It's been 3 years now. We miss you almost every moment when we get together at dinner table; when we talk about China and the US; when we recall how we met and the enjoyment of working at AT&T; when we have computer questions but are unable to get a quick answer; when we talk about cars and other mechanical gadgets...

I guess those moments will keep visiting us forever.

Dear Daddy, I really miss you! I wish you were here during my graduation in May, to see me off to Taiwan in a few days, and to go to my white coat ceremony next year. I know you would be so proud to see me start my MD/PhD program at Harvard!

Mom and I are doing better now so don’t worry about us. We still do miss you terribly every day. A few days ago, I put up the car sticker for medical school next to the one you put for Yale five years ago. I couldn’t quite figure out how you fixed yours inside the car window, but I did my best. You would have been so happy to put it up and would have done a much better job. This is just one small instance of many instances where I try my best to fill in the roles you left behind. But sometimes I know, I’ll never live up to everything you were to us.

It’s been almost three years since you’ve been gone. I will forever treasure the memories of us - in the long car rides back from art class, eating sunflower seeds together after dinner, at the top of the Grand Canyon on our summer family vacation to California. There is not a single day that goes by I do not think of you. For everything I do and experience, I wonder if you’d be happy, proud, or disappointed. You and the memories of you will forever live in my heart.

I will always remember your lessons and teachings in every step of my future life and career - to be dedicated, always caring, and reliable. I will do my best to be the daughter you always hoped I would be. I love you and miss you so very much!

Dear Jerry,
You've departed from us about 2 years already that I'm really surprised how time flies.
Whenever I'm working on a project at home, big or small, I can't help thinking about you as we talked about some renovation that we planned to work on and exchanged notes on details. It was fun, wasn't it. But the discussion is history now and the enjoyment will probably never come back...
Sooner or later we will meet, in the world that you stepped in ahead of me. Hopefully it wouldn't be too hard to find you so we could carry on with our discussion, as well as our enjoyment interrupted.
We all miss you!
Lao Zhang

建军同学离开我们一年过去了，每念及此，黯然神伤。再读勇同学当时写的挽联，未完，泪水已模糊双眼。
    一年了，过得还好吗？深秋冷月枫叶犹泣，万里云空鹤自飞离。时光带不走思念，过去的一切永远在我们心中。你在那里也要好好的。
   小青保重，同学们都挂念你。

You’ve already left us for one year, but to me it seems like a hundred years. I firmly believe that you are now in another world. My dear, is everything fine with you? Are you thinking of us in that other world the way we think about you daily?

We had promised years ago to walk hand in hand through old age to the end. But heaven’s plans don’t always follow our plans, and you took a step further. Even though I ask the heavens every moment why, I am still thankful for the God-given chance to meet, to love each other, and to live together for 27 beautiful years. I am also thankful you gave me our daughter, who I know I can rely on after your passing.

The days without you will never be the same as before: beautiful and simple. Even though the days are now full of struggles, I am thankful that you taught our daughter and me the skills to live independently. Without you, our daughter and I will still strive to endure and to move forward, step by step, day by day.

We love you and miss you dearly, my loving husband Jianjun!

Jianjun has touched lives of many of his friends. To share this touching video with his family and friends:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dn8Ra0kEfFo

挚友建军千古

悲厚德慎行恭谦君子忍西去
祈高风睿智温良楷模益后来

              沈康 陳琳 劉恒中 呂玲 滕彬 倪惠敏 楊春詠 鄧鍾 痛挽

马兄,
我们是初中同学,安大校友及科大校友。我们现在又居同一州。今晚为你在通往天堂的路上点亮了蜡烛为你再送一程。
安息吧。

许燕

我们的好同学建军兄千古

寒窗苦读铸科技精英足亚欧美 痛今日流云不再，
宽厚待人成智者风范行忠义善 幸未来精神相随。
                
                合肥三中七九届初三五班全体同学敬挽。

时时孝敬父母关心兄嫂情深义重
处处体贴妻儿为家献身大爱永存

-------爸爸妈妈悲挽

真不敢相信这是事实，也不愿相信这是事实。我的心情很沉重，无法用语言表达心中的悲痛。
我和范青相识于南大，那时就已认识马建军，至今已25年。上次给范青打电话，还听到他的声音，没想到竟成永别。
愿马建军一路走好，为他祈祷！
范青，你一定要坚强！保重！！！

