Kate introduced me to the love of movies (I grew up in a household that poo-poo'd movies), and had not seen more than 2 movies until I got to Barnard.  On the first dorm movie night, she announced that I must go with her--you'll love it........

With that, she turned me into a movie buff--though, nowhere close to her in breadth, in depth, and in scope.  When Tom and I saw Wait Until Dark 10 days ago, as part of a revisit to Audrey Hepburn movies, I pined for that evening, and all that followed with Kate.

My wife Rhona and I first met Terence and Kate in 1998 when Terence was teaching at China Foreign Affairs University as a Fulbright professor (I was a Fulbright scholar to the United States during 1995-1996). Allegra and Brandon stayed with their parents in Beijing at a university campus apartment near ours for a whole semester while Terence was teaching.

Our friendship started since then and after 1998 we met Kate and Terence at least twice in Beijing and once in the US at their home.  

Kate was such a nice person and we will always remember her.

Song 

On 26 April, visit to the Keukenhof, the Netherlands.

What I remember most about Kate was her presence... How the air shifted in a room in all the right ways when she entered. Such a dynamic and amazing personality, loving, funny, smart, and fearless. The world was a better place because she was in it.  

Allegra, Brandon, Mr. B - thinking of you every day and sending my love.

Mandy 

I was lucky enough to befriend Kate's daughter Allegra in graduate school. Allegra clearly inherited her mother's sense of adventure, and helped me access my own. Allegra and I went to Puerto Rico together (and stayed in a place her folks suggested) in 2004, and then I got to join Terrence, Kate, John and Allegra in Italy in summer 2005. I also had the opportunity to join the four of them in the Cotswolds in 2007.

But my most vivid memory memory of Kate, and one that makes me smile so much, is from Allegra and John's wedding. When storms rolled through the party moved inside, but the dancing continued, and Kate was out there, cutting the biggest of rugs. It was already such a pleasure to witness her joy at seeing John and Allegra get married; seeing how much fun she was having dancing it up was an utter delight. 

Hanging out with the Feds during the ABA ROLI Staff Retreat in March 2013.

Over the course of our last year at Barnard, Kate and I spent hours & hours both studying, and "hanging out".  She, ever the theatre/literature enthusiast and I, the outdoor hiker/explorer--an odd couple, to be sure.  Our dorm suite had 2 other gals who spent most of their time with their boyfriends in their rooms with the doors shut. But Kate and I would fix & share dinner often with Lucinda, and our beaus: Mike & Ter, squeezed into an efficiency kitchen corner like sardines.....then we would go squeeze into her room, til wee hours in the night.   Kate always figured out how to subcontract her dinner contribution to the Hungarian Pasty Shop, across from Saint John the Divine, but no one cared.  These were wonderful years, to be sure.

On Graduation Day, we committed to eachother to stay in-touch, cause that conversation that started the mid-70's hadn't ended yet!

God bless Kate for her love of presentation, so that get-togethers were made so-special.  Who can forget the musicales on the patio in Montclair, or the formal dinners with all matter of silver, or the matching salad plates that were perfect with a tablecloth, or what-not.  She made it all so just-so, and so lovely.   Recently, many of us remember Provence in Michigan, and the afternoon when Kate was flummoxed about "what entertainment shall we attend-or formulate that would be..." up to her sense of 'taste'.

The raucous group that we were pushed her to consider "an evening at the Spartan Speedway", which would entail no special dress code, no formality, no special preparation, absolutely no presentation, and certainly no decorum.  As she and I walked the 1/2 mile down the road to the Speedway that evening, I felt her sense of foreboding:  what kind of venue will this be?  What types of folks will mix with her collection of interesting friends?  How will this 'go down'....?

When drag racing began, there was Kate, in the middle of the laughter and cheering--filled with the delight of the moment.  She was such a gamer.

The evening after I moved into my dorm at Barnard in 1972, I introduced myself to Kate, my room-mate.  From that moment, the conversation began, and really never ended, whenever we were together.  For someone who grew up in a family that didn't encourage movie-going, or TV-watching, Kate was a sirene!   She opened up a world of entertainment to me, with her knowledge of and commentary on movies and movie-stars.......which then evolved to fighting to have her on my team when we played an early form of dorm-created "trivia".   

Marian 

February – May 2016

Kate and I always agreed not to defer the important things that we wanted to do, whether that was going off to other countries to work or study, or to travel together, or buying a special something or other, or – most recently – deciding to retire together so that we could fully enjoy a period of good health, making all our own life choices. 

Our first choice in this new phase of our life was to go off on another adventure, three months in Europe, with several periods of long stays, especially in the Cotswolds of England that we had come to love so much when we stayed there for two months in 2007. 

I teased that this was our second honeymoon in that we were going off to make a grand tour of Europe and learn to live together the way rich couples used to do.  Of course in truth we lived together wonderfully every day whether we were in different rooms or on different continents.  In Europe, we spent almost two full months with no adult company except each other – and quite truthfully loved every minute of it.  We talked all the time, we visited interesting places, we sat together doing projects (Terence compiling pictures and our travel blog and Kate working on her hobby of designing new house plans – she was working on a new concept of a multi-generational house, and could spend 4 or 5 hours at a time on such projects without even moving from her chair).

Before coming to the Cotswolds, we spent a week seeing family and friends in the US, several days in Philadelphia with Brandon and Anita, followed by two weeks with grandchildren Bennett and Sage while Allegra and John went on their own adventure.   Then we started our European adventure: a week and a half in Portugal, a few days in Bilbao, then Bordeaux, three weeks in a cottage in the Dordogne region of France (castles from the Hundred Years War, prehistoric cave paintings, French food and wine), then Brussels, the Keukenhof Tulip Gardens in the Netherlands, and Normandy to see the Bayeux tapestry and the beaches (Kate’s dad came ashore there as an officer of a truck transport unit that became the Red Ball Express). 

We came to England on May 1 to stay for three weeks in the same cottage that we had lived in during 2007 and shared with various family and friends.  We had memberships in the National Trust and the Royal Horticultural Society so that we could visit as many gardens and stately homes as we wanted.  Our first trip after we got here was to Kate’s favorite garden in the Cotswolds and second favorite in the whole world – Hidcote.  It was beautiful. 

We were living our lives fully the way we wanted to – there was just not enough time.