Festivus and Mom
The timing of Festivus vis-a-vis Mom’s birthday got me to thinking. And I admit up front I am not well versed on the ins and outs of Festivus (for which I don’t apologize). But the contrasts between a faithful Festivus celebrant and Mom’s life couldn’t be more stark.
First of all, with Mom there was no “rest of us.” And certainly there was no in-group Mom ever looked at with resentment. There were only people, made in God’s image, for whom a kind gesture was always in order. On more than one occasion, while out to dinner with Mom, she would not only pay for us (something she insisted on), but would pay for another table. One Christmas it was a family of a deployed serviceman with several young children in tow. While it created a headache for the restaurant to undo a credit card charge and redo it on her card, it was something she HAD to do. And she wanted no kudos or attention. She would probably not like me telling this story today, but it’s too late: she has already been seen and rewarded for it by her Heavenly Father.
As for the annual “airing of grievances,” forget it. Mom gave no place to the airing of grievances, most certainly not storing a year’s worth of resentment and unleashing it on her “holiday guests.” And Lord knows (in human terms) she could have justified letting go with a lot of grievances. If Mom had had anything to do with the creation of Festivus, there would be an “airing of gratitude.” A time in which each of us would solemnly thank God for each act of kindness and ensure that “auld acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind.”
Lastly, Mom would not be enticed into any “feats of strength” activity because she knew the sole Source of her strength was in the One who saved us and sustains us. Instead of boasting about any strength within her she would deflect any such boast to the Lord. (It should be noted that we can comment on her strength and her spirit in boastful terms, be correct in our assessment and there’s nothing she can do about it!)
So if you are currently installing the Festivus Pole for your celebration, no judgment from m. But the coincidence of this “holiday” and Mom’s birthday should also cause us to take a moment to adjust the Festivus “traditions” into something that honors one another and mostly our Heavenly Father. And in so doing we would honor Mom as well.