Kate as we remember her
Kate Dwyer
  • 64 years old
  • Date of birth: Oct 23, 1951
  • Place of birth:
    New Brunswick, New Jersey, United States
  • Date of passing: May 12, 2016
  • Place of passing:
    Oxford, Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
Kate had a wonderful life with wonderful family and friends. Please share your memories to help celebrate her life.

This memorial website was created in memory of our wonderful Kate.

Many people have sent very special condolence notes.  Please feel free to post those notes here as well so that we can share them, or to leave other notes.

We have posted a lot of pictures of Kate that we had digitized on Terence's computer. Please post your photos as well - try to indicate dates.  Brandon, Allegra and Terence will also be adding to this site over the next few weeks so please check back from time to time.

We are having a small service here in England.  We will arrange for a memorial in the US later this year.

In lieu of flowers, I know Kate would have deeply apppreciated gifts in her name to Barnard College (Class of 1973) in support of student scholarships.

We will remember her forever.  

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Corinne Smith on 11th November 2016

"I am very sorry not to be able to join Terence, Allegra and John, Brandon and Anita and other family and dear friends in person for the November 12 remembrance and celebration of Kate Dwyer’s extraordinary life.  I am now on a short assignment for the American Bar Association in Morocco, where Terence led the office. This is the third country or region where I have followed him, and/or Kate.
Here, as in Egypt and Central Asia, they and their family are fondly remembered.

The local staff and partners’ faces light up at the mention of Kate’s name, and everyone has a favorite story or adventure with her.  All of them revolve around her kindness and grace, and the remarkable love that she and Terence had for each other, their children and family and their many friends.

Kate was a creator and a pollinator and a cultivator. She was incredibly smart and generous, and just plain fun.  I first met Kate through work, and admired her energy, creativity, and ability to develop relationships and talent and community.  Working with human rights lawyers in Uzbekistan, mentoring our staff in Turkmenistan, encouraging law students and young lawyers and always finding ways to get things done, no matter the obstacles.  She had a million ideas.

I appreciated all those wonderful qualities in a different way after becoming her friend and seeing how she brought them to her personal life and home. I was lucky enough to join Kate and Terence for a spectacular vacation in Provence where they welcomed me into the mix of family and friends going back to Barnard days and earlier and every part of her life since then. Whether it was finding the perfect turquoise scarf, and selection of cheeses at a market in Provence, or sightseeing off the beaten path, Kate made everything an occasion to be celebrated. What a gift.  We missed her terribly this year in Padua, but it comforted all of us there – and we hope especially Terence and the family – to feel her spirit and imagine her with us at Palladian villas and sitting in the garden.

I think it was George Eliot who said that the darkest night the world has ever known did not put out the stars.  Kate, we wish we still had the light of your life physically with us, but you continue to shine.  Remembering our time together reminds us what is means to be a wonderful friend and a wonderful person who made everyone whose life she touched better in big ways and small.  Shine on, dear Kate."

This tribute was added by Bonnie Lee on 24th October 2016

"Kate, like Dawn said, we missed you greatly at Christine's wedding. They had such a beautiful tribute to you and Jim in her wedding program."

This tribute was added by Dawn Thrift on 24th October 2016

"Happy birthday Kate!  We missed you at Mike and Christine's wedding.  We all wish you were there to celebrate with them."

This tribute was added by Ghada Sorial on 24th October 2016

"Remembering you dearest on your birthday kindest and sweetest person you will always be in our thoughts and prayers

Ghada, Kamal, Joe and Jessy"

This tribute was added by Joy Fink on 23rd October 2016

"Kate. Your family misses you so. I know you are now their Gardian Angle and watching over. They remember you on your birthday wishing you could celebrate your day with them, but you are with them in their hearts. You are their special Angle."

This tribute was added by Kathy Gephart on 23rd October 2016

"May her memory be eternal."

This tribute was added by Leslie Manix on 23rd October 2016

"Remembering our dear Kate on her birthday, with loving memories of her and love and prayers to her family from the Manix family."

This tribute was added by Denis McLaughlin on 23rd October 2016

"May Kate be forever remembered for the beautiful person that she was and for the wonderful joy that she spread to her many, many grateful friends.

