- 51 years old
- Date of birth: Sep 14, 1963
- Place of birth:
Delaware, United States
- Date of passing: Aug 15, 2015
- Place of passing:
Maryland, United States
|Mark's brilliant mind and beautiful spirit will be forever missed.|
This memorial website was created in memory of Mark J. Sienkiewicz, Jr., 51, born on September 14, 1963 and passed away on August 15, 2015.
A memorial gathering took place on November 14th, 2015 at Carroll Baldwin Hall, 9035 Baltimore Street, Savage, MD 20763.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to:
The Mark and Carolyn Sienkiewicz Scholarship in Oboe
Director of Major Gifts
The Peabody Institute of the Johns Hopkins University
1 E. Mt Vernon Place
Baltimore, MD 21202
"Mark exists in the people who knew him. We enjoy his birthday because it's another day for us to be alive on earth and he would want us to enjoy it. Let him go with us everywhere we go from this moment forward as we immerse him and ourselves in the stream of life."
"I miss you, Markie. We should be celebrating today. What more can I say? Love, Mom"
"Celebrating the birthday of a very sweet man. I miss you, my friend."
"You're still with us, Mark, in spirit, in memory, in conversation. Thanks for your continued presence."
"It's been a year? How did the time pass so quickly. Remembering a kind and gentle man whose death is a great loss. Carolyn, I think of you often, but I lost your email when my computer crashed last winter. If you care to write me at firstname.lastname@example.org, I would love to hear where you are and what you are doing now. Praying that your memories will comfort your."
"I can't believe it's been a year since you've been gone. I miss you you."
"Hello schwee. I dreamt about you. The time was current and the dream was an alternate reality. It picked up right at early July last year. You had just stopped working and we were just being together. We were gently doing things and going places. You were still sick, but gladly, weren't getting any worse. Eventually in the dream we come to July this year, 2016. You seem to be doing better. We notice that you haven't been getting any worse and in fact when we look back, we can see that you are getting stronger, your numbers are better, you are feeling better. You start talking about going back to work -- that you would enjoy that. We are still under the cloud of cancer, but so very glad that you are still here.
Then I woke up.
It doesn't take any training in psychology to see that I still can't fathom you not being here. And won't.
I miss you so."
"I am missing you very much today Mark. I will be turning 53 on Friday. You would have been there, just two months later. We talked about the "Calculus of Humanity" in your last few months. We never got past some proposed axioms, but still, it was a worthwhile endeavor. Some questions don't have any "right" answers, but you used to tell me that's OK."
"On the first anniversary that we can not celebrate together :
'Parted from me but never parted.
Never and always touching and touched.
(Until) we meet at the assigned place.'
[from ST "Amok Time"]"
"April 15, 2016
My sweet, it has been 8 months since you died. The pain is so fresh I can still feel my moment of panic when I understood that you would never take another breath. Your suffering was at an end. Still, your shoes are by the door, waiting for you ... keeping company with mine. I carry your urn to the bedroom when I retire for the day, and then back out to the living room in the morning ... for I can no more bear to be away from you now than I ever could. Less perhaps, because in the past I always knew you would return ... but now I know you can't. You were so young, so very beautiful, and so very, very beloved. And always will be."
There´s no words to express the feelings of this lost of a great person, try to be in peace thinking that now Mark are taking care of you, like you did it for him with all love and tenderness.
Honestly Tirso Buelna
Thanks for your time"
"I always felt that Mark and Carolyn were two of the smartest and kindest people I ever met, and I was honored to have known them during the time I was in the DC area and active in dc.sage. On numerous occasions, they welcomed us into their house, and I think we were at our best when they were present.
I never got a chance to work with either of them outside of the "Random Guys and Gals Doin' Stuff", but I feel certain that I would have learned even more if I had.
I still think of Mark and Carolyn as one of the best examples of "techie couples" that I have ever met."
"You would have been 52 today, my sweet. I love you always. You are with me always."
"Mark, I know the two of you will be together in Carolyn's heart today. May all the memories be blessed."
"I miss you, Markie. I love you. Mom"
"Happy Birthday Mark, wish you and Carolyn were celebrating it on earth."
"So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you."