阿香

建军老弟，噩耗传来时，简直不能相信你的离去是真的：几天前还邀你和范青聚会。想不到再也没有这样的机会了。
我们相识已有近15年了。如果让我用简短的几句话总结我了解的你，那就是：诚恳，朴实，认真，勤奋，有求必应，聪明睿智。中国传统知识分子的美德在你身上有了极好的体现。有你这样的朋友的确很幸运。想到我们在一起谈人生，谈事业，谈祖国的发展，也谈“美国梦”已成历史，不禁潸然泪下。世上真的有天堂吗？
老张/黎玥

I had the privilege of working with Jianjun (Jay) for approximately the past 8 years. I will miss his smile every morning with his "Heeeey Scott!" greeting. Jay was always positive and a very proud husband and father. I always looked forward to our discussions about family and hobbies. My thoughts go out to Qing and Chanthia for your loss.

I worked with Jay for the last several years. He was a great developer. He was always very helpful and a very kind person. I will miss him and always remember him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

Varsha.

建军，我的兄弟，我的朋友，我的校友，还记得1998年我们初次见面，还记得2000年你帮我搬家，还记得在NJIT你我一起畅谈人生，还记得在相识十几年里你我互相关心和帮助。有你这样的朋友，我感到无比荣幸。我的兄弟，一路走好。
宁华

怀念弟弟
弟弟原名江平。我出生在长江南岸的芜湖故叫江南。弟弟名字来历可能和妈妈曾在淮委搞过水利有关，江河水位低了会干旱，水位高了会洪涝，所以就起名江平。江河浩瀚，波澜不惊，平平安安，是好名字。也确实，弟弟生于1963年，国家和小家都好了起来，全家老小都讲弟弟有福。后来在祖国山河一片红的时代，因弟弟生日在8月1日解放军建军节，就改名建军，但我们家人们还一直叫他江平或小平子。
还记得我们大概有一年时间在同一间幼儿园，外公送我们一起上学下学。有时我们俩也自己回家，我就要格外小心看住弟弟别乱跑，总是拉的紧紧的。
中学毕业后我到外地上学、工作，基本就是一年回家一两次，他都会积极张罗全家照相。记得九几年春节回家，圆圆很小，范青带圆圆晚上住爸妈处，弟弟和我去他们的新房，一个节日天天都是抵足而眠，那时总觉得未来的可能很多，相聚的机会也多的是。
后来弟弟到美国，一别就是十几年。我们也算劳燕分飞，只是飞的太远太久。但是对未来从来都没有悲观。半月之前，红梅和我还在合计早点退休，伴上弟弟全家，好好开始人生的下半场。
弟弟突然走了，至今我还没觉得是真的。电子邮箱里还有他的邮件没回复，手机微信里他的“天行健”还有留言。2003年，我出意外，割断了4根手指筋腱，做了三次连接手术，虽说十指连心却未觉得疼。今天才知道割断手足之情的疼痛。
虽然51年远不够长，但我仍要感谢上苍，让我感受到亲亲的兄弟情缘；
虽然51年离多聚少，但我仍要感谢上苍，让我们在一起的每天都很美好；
虽然51年怦然断裂，但我仍要感谢上苍，让2014春节大雪留人，我和红梅放弃出行计划，所有时间都与他和范青一起聚在他最喜欢的、精心打理的家里……
他是中秋节前两天走的。原来定好爸妈来北京，中秋晚一起通电话传微信，爸妈来了，但他却走了。中秋之夜，我与红梅含泪悲悼：
今宵未圆中秋夜，
来世再续兄弟缘。
哥哥江南

