Jenny's birthday today.

"I've got it,"...I said to myself last week. So I came up with "10 Ways to Overcome Trauma and Stress." A tribute here; for the benefit of your survivors; as to what has been helping and what does not help to cope with the trauma and stress associated with loosing you and my mum. Buoyed by a streak of hopeful testimonies, I was determined to alert saints that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

And because I've recently learnt from all this that God forbids sorrow that weakens the body thereby leading to death, I was bold, self-assured and dry-eyed as I set out to accomplish this task.

Armed with a couple of scriptures to nudge me back to levelheadedness if sorrow threaten to overwhelm, I began writing. As I wrote, I could see the furrowed forehead of your husband and the skeptical looks on the faces of the saints. So I stopped. Thankfully. Because when I came back to the piece later, I realized that there is no overcoming your death. Not now. Not ever. One has to learn to live with it or not.

If one chooses not to live with it, one disobeys God. Therefore, we must live with it - (Ephesians 6: 10-20). That is the reality. If we are to reap the rewards of being with you, Nancy, in eternity, we have to stand firm and trust in God's mighty power to deliver ALL from evil.

Friend, when I think of your gentle face, it is not hard at all. Not at all.
In Jesus name I have prayed, Amen.

Ephesians 6: 10-20
10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. 19Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, 20for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.

Dear Mr Ike, I don't know your family, just accidentally popped into this site and read through the tributes. Your tributes to your late First Lady and daughter Jenny brought tears to my eyes, it tells how much you loved her. It is very painful to loose a loved one. May God in His infinite mercy continue to sustain you and Jess. Be rest assured that they are resting peacefully in the bosom of the Lord. Take heart brother.

Dear Nancy, I thought I should pass through here today and say hello to you and Jen. Forever in my heart

Another friend died the other day in mysterious circumstances. And I find that I am surer that nothing can separate us from the love of God. I am very certain that you will come with Jesus: 1 Thessalonians 4:16-18

16 For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18 Therefore encourage one another with these words.

Saint Nancy Okwulehie-Ibe....resting in God's bossom.

Words are still heavy in my mouth. It's difficult to call you 'my late wife'. God, this is still very painful. Nancy, what should I do?

Romans 12: 4 - 21 = Nancy Echendu Okwulehie-Ibe. My dear Nancy, I think I have honored you and my mum today. Women of God - both gone too soon. Praying today that Jessica does not miss you as much as I miss my mum. Love you.

Thinking of you as my day is coming along. Salt of the earth, if only you survived. if not for the word of God, Ike, Jessica, your/jennifer's foundation, one would have been greatly disheartened at the pointlessness of it all.

Again, to those who are bereft or scared, all is well because Jehova who has delivered us from the shock of your death will sustain us as we embody your wonderful qualities and strive to honor you.

I remember the early days of your marriage as you quashed and overcame challenges upon challenges, I have no choice but to be assured that your death will reveal how wonderful and marvelous our God is. Indeed, in this horror, I have seen with my spiritual eyes that we have nothing to fear from the enemy - the devil. We are under God's grace - we have nothing to fear.

NANCY AND JENNIFER.
MY WIND AND MY SUN.

Nancy and Jennifer were two of a kind. Nancy was the wind beneath my wings. For fifteen years She made me soar to great heights. She was all I needed to excel and I excelled. Jennifer was the sunshine in my life. She brought the sun when the clouds gathered. She made every frown on my face disappear. She made joyful sounds. Both were my wind and my sun. Two years now, Jessica and I have not soared and the clouds keep circling. They tell us time heals all wounds, what a lie. Yet to heal but maybe still could heal. Our help is in the name of God who made heaven and earth. Eloi Eloi Lama Sabactani. Mary the mother of Jesus, Ora Pro Nobis.

Hi Nancy thought you might like to know that your parents are well looked after by your siblings and your sister in law chinyere is helping your hubby care for Jess. Rest in peace

Those we love remain with us for love itself lives on, and cherished memories never fade because a loved one’s gone. Those we love can never be more that a thought apart. For as long as there is a memory, they’ll live on in our hearts. My thoughts and prayers will always remain with you, Hon Iyke. Rest in peace Nancy & Jennie.

May their souls rest in peace. Adieu Nancy and Jennifer. Although i did not see u while on earth in person. Ur senseless death brought many to know u and cherish ur living. Death will have no power over u again. Death where is ur power, where is thy sting. Death U hv done them Nancy n Jennifer a favor. They are sleeping n at the same time resting. They do not hv to be afraid of u any more. The will not die again. No more pain, no more sickness, no more sorrow for them. The struggle continues for the living. The pain of living still await anyone that is still living. They have passed on smiling down on us. If only the dead can talk, I believe they will thank u death because u help them find the peace n serenity that they so much needed that the world did not offer them. They peace n joy that eludes the living. I know if it was money or firm, they will still be alive today. I believed God has called them to rest. To leave this sinful world n the pain of living behind. Adieu Dear. And to u their loved ones take heart. Hold onto the nice memories that u had together. Rejoice knowing that u did ur part while they were here with u. Remember u will meet them again to part no more. May the peace of The Lord continue to be ur strength. Shalom.

