Enjoying being Mommy
Madhavi Nair Anshumali
  • 47 years old
  • Date of birth: Aug 21, 1965
  • Place of birth:
    Mumbai, India
  • Date of passing: Oct 7, 2012
  • Place of passing:
    Bangalore, Karnataka, India
May we all remember the happy times we spent with Mads, Madhu, Madhavi and keep them alive forever...

This memorial website was created in the memory of our beloved sister, Madhavi Anshumali who passed away on October 7, 2012.

She had been diagnosed with Brain Cancer...astrocytoma grade 3. The Docs at the Institute of All India Medical sciences had given her less than a year. But, her 8-year old daughter Dhwani and I  refused to accept it and fought with everything we had to keep her with us for as long as we could.

Sadly we managed only a good two and a half years or so.

The amazing thing was despite the fact that she was bedridden,we never saw her sad or in pain. Just very very tired.

We tried our best to kept her spirits up, laughed a lot and pretended all was normal.

I am so glad Dhwani and I had these last years together with her.  It gave us the chance to love her and provide her the best care we could.

Thank you Mads for putting your trust in me and for the most wonderful gift of my life ...your darling daughter Dhwani.

I shall miss our long chats  late into the night and the way you use to shriek "Diddddi" and come running up to hug me everytime we met after a long break.

 God am I going to miss everything that is so you. Your mischief... your crazy giggle, your rebellious spirit...

Most of all your love.

This site has been specially created for all friends and family members who loved her. Together let us cherish our beautiful memories of her and keep her alive in our hearts and minds.  Do please help us know more about her different sides and the ways she  touched your life.

Thank you,

Her loving sister,

Aruna

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 9th October 2016

"Remembering you today and sending my good wishes to you where ever you are."

This tribute was added by arjun nair on 27th August 2016

"Sweetheart,

Once again this year we sponsored the Lunch @ Karunashraya on your birthday with instructions to serve your favourite Gulab Jamun.

Miss you more than others would imagine and only you would know."

This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 22nd August 2016

"Belated Happy Birthday Madhavi!

Death has always intrigued me and made me a little fearful. Ever since I was a little child I used to get nightmares of death of my mother or someone close to me and often I would wake up in tears.
However, during the course of growing up I learnt that we all are bodies constituting of energy and energy can never be destroyed it can only change its form. After this belief got ingrained in my psyche, I started believing that if any of my loved one dies he/she would always be around me, just in another form. Honestly speaking the anxiety associated with death still didn't go away completely but I felt more comfortable with this belief in mind.
In the course of life several loved ones died. Some so young that their death could have been inconceivable, just like you Madhavi. I wish there was a way I could actually see or experience this transformation of energy. I wish you could help me with this Madhavi.

Remembering you today...."

This tribute was added by Joshua Eliezer on 21st August 2016

"Remembered and missed always - Happy Birthday!"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2016

"Sweetheart Sorry for being late. My account was hacked. Happy Birthday. You would have been fifty one. Dhwani and I miss you everyday. You accompany us everywhere...love you."

This tribute was added by Baba Deolalikar on 21st August 2016

"Madhu we miss you a lot here in E117 .Also  miss dear Anshu .
No one can ever fill the void that you have left."

This tribute was added by Ekramul Haque on 17th June 2016

"Both Madhavi and Anshumali are so fresh in my memory. In fact Anshumali was my college senior as well. I can't forget those moments when Madhavi with her electric presence in DSSW campus used to cheer us. Long live your sweet memory with us Madhavi and Anshumali."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 8th October 2015

"Three years....the pain doesn't go away...the tears don't stop. Just to let you know you have a brilliant daughter who misses you every day. Did you know the school wants to train her for the nationals in athletics? You would be so proud. I look to You, Mum and Dad for guidance when it comes to her. Love you!"

