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This memorial website was created in the memory of my beloved husband, Ned Lindemann, 75, born on July 14, 1938 and passed away on September 19, 2013. We will remember him forever.

February 17
February 17
Twenty seven years ago today we became husband and wife. It was a beautiful ceremony and a great party. We were surrounded by family and friends, but when I pledged my love to you, it was as if only you and I were there. I remember every moment of that day as if it was yesterday. Every year we were together, our love grew. You had to go home way too soon, my darling Nedly, but you still live in my heart, and I know we will be together again!❤️❤️❤️❤️
September 19, 2023
September 19, 2023
Ten years ago today we had a great late afternoon visit from Pr. Heisley. You were your wonderful, cheerful self. After Pastor left, we watched the evening news. When it was time for me to go into the kitchen to fix dinner, you said you were tired. You had missed your normal afternoon nap. I walked you into the bedroom to rest before dinner, promising to wake you when the salmon was on the table. But when I went into bring you to the table, you were gone. God had sent his angels to end your pain and take you home. My life will never be the same. I love you, and I miss you, but I know we will be together again, and will spend eternity together.

God joined us together in this life, and he will join us again in the next!
July 14, 2023
July 14, 2023
Happy Birthday Nedly. I thought of going to Gallagher's this evening, where we always went for birthdays, but going alone isn't any fun. I'm supposed to have dinner with Alice and Margo tonight at Arté, where you an I often went for brunch after Church. If I go, I will definitely toast you with a very dry, Bombay Sapphire martini, shaken, not stirred, with three olives. And I will feel your hand in mine and see the love in your eyes. Peace, my darling, until we are together once more. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
June 9, 2023
June 9, 2023
27 years ago today I had no idea that in a few short hours my life would change forever. I went to see Sandy at Yvette's and you walked into the restaurant and into my life. I left with you that night and never looked back. I miss you my darling Nedly. I have a good life. Katie is wonderful to me. I have good friends, and, of course, my Holy Trinity family, but nothing is quite right without you. You are my other half. I love you, and I know we will be together again when my time comes to go home.❤️
February 17, 2023
February 17, 2023
Happy Anniversary Nedly. Twenty seven years ago you made me the happiest woman on earth by becoming my husband--a term I would repeat often during our beautiful reception. We had seventeen years as husband and wife. We had our share of problems, but our love always sustained us. How I miss you, but I know you are keeping watch over me, and we will be together again. I love you with all my being!❤️❤️❤️
September 19, 2022
September 19, 2022
Another year, my beloved, since God ended your pain and called you Home. I miss you so much, but I know you are still with me, watching over me, waiting until we will be together again. I talk to you all the time, but how I wish I could hear your voice in response, hold your hand once more, feel your arms around me. I love you with every fiber of my being, today, tomorrow, and for all eternity. Thank you for loving me.
July 14, 2022
July 14, 2022
Good morning my darling. 84 years ago today you came into this world. It would be 57 years before you walked into my world and changed my life forever. I am so thankful for all your birthdays I was able to celebrate with you, although there were far too few. But I will celebrate your life today, knowing you are with me always. I fell for you that beautiful June afternoon in 1995, and my love for you is as strong as ever. I love you with every fiber of my being.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
December 25, 2021
December 25, 2021
On this Christmas Day I am thinking back to our first Christmas together. We went tree shopping, and you bought us a beautiful tree over 7-ft. tall. The next day we went shopping for lights and ornaments, because I certainly didn't have enough for such a magnificent tree. When we got home I saw for the first time how meticulous you were in stringing the lights. You started from the inside of the tree, so when the lights were plugged in, the tree glowed from within. It was beautiful. That night we had a tree trimming party, with friends bringing ornaments to add to ours. What fun we had. And then there was Christmas night. We spent Christmas day at Linda's with Sandy, and a group of good friends. When we got home, we made the monumental decision to get married. It was the perfect ending to a perfect Christmas. And every Christmas after that you made just as perfect. Thank you for loving me. I love you as much, no more, than I did on that Christmas day in 1995, and I will love you for all eternity.
September 19, 2021
September 19, 2021
It's so hard to believe it was eight years ago today that God ended your pain and called you Home. I miss you so very much, and love you as much today as I did on that day. You are my heart, and I know we will be together again for eternity.❤️❤️❤️❤️
July 14, 2021
July 14, 2021
Happy Birthday my darling. How I remember all the years we celebrated at Joho's. You always thanked him for holding such a big party for you. Of course the party was for Bastille Day---quite typical for a French restaurant. The restaurant is no longer there, but my memories are vivid. Your love gets me through every day.
June 9, 2021
June 9, 2021
Twenty-six years ago tonight you walked into Yvette's after a Cubs game and changed my life forever. God brought us together that night, and I know He will reunite us. I love you with all my being, and I am so thankful for the love you brought me.
February 17, 2021
February 17, 2021
Twenty-five years ago today you made me the happiest woman on earth by making me your wife. You showed me your love in big ways and small. I miss you so much my darling. You were my world, and the world became so much smaller when you had to leave. I love, Nedly, and I know God will reunite us.
September 19, 2020
September 19, 2020
My darling Nedly. 7 years ago we were saying good bye to Pr. Heisley. It had been a lovely visit. We had partaken of communion. You were tired. You had not had your normal afternoon nap. You went to bed to rest while I prepared dinner. You didn't wake up. I tried so hard to wake you. God had taken you home. I miss you today as much as I missed you that night. I love you with every fiber of my being. You are my other half. I have a life, but without you it is empty. I love you, and I miss you. Pleas wait for me.
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Remembering the wonder birthday celebrations Ned and I shared with Jan.
Happy Birthday to us Ned
Barbara
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Happy Birthday Darling. It is a bright, sunny day, and hot. The kind of day you always wanted to stay in air conditioned comfort. Because of The coronavirus pandemic, I won't be able to go to Gallaghers to toast you. But I have wonderful memories of the birthdays and anniversaries we celebrated there, especially the one where I walked in and handed you "your" birthday present--my ridiculously expensive flat iron. I still use it, so on a per-use basis it wasn't so expensive after all. I remember so vividly your smile and laugh when I presented it to you. As always, your smiling eyes were full of love, the love you gave me every day of our too short time together. I love you, Nedly, and know that we will be together again.❤️❤️❤️
February 17, 2020
February 17, 2020
Twenty-four years ago today we stood before God and pledged a lifetime of love. We were surrounded by friends and family. What a glorious day it was. Our time together ended much too soon. But you are still with me my darling Nedly. We created so many beautiful memories I our years together, and when I'm missing you, you'll come to me in a memory, and I will smile. Thank you, Nedly, for loving me. I love you with my whole heart. You will always be my other half. 
September 19, 2019
September 19, 2019
Good morning Darling