相识十几年，我们一起见证了彼此从无到有的艰辛和两个家庭的蜕变，成长，我们很敬佩你对生活的执著和对家庭的无私付出。在经历了失去至亲的痛苦之后，你的骤然离去更让我们不舍和悲伤。愿我们爱过的人在天国也会相聚，好好照拂吧。一路走好！

--宁华，越峰

It came with a shock when Qing told me the sad news. I and my family have known Jianjun and his family for several years through their daughter Chantia when she moved in Randolph at Fernbrook elementary school in the second grade with my daughter Joanna. Joanna hit it off with Chantia and became her best friend. Joanna told me that there was a new Chinese girl in her class who was very bright and well advanced in math. Since then they spent many times together in parties, sleeping over and Chinese weekend school. I started to know Jianjun a little bit more as time goes by. My first impression is that he was nice, humble man. He was quiet and friendly and worked very hard for a better life. He and his family went through all the struggles as the first generation immigrants we all did in the process. I witnessed all the progress through him and his family. He lived in Randolph for about 5 years in an apartment near Chantia’s school. With a high expectation on his daughter, they moved to another town with better education and high standard. As expected, Chiantia excelled in the top school through her strong motivation and competence. Not satisfied yet, Jianjun and his family made another move to the Short Hills, which is the top town with a school system ranked on the top of New Jersey. As usually, Chiantia took the challenge and adapted well in the ultra-competitive environment. Chantia became a star and went on to Yale for the college. Through the growth of his daughter, I see the Jianjun and his family the desire for better life and the high expectation for the next generation. I witnessed his struggle in the beginning, progress made and a bright future when they finally settled down in Morristown. I salute him for the tremendous sacrifices he made to pave the foundation and the opportunities for his daughter to prosper. When I walked with my wife in Morristown, we sometimes commented that Jianjun and his family should be very happy now as they had a stable job with an aspiring daughter. Everything works out just perfect. I even anticipate visiting his new home in Morristown.
Jianjun didn’t talk a lot even we spent time together. His action spoke louder than his words. In a way, he exemplifies a Chinese father who would scarifice everything for his lovely daughter. With that he should rest assured and happy for the achievement by Chantia. I am sure Chantia will forever appreciate and remember his lovely father for what he has done in his whole life.
May Jianjun rest in peace.

Don and Linda, your friends at Randolph

Jay (Jerry) and I worked together for several years at the same company, until 2008. I considered him a very good friend. We talked regularly about work, and life in general. He was a great listener who responded thoughtfully. He frequently reached out to me even after he left our company, with holiday greetings and sharing and inquiring about family. Jerry was a very kind and considerate man. I can still visualize his consistent smiling face. I will miss his frequent contacts and sincere exchanges. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. May he rest in peace.

建军，昨晚在合肥的初中和高中同学为你聚行了烛光悼念晚会，看见了吗？
https://vimeo.com/106560627

建军，

获悉你的突然离去，我们无法用言语表达心中的悲痛。

相识十多年，我们从同事到家庭朋友。工作、家庭和孩子，都曾是聊不完的话题。你总是那么地温文儒雅，那么地厚宽善良，那么地阳光热情。有你这位谦谦君子做朋友，我们很荣幸。

亲爱的朋友，愿你一路走好，我们会永远怀念你！

吕玲，恒中

马建军和我都来自合肥，一个多月前在朋友家聚会上，我们还畅谈他今年夏天的西部游，孰料一个多月后，我们已经人天永隔。
天堂一路走好！我会永远记住你！！！

滕彬

I was privileged to work with Jainjun (Jay) for the past ~ 8 years and we will miss his positive spirit around the office. He was a proud husband and father and my thoughts go out to Qing and Chanthia for your loss. He will be missed.

Jianjun, may heavenly peace be with you.