This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 7th October 2015

"Dear Madhavi,

You are remembered today and wished peace and happiness where ever you are. May  God give strength to Dhwani and make her a strong individual just like her Mum."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 25th August 2015

"Hi mumma
Its Dhwanzie here .Mumma I having a looooooooooot of fun here
mumma missssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss u lots .mumma maasi
visited u no mumma today is brousing  every  time i have brousing ill meet you nothing else to do mumma hows life out there ? out here
its ok mumma Sushil ,Aman Rohan ,aaditiya ,saketh ,mumma my back is hurting like maaaaad ill go home and have a medical check up there mumma u know  mumma Beena mamam and moli wished u to mumma love u lotsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
ur loving daughter
Dhwanzie"

This tribute was added by jaya govindan on 21st August 2015

"It is 11 minutes past 11 pm. Today, we travelled all the way from Alaknanda to Mayur Vihar, to have a Darshan of Guruvayurappa. I recall Madhavi and our desire to one day visit the temple together. Unfortunately, we didn't make it eventually. Frankly, who could have foretold that Madhavi, the very epitome of life and energy, would go away at such a young age?  I miss her. And I pray that  she is reborn in circumstances more beautiful than the one she left behind."

This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 21st August 2015

"Dear Madhavi,
Wish all those who were associated you when you were a part of this world continue to remember you and get inspired.
God Bless you Dhwani! When your mum named you, I so loved your name.. I'm happy to see that you are growing up so well and have such an amazing aunt by your side.
You don't know me, still if there is anything I can do for you please let me know."

This tribute was added by S R on 21st August 2015

"Best wishes to Dhwani and to Madhavi's elder sister, who obviously has given so selflessly to her niece, in the aftermath of the tragedy of Madhavi's untimely passing. Madhavi was my high school classmate and was quite the life of the class. Much missed and it seems liike she touched so many lives after."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2015

"Hi Mumma,
How's life? Happy Birthday!!! Missing you a lot today.
Mumma, have a lot of fun today and go rocking wherever you are.
Mumma, I have no idea, everyone wished you including batch guys, seniors and juniors.
Bye! Miss you, love you lots.

Love,
Dhwani"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2015

"Hullo my Darling Girl!
Remembering you a lot today. You would have been 50 Imagine! How Time goes by. I miss you everyday. My heart breaks everytime I visit you which is one of the reasons I haven't come by . The Tears don't stop. I can't help thinking how much time we lost in not being together and not trying hard enough to understand each other when we were given the precious gift of sisterhood. That is what life has been reduced to...each in their own little world ...imagining...not knowing truly where the other is coming from. When you begin to .... it is too late. Such a tragedy really... i can't stop crying...I just want you to know that all along I truly loved my little sister.... God bless you my sweetheart wherever you are! I hope you are with Mum and Dad..."

This tribute was added by Mohan Prasad on 21st August 2015

"Thanks to Raji, Who has shared the glimpses of Madhvi's life. Really an inspiration struggle.

Hope you are at peace wherever you are"

This tribute was added by Raji Gomber on 21st August 2015

"Hi Madhavi,
Its strange your mention comes up each time I speak to a new member sharing your resplendent spirit, your infectious naughty smile and your great mission.. It was just yesterday, I went through your story of life with a couple.. and so you live on...in my heart and as an inspiration to many of never giving up..  Happiness to you wherever you are...  Raji"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 18th August 2015

"Hi mumma
how are u ? mumma nice talking to you after sooooooooooooo long
mumma I have to hurry up cause its almost time for lights of mamma i am missing u a lot mumma if i can tommrow  i will come and meet u
mumma hows life mines fine ill come always when im free
mumma missing u lots why did u leave me?
love u lots
your loving daughter  dhwani
mumma adwanced happy birthday
love and miss u lots
Dhwani"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 13th May 2015

"hi mumma
mamma today is my birthday !!!!!!!!!!!!!!mumma i have to go now !!!!!!!
bye
love you a lot
miss u
your loving daughter
dhwani"

This tribute was added by aruna nair on 12th May 2015

"hi mumma ,        
                                                                                           how are you ? guess who this is ? dhwani . mamma tommrow is my birthday and i am having a lot of  fun here . mamma i wish u were here
in my fa's i got  awesome marks .mamma mamma i wish u were here bye love u lots
dhwani"

This tribute was added by Raji Gomber on 11th May 2015

"Missing you today once again... friend..
I could speak with you  just whenever... and you would giggle before hearing me out..
Be at peace. ..."