To Terrence and family from your old SHU friend,
Denis"

This tribute was added by Joy Fink on 8th September 2016

"Terry and family, you could have knocked me over with a feather at the class reunion when you told me about your beloved Kate. I remember when I first met her. You brought her to a Pgh. Symphony concert at S. Park High School when visiting your patients. I rember thinking how lucky you were to find such a sweet, beautiful woman. I would only see her when you were in town for reunions and could see the love you two had for each other. When I heard you were comming to the reunion and comming alone I thought she had something else to do that weekend but was totally shocked to find out why she wasn't there. I know all of you miss her so much. If it rains at Brandon's wedding don't get upset
It is only Kate shearing a year or two because she can not be with all of you but it also shows she is with you always. God bless you, your children and grandchildren. You are all in my prayers. Love Joy H Fink"

This tribute was added by Bonnie Lee on 27th July 2016

"Ah Kate, thinking of you. So many things you influenced. Not a day goes by without your touch."

This tribute was added by Leslie Manix on 29th June 2016

"I am getting such a happy, warm glow looking at these photos of the many years I've know you all.  I can't help but smile at the memories and send my love to Terry, Allegra and Brandon.

Les"

This tribute was added by Bonnie Lee on 13th June 2016

"Kate, again thinking of you. You are beautiful inside and out and I miss you. Thanks to everyone for adding more pictures."

This tribute was added by Janna Roop on 9th June 2016

"Dear Terence,
I have been at a loss for words since hearing the tragic news.  I met Kate my first day of college in 1969, and as you know, we participated in each other's weddings.  I am so sad that she is gone, and my heart goes out to you and Allegra and Brandon. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers often. Let us know when you are back in Michigan and open to a visit. With sympathy and love, Janna"

This tribute was added by Mary Greer on 7th June 2016

"Terence: Before I met Kate, and got to be around you two together,  I presumed that this inspiring, love filled relationship you two shared must be a second marriage for both of you-- I just remember being so touched by  the high level of affection and adoration you held for her.  Then I got to meet the delightful Kate, and could tell she shared the same enduring and tremendous level of affection and adoration for you, in return.  That love was and still  is infectious, and no question that those you have encountered (including me!) along the paths you have both walked, and in the countries you have visited and/or  lived,  are a  little more kind, a little more considerate, and a little more loving.  She leaves a legacy of justice (as do you!) all over the world, but its this amazing legacy of love and kindness--so present in you, and  in Allegra & Brandon and those adorable grand kids--that will also endure for a LONG LONG time.  Thanks for sharing that, and Kate, with us."

This tribute was added by Jacob Visscher on 5th June 2016

"Kati was an exceptional wife for you, Terence, an exceptional mother for you, Allegra & Brandon, and an exceptional friend for me.
I met Kati, as she introduced herself to me, in Amsterdam, in 1969, when I had just started studying there. We agreed to become pen pals. In 1971, I worked for Holland-America-Line and thus had the opportunity to visit her in NYC, where she studied at Columbia.
It was Kati who brought us all together. My sincere wish is that we continue the bond we have thanks to her. It would be a tribute to her and I think that's what she would have wanted.
Kati will be sorely missed by all of us, in the first place Terence, Allegra and Brandon, of course. Let us help each other come to terms with her loss, because we are all shattered.
Jaap"

This tribute was added by Madeleine Khalaf on 3rd June 2016

"Our Cairo Book Club was really appalled when one of the members informed us of the death of Kate. Our hearts go out to the whole family and friends.  We had the privilege of discussing books and in addition many other topics during our monthly book club meeting over a cup of coffee or tea with Kate.  In addition there were those of us who would get to see her with Clerence at the Opera.  It was only this past year that she left us to return to the States and now she has left us again. We are so sorry she has been robbed of more time with her children, grandchildren and spouse."

This tribute was added by Iyadh Abid on 1st June 2016

"I am appalled by this tragic news.

Kate was my director when I was working with ABA ROLI in Tunisia and she was a wonderful person. She was very supportive and encouraging to me for my career and my studies. She recommended me and advised me on my career and always had kind words for me.

We talked a lot and laughed often. We discussed about law, music, food and all sorts of things. Kate was more than a colleague, a friend.

I am sorry that we could not meet again although we tried. She called me soon after I arrived to the U.S. and was very kind as always.

I extend my most sincere condolences to her family."

This tribute was added by Jill Miller on 31st May 2016

"Tom, Allegra and Brandon, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Katie was such a warm and enthusiastic person and I loved talking and spending time with her.  Her warmth and energy could brighten a whole room and I feel so lucky to have had time to spend with her.  May you all find peace and comfort in the wonderful memories that she had created with you."

