment when you know that you instantly like someone.  She was such a warm and genuine person. I shall always have the finest memories of her.
'Having looked up form the day's chores, pause a minute let the mind take its photograph of a bright scene. Something to wear against the heart in the long cold.' R.S. Thomas. Hoping that happy memories will help to keep her loved ones 'warm'. X"

This tribute was added by Jess Macpherson on 12th May 2016

"It is such a shock to know that you are gone Judith. It was a privilege to have been able to know such a brave, inspirational, positive, funny and generous person. Living on 'The Square' for 7 years meant we shared a lot of tea together and a lot of laughs! I am sat here at that same table where you were opposite me but now on the other side of the world and finding it hard to process your loss. Thank you for being in my life and sharing in the journey of parenthood and more. Your strength, spirit and love will live on in your precious family. We will miss you Judith and you will stay in our hearts. The Macpherson family send all our love to Steve, Alicia and Alex xx"

This tribute was added by Jayne Chester on 12th May 2016

"Judith Roberts is how I knew you thornclife comprehensive school in barrow. You made my transition from junior school high school a wonderful experience. I was the shy girl with glasses and no confidence Judith you helped me shine in my own way that only you could see. Thank you x I will always remember your amazing swimming ability, your smile and most of all your sense of fun xx

May your light shine bright and you be forever the twinkle in your children's eyes xx"

This tribute was added by martin slack on 12th May 2016

"Knew Judith from our time together at Barrow Sixth form. Remember her as a happy, outgoing, intelligent person and was so saddened to hear of her passing. Rest In Peace"

This tribute was added by Gwyneth Bethune on 12th May 2016

"I have known Judith since she was a "bump" her Mum and I were pregnant together.
She was always such a lovely girl. I am heartbroken for the whole family.
Keep happy memories of her. Gwyneth."

This tribute was added by Karen Roche on 12th May 2016

"I first knew Judith when she took up the post of deputy headteacher at Thamesbridge School in Reading. She was a breath of fresh air, with a 'can do' attitude and always a big smile. I was delighted to bump into her again at Bicester Community College and soon invited her to support Brakenhale School in the autumn of 2014. Judith made an impact very quickly as the staff responded to her positivity very well and she made an impact in the short time she was with us. She will be very fondly remembered. Thank you to those who have contributed photographs - I have enjoyed looking at them and seeing her spirit shine through. With sympathy and best wishes to Judith's family."

This tribute was added by dawn cox on 12th May 2016

"Judith looked after me when I became a governor at St Nicholas school. She showed me the ropes and we chatted for ages after meetings. I mentioned to her that I had sometimes thought of becoming a teacher. She took me seriously and began to encourage me to go for it. I was worried that I would need to do my maths GCSE and I was so scared of numbers! She reassured me and encouraged me every time she saw me, she even offered to help me. Eventually I took the plunge and passed my GCSE with flying colours. When I applied to Reading university for the PGCE she was one of my referees. She often asked how I was getting on and I loved being able to tell her that she had made a real difference to my life. I have been a primary school teacher for two years now and she was a really big part of this. I know I hadn't seen Judith face to face for a while but thought of her often. She really did change my life. Thank you. xx"

This tribute was added by Tony Rushworth on 12th May 2016

"Greatly missed by us all at Bicester Community College.  Brilliant memories of you and the support you gave all of our staff in especially difficult times.
It was a privilege to have known you."

This tribute was added by Lynne Pebworth on 12th May 2016

"You were such a fighter Judith. An inspiration to us all. Will miss you tremendously. Will make sure your spirit lives on x"

This tribute was added by Nina Hansell on 12th May 2016

This is your pin-up girl moment! Not that you needed any make-up. Your fun personality (and wicked sense of humour) shone through that lovely smile and twinkling eyes. I am proud to have been your friend and will always remain so. Much love xxx"

This tribute was added by Catherine Inwood on 12th May 2016

"The sparkle in your eyes, your quick wit and contagious laugh will all be remembered. Once upon a time you came to dinner as a friend of a friend and left, many bottles and laughs later, as a friend. I'm glad the past few months have been so full of happy memories for your family. Cx"

This tribute was added by Fiona Hanson on 12th May 2016

"To all of Ju's family - I have known Ju for the majority of my life, beginning at Sth Paul's CofE Primary School in Barrow. Ju and I swam together and trained under Howard Robinson, every Saturday morning at 8:30 we were in Abbey Baths, come rain or shine. We started with 10 lengths of backstroke, breaststroke and crawl, then went on to do 64 lengths, which was a mile. This we did a couple of nights a week also, fitting in Lifesaving on a Wednesday night! This wasn't all, we trained in Syncronised Swimming as well! God we were fit in those days! Ju and I used to go to the Olympic Chippy on Sat lunch after swimming for gravy and chips mmmm fab!

Ju and I shared a memorable birthday party when we were 11, held at St Paul's Scout Hall. Ju invited her friends from Thorncliffe School and I invited mine from St Bernard's (we went to different secondary schools). With my Mum and Dad and Ju's parents behind the serving hatch, handing out sandwiches, crisps and pop. Unfortunately the 2 schools didn't mix! My friends sat at one end of the room and Ju's sat at the other, never the twain shall meet! Only once did they get together which was when Ju and I danced in the middle of the room to Altered Images - Happy Birthday.

Ju was a lovely person, always happy, welcoming and open. What you saw was exactly what you got. I know Ann and Alyn were extremely proud of her (our Mother's worked together for a number of years). Although I did not know Steve and her children very well, I'm sure she was a great Wife and a fantastic Mother.

It is so sad to loose someone like Ju, especially at such an early age, hopefully those going forward will remember her with much love and affection, as I know I do.

Fiona  (nee Robertson)"

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