建军，我们亲爱的弟兄！你一直是我们大家的骄傲。你有一个多么美好的生活。长的好相貌，上的好学校，娶的好姑娘，养的好孩子。你和你挚爱的妻子在美国相濡以沫，同心奋斗，为自己，为孩子，为家人，带来了幸福的生活和欢乐的时光。叨在世交，我们相识了几十年，情同手足。你为人忠厚、大度、慷慨、热情、善良、谦和，有幸与你相处的人都深感你人格的魅力。怎奈天意难测，使你骤然离去，夺走了你本来应与我们共享的将来。我们的悲恸和哀伤实在难以言表，谁能想象现实会如此残酷！你那如阳光一般灿烂的笑容，曾为我们每一次相聚带来温暖和愉悦，今后却只能在回忆中见到了。你的离去，将是我们心中永远的伤痛。
建军，感谢你给我们留下的真挚友情和珍贵记忆。这些无价的回忆，会让那个有你存在的世界重现，成为我们的慰藉，给我们以勇气，让你在我们的心里和我们一起继续人生之路。
建军，请你放心，你在这世上最牵挂最珍惜的人们，我们会好好安慰，尽心照顾。你给我们留下的友谊，我们会一直保持下去，代代相传。
安息吧，建军。我们永远怀念你。
春詠、锺

建军，你离开35同学独自走在通往天堂的路上。一路好走吗？人们都说天堂好，到哪儿就好好安息吧。大约三、四个月前，姜勇与我还在商量美东同学聚会的事，我是多么期盼见到多年没见到的35老同学。你我大概有三十年没见面了，你在我的记忆中永远还是那位腼腆的英俊少年！当我听到你已故去了，我的心情一下很沉重，很难过......为你祈祷，为你祝福，一路走好！
   
     朱菊芬

I am so glad I got a chance to meet him, and so very sorry to know he left this life so soon. I know he will forever be in the hearts of his family and friends. My heartfelt sympathy to Qing and Chanthia, and to all his friends.

江平哥哥，相信在这个世界上只有三个人会这么叫你。惊闻你离去的消息，始终不敢相信，脑海里总是浮现出小时候在一起的点点滴滴，一直无法释怀。没办法，天妒英才，既然上天那么早让你回去，肯定会有更重要的事情委派，江平哥哥，一路走好！            小华

姐夫：我真不敢相信这是事实，您的笑容仿佛还在眼前。天堂没有辛劳，安息吧！姐夫您一路走好！

毕业一别，竟是永别！一路走好！睡在我上铺的兄弟！ 张自强

亲爱的建军兄弟，在和你为数不多的几次见面中，你的聪明豁达，你的热情助人，给我们全家留下了深刻的印象。愿你在天堂安息。
亲爱的范青姐妹，缘分让我们在南大一别将近20年后又在NJ欣喜重逢。看着一如既往宠爱你的先生，长大的美丽聪慧的女儿，多么温馨的一家人。请你一定要坚强地活下去，看着你们的女儿毕业，成家，事业有成。建军的在天之灵一定会永远保祐你。我们也会一直站在你身后，为你祈祷，祝福，支持你。

Thank you, my dear Daddy, for all that you have done for me and mom. I wish I had told you how much you mean to me. I wish I had said that you were the best dad any daughter could ask for. But it all happened so fast that in the blink of an eye, you were gone from our lives forever. I’m still grappling to grasp the meaning of a loss that is forever. I might never truly understand it but I’m glad I got the chance to I knew you well. I know what you’d want for me and I know what made you happy and what made you proud. I have all 20 years, almost 21 years, of memories of you that remain vivid in my mind. Even though you’re gone, you’ll never be forgotten. In a way, you live on through me and mom and anyone who was fortunate enough to know you well. You’ll forever be in our hearts, so don’t worry too much now. Thank you for gracing our lives with your love and kindness. Be at peace.

