- 69 years old
- Date of birth: Mar 24, 1944
- Place of birth:
Chicago, Illinois, United States
- Date of passing: Aug 28, 2013
- Place of passing:
Bonita Springs, Florida, United States
|In Mary's Marchers' words: Wife to 1, Mother to 4, Nene to 7, Inspiration to All!|
Mary Webber (née Pfundstein) of Bonita Springs passed on to the Lord on Aug. 28, 2013 after a long battle with breast cancer.
For many years she was a resident of Stamford, CT, moving full-time to Bonita in 2005.
Born in Chicago in 1944, her family relocated to Lake Worth, Florida in 1949. A brilliant student and leader, she was valedictorian and student body president of Rosarian Academy in West Palm Beach. She attended Trinity College in Washington, D.C. for two years before completing her bachelor’s degree with honors at Old Dominion College in Norfolk, Va. in 1966. For seven years thereafter she ascended the management ladder at AT&T Long Lines in New York.
Her legendary organizational skills and boundless good humor were subsequently put to imaginative use in mothering a single child and, 22 months later, triplets. Needing more of a challenge, she not only started her own bookkeeping business, but volunteered numerous hours to a variety of boards and organizations, including hospitals in Stamford, CT and Naples, FL (NCH). She was a faithful parishioner of St. Leo the Great Church in Bonita, as well as a member of Newcomers Club, Encore and two needlepoint groups, all of which gave her immense joy.
She is survived by her husband of 45 years, Thomas Webber, M.D., four children: John (Tricia), Katherine, Matthew (Briana), and Diana Giorlando (Charlie), and seven grandchildren: Jack, Ben, Luke, Anika, Hayden, Sabina, and Lilla.
The family will receive friends Sunday, September 1st from 4-6 PM ET at Shikany’s Bonita Funeral Home (28300 Tamiami Trail South, Bonita Springs, FL 34134).
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated, Monday September 2nd at 10 AM ET at St. Leo the Great Catholic Church (28290 Beaumont Road, Bonita Springs, FL 34134).
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Covenant House, 427 W. 52nd St. New York, NY 10019 or covenanthouse.org/Donate.
"I thought of Mary and all of her family on August 28. I sent an email to her email address. Tom, I hope you saw it. Love never dies - it is here forever."
"We miss your wonderful smile and great spirit ,
our warmest thoughts and much love to you and all your beautiful family
Ursula and Charles"
Thinking of you and your lovely family on this very sad day. I know This first anniversary pulls the scab off the wound. You so want to remember every detail about Mary and yet that triggers off a deep yearning for something you can no longer have. It has helped me to know that all the things that I loved about Steve, I love still. I am grateful for every moment with him. I know you feel the same about Mary. Their love and their continued effect on our hearts and minds are present with us. Now. Today. Tomorrow. That gift is forever.
"Dear Tom, thinking of you today and of the wonderful lunch Joe and I enjoyed at your home with you and your wonderful Mary. She was warm and welcoming even with her illness, a classy lady! It's now 2 years for me and I still miss him terribly, but he's there in my children and grandchildren and my memories. I'm sure you feel the same about Mary after one year. Love, Vivian"
"I am so grateful to have had Mary as a friend. Whenever I think of our times together, I think of her laugh, her positive outlook on life, and her faith in God. Today, I am thinking of and praying for all her family as they pass through this one year mark of her passing. Love to you all, Carson Kistner"
"There isn't a week that goes by that I don't think of Mary, her smile, her charm, her wit, her grace, her style and her friendship. She is a constant inspiration."
"Thinking about the 12 of you today as you remember your mom, nene, and wife."
"On Mary's birthday , she. is in our hearts and thoughts . Miss you but know you are watching over all your loved ones. Still hear your laugh,see your smile and feel your love.
"On Mary's birthday, all who we're blessed to know her will continue to send their love. I am sure she is with all of you. May this embrace you.
"Happy Birthday to a lovely lady. I know Mary is watching over you and you family and that this is a constant source of comfort to all of you. Love never dies. Vivian"
"Dear Tom and Family, Your Temple/ Woman's "Family" Have all been saddened by the loss of your Mary. You spoke of her so often -might I say that it was a lovely surprise to meet such a beautiful and charming (and thin!!) woman! My heart and prayers go out to you.
I love you!!!!!! I like when you give me projects for the plane. I enjoy playing cards with you. You are really special to me. I miss you.