Always always in my thoughts. I remember you often. Nice to know your parents and Jess are fine. Alleluia. You have passed your caring nature to others who clearly have hit the ground running. Those who trust in the Lord can never be shamed. Praying for Ike, Jess and for those who mourn you. Our joy must surely return in the morning.

Nancy and Jenny, I picked up courage to see Jess in Abuja, something I dreaded since that fateful day. I hugged her and she asked why I didn't come to the funeral. I struggled to hold and hide tears as I did not want her to cry too. I apologized and she forgave my absence at the funeral because I was in faraway America. She is doing well. Surely, Ike has done a marvelous job.

Hi Nancy, saw a documentary on TV about a crash unfortunately it was very graphic and I burst into tears the boys were there it was not pretty but what can I do. Will I ever be able to come to terms with your death. This is hoping you and Jenny are having fun

Aunty Eche, Jenny and my mummy, for over a year I have hoped that you would come back to us, but now I know for sure that you are not coming back I appreciate that fact only because you are where you want to be. I have not said anything about your departure because I didn't believe you were gone, it hurts me not to have you but you are happier than you've ever been so I would respect that.

I think about you everyday ,I respect your perspectives more and so many things you told me now make a lot of sense and I especially wish you are here. I am your greatest fan.

First Lady, yes, you and Jenny are there in heaven and we are still in this hell called Nigeria where everything has broken down. You must be laughing now but I know you are also praying for me and Jess. The tribute and book event honouring you and Jenny went on very successful on Sunday at Owerri. You would be proud of our effort. We love you both and miss you greatly. Ora Pro Nobis.

Forerunner, omezi obodo, feminist, stalwart, the energy of Honorable Ike Ibe - human rights attorney, go to person, peacemaker, grace under tremendous pressure, your family and friends and the Ibe family will be comforted. I don't want you to be troubled by our reactions of grief. Relax. We are gathering momentum. Relax.

I just got word that Nigeria is overhauling its aviation industry and that the results are already showing. Look at how your family is honoring you!!!! NAJICPA, memorials, revival of the importance of family and family unity. You did not have to die for these to be achieved. You and Ike would have accomplished them nonetheless.

It is 1 year now I still don't know what to do. This is the most confusing thing in my life. I thought maybe if I see yours and Jenny's grave I will feel better but that has not helped. I hope to God this family will be ok. You may like to know Jess and your husband are hanging in there, Jess gets scared easily now but in general she is doing ok.

Already 1yr! It was just like yesterday when I heard the shocking news that Dana airline crashed perishing 153 lives. Oh Nancy! I miss you so much! For the past 4weeks, we drive pass Mathias Choice, where you guys lived in Bowie, Maryland. For some reason, I always slow down and my girls shout "That’s Jennifer’s house” & tears fall down my eyes. Our thoughts are ever with you & Jenny. RIP

To live in the hearts of those who love you is not to die. Nancy, you are not dead, just away from this space. Peace to you and Jenn.

Your memory is very much alive in Nigeria (NAJICPA) we will keep it alive. We love and miss you dearly.

Nnem, one year to the day.

In the midst of me questioning life, you forced me to view things differently. You have made me understand that we have to keep at it, even if it is absurd. That the devil constantly seeks to destroy our hope and mainstay. My dearest darling Nancy, I miss you

It is exactly one year. Your memory still lives on.

Mrs. Ibe, how are you? I know you're doing just fine with God & Jennifer. But for your loved ones, we all are struggling dearly. I just want to hear your voice again. I want to hear Jenn's voice as well. You were a very strong woman who believed in The Lord very much. I don't know why you & Jenn had to pass away but I just want you both to know that I love you very much & Rest In Peace!!!!

First Lady, we drove home to Obowo on friday and marked your first year memorial. We drove back to Abuja almost in complete silence. Almost at the exact time you departed, BBC called me on phone as I was driving. They asked me how I felt one year after and why I formed NAJICPA. Yes, I know you know what I answered. 'YOUR DEATH WILL NEVER BE IN VAIN. IT WILL NEVER BE'. Ora pro nobis, angel.

I can't explain how much your death has affected me. Jenn's too. Jenn & I were the best of friends. I miss you so much Mrs. Ibe. This has been too much for me to bear. Next week Monday will be a year that you have been gone, but I still remember the day I got the horrific news just like it was yesterday. You are in a better place now. R.I.P Mrs. Ibe, you remain forever in our hearts.

Dear Nancy, honestly i shed tears like never before, when i started reading ur husband's writes up here, that i started asking God, where are u lord, but i strongly believe that the Lord knows everything. Continue to rest in the bossom of the lord, you and Jennifer with our aunty. My brother and good friend Ike c Ibe, stop crying, it is well.

First Lady, It's eleven months but it still seems like yesterday. I promised you that your death will not be in vain. I have taken the struggle to all corners of the earth including the world bank where I have been speaking out against corruption. We will walk against corruption on May 9th in your memory all over the world. Rest on angel.You and Jenn Keep an eye on us and intercede for us.

