- 88 years old
- Date of birth: Feb 28, 1925
- Date of passing: Feb 9, 2014
|Let the memory of Lavern be with us forever|
"The Thing Is
By Ellen Bass
The thing is
To love life
To love it even when you have no
Stomach for it, when everything you’ve held
Dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands
And your throat is filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you so heavily
It is like heat, tropical, moist
Thickening the air so it’s heavy like water
More fit for gills than lungs.
When grief weights you like your own flesh
Only more of it, an obesity of grief.
How long can a body withstand this, you think.
And yet you hold life like a face between your palms,
A plain face, with no charming smile
Or twinkle in her eye,
And you say, yes, I will take you
I will love you, again."
"Well, mom. I made it through my first christmas without you. It was not a pleasant journey, but I made it to this side of christmas. I love you and miss you so much."
"I cannot believe you have been gone 6 months. I still miss you every day. I love you, mom!"
"37 years ago on 7/7/77 Mom, Becki and I went to Lake Tahoe and had an amazing time! We had so much fun! and we always loved that we were there 7/7/77 through 7/11/77 --
I miss not being able to talk about it with you - as we did every year! I miss you every day."
"I can no longer see you with my eyes,
touch you with my hands,
but I will feel you in my heart
"Remembering so many mother's days celebrated with laughter and joy. I miss mom every day, but some days hurt more than others."
"Thinking of Mom especially on this day which would have been her 89th birthday, and remembering all the fun birthday celebrations we enjoyed over the years. The year after Mom moved to Mountain View we made a road trip to Hot Springs Village to visit her house there and on the way we spent the night at a motel in Morrilton to watch the Oscars. We had drinks and brownies!!"
"Becki and Bonnie,
It was a pleasure taking care of your mom in the hosptial. She is will be dearly missed. I will always remember her qwerky smile and sense of humor. She was such a joy to be around. You are in my prayers and thoughts. May you find peace in this hard time."
"Bonnie and Becki.....the photos are wonderful and will always remind you of your Mom.
I am celebrating Lavern's long life because she left 2 wonderful daughters to continue her spirit and her life. When Andre and I lost our Moms in 2012, we knew that we would "carry on" without them, but never forgetting who they were and their influences on our lives. Our tears still come, but not as often. Our thoughts of our Moms will never fade and we think about them every day.
We hope that both of you will smile and think about your Mom the same way we think about ours....with much love and affection.
We are here for both of you.....
Annis and Andre"
"Bonnie-What a loss this is for you and your sister. Be happy knowing that she lived a rich and full life full of her family's love. The photo "album" is great -- I feel like it's an insight into your mom! And, you look just like her…Fondest regards."
"Dear Bonnie and Becki,
Sorry for you loss. The pictures of your mom and family over the years show love, laughter, and joy. Many good memories to fill your heart. My prayers are with you."
"Love you Mom. Remembering just a week ago."
"So sorry for your loss. Evie Evatt told us about it. We met Laverne and Ollie when we moved to HSV in 1998. The Evatts introduced us right away and we were all part of a circle of friends enjoying doing things together. Many Happy memories! Hal and Virginia Poston"
"Your mom is so lucky to have 2 wonderful daughters who cared for her and loved her so much. I know that you will miss her terribly, but just knowing that she is now in a more comfortable, happy and peaceful place will give you that peace of mind that you both need at the moment."
"Becki & Bonnie,
My brother, Don Lewis, and I enjoyed the albumn of photos, especially those in the Jackson area. I remember you two and Sharon at Nell's. Don remembers playing there when you would visit. Laverne looks very happy in the photos. Accept our sincere sympathies. Stay in touch: Don Lewis, 12918 Hway C. Frohna, MO 63748"
"Hi, Becki & Bonnie.........I'm Glenda & David Gohn's daughter. I'm not sure if you remember me, but I just wanna let you know how very sorry I am for your loss. Laverne & Ollie, the Roths, the Creightons, & my parents spent alot of time together, over the years, & I just remember lots and lots of laughs!! I also have a very clear memory of when I lived in Winter Haven, FL, going to visit Laverne & Ollie in their beautiful home in Haines City. They were such a bubbly, fun couple! My parents are still going to Winter Haven, every Winter. Dad's turning 83, today (Valentine's Day), & Mom's 83. I spoke to both of them, today, & told them about Laverne & they were so very saddened to hear this. Please know our deepest thoughts & prayers are with you!"
"I am so glad Gene Heath and I drove up from HSV to visit Lavern and take her to early dinner in November. We enjoyed our visit so much.
We extend our sympathy to Lavern's family and friends, she was such
a nice lady and will be missed by all."
"Laverne, Ollie, my husband, Paul, and I became friends through the Haines City Community Theatre. I was directing for them and Ollie had volunteered to build sets. From then on the four of us became close friends, with Paul and Laverne (Neither of whom had any real interest in the process of putting on a show.) cheering us on from the sidelines. Finally Laverne started to help dress the sets -- she loved the idea that it was "interior decorating"! Between Laverne and Ollie, HCCT had the best sets in the county! The four of us played cards, watched a shuttle take off, played with recipes, and generally had some really great times.
Laverne sent the best e-mails -- our method of keeping in touch after they moved to Arkansas and we moved back to Michigan. I shall miss her great sense of humor and kind spirit.
Thank you for contacting me, Connie"
"Dear Bonnie & Becki,
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. I had a nice talk with her during
the Christmas holidays. Lavern & Ollie were wonderful neighbors in Hot Springs Village, lots of good memories. Much Love to the two of you
and your families."
"Looking through this memorial gave me a sense of your Mother's full and joyful life.What a wonderful tribute.I am so sorry for your loss."
"Sorry so about your loss. It's really such a tough time in our lives when we lose our moms. I love the pics of your family over the years. I see a lot of love there, a mom and her beautiful daughters."
"Bonnie and Becky:
Your mom was the best friend I ever had. No one will ever know how much I loved her. We shared so many secrets over our 40 year friendship and never had a disagreement. I will miss knowing that she was always there for me. Love, Billie Roth"
"Becki and Bonnie, so sorry for your loss. It is nice that she had a full and long life. I am sure she is resting in peace, or.... maybe kicking up her heels in heaven, enjoying no more arthritis. I like to think of my parents as being in a happier place than in 85 to 95 year old bodies! Great pictures, so enjoyed looking at them. Let's get together soon."
"So sorry for your loss. Your last few years w/your mom so close were precious to her and to you, I'm sure. Now she's flown. Carry your memories and her spirit in your heart. Peace to you, Bonnie and Dave."
"A candle to light the way to her next journey. A prayer of understanding and comfort for her girls."
"Becky and Bonnie , I just want to let you know it was a pleasure getting to care for your mother. She was great fun to be around and her heart for you girls "fussing" over her was true to her nature. She loved your husbands they were so good to her as well. She will be truly missed by me. My Prayers are with your family."
"Becki and Bonnie, I didn't know your mom well - just remembering her when a bunch of us used your basement (and Becki's significant art talent) to make campaign posters for a student body president campaign. I think I remember her in a different house north of town as well. Memory fades. I truly hope yours don't. It is so good to reconnect. Moms are so special, and I'm so sorry for your loss. Love and Light to you and yours..."
"Becki & Bonnie...it was so good to see these pictures with you and your mom "back in the day." Words are simply insufficient to convey what we all know and feel about the passing of our moms. Sending lots of love and sharing your loss."
"A full life lived, raising wonderful children, one of whom is my friend."
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