I love you so so much. Love, Anika. xoxo"
I like swimming under water like a shark and doing cartwheels for you.
I want to come back to Florida someday. I love Florida and I love you too! xoxo Love, Sabina"
"Although I met Mary only a few times she made a lasting impression because the strength and quality of her character was so apparent. She just seemed to "have it all together" - a fully realized person. I know she will be terribly missed by all who loved her; but, perhaps, her example of living life fully will help sustain those who grieve today until a happier time."
"We have been friends for such a short time but so enjoyed the time that He gave us together. Mary, I will miss our chats on the way to mass & your companionship, but I will know that you are still with me in spirit. And Tom.....we trust our friendship will continue to grow throughout the years to come & look forward to sharing pizza and politics with you this winter. Denise & Scott"
"Tom and family, So sad to hear of Mary transferring from the Webber 'Earth' team to the 'Heaven' team. She fought the transfer well but, was 'needed' upstairs. I remember al those afternoons and weekends cheering 'our' 4 guys on @ Prep in various venues around CT. Always enjoyed our time with you all. Love, Paul"
"Hi John, Matt, & families... So sorry to hear about the passing of your Mom. I will always remember her chauffeuring John & I up to BC for the swim team training trip in late 1991. I started a semester late so it was my 1st introduction to BC and needless to say I was a little nervous. Your Mom made me feel right at home though which I made things a little easier... She will be missed!"
Caren & I were so sad and upset to read about Mary. We remember her fondly from her Stamford days, and always admired her grace and beauty. Our hearts go out to you and your family.
Fondly, Paul (& Caren) Goldberg"
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time. I loved hearing all your family stories when you were a part of the TSC family.Mary was a remarkable woman and may all your wonderful memories help you through this most difficult time.
Fondly , Peggy O'Connor"
"Dear Tom, I know Mary was the love of your life, your support and commitment to her in her very brave fight with breast cancer is an inspiration to everyone. Mary was a gracious lady and i am very glad to have known her while you were at Temple,she always had a smile for those she met and made you feel welcome. My prayers are with you and your family at this sad time, Love Evy"
"Sweet Mary, you will be missed by so many, most of all your beautiful family and much loved soulmate, Tom. I will always be grateful to you for the encouragement you gave Steve and I as he faced his own battle with cancer. Your courage and journey inspired us. You taught us to focus on cherishing the love that surrounded us. What a wise woman you were.... love, Diane"
"In memory of Mary Elizabeth Webber: wife, partner, and soulmate of the best friend I could ever hope for -
Tom - words cannot express the loss but we must celebrate all the years you two had together - very few get to share a love that special.
"Tom, I want to send my deepest sympathy to you and your family. I know she will surely be missed. One thing I know, is that she will have an endless supply of beer and bon bons in heaven! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Love, Jeannine"
"Terry & I are so sorry to hear of Mary's passing. Tom we know you have many wonderful memories of Mary and we feel grateful to have shared in just a few of them. May her soul rest in peace.
Love, Terry & Harry Beringer"
"Dr. Tom & family: I am so deeply sorry to hear of passing of your beloved wife/ mother Mary. Please know I will continue to keep you all in my thoughts and in my prayers. Earth's loss... Is heaven's gain. Rest in peace Mrs. Webber, may the perpetual light shine upon you.
Love, MaryAnn xo"
"Thank you Mrs. Webber. Thank you for your kindness and endearing words of wisdom, you so generously offered, as if I were one of your own children. Your spirit is strong, which resonates in the lives of many. I am thankful for the positive influence you had on me and my relationship with your beautiful family. – Preston Redwine"
"I have great memories of the Webber family growing up since teenage years. Kate, Diana, Matt and John all embraced me to what is now a lifelong friendship. The first time invited to their home, I was greeted by Mrs. Webber. Her warm and carrying nature was comforting, allowing me to feel at ease. It was only a confirmation of the wonderful character and values instilled in her children."
"There was never a better friend or inspiration than you, Mary. You will be missed by everyone whose life you touched. Our thoughts, prayers and love are with your family.
Love, Annra and Tony"
"Dear Tom, John, Diana, Kate and Matt,
It was an honor and joy to have Mary as our friend.
Her beautiful spirit, lovely laugh and great wit will live on in our hearts.
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Love, Mary and Bill"
Fearless water skier and most glamorous aunt who always smelled of Coco. Model of faith and grace; teacher of needlepoint; we love you and miss you.
