My Darling Mum
Kathleen (Kay) Clutson
  • 88 years old
  • Date of birth: Jan 17, 1925
  • Place of birth:
    Derry, Northern Ireland, United Kingdom
  • Date of passing: Aug 11, 2013
  • Place of passing:
    Reading, England, United Kingdom
Forever in our hearts. You enriched all those whose lives you touched. We will love and miss you always.xx

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Kathleen (Kay) Clutson, 88, born on January 17, 1925 and passed away on August 11, 2013. She was just a beautiful person in every way and we will love and miss her always. Every Xmas, every Birthday, every special event that she would have shared with us we will miss her and never a day will go by that we won't think of her.  She was the true meaning of the word Mum...xxxxxxx

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 15th November 2016

"Missing you today Mum so so much.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 11th August 2016

"3 years Mum, how did that happen?  Just sitting here thinking of you not that I don't think of you every day because I do but today it just hurts a little bit more as I hate the 11th of August it stole you my Mum, my best friend. I so miss you. I have so many things to tell you and I can't. I miss our daily chats well I just miss everything really. I hope you know how much I am grateful to you  for and how much I love you.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 17th January 2016

"Happy Birthday  my darling Mum. I haven't posted for a while not because I don't think of you as i do that every day  but sometimes  its just too sad to put my emotions  into words especially over Xmas. I miss you more and more it gets harder without you not easier there is just so much now you don't know or haven't been here to share. I love you and miss you deeply.xxxxxxxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 11th August 2015

"Getting through the day, you sent me the strength that was needed.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 11th August 2015

"I would just love a hug Mum, can't believe you have been gone 2 years. You would be so proud of everyone Dad is trying his best without you and Lisa does so much for him running him around everywhere.  I feel so guilty that I am not there for him being 2 hours away is hard.  Taylor and Jamie have grown up so much and there is so much I would love you to know...who knows maybe you do.  I love you and miss you every day.  You were the best Mum ever.xxx


Your Presence

I miss you Mum each and every day
but I don’t need to tell you this as you know it anyway.
You know that I still cry for you when driving in my car,
when laying in my bed at night or gazing at a star.
When shopping in the supermarket, or just sitting watching TV,
yes those tears just creep down my cheeks so unexpectedly.
But the reason I know you know this is I feel your presence by my side,
for I may not be able to see you Mum but from you I cannot hide.
When making a decision I hear your voice within my head,
whispering words of guidance like you always said.
Reaching out to me when I need a helping hand
and I know some of you won’t get this but others will understand.
It’s like you know when I am undecided or I don’t know what to do
then all of a sudden its clear, my minds made up when I think of you.
Your face comes into my head and then the problem just disappears,
for you have paid me a visit to take away my fears.
I sometimes smell your perfume and I know that this sounds mad
and maybe its just wishful thinking but it stops me feeling sad.
I gaze at your picture and I hear you asking ask me to step inside,
so we can have a chat like we used to and you can wipe the tears I have cried.
I just feel your presence Mum in everything I do
and maybe that is because I am not prepared to say Goodbye to you.
Or maybe there is another reason but that is one you will only get told
when God calls you to heaven and from there the earth you behold.
For who really knows what lies ahead and what our passed loved ones can see
so here is a message to you Mum that comes with love from me.
Thank you for all the memories which I will keep safe within my heart
And with them locked there forever we will never really be apart.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 10th August 2015

"My Darling Mum 2 years tomorrow since you left us.  Never a day goes by that I do not think of you.  I will miss you forever.  Little poem coming your way on here tomorrow.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 30th March 2015

"The sun is shining today Mum. Its the start of the kids Easter holidays...was thinking how you loved to bring chocs and pressies for the boys when they were at home.  I was thinking also off how you always bought me those toffee eggs when I was a kid as I loved them so...I miss you more with every passing day there is a part of me that always feels Ionely, I love you.xxx."