The sky looks misty and cloudy, looks like the rain is going to fall today. The heavy winds of last night was all over our doors and windows. The green plastic you put on our doors to protect us from wind and rain are still there. As they whisper with the wind, they remind me of your care and love. First Lady, its 10 months today. Ora pro nobis.

Nancy nwannem, We are here still trying to come to terms with your going away with Jen. I see you guys in the dream all the time. Closure is no where near.It is still very difficult. I hope to have closure one day. Jess was with us for christmas it was very sad for me, I was not able to talk much looking at your husband and daughter. I hope to God they can get some peace

A friend buried his wife this past weekend. I could not stop thinking of you. I wonder how my dear friend Ike is doing. Nancy, I miss you.
I am disappointed that I still shed tears at the thought of you and loved ones gone. Since I know we shall meet again. Please, keep watching over me. I miss you.

First Lady, yesterday makes it exactly 9 months since we have been saying Oh God, why. We will never know why, but God knows best. I know you are with Him in Heaven so you know why. Down here, the wound is getting deeper and the pain more agonizing. Please pray for us, tell God to have mercy on us, its very tough down here

First Lady, yesterday was exactly 8 months you moved up. Saturday night, you came in a red flowery dress sitting on a white chair sorrounded by a white cloud. You looked at me, smiled and made a sign of the cross and you moved on. Yesterday 3rd I sat with Jess at our chair in church and the choir was singing our song. I tell you, this will never go away because I couldn't sing. Jess sang.

First Lady, we made it through the first xmas and Jessica's birthday. It was a drag. Jessica was so sad as we were opening xmas gifts in London with her cousins and aunties. I went by our house in Washington and tears came rolling down my cheeks. I asked myself if I should have left us all in Washington. 3rd was the 7th month memorial and 1st was our wedding anniversarry. Vacation was sad.

What a big loss!!! What a painful exit!!! I sent my first tribute on 11th June, a week after the crash but didn't realise I knew Mrs Nancy Ibe untill today. Yes! I met you the day your family did thanksgiving even after loosing out of the guber race at the party house along okigwe road in owerri. I performed for u with Aunty Ukachi Wachukwu and u were all smiles. Hon. Ike C. Ibe, take heart

luv u mom, and i will never forget u, i'll think about u 4ever

First Lady, its exactly 6 months ago today that you surprised us and ascended into Heaven. I know you and Jenny are seated at the right hand of God. They say time heals all wounds, but I think whoever said that lied. The wound is as fresh as it was on that fate-filled day of june 3rd. The wound will forever be fresh no matter how much time passes. RIP First lady. Watch over us as always.

First Lady and Jenny, its five agonizing months today already. Please ask God to continue to watch over us as I know you are. Jess and I still sit on the couch overlooking your pictures and trying to find some answers. I started working on the book "God, Nigeria and my Family's Blood". I promise, you will always be here with us. Tell God I said so.

I was talking about you and jessica and jenny to a friend yesterday. That yesterday too, to my surprise, I saw somewhere on TV that what I, full of the Spirit and in sorrow, had said and written about you after I heard the dreadful news, was uttered by Jackie Kennedy after JFK was killed. Nancy dearest, you are now a legend. And I know you'll be shy, cos of your humble nature.

Your death is a shock to me. I have said that I am comforted that Jess is here. The truth is that I was relieved and grateful. Isn't it shocking that humanity has to resort to prostrating daily in gratitude when in going about daily mundane tasks we escape death as a result of the machinations of a very few. Ah my sister, I hope you and Jenny are in a better place.

My dear brother, your posts are so moving.Even though I have never met you, it is hard to hold back tears reading through your tributes to your first lady. How you must love her and your beloved daughter! O ga dri gi mma. Jehovah will continue to be your strength and shield. Ndo!

First Lady, many people called to wish me happy birthday today. But what is there to be happy about. You and Jenny are not here to sing for me like you did last year. What a life, what a waste. Anyway, Jess did very well at the tournament. She was the key to their school's silver cup. As I told her, you and Jenny watched over here. She was very happy after the tournament and all weekend.

First lady,Jess did well in the 1st quarter exam and report in school. For the first time I went to the student conference. Jess is playing in the voleyball tournarment tomorow. For the first time I'm taking her there instead of you and for the first time she is playing without Jenny. She is sad and nervous, I assured her both Jenny and you will be watching over her. Biko watch over her.

Ike, Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. Please hold your heart. For all our sake. Please. Your sadness is well understood. The issue here is that you are very much needed. For all our sake. PLEASE do not faint or wither away in sorrow.

First lady, I won't lie to you, we are finding life without you much more difficult. Last night about 1.30 am, the transformer in the estate blew up and there were heavy sparks all over the place. Jessica woke up sreaming. When we went back to sleep, "I saw you thereafter" as you were just standing by the kictchen and I was in the living room crying. I know you came to tell us it was okay.

First lady, its exactly four months today and we are still confused. You "came" with Jenny early this morning and gave us some encouraging advice. Jess wore your clothes on friday for their school national day event. She also sang in memory of Jenny. She was very beautiful, sonorous and brave. I'm sure you and Jenny saw her too. Keep watching over us. We love and miss you both unbearably.