- 85 years old
- Date of birth: Jan 27, 1928
- Date of passing: Jan 1, 2014
|The mountains are calling and I must go. ~ John Muir|
On January 1st, 2014, our loving mother and wife, Lori Pfanstiehl Ives, passed away in her sleep from complications of a stroke and congestive heart failure. She lived a full life and we are blessed and honored to have been a part of it. A professional musician (violist), mother, teacher, philanthropist, and volunteer, she touched so many people within her own community, in and around Southern California and further reaches.
We have set up this site in hopes of connecting with all her dear friends and family around the globe. We would like you to leave a word, a sentence, a paragraph or whatever you feel you can and want to say here on this website as a way of letting us, her, and others know how she left an impression upon your life. Mom always had such a great way with words in addition to being a wonderful story teller. We are sure she is reading down upon this site and feeling your love, warmth and emotions, embracing your kind words and solace.
Born the youngest of four children in Highland Park, Illinois on January 27th, 1928. A day she would proudly tell you she shared with one of her favorite composers, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, just a mere 172 years apart. She was apparently destined for the finer arts. She loved music and learned to play the viola and piano at a young age, setting in motion her life path. She attended the Sorbonne University Paris to pursue her passion of classical music, later becoming a proud member of many performing groups throughout the Southern California area. She performed with several local Symphony’s and Orchestras for dozens of years and was host to many a packed in-house concert at her own home in Claremont.
After moving to Claremont to be closer to her mother and to further her education, she attended Harvey Mudd College where she became the second woman to graduate from HMC. She was smitten with a certain professor by the name of Robin Ives, and soon after her graduation they made it permanent and public when they married on June 7th, 1961. Three years later they adopted a son, James, and ten months after that a daughter, Alice, giving her the family life she always longed for. They spent many a summer hiking, camping and leading their friends and family towards the mountains, sharing its pure beauty and their strong passion for protecting this environment.
Lori started a nonprofit publishing business, Ives Community Office, which she ran out of her converted garage. She put many dedicated hours into helping others with mailings, newsletters and assorted publications. A business that grew out of a passion for giving back to the community and helping organizations she held near and dear to her heart.
She was tremendously inspirational in our lives and a positive role model for so many of her colleagues. She truly cared for those she met. Lori was a vibrant lady and always the life of the party. She shared many fond memories of you, her friends, with us and we hope you continue to hold her memory in your hearts as she will forever be etched in ours. Please take a moment to reflect on how Lori has touched your life as well.
Peace to you all and thank you for being a continued part of her life.
Here we love and honor her name, Lori… Mom, Wife, Friend.
"Lori was such a kind, intelligent and fully alive person. I met her through the Sierra Club when I was going through a difficult time, ending a career that I had thought I had always wanted and trying to find out what I really wanted to do. I answered an ad for editor and writer in the Sierra Club Baldy Group's Newsletter, "The Eagle," which Lori created out of the Ives Community Office. Lori had placed that ad because, she as she said told me, she could put the Eagle together but her forte was not writing. I spent many a night dropping off a disk with a rough draft of "The Eagle" and watching Lori work her magic on the computer, using WordPerfect to make "The Eagle" fly! I felt so comfortable with her and we had many conversations about things other than the Sierra Club, such as her beloved music, stories about her and Robin's mountain trips and even anecdotes about raising her children with her beloved Robin, whom she was still in love with after so many years (and vice versa.) She told me once she wanted to go first because she wouldn't know how to live without him. Lori got her wish. She will always have a special place in my heart."
"Lori was one of the very first people I met upon moving to California. She and her family gave me ride to an orchestra gig in a Volvo station wagon with two fairly young kids riding in the "playroom." This began about 30 years of carpooling, chamber music, and assorted other shared activities. She was a very generous person, with the non-profit Ives Community Office as a shining example. I was lucky to be one of the many people she introduced to chamber music, and to viola. If it was chamber music with a viola included, she had it in her incredible trove of music! She was one of a kind, and is sorely missed."
"I first met Lori at the San Diego Chamber Music Workshop at Scripps College, Claremont about 10 years ago. We were put into the same group together at a Santa Barbara Chamber Music Society weekend workshop and I found Lori's musical vitality so inspiring - I hope that I get to enjoy as many years packed with wonderful music making as she did."
"I met Lori when I moved to Los Angeles 22 years ago and began attending chamber music workshops and Tuesday Musicale. Lori was a wonderful friend, a musical companion who really knew the literature, a splendid violist. Not only was she helpful to the Sierra Club over the years, but she developed Tuesday Musicale's first Web site. She was generous with her time, her home, and her talent. I miss her greatly."
""I had the good fortune and privilege for many years to play chamber music with Lori. She was a great musical companion and a treasured friend. She was totally dedicated to every musical project in which we participated and she cared about what we played and how we played it. I will miss my dear, kind friend very much." Margie Fain"
"My dear friend and musical collaborator Laury Ives was a generous and compassionate woman who reached out to me when I was starting to get serious about chamber music but couldn't play a lick. She and I played together many times and every time I played better because of her. One outstanding memory: I had performed a Mozart piano concerto and wanted to do it again. Laury volunteered her home and found all the musicians necessary to comprise the orchestra, found a conductor and arranged for an all-Mozart program with three soloists, including me. That is friendship to the tenth power. God bless you, Laury for all the wonderful times playing music with you."
"I met Lori at California Chamber Music Institute where she kindly directed and supported me, a newbie chamber musician, through a first experience with Mozart string quartets. She was a wonderful mentor, helpful and supportive, but so knowledgeable and definite -- I learned so much! Thank you, Lori"
"I met Lori in Louis Kievman's master classes; I think it was in 1977. Such a warm spirit! I was always impressed that she got to call Mr. Kievman "Lou," and that she was able to play unflustered in front of him. How she loved the viola! Later, I enjoyed playing with her in Rio Hondo Symphony and at the San Diego Chamber Music Workshop.
One more thing: I loved when she told stories about Mr. Ives. She spoke of him so fondly, and I was pleased to finally meet him a few years ago at a Mt. SAC performance of a Durufle trio I played in.
Love to you and your family, Lori!"
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