Annie, Braxton, Chris, Tommy and Abby"
"I first knew of Mary from the portrait "Mom at 21" atop Tom's desk in his room at Columbia. She was prominently featured in his conversations; I gathered that she was intelligent, self-confident, but not self-centered. The bond they shared was palpable even then. Finally meeting her in person, I discovered she was friendly and funny. A joy to be with from Doc Severinsen to Victoria BC."
"Mary and Tom and their young family were our neighbours during our two years stay in Stamford in 1984.They warmly welcomed our four children and us. Over the years we have remained in contact and will always remember Mary with great fondness. We are so sorry for your tremendous loss and are thinking of you all. Sarah and Tony Max in the UK"
"Mary fought hard as all the ones before her at the Ambassador have bearing the burden of that dreadful disease.
She was so stoic, each and every time her response as to her well being was so positive. Her contribution to our landscape was so exciting. It was a pleasure to see her efforts flourish. She will be a wonder attribute in her resting place. Peace be with you all Webber Family"
"Tom: Mary left me great memories, including that wonderful laugh.
Those memories will bring forth a smile and conquer the sorrow.
She surely was one of my favorite patients.love, pete ."
"Dear Tom, John, Kate, Matt, Diana ,
Mary was, indeed, a truly lovely person. May you find your strength in the God Who made her so and with whom she now abides in eternal happiness. May God bless and keep you and bring you peace.
"I am so saddened to hear of your loss. Having worked with Dr. Webber in CT, and working with Matt for years, I have felt close to your family. I am sending my sincere sympathy. At this difficult time, please know I am thinking of you."
Mary was a very special person who made everyone else feel special. She always took time to listen and include you in whatever she was involved in. Mary will be missed by all who knew her.
What a privilege and gift to have known you as a friend !
With much sadness we will embrace Tom next week . We will miss you so much . You are one of our angels now . Thank you for your friendship. Love to Tom and your beautiful family ! Ursula and Charles"
"Dear Tom, John, Kate, Matt and Diana,
Herold and I are so sad that your beautiful Mary has passed. We were lucky to meet Mary and the Webber family when John and our daughter Tricia became engaged. Since then we have shared wonderful events and memories. Mary you will be so missed but we will never forget your sweet, loving ways. Big Love, Herold and Susann"
"dear tom, my heart is breaking for you as I think I know just how you feel. Mary was beautiful inside and out. I knew one Irishman that was particularly taken with her. your happy memories of your 45 years together and your wonderful family will sustain you now. you, my dear friend and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. love, vivian"
"Dear Tom & Family, "Mary is a Lady", that's what Alex said from the beginning when we met you and Mary. Our deepest sympathies and we say, even from far away, we can feel the vacancy her absence creates in this world. May the Good Lord be with all of you in this time of sorrow. With love, Alex & Bonnie"
"The Wolf family spent ten great years (1980-1990) in Stamford, CT, and were blessed with having Mary and her family as neighbors. Last year, on our family vacation in Florida, we were able to get together with Tom and Mary, and I am so glad that we did. Mary was a wonderful person. She will be missed, but not forgotten."
"Dear Tom and family, It has been so many years since you left TSC, but you are talked about almost every day. You are missed by us "old Timers". Our prayers are with you. May Mary's memory be for a blessing for you all. Love, Margie"
"Tom & Family - An angel in street clothes, Mary made life better, happier & more fun for everyone who knew her. We were born on the same day, same year. I am 7 hours older which she never let me forget. Next March I will take the card I already have for her, hold it up to the sky & listen for her laughter. Now I am going outside to ululate. I will miss her terribly. Love to all, Bonnie"
"Dearest Tom and family,
Mary's beautiful spirit will live on in the minds and and hearts of those who knew and loved her. We were blessed to have some special time with her during her last days-truly a gift.Best friends forever and always.
Love, Bonnie & Don"
"At this time of great mourning Fran and I send our most sincere thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Phil and Fran Young."
"We knew, it was the last Good by, when we left this summer.
We didn´t know, that it hurts so badly to read, that Mary closed her eyes for ever.
Dear Tom, our deepest sympathy to You and Your family.
Georg, Henriette and Annette Lichtenberg"
"Dear Tom,John,Kate,Matt & Diana
I am so Fortunate to have had Mary in my life. The great lady that she was taught me how to run my office. Everything she touched was better. She was a wonderful friend that I will miss forever. With a Very heavy heart My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. Love Ken"
"Although I had the pleasure of meeting Mary only once,I was given a sense of her by the beautiful stories told by her husband Tom.