This tribute was added by Anjali Venugopal on 8th October 2014

"Dear Madhu, when your mother was being wheeled out of Maternity at Ashvini, my mother was being wheeled in - that's when we first met if you remember..they stopped for a chat. Then there was a lull..fast forward to 1973, we were in the same class in Armed Forces Public School, now called something else..we moved to Loreto together..

and then fast forward again to ISCT when we worked together for a while (we didn't recognise each other at first!!) by then I'd got to know your parents as people (not Uncle and Aunty!) and I'd met Bala and Aruna (as I person I mean not as the big sis who only came into the room to say "Come and eat" or something) and their very first cocker spaniel..I met Poonam and Arjun and their family..and I just tagged myself on..I met Anshum and Goofy..haven't met Dhwani but I will I know..

And then everybody moved on - first Uncle, then Anshum, then Aunty (whatever happened to Bubbles??)...and now you..

Aunty's knee surgery was an Event.  For some reason, we felt we had to make Corn and Spinach Bake at 6 AM..Why did we have to do that?? I mean why at 6AM can you please tell me..

But we'll meet again somewhere I'm quite sure we will and you'll give me Uncle's gyan on how to save money and how toothpaste must be put on the brush...and how I must stop falling in love with all the wrong men (you'll like the one I have now btw)

Much love my dear..please see the picture wherever you are..its got your dear friend Alpana.."

This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 7th October 2014

"Dear Madhvi,

May you have a rocking life wherever you are!! Just saw all the pics that Aruna has posted here. It feels like a walk through your entire life. They are lovely!"

This tribute was added by Sudha Deolalikar on 7th October 2014

"We both miss dear Madhu as well as dear Anshumali as both were close to us always.Never does a day pass without remembering dear Madhu."

This tribute was added by jayanthi ramaseshan on 7th October 2014

"Remembering you as you are a special person. Have peace and be happy wherever you are.  

Jayanthi"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 7th October 2014

"2 years! Every time I visit you here, you still seem so alive. I love you! I miss you."

This tribute was added by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 31st August 2014

"Madhvi and I became friends through Soka Gakkai. Though we were in touch for a short duration, it was enough to demonstrate what a courageous and inspiring woman Madhvi was. The strength that she showcased following the demise of her husband, was unmatched.

I got the news of her untimely demise just a few days back and I was left with so many questions and such a lot of disbelief. I felt very bad about getting to know so late and not being able to pray for her when she would have needed it the most; But mostly I felt extremely bad for the little one, Dhwani.  

Luckily got in touch with Ivy who was able to answer most of my questions, rest of which were answered through the memorial website.

Aruna, hats off to you for being such a brave and supportive sister! May God give you the strength and the resources that you require to bring up Dhwani.

Being a strong and perseverant member of Soka Gakkai, I have no doubt that Madhvi would have left this world in peace despite the pain. May Dhwani be granted with the same insurmountable strength like her mother.

Thank you Madhvi for being a part of my life."

This tribute was added by Raji Gomber on 22nd August 2014

"Dear Madhavi....
I have still not come to terms with your leaving us.. your last murmur from the hospital bed in Bangalore is on my phone and when members have questions on unique mission and great causes, I share your pic on my phone and your awakening from slumber and yet chanting.....Bless you ..I will remain in touch for we will meet again...and again."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2014

"Darling Mads yet another birthday without you. We miss you soo much and not a day goes by without you in our thoughts. Love you forever Dids"

This tribute was added by Jaya Govindan on 21st August 2014

"Madhavi personified the very essence of life according to me and the countless others, I am sure, who had the privilege to know her. It's so very hard to believe that Madhavi is not within reach anymore. We lived  very far away from each other when in Delhi but the phone bridged that distance quite remarkably. Even when she moved to Goa, we remained connected. She never ever complained of health problems and yet ironically enough, cancer dared to short-circuit her life. Madhavi, my heart turns heavy each time I recall that last call of yours to me. "Jaya," you said, "please chant for me. They suspect cancer." And I gasped in horror and disbelief, "it cannot. be Madhavi,it cannot be". And we both wept like children lost on the sands of time."