This tribute was added by Tamara Schneider on 27th May 2016

"We have such fond memories of a vital woman/family.
Such good neighbor(s) back in the day.
Our condolences.
Leon and Tamara Schneider"

This tribute was added by Ashley Kelmore on 27th May 2016

"Terence, Brandon and Allegra -

I feel so lucky that I had a chance to not only meet Kate but to spend some really wonderful times with her as I got to join you on your travels. She was such a special woman.

I'm thinking of you all and sending you love.

-Ashley"

This tribute was added by Marina Apostolou on 27th May 2016

"My most vivid memory of of Kate Dwyer is showing up on her doorstep after a camping trip, tired, and filthy.  I was meant to visit one of her children who had yet to arrive, but she welcomed me in, offered me food and company.  I was able to clean up, nap, and was given a book to read (which I still have).  Her kindness that day always stuck in my mind.  I don't think I had even met her before that day, but a friend of her kids was a friend of hers.  I am so sorry for the loss of her.  I know how much she meant to those she held dear."

This tribute was added by Mike Lawrence on 27th May 2016

"Terence,

I am so saddened and shocked to hear of Kate's passing.  Deanne and I have such fond memories of the two of you sharing information about your Fulbright and other experiences in China (Foreign Affairs University, International School of Beijing, etc.) with us before our own 6 month sojourn there with our own young family some years later.  Kate was so kind and generous on those and other occasions, and truly infectious with her inimitable enthusiasm.  The world has lost a bright light.

Deepest condolences to you and Allegra and Brandon.

With sympathy,
Mike"

This tribute was added by Donna James Isbir on 27th May 2016

"So sorry to hear of your loss. May you find some peace and comfort in your memories. Our prayers are with you thru this difficult time.
Love, Aunt Donna, Bill & Janna"

This tribute was added by Tzili Mor on 27th May 2016

"Kate was my welcome to Bishkek when I arrived there as a fresh-faced ABA CEELI liaison in 2003. And what a welcome it was; from her elaborate water purification ritual to the state of law school curriculum reform, to teaching me about hiring competent loyal staff. I'm forever indebted to her.
Years later she showed me the ruins of Tunis after inviting me to partake in her important work there. She knew how to live, and live it to the hilt. No one could tell a story with the drama and flair of Kate.
And Kate was dramatic in the best possible way."

This tribute was added by Yuan Kelly on 26th May 2016

"I met Kate only a few times and knew her as "Brandon's mom". The last time I talked to her was over Skype where she was showing me the family's Michigan house and I remember what a happy place it was--something that embodied family. Kate was an amazing woman - intelligent, driven, kind, funny. I remember her as such a put together woman able to put all of herself into family, travel, adventure, scholarship all at once and she is the kind of woman that I aspire to be. She is a role model. She is widely loved and will be deeply missed. She passed before it was her time but it is so evident that she lived a life saturated with love and experience.

Much love to the Blackburn-Dwyer family,
Yuanyuan"

This tribute was added by John Wefing on 26th May 2016

"I remember Kate so well from the time she was teaching at Seton Hall Law School.  She was so smart and articulate and seemed to be good at everything.  Her home was always beautifully appointed.  She and Terrance gave wonderful parties.  My wife and I were so disappointed when they moved from Montclair.
It seems impossible to believe that she is gone.  We were looking forward to them returning to the East and interacting with her again.  She will be missed by many.
John"

This tribute was added by Denis McLaughlin on 26th May 2016

"I will always remember Kate for her wonderful and sparkling personality, her glorious and fearless sense of adventure, and her loving devotion to her family. We are all diminished by her passing.  

To Terence, Allegra and Brandon, I am so very, very sorry.

Your old friend from Seton Hall,
Denis"

This tribute was added by Linda Blixt on 26th May 2016

"Kate, what a vibrant light to the world!  As a former nanny who knew the family nanny...(Linda Kalt) ...I can tell you I was able to share days with one of Kates most prized possessions...her children!   We always had so much fun.  Brandon and Allegra are a reflection of Kate and Terry and I know they will live on in their mom's memory with spirit and courage.   I remember the beautiful home they shared in Montclair.  At one point it was featured in a magazine with the kids baking cookies.   A sweet snapshot of the good old days and the memories that linger till we are all together again.   Rest in gentle peace, Kate Dwyer♡"

This tribute was added by Lisa Kane Brown on 26th May 2016

"I did not know Ms. Dwyer but I do know that she was a very special person because she raised such an amazing son. Please accept my deepest sympathies and I will continue to pray for your family. She will always be with you.