建军  我们的好同学，好兄弟，一路走好！我们永远怀念你。  
范青  我们的好姐妹，节哀顺变，我们三五班兄弟姐妹的心永远和你在一起，一定要坚强哦！

上次没能见到你们，原以为很快就能在任何一个城市相见,没想到与你却是永别… 你永远活在我们的记忆里，十五岁时英俊少年的模样。RIP.
-曹越

建军，二个月前见到你，你是那样潇洒、健康和幽默。临分别时我们紧紧地拥抱在一起，我说下次来加州我们再聚喊上所有同学加上曹越，你说一定来。你还邀请我们到东岸一定去你那里！没想到你走得那么匆忙。一路好走，建军！我们想你....  淮清

马建军，好同学！一直期盼着你和小青的归来。没想到35年前合肥三中一别竟成了永诀！建军，我们永远怀念你。

今夜，天空也许没有星光，只有呜咽的流水和浸润悲伤的烛光......
小马同学，见到你时，你还是个热情善良、生龙活虎的少年，再闻却是天人相隔、永无相见、留给亲人的肝肠寸断的无尽思念与哀伤。
您怎么舍得下您一路同甘共苦、不离不弃的爱妻? 怎么丢得下令人羡慕的可爱的宝贝女儿? 您怎么挥别了我们这些想念你的亲爱的同学们?
人生若只初相见，何事秋风悲画扇。
建军，愿天国里不会有病痛，一路走好！

小青，保重，坚强！     ———夏红

建军，一个多月前见到你，是那么健康，快乐，儒雅，和善，你们是那么幸福甜蜜，谁知道天妒英才，希望你一路走好，我们想念你，给你点起蜡烛，照亮通往天堂的路~建军，你在天堂里要好好的保佑你的亲人和朋友，永远怀念你！张红雁

月有阴晴圆缺，人有旦夕祸福！建军，我的好兄弟，自你离开中科大出国后，一直没有联系上你，只知你在美国。。。。。。，谁知获悉你确切消息时，却已是天人永隔！曾记否，一中后的雨花塘，我们一起中流击水；安大寝室中，我们一起谈天说地；电子所，我们一起。。。。。。，
   兄弟，一路走好！
     嫂子与家人节哀顺变！
                  钟伯成
  谨代表未能知悉的安徽大学无线电系81级的兄弟姐妹，愿：
          逝者安息，生者珍重！

天堂多了一个美丽的灵魂。建军, 你是上天派来的天使, 给人间带来智慧, 欢乐和爱。我们为我们的失去感到悲痛, 同时也深深地感谢建军为人间带来了温暖与深爱。 范青妹妹, 建军在看着你, 保护着你, 看到你在他的爱的光辉照耀下坚强生活, 他会倍感安慰。相信我, 爱是不会消失的。我们年轻时的情谊也永远在生长。望节哀。汝莹

天上陨颗明星，人间少名俊杰。昔日同窗，今各一方。沉痛悼念建军同学！姚成

六月去旧金山见到了德阳，怀清，靖寰和曹越。离开后听说你也去了旧金山与德阳相聚，错过了与你35年后的相见，如今天隔一方，愿你在天堂安好！

建军, 好兄弟，好朋友, 一路走好！我们永远怀念你。Rest in peace.

亲爱的姐夫，一路走好。我们永远想念你。

尊敬的姨夫：
    请您一路走好。
    我们一家会照顾好大姨和姐姐，让您在天堂看见的时候也能欣慰。
    生活还将继续，我们永远爱你，必定不会让您担心。
                                                子桐

亲爱的老马同学,
一路走好, 我们永远怀念你。本想孩子们大点就可以多多走动, 可是你却仙去了。还没和你们聚够啊。值得欣慰的是你有这么贤惠的妻子及聪明可爱的女儿。愿你在天堂里好好安息!

MY DEAR HUSBAND, JIANJUN, I WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER AND ALWAYS. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART, AND I MISS YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN DESCRIBE.

QING

建军，上次你还讲下次到洛杉矶一定和范青来我家做客。现在这竟成了永远的遗憾。
范青，请多保重。
－ 李永辉。

没有来得及为你接风就要送你走了，对你的记忆永远定格在十五岁那年！马建军同学，一路走好！我们永远怀念你！

一路走好 rest in peace