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 17th January 2015

"To my darling Mum on your 90th Birthday...what is there to say except Happy Birthday in heaven, I miss you more than words can say and think of you every day.  I have written a Birthday poem for you and will post later on here.  Love you always.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 14th December 2014

"Mum its nearly Xmas again and our second one without you, I miss you so much Mum, you were always there to help me through everything so I will never stop missing you. I never understood what the word loss meant until you left us.. I miss and love you so, so much.  You were the best Mum ever I will never get over losing you I will just hide it well.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 9th October 2014

"Hi Mum was sitting here having a coffee and just wanted to pick the phone up and have a chat like we used to...I miss you, I hide it well from my boys but when I am here by myself I still shed tears for you.  I know you wouldn't want me to be sad but its your fault for being such a great Mum.x Just rang Dad and he can't hear hardly at all on the phone bet your laughing up there at me trying to get him to understand what I am saying. He misses you so much too. Love you Mum.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 4th September 2014

"Hi Mum...September now and I miss you more than ever.  Little Jamie went back to school today..he is in year 5 now, you never even saw him start year 4..Taylor goes Tuesday and its his GCSE year..so sad you will never know how he gets on.. I just want you back Mum.  Love you.xx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 13th August 2014

"It was a year on Monday the 11th August a day etched in my memory and heart forever.  I miss you so much Mum, I will never get over your not being here to share my life...Love and Miss You Always.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 15th July 2014

"Hi Mum....I have been thinking of you so much, can't believe its now a year since I last saw you in Reading before you left us all.  A year how can that be, a year without you!  Its so hard Mum, I smile because I had you in my life for so long but because I had you so long it makes it so much harder to not have you here.  You were the best, the best Mum, the best listener and my best friend..I love you.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 16th June 2014

"Hi Mum...Just wanted you to know that a poem I wrote about and to you has been published. It is in a book called Candlelight Thoughts...here it is for you...

THANKFUL
A poem dedicated to my Mum (Kay Clutson) who passed away on 11 August 2013


I probably should have said it more,
but I hope you always knew,
that I was oh so thankful to have a Mum like you.

I thank you for the little things and for everything you did.
For holding my hand so tenderly when I was a small kid.
For tucking me into bed at night and teaching me right from wrong.
These are the things I will remember now you are gone.

I thank you for listening to me when I was feeling blue,
for a Mum makes everything better and
that was certainly true of you.

I thank you for giving me guidance.
I thank you for giving me love,
for that is the greatest gift you can give someone
and it is sent from God above.

I thank you for just being you and a truly wonderful friend,
for that is what you were Mum right until the end.
Someone I could confide in who knew my every thought,
who truly loved their daughter and that really can’t be taught.
For I could ask you anything, no matter what it may be,
and you always had the right answers to say right back to me.

So even though your not here with me I still talk to you every day
and I hope that you can hear me and will guide me on my way.
For I know that angels look down on us and I hope that you can see
that you being an angel is so very hard for me.
But amongst all the anguish and amongst all the pain,
I want you to know I am thankful Mum,
even though life will never be the same.....


Feel so proud that  words about you are here forever.  Love and Miss you so, so much.xx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 2nd June 2014

"It is your boy Taylor's 15th Birthday today, first one without his beloved Nan.  You loved him so much and I have cried so much today remembering all his lovely childhood days we shared with you.  You were the best Nan as you were the best Mum...I love and miss you with all my heart and no it doesn't get easier.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 7th May 2014

"Been thinking of you Mum....here is a little poem I wrote to let you know how we are all doing.  Love you.xxx

Gods Test.....