I know she was a remarkable woman.She will live in everyone's heart."
"It is with deep sadness that I learn of my the passing of my one and only "East Coast Mom"... She was there for me over 20 years ago when I arrived at BOston College from the west coast. She took me under her wing and made sure I wasn't alone for many a holiday during college . An amazing woman who helped make this half of the "Web-nick crew" feel nothing but special over the years."
"Mary really taught me that we are measured by the "effort of giving." It is a skill that many of us have to practice, and practice again. For her, giving was effortless. She was a leader and a teacher for me in that regard. She showed me what "strength of character" means and I am a better person and a better doctor because of her. I will miss her. - andy lipman"
"Dear Tom and family
Connie and I would like to extend our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
What wonderful memories we have of Mary's spirit.
The Hidden Mickeys. The roller coaster ride.
The Easter rack of lamb. But most of all her Love, Humor ,Determination, and great friendship."
"Dear Tom,I will forever keep cherished my friendship with you & my dear, dear Mary. She lead her life with such dignity & grace. But let's not ever forget her devilish sense of humor. I feel blessed to have known her.
Your wonderful family is testament to your love for each other..."
"Nene...you are as AWESOME person! If angels in heaven think that they are going to be game champions, they better watch out. I also loved playing games with you, even though most of the time you beat me. I loved going to lots of different restaurants with you. You have been strong fighting cancer for 4 years. I love you, Nene. Love Ben"
"Nene...I really liked playing games with you, and that's what I liked doing with you mostly, and I hope you have the best luck in heaven. I will always be thinking about you. I love you. Love, Luke"
"Dear Dr. Webber & Family, I never got to meet your wife/mom but I believe the reason was, according to Tom, was she was on the couch eating bon bons! After reading all of her accomplishments I am in awe of what a wonderful person she was, very sorry for your loss. Prayers to all of you. Fondly, Pat"
"Dear Tom and Family,
I was very sad to hear of the passing of Mary. I met Mary several years back while volunteering at NCH. We have remained e-mail buddies over the years. Mary was always so kind and engaging with everyone she came in contact with at the hospital. Mary was a very special lady.
God Bless, Janice Gatti"
Mary has been my inspiration from the day I met her 51 years ago.
Tom joins me in celebrating her wonderful productive life and her
warm, caring and everlasting soul. Love, Cathy"
"Tom & Family,
We are so sorry to hear of Mary's passing....She was one VERY special woman....so helpful to us in the condo at Bonita Beach....so warm and friendly....we treasure the times we had with you and know that you are in our prayers as you travel this difficult time.
Ray & Sally Pennoyer"
"Dear Mary my Mah Jongg sister, fellow kayaker and dinning out buddy. Thank you for your calm and sweet presence. You are sorely missed by those of us that knew and loved you. I take comfort in knowing that you are watching over us from a far better place.
"Tom and Family,
My heart goes out to you during this difficult loss. Mary was an amazing woman. She was bright, talented, quick to support family and friends....... and ALWAYS ready share her love of life with a good laugh. She will be missed but held in our hearts forever. Thanks for the great memories and inspiration."
"Dear Mary, I am both lucky and proud to have called you my "extra" older sister and very good friend for almost 50 years. All of us will miss your gentle strength, bright smile and that wonderful laugh that came from your very soul ! You will forever have a place in our hearts. XXXOOO, Vicki, Mitch and Liz."
My deepest condolences to you and your family during this great time of loss. You're a stellar person, and that reflects positively on your parents. I can only imagine what a great woman she was. Words fail when it comes to such infinite matters of the heart. Blessings to you all"
"Thank you, Mary, for your graciousness during those years when we were young and full of hope. We forged a friendship that has endured to this day. I know Tom, who loved you, will miss you and we grieve with him. We all have memories and you have helped make them happier. Me ke aloha pumehana, Notch and Margaret"
"She will always be in our hearts. What an exceptional woman, wife, mother and friend. Many, many wonderful memories together.
Susanah and Jeff"
"Aunt Mary made a difference in this world. She made it better wherever she went and to whomever she met. She gave so much of herself to others. Thank you for touching my life by sharing yours. You are missed.
Love, Peggie and Tim"
"Mary was a wonderful friend and next-door neighbor. Tom and Mary welcomed us to their neighborhood in Connecticut back in 1985 and we've remained good friends ever since, despite being in different locations since 1987. She showed such dignity and courage over recent years. We will miss her dearly. Our love to Tom and the family."