Lisa"

This tribute was added by Jessica Simpson-Cook on 26th May 2016

"After only meeting her once I am still so touched my her kindness wisdom and spirit. I know this is a difficult time but my deepest sympathies and empathy to th entire Blackburn-Dwyer family and friends.  Love Jessica."

This tribute was added by Tadas Klimas on 26th May 2016

"Kate was brilliant. Just brilliant. I asked for her comments during a lunch regarding a LLM (masters) program in EU Commercial Law that I was setting up. She set it up for me in the course of a few minutes. Such a brilliant performance - it warms the heart to remember. She was kind and smart and beautiful, and boy did she love Terence. It was a pleasure and a privilege to know her. And cool, too. Not only what she and Terence did (legal reform in the most difficult places), but her vacations were as interesting as can be. Was happy to share a couple with her and Terence. My condolences."

This tribute was added by Marcia Ley on 25th May 2016

"Such sad and terrible news. I feel so lucky to have gotten to know Kate from work in Egypt and around the world with ABA.  Warm, funny and told it like it is.  One truly unique, outgoing and strong woman.  She will be missed.
My heart goes out to Terrance and the family.  
Marcia"

This tribute was added by Janet Harvey-Clark on 25th May 2016

"Dear Dean Blackburn and family,

Kate's beauty, intelligence, kindness and love touched everyone who knew her. I am so grateful and honored to have known her, even if just a short while. Kate's spirit will live on in each of us, especially her wonderful family. My love to you.

Her smile radiates
A sunflower shining bright
Bringing joy to all"

This tribute was added by John Fornof on 24th May 2016

"Dear Terence, Brandon, and Allegra, May you experience the treasure of family and friends in this time of grief. Terence, your love for Kate and her love for you is an inspiration for all of us to take note, to savor each of our days as a gift. I appreciate how Kate loved and lived life. That's the way I want to live as well. Grace and peace to each one of you.

With love and prayers,
John"

This tribute was added by Ghada Sorial on 24th May 2016

"We had so happy and lovely memories together. Kate was such a kind and sweet person.
We will always love and remember you

Ghada, Kamal, Jessy and Joe"

This tribute was added by Natalie Gephart on 24th May 2016

"Our deepest sympathies.

-Scott Bonivich & Natalie Gephart"

This tribute was added by Theresa Allen on 23rd May 2016

"Terence,

My heart is with your and your family during this time.  I enjoyed knowing Kate when you were here at MSU Law.  She was an amazing woman and teacher!  She touched so many lives all over the world.

May God bless you and comfort you.  
Theresa Allen"

This tribute was added by Mahbuba Fidda on 23rd May 2016

"Dear Mr. Blackburn and Family.  I am deeply saddened by the tragic news. I am so sorry to hear about Kate death.  Remembering her wonderful and gentle soul will forever remain in our hearts.May she rest in peace!"

This tribute was added by LaRay Nagele on 23rd May 2016

"It is an understatement to merely write, "Kate is amazing". There are no words adequate enough to express what she meant to us. Kate gave me my first lesson in "Presentation is everything." I love how detailed she was when hosting parties. I love how she made everyone feel special. I love the countless hours she spent mentoring me on life, love, and adventure. I love how she could turn any mundane topic into something magnificent. I remember one afternoon, she and I spent hours chatting about her gorgeous silk scarf collection. I love her sense of humor and wit. She was absolutely stunning, inside and out. I will be forever grateful for knowing her. I can't believe she's gone. There is so much more I still need her to teach me. My only regret is not spending more time with her. She will always be in our hearts, and I will always remember her as a wonderful, sweet, breath of fresh air."

This tribute was added by Deana Hannah on 23rd May 2016

"Terry, you and Kate seemed to be the perfect match from the beginning. She helped to shape the strong, dedicated and adventurous man you are today and partnered with you to create an amazing life for your family. She clearly influenced you Allegra and Brandon to face life's challenges and opportunities with boldness, energy and fearlessness --yet to create and find joy in the small things of everyday life-- just as she did. She quickly became a faithful member of the Fornof Clan and we grieve with you. May you draw on her strength as you face the days ahead."

This tribute was added by BRUCE BEAN on 23rd May 2016

"Tragic news, Terence.  Our thoughts are with you.