So its nearly 9 months now since you passed away
and so much has happened since then there is so much to say.
So I have decided to write this poem and send it to you above
and hope that you will hear it as its sent with so much love.
We are looking after Dad Mum but he misses you every day
as after 62 years together would it be any other way?
But although he is very lonely he is doing ok
and we are all going to lunch on his Birthday on the 10th of May.
As its the first one for a long time that you have not been by his side,
so it will be strange for us all but our feelings we must hide.
So your boy Taylor went to China how lucky was he?
It was one of the last things we told you of but the photos you will never see.
Jamie joined a football team and he is doing really well,
he has scored a few goals for them, oh Mum there is so much to tell.
You will remember that Martin changed his job just before you went away
he seems to be enjoying it and doesn’t drive so far each day.
Marie and Lisa look after Dad they take him wherever he needs to go
and you won’t believe he came to me for Xmas for a week you know!
Everyone does the best they can do, but we think of you every day,
And for me life is not the same since you passed away.
I just feel a little lost without you I have even gone to pick up the phone
And then I just remember that there is now only Dad at home.
I call him every day Mum just to make sure he is ok
but its not very easy as he is so deaf and can’t hear a word I say!
I know we used to laugh at this, for you were his ears,
and now its so frustrating Mum and I think of you and have tears.
But I don’t want you to worry Mum as we are all doing our very best
Its like God took you away from us and gave us all a huge test.
So there is only one thing left to tell you Mum so I am saying it very loud
I think that we have passed the test and you would be so very proud.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 7th April 2014

"Hi Mum...Well got through another milestone Mothers Day, how strange it was not having a Mum here to speak and say those words 'Happy Mothers Day' to..I said them to you though Mum I whispered them in the wind and hoped that they would reach you.  You were the best Mum ever and my missing you does not get easier it gets harder.  I still cry every day for you, I just would love a little chat..My days are just not the same.xxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 24th March 2014

"Not sure now whether I am leaving a tribute anymore or just find this a way of telling you things.  Taylor went off to Work Experience today...you should have seen him Mum all dressed up in a suit, you would have been so, so proud of as you called him 'your boy'.....Maybe you were with him taking that journey.  Its a hard week this week 'Mothers Day' coming up...bless you miss you more and more each day.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 11th March 2014

"Hi Mum its 7 months today and I am having a bad day.  I just so desperately want to talk to you, you my lovely Mum.  Jamie goes on his  little 3 day school trip that I told you about before you passed away.  I just know you would have been calling him today and telling him to have a lovely time...I hate not sharing anything with you anymore...we were such best friends.  Love you now and forever.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 6th March 2014

"Hi Mum...Well I came to see you at your resting place at the weekend.  Breaks my heart to go there but that is where you are now and its very hard.  We will get the grave looking nice as soon as we are able to plant it out.  Its nearly Spring and it will be 7 months soon since you left us all...I miss you so, so much and it is always harder when I have just been to Reading and to the house we all shared as I miss you being there.  I love and miss you with all my heart.  I am sorry if you see me crying often but I just can't help it...had you not been such a wonderful wonderful Mum then I am sure this would have been easier but you were and I thank you for that.  Love and Miss you every day.xxxxxxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 17th February 2014

"Mum we are all missing you so, so much...Dad is so very lonely without you and its so hard for me as I feel helpless and so far away.  I can hear you telling him off when he makes me sad..you so hated it when he used to make me feel bad about moving....I miss you and you will never know how much, what an incredible Mum you were...I just hope you knew how much I loved you and still do.  I miss telling you what the boys are doing..Taylor has a Work Experience Interview today and I know you would have been ringing him up and wishing him luck....thats it in tears again...Love you.xxxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 11th February 2014

"Love and miss you, so, so much, I can't believe its 6 months already since I last spoke with you, heard your voice and just had you here........I will never ever get over losing you Mum, I am trying so hard but you were such a huge part of my life it hurts so bad....xxx



6 months on and the pain does not subside
it is there with me every day and its hidden deep inside.
For you think you understand, but until it happens to you,
I am sorry to have to tell you, you haven’t got a clue!
For I really thought I understood before it happened to me,
but it is not how you imagine it is much worse you see.
You think you will get over it and carry on the same,
but every day there is with you that hidden hurt and pain.

For when you truly love someone and they are here no more,
a little piece of you dies with them and for this there is no cure.
For you cannot bring them back no matter how hard you try
And it is the little things that set you off and then you start to cry.
So I am making no apologies for the days when I may shed a little tear,
as its really so very hard for me as it hasn’t even been a year.