This tribute was added by Ronjini Bose on 21st August 2014

"happy birthday, madhu... shine on.."

This tribute was added by jayanthi ramaseshan on 21st August 2014

"Anshumali was my colleague and I met Madhvi and little Dhwani in some get together. I heard a lot about Madhvi. It was good I met her even for a little time. Wonderful couple. Its our loss,. Today remembering her on her birthday I am fortunate to be part of this group, May both of them be always together in all life times and enjoy life."

This tribute was added by jim schmit on 13th August 2014

"Very sorry to hear of your loss. This is sad and tragic. My wishes to you and your family. I am not sure if this is the same person but her name was Madhavi Anshumali and she was practising the wonderful SGI Nichiren Buddhism. Is this the same person?

Once again very sorry for your loss."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 20th March 2014

"Hullo Sweetie!
It has been awhile since we conversed. So much has happened which you would be thrilled about. Dhwani has made it to Lawrence School!! Isn't that something? See? I promised you it would happen. And Boy did I move heaven and earth . Don't ask How I managed the finances but there were some angels who love you who helped...and you know who they are and ofcourse thank god I managed "the job!" That helped big time!  My first lakh on a painting also contributed. Exciting huh? Why do I feel you have something to do with all of this?.  You would be so proud of little D. She is growing up to be a sensible, intelligent and a lovely compassionate being. She now speaks of Homer, Illiad and Hitler!! CAN YOU IMAGINE ? Your little Ms going to be 10-year old?? Guess not encouraging too much TV time but insisting on more reading time is working. We sit and read and have intense conversations about life in the evenings together. Not a moment goes by when we don't think about you. Dhwani is so sure you are with her. Some evenings she tells me she is going to the swing because she wants to have a chat with you...I follow and then both of us look at the stars and try to figure out which one you are! But ofcourse it is the brightest. :) Miss you darling!"

This tribute was added by S R on 20th October 2013

"I was Madhavi's classmate at Kendriya Vidyalaya Colaba from 10th grade (I think) till the 12th grade (that was definite). She was a really bubbly person and quite the life of the class, she will be missed.

Satish Ramakrishna (I was known as Satyanarayan in those days)"

This tribute was added by Ronjini Bose on 8th October 2013

"Thinking of you today, Madhu.... hard to believe its already a year.... be at peace."

This tribute was added by abhishek sinha on 7th October 2013

"Dear mam,
Hw much I miss u dt only me, u and dhwani knows.Since d time u left I never went to jal vayu colony .Love u till eternity"

This tribute was added by Raji Gomber on 7th October 2013

"Dear Madhavi,
Since Morning I had been feeling not so good..then I saw this mail...and remembered what I was forgetting... when you remember someone so often, every moment then you tend to forget special dates.. Recently I shared your life with some new members , they were speechless and I saw you  giving your special smile. u r always there..peace"

This tribute was added by mani paramasivan on 7th October 2013

"So many wonderful memories you bring, Mads, of times rich and meaningful shared with you and with Anshumali and dear Dhwani. Your mirthful, radiant face when you turned up at the door with a sparrow named Bertie  in your tousled hair; that’s the face I – we, all of us who loved you and love you still – carry in our hearts and minds.  Be at peace, dear Mads..."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 7th October 2013

"It has been a difficult one year sis. I am dealing with it and so is Dhwani. We can't believe it is a year. I have had no motivation to get back to work. I have just been existing in silence and painting. I miss your critiques. Even though you couldn't speak you would smile and nod your head if you liked a piece. I miss you so much. Love you always my baby sister!"