"My condolences to Carolyn and family. I am a second cousin to Mark. My Uncle Jerome was my mother Genevieve (Jenny) sister. I am sorry for your loss. Patricia Janeshefskie Barber, Matthews Nc"
"Although I have only seen Mark a couple of times in the last 20 years, my memories from the late '80s and early '90s are still quite vivid. Mark was a brilliant man, always calm (at least on the surface) and generally unflappable. We were both recent graduates and often turned to one another in learning how to cope with the curve balls life threw at each of us. I learned a lot from Mark, both technically, and in terms of how and when to be patient. I was lucky to be there when Carolyn joined McCabe, and to watch Mark's happiness bloom. Few things could light up a room like Mark's genuine laughter. Carolyn, I hope the memories of Mark's love and joy and brilliance sustain you as you find your path to acceptance. If we can do anything to help, please let us know."
"Dear Mark, friend, officemate, conversation partner extraordinaire - how I will miss our afternoon rambles across campus to talk philosophy and so much more. Already this week, I've come across several things that would have made *such* good conversation fodder - we could have talked about them for hours.
Your legacy is not only the software that you left us, but the minds and hearts that you touched. I will always remember you. And... how can I not close with a Spock quote...
"I have been, and always shall be, your friend.""
"I knew Mark through our work at STScI. He was incredibly gifted, remained approachable and always helpful. I learned something from him with every conversation. We shared a common interest in Amateur radio and spoke about it a bit. Mark seemed like a kindred soul in a way, and I always wanted to ask him more about his travels. I'm sorry we didn't have more conversations about stuff outside of work. Mark remained focused on his work till the end, and I know he touched many folks at STScI. We'll miss him dearly."
"Mark was friendly, approachable, and very knowledgeable in so many different subjects. He was an integral part of the Science Software team. He never failed to answer my many questions about software, tests, etc. He also made the weekly Science Software Branch "donut discussions" so much more interesting with topics ranging from previous job experiences to boat house maintenance. He was a great man, and will be greatly missed. Many condolences from me and my family."
"I hired Mark about 8 years ago. In seeing his application I wondered if he was Matt’s brother so I asked Matt about him. Matt said he always looked up to Mark, and that was one of the best recommendations I ever got. I don’t think we have ever had anyone with the breadth of experience that Mark brought in all sorts of areas, and we all benefitted greatly from his knowledge, creativity and hard work coupled with his passion. Not only did he greatly aid our group’s work, he did many things to help other areas at the Space Telescope Science Institute and, particularly, innumerable staff members that needed his help. His patience with dealing with all the problems that would arise was incredible. Throughout his illness he continued to contribute to the projects here, even when it became difficult towards the end. All could see that he really enjoyed being part of STScI and its mission. He will be greatly missed."
I am sorry I never got an opportunity to meet Mark in person. Unfortunately he was another exceptional individual who I met on this unfortunate odyssey that we shared. As I continue my advocacy work I will keep him in my thoughts. I hope over time that the memories of his disease and the burden you carried as Mark's spouse & caregiver are replaced by the joy and happiness of better times. Sorry I can't make to Baltimore to sit Shiva with you . I hope to have the opportunity to toast Mark's life with you in the future. All the best! Dominic"
"Dear Carolyn -
Although I barely knew Mark, your love for him (and his for you) were readily apparent. It touched me when you mentioned that he had encouraged you to get back to playing - a really selfless and loving move on his part, and the reason that we connected. Your devotion to each other was easy to see at concerts and in your updates, and I consider myself privileged to able to be included in your circle of friends. I am very sorry for your loss and all that you both had to go through during his illness, and will keep you in my thoughts as you grieve Mark's passing."
"Mark, may peace surround you like a sail on the perfect day. May you see further than ever before and be enchanted while held gently to take it all in. Carolyn, may the times you've shared with Mark be the glimpses of light caught through the storm begging you to a deep, safe anchor. May you feel held and loved."
I only met Mark once, but each time you and I met over the years, he was always on your mind. From you, I know the deep love you shared. I feel your grief, dear friend."
"I only knew Mark a short time at the institute, but I was immediately struck with how strong he was in keeping his convictions and fighting his battle in his own way.
Seeing his courage, strength, and tenacity will stay with me, forever."
You might think it's Mark's sweetness or how smart--unbelievably smart--Mark was that I'd pay tribute to. But it's hard for me to remember Mark without thinking of you. How you two supported one another, how you two left good jobs and a home to sail together. How he went to France, watched French television, without knowing any French (at first), all for you. And how, when the boat was no longer an adventure, you made another home together. Because wherever you were, was home.