I know it may get easier but I also know it will never go away
As how do you get over someone that was there for you every day.
There is no replacement and I wouldn’t want there to be
for no one can replace my Mum and the love she gave to me.
So until we meet again Mum just know this,
I miss and love you so much and I am blowing you a kiss.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 28th January 2014

"So January is nearly over Mum and its been hard.  A New Year, My Birthday, Your Birthday...I miss you so deeply it hurts.  I cry every day, lots of these tears are when I am on my own!  I long to hear your voice and the thought of living the rest of my life and never seeing you again just breaks my heart.  Love you so, so much and miss you so, so much.xxxxxxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 17th January 2014

"Mum today is your Birthday and didn't know what to do so I wrote a poem for you.  I Love and Miss You so, so much.

......

So its your big day today and what do I do,
Never had the 17th of January without saying Happy Birthday to you.
So today will be no different I will whisper it and hope you hear,
But I hope you will forgive me if I shed a little tear.
For I can't give you a present and I can't give you a card,
I can just send you my love, oh Mum without you it's so hard!
I know that if you were here beside me just what you would say,
"Please don't cry Karen" and you would wipe my tears away.
So I will paint on a smile and try not to be sad
And think of all the wonderful Birthdays we shared that you had.
Then I will have some cake and raise a glass or two
And hope that in heaven you are doing it too.xxx"

This tribute was added by Lesley Shortland on 18th December 2013

"God bless you Kay,remember all the fun times we all had all those years ago,but never forgotten love Les x x x x"

This tribute was added by Hester Mcmahon on 18th December 2013

"What a lovely Memorial wall it's very touching and the music is so nice fitting in with it all  your Mum would be very proud of you I am sure.

Thinking of you & your Dad & family at this sad time xxx"

This tribute was added by allison Mallandain on 18th December 2013

"Kit  you are a lovely lady and I have many fond memories of you espically when I was younger when we used to visit nearly every weekend. When we used to go the the post office club and burghfield club on boxing day where you used to have a drink & dance with my mumand the laughs we had in your garden espically roy chasing us round that tree. Hope you have a lovely xmas up there looking down on your family & friends stressing out. Xxxxxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 18th December 2013

"So it’s nearly Xmas and what do I do,
how do I get a Xmas gift up to heaven to you?
What can I send you? How will I get it there?
Oh Mum this really is so hard and so not fair.
Then it comes to me, within a blinking of an eye,
must not think of it too long for I will start to cry.
I am going to send you a package Mum via a beautiful white dove,
and it’s going to soar high to heaven Mum to you right up above.

Be careful with the package Mum as it’s been sent a very long way,
to wish you a Merry Xmas up in Heaven today.
It is tied with lots of ribbon but it is very, very, light,
but it is all that I could think of Mum and it just seems so right.
So go ahead and open it and then you will see,
that the package is filled with love and kisses
and the biggest hug from me.
For it’s the the only present I want to give you,
and I hope it makes you smile
But if you want to send me a gift back Mum
all I want is you back for a while.

So if you get a chance Mum just ask God this.
if you could just pop back and say thanks,
for that would be my greatest wish.
For Xmas is not the same Mum and I guess it will never be,
as there is no present from you underneath my Christmas tree.
So just a fleeting visit to see and hug you just once more,
as that would be the best Christmas gift I could have this year for sure.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 28th October 2013

"11weeks gone Mum and not a day that I do not think about you, long to have a catch up with you and tell you what's been happening here with me Martin and the boys.  I cry for you but I know that you would not want this but its so hard, its hard because you were just the best Mum anyone could ever wish for and waking up every day with ut you here is like waking up without the sky.xxx"

This tribute was added by Karen Bernard on 10th September 2013

"Words are not enough..She was just special.  A Wife to my Dad Roy for 62 years and a loving, caring Mother.   She would light up a room with her laughter and her smile.  She would feed you until you burst, something we all laugh about...She was just as the song says "Simply The Best"....We all miss you so much.  Love you Always Mum.  Karenxxxxxxxxx"


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