This tribute was added by Baba Deolalikar on 7th October 2013

"One year has slipped away so fast.We remember dearest Madhu on every small and big occasion."

This tribute was added by Baba Deolalikar on 22nd August 2013

"We remember her so very often. Miss her all the time.Have place a pic of probably her last visit to E 117 when we celebrated her Birthday"

This tribute was added by Sohini Mitra on 21st August 2013

"Thinking of you on your birthday and often, otherwise too. Especially when I see Aruna's posts and pictures of Dhwani on Facebook
Be happy and in peace, wherever you are

Love,Sohini"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 17th April 2013

"Hullo lil' sis.
It has been awhile I know. But there isn't a day that goes by when Dhwani and I don't think of you. We miss you so much. Right now I am going through family albums and discovering some treasures that I had forgotten. I need to frame them and distribute them around the house so that we  feel you are  never too far away"

This tribute was added by jaya govindan on 6th February 2013

"From the moment I first met Madhavi, we formed a bond that endured through the various changes in our lives. Vivacious and loving, Madhavi became a very critical component in my life. Her threshold of pain (emotional & physical)  was remarkably high. At the same time she could be easily hurt by the unfeeling ways of the world. Now there's a void in my life where Madhavi used to be."

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 19th January 2013

"Hullo Mumma,
I love you soooooooooooo much. I miss you...we have come back from Goa. I found your diary. Thank you very much for  your beautiful
letters to me. I will always cherish them and remember your words. I miss you very much.  your loving daughter Dhwani"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 17th December 2012

"Hullo sweetie!
Dhwani and I are off to your home in Goa. We are going to miss you so much. I know how special this home was to you. Packing your things is not going to be easy. It is going to be heart breaking. Love you v much."

This tribute was added by ronjini srimany on 15th November 2012

"madhu or 'mads' ..thats what we called her...she was my sister's friend but i adored her and spent many wonderful times with her... our long walks at the US club golf course, sitting on the sea wall... looking out into the sea, lying in the dark, on the floor in my house...  listening to 'smoke on the water' or even Pandit Shiv Kumar Sharma.... these are somethings I'll never forget"

This tribute was added by Sudha Deolalikar on 7th November 2012

"Anshumali  her late husband was also a very wonderful outgoing and jovial person. He was very of my home cooking . He, Madhu and Jyoti  had organized a surprise party for  Baba on his 75th birthd.Dear Dhwani added to their great happiness.They     took great care of her parents . We feel sad at loss at such a young age.Both will remain in our hearts for ever."

This tribute was added by Sudha Deolalikar on 7th November 2012

"Madhu has been a part of our family from her birth. She stayed with us when she was graduating from Delhi Univ.  She was very smart, good looking ,endearing ,affectionate and caring to all. She would worry about stricken stray dogs , cats and birds and take care of them She was by my bedside after my angio plasty in 2004. We feel  the  great loss of such a wonderful and bubbly personality."

This tribute was added by ruchita khurana on 6th November 2012

"I always associated Madhavi's name with what one terms..."the way of life". She had a solution for almost everything I enquired her for. She added so much comfort to my 'shifting to Goa'....especially during the first few months which was a big transition for me. I also at times called her my "Goa directory and encyclopedia", Shall always always...remember you my dear ...and as fondly..."

This tribute was added by deepak deolalikar on 5th November 2012

"In so many ways, you taught us how to live and find meaning. Thanks for all that. We miss you so much."

This tribute was added by Baba Deolalikar on 5th November 2012

"Madhu was our favourite amongst the many kids in the family. She was sweet very affectionate and endearing. When working in Gurgaon she would drop in on her way back and in our absence help herself to what was available in the frig and demand fresh chapati and vegetables or dal from our help.We liked it and she was Sudha's eternal favourite.We shared many jokes with her and Anshu .Miss her"

This tribute was added by Aruna Nair on 24th October 2012

"love you my darling sister. Hope you are happy and at peace wherever you are"


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