"Tom, how thankful Jim and I are to have shared those annual dinners at Pazzo with you and Mary for the last eight years! They provided a heart-warming re-connection with precious friends from our youth. We will sorely miss Mary's sweet spirit and her delightful sense of humor, as well as hearing her reports on the joys of being a grandmother. We love you. Carson and Jim Kistner"
"Mary and Tom, You both are very special in everyway, our enduring friendship will be forever cherished. Carole and I will always remember the last time we were together,a special day, our son Christopher's wedding. Mary's warm and engaging personality will be forever missed. May the GOOD LORD keep you in his midst. Love always, Carole & Serge"
"Nene, even though your nickname was a bird, and that's all i could call you when I was younger, you will always be Grandmary. I hope you enjoyed watching me grow for 11, almost 12 years into who I am today, and it comes from my dad, who learned from the best. Stitch those rainbows up there and I hope you not only rest in peace but rest in paradise. With as much love as possible, Jack"
Lemor and I will always remember Mary for making our condo a beautiful place. She had such grace and always a smile. Her taste for our landscape was wonderful. She will be missed by both of us for sure. We are so sorry for your loss.
"Mary, during the past two years, showed her true spirit in the face of adversity as she went about her daily life suffering from that awful disease. A profile in courage she was and we at the Ambassador will miss her cheerful smile and her willingness to pitch in and do the right thing.
She will be missed and May She Rest in Peace."
"Mari and I are so saddened by the loss. We arrived in Stamford in 1985 where I was the junior most associate with Stamford Anesthesia. Tom was our chief of service but Tom and Mary were among the first to welcome us into their homes and hearts. These are the memories that last beyond a lifetime and facilitate character building which is priceless. A privilege and an honor."
"Diana and Siblings; you are in my thoughts and prayers. One never gets over the loss of their mother; i cannot begin to imagine your pain. She did a phenomenal job raising and loving the 4 of you. She was so proud-
! I love h cheeky monkey! Rest in peace Mrs Webber"
Little did I know when I fixed you up with my Marine Corps little brother in 1962, that you two would end up best friends, lovers, and my other sister. You told me when I saw you just a few days ago..."fifty years has gone by in a blink of an eye!" But oh, what you did with those 50 years! I miss you so, little Mary Pfundstein."
"We have never met a kinder, more gracious person than Mary. You two are a wonderful couple and our hearts go out to you and your family. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
Fred & Michele Madden"
"She was a very nice person and will be dearly missed. May she rest in peace. Love, Joyce Joubran."
"Mary, you will be sorely missed! Your tender smile, your sense of humor, the lovely breakfasts we had together at Doc's. Our first Dining Out at Chop's! And all of our subsequent "foodie" restaurant dinners. Bob loved cooking for you! You were a fellow Connecticut-ite! And l loved your outlook on life and your faith in God. We will all carry that with us forever! Be at peace!"
"Tom and family you will be in our thoughts and prayers.
We will always remember Mary's smile and positive attitude. Whenever we were together she was the one that brought strength and humor to the table!
I'm sure that she will be at God's side organizing some event!
Love, Lidia and John Paul"
"You are all in my heart.
Mary, you are beautiful inside and out. What an angel you will be. You will be missed so . . ."
"We are very saddened to hear of the passing of Mrs Webber. Whether it was in the stands for wrestling matches at King School, as a volunteer timer at the summer swim meets, or cheering us on at Boston College, she was an ever-present force of love and support for everyone. Our sincere condolences to your family - Steve, Abbi & Logan Yap"
"Susan and I will be forever thankful to have been a part of your extended family. You have been an inspiration to us and a beautiful friend since our meeting; and we will miss your presence, but your spirit will continually grace us. Heaven will be much better-organized and, perhaps, color-coded with you there. We love you.
Susan & Rick Creasy"
"From the first day, you treated me like a 3rd daughter, for which I am so very grateful. Your love, support, encouragement, and courage will live on in many, including your 3 grandsons, who are ready to look for signs that you are watching over them from above. We are sad you are not here, but LUCKY that you are now our angel. Bring on the rainbows. BIG love forever and ever."
You have truly been an inspiration to everyone. Your positive spirit in the face of the unknown has shown all of us that we should always look for the silver lining. That is just one of many wonderful life lessons you taught me and I will hold on to them forever. I love you Mom.
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