On my first day in Michigan where my wife had just taken a position a Research Librarian at Michigan State Law School, I introduced myself to Kate Dwyer because her bio showed that she had spent time in the Former Soviet Union where we had just lived for eight years.  After a long, pleasant chat Kate said, you should meet the Dean.  She introduced me to Terence, not mentioning that she was married to him!  Terence recognized me from Columbia Law school decades earlier and asked if I would like to teach.
Terence, I am still having fun teaching at MSU Law 12 years later.  All thanks to Kate.  I shall never forget her and how she led me to this great career at MSU.

Again, our sincere condolences.

Bruce"

This tribute was added by David Risley on 22nd May 2016

"Eileen and I will always remember Kate with fondness and gratitude for her warmth, grace, and friendship. We enjoyed our times together with her and Terence. Two personalities that fit together so very well. Now, she has graduated from mortality. We look forward to getting caught up when we meet again. In the meantime, we will miss her, and we will continue to enjoy our association with our dear friend, her companion, Terence."

This tribute was added by Cynthia Soltan on 22nd May 2016

"I am so sad to learn of the passing of my beautiful flower-girl from my wedding in 1955. She was so beautiful then and became even more beautiful with a wonderful family. Please accept my condolences and love during this difficult time.

Love,

Cynthia Farrell Soltan"

This tribute was added by Kathy Gephart on 22nd May 2016

"Terence,Allegra,Brandon our sympathy to you. May you find peace and comfort in the wonderful memories of your wife and mother thru this tragic loss in your life. God Bless you all. Aunt Kathy and Uncle Duane"

This tribute was added by Toni Seth on 21st May 2016

"Terence,Allegra,Brandon
I just met Kate this
year and enjoyed every minute of it
She is truly a lovely lady. I am so very sorry for your loss
May she rest in peace"

This tribute was added by Tracy Kaye on 21st May 2016

"We cannot find the words to adequately describe how sorry we are for the Blackburn-Dwyer family loss and how sad we are to lose our dear friend Kate.  She has been our spectacular friend, as well as travel and dining companion for over 20 years.  The conversations, stories, debates and joyful adventures that we have shared will be forever cherished.  She was a generous spirit who enriched the lives of everyone she touched.  Love, Tracy and John"

This tribute was added by Kseniya Rijkova on 21st May 2016

"The shocking news has found me!!! I can not believe!!!! It's impossible to imagine!!! Katrine! Our dearest, wisest, kindest, so active, so clever, so alive is not with us any more! I have no words to describe all the depth of grief in my soul!!! How can it be? She always struggled for the justice, but the life has become so unjustful for her!!! And for all of us because of this tragedy!!!
We all love her and for al of us she is still alive and will be in our hearts and minds forever! RIP, our dear Katrine!!!"

This tribute was added by Leslie Manix on 21st May 2016

"Kate and I have been friends for 40 years.  She has always been a bright star in my life, full of happiness, good cheer, wisdom and wit.  She will always be in my heart and her smile in my lasting memory will always cause me to smile in kind.  Kate was a wonderful, loving sole and I shall miss her deeply.  Les"

This tribute was added by Alice Isbir on 21st May 2016

"I am so sorry for your loss.  You are in our thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.

Love,
Aunt Alice and Ron"

This tribute was added by Mike Isbir on 21st May 2016

"Our deepest sympathies, Mickey & Stella Isbir"

This tribute was added by Amel Jelassi on 21st May 2016

"There is no word that can express how sorry I am to hear about the death of our beloved Kate.I was very stunned to hear this news and still can't believe that it really happened and that she died so unexpectedly. Kate was a very thoughtful and wonderful person. I will never forget those great moments I had while she was here in Tunis. I will miss Kate, and I will cherish all the happy memories I had with her. During this difficult moment, my thoughts and prayers are always with you and please, be strong in these tough moments of your life. Please, accept my sincere and deepest condolences to you and to your family.

May Kate rest in peace,"

This tribute was added by Amel Jelassi on 21st May 2016

"Kate was a wonderful, a great Lady and my best friend! I will remember her forever. Kate was very elegant, kind, lovely, wholehearted, generous, unique and exceptional. In a word, she was a very sweet and an awesome great Lady."

This tribute was added by Marian Sabety on 21st May 2016

"I’ve been tossing and turning off & on since Friday, when I got the news.  It’s so incredibly sad—and—it’s such a violently wrong way for our dear friend to be snatched from us.  We were robbed from gently letting her slip her bounds, when she gave so much to those she befriended and served; and when she had turned her passion and energy into being a wonderful Grandmother and wife/companion after all those solo months in parts-unknown.  

Marian"


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