Every time I saw Mark, cher, I saw how much he loved you."
"I guess among the measures of a life well lived are how many people we have touched, and how much we are loved. By that measure, Mark was without peers.
Mark was brilliant - but always willing to pull the rest of us along so we wouldn't miss out on something interesting. Whether talking about sailing or the Equatorial bulge, he always had a boy-like way of imparting knowledge as in "I know this really cool thing that you'll want to know about, and here, let me tell you all about it."
However, I think the thing I will remember most of all about Mark was his deep and endless love of Carolyn. From the first time I met them, it was so apparent that the term "soul mate" didn't even begin to describe what they had together.
My thoughts are with Carolyn and all who loved him - and he will be forever in my heart. /paula"
I knew Mark from work at STSCI, he was always helpful, knowledgeable, cheerful, kind and, importantly, patient with people who were frustrated. He will be missed.
My thoughts are with you and your family during this time.
"On behalf of all his Reluctant Brothers across the nation and beyond, Carolyn, we offer you our love and comfort to carry you through this most difficult time. While Mark's loss will always bear grief, there comes a time when the fond, happy and fun memories prevail.
While we never met Mark, we spoke many times; it was our privilege to offer our support. His brilliant mind was so clearly evident - we will miss his presence at our meetings.
The Reluctant Brotherhood www.thereluctantbrotherhood.org"
I knew Mark from his work here at the Institute. Mark was very bright and cheerfully helpful, and was very good at what he did. As such, he was a great benefit and a good co-worker to all of us, and he will be missed. From what I've read here, he was an even better person away from work and at home. That says a lot of good things about him. My sincere condolences, and best wishes for you as you go through this time of grieving."
I know Mark from work. He would always help me with computer and software issues whenever I asked, whether it was my fault or not. I will miss him."
On behalf of Peter and all of your colleagues in the American Balalaika Symphony, please accept our deepest and most heartfelt condolences on the passing of Mark. Although I never met him, he must have been a remarkable man for your love and concern for him was so great and so evident. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you in the days ahead. I will keep you and Mark in my prayers, and pray that God will send you comfort and peace."
"I'm so sorry for your loss. It was a pleasure working with Mark, and he will be sorely missed. I wish you strength and peace during this hard times."
"Mark was one of the kindest and patient persons I have ever met at work. He also was very smart and enjoyed helping others, always with very good explanations and with a smile. I am so glad I was able to meet him. He will be greatly missed."
It was a pleasure working with Mark. My thoughts and prayers are with you."
"Carolyn, I only met Mark at intermissions, but he left a lasting impression on me. I will miss watching the two of you hold hands during the break."
"Carolyn, what I knew about Mark was what I saw reflected in you, and what a lovely reflection that was! When you spoke about your life adventures and the decisions you two shared, your connection and love was obvious. You have been very strong for a long time, a loving strength given during the most difficult time ever. What Mark inspired in you tells me what a special person he was. Love and peace in your grieving. I am so sorry for this huge loss."
"Carolyn, I only knew Mark through you, and from that, I understood the wonderful and loving relationship you two shared. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers."
"Carolyn, how much Todd and I enjoyed our Saturday afternoon visit with you and Mark in April. What shone was what a brilliant, interesting person Mark was to talk to. Even his illness, at that late date, didn't take precedence over what an engaging person he was. We drove home talking about what a pleasant afternoon it had been and how amazing Mark was to have made it so."
"I know Mark mostly through knowing you, Carolyn. Your love for him was evident always, and only shone brighter through this trial. My brief occasions for conversation with him showed me that his love for you was equally deep. I keep you in my prayers with deep respect for the dignity and courage of your grieving. As much as a friend can do, I share your grief."
My password for this site was forever love. Even though I only met him once years ago, the deep love and regard you two held for each other was obvious even at a distance. I am sincerely saddened by your loss and by what must have been such a difficult year. I don't doubt that your presence soothed and nurtured him while he went through such difficult times. I will be leaving town Wednesday so likely won't make it to stop by, but know that my thoughts are with you. Again, even at a distance I knew you two had/have a special love. Sincerely, Corinne"
"To my love ... with me always."
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