Six years ago today we had a lovely day. The new clothing we had ordered for you had arrived, and you were excited to wear it. After all, Pr. Heisley was visiting in the afternoon. During that visit you were joking with Pastor, laughing, having a good time. Pastor blessed us with Communion. As we started watching the evening news, you said you were tired. As you had not had your normal afternoon nap, I suggested you lay down while I prepared dinner. I tucked you in, kissed you, and said I'd wake you for dinner. That was the last conversation we had. When I went in to wake you, God had called you home. While I knew your pain had ended, mine was just beginning. How would I survive without my other half?


I have survived, but only because I know you are still with me, and that we will be reunited. My love for you is as deep today as it was on that day you had to leave. Thank you for loving me, Nedly, for being my strength, my friend, my husband. I'll love you through eternity.
July 14, 2019
July 14, 2019
Happy Birthday Nedly! Six years ago today we celebrated your birthday at home. The Saturday before we were at Gallagher's having a martini and a magnificent dinner as we always did on both of our birthdays, as well as our anniversary. While you were not sure about Gallagher's when we first moved to NYC, you soon accepted it as our special place, as it had been mine since 1969.  What wonderdul memories I have of us there. I haven't been in a while. I was last there on my birthday with Katie two years ago. It just isn't the same without you. But one of these days, I will go in, sit at the bar, order a Black Label, and remember all the times we did so together. We would talk about everything in that comfortable cocoon--from politics to next week's grocery order. I love you Nedly, and I miss you. I know you heard Joe's magnificent voice this morning. He knew it is your birthday, and he was singing for you.
February 17, 2019
February 17, 2019
Happy Anniversary my darling. It was snowing when we left for church twenty three years ago today, but nothing could dampen our spirits. God has blessed us when he brought us together and June, and he blessed us when we took our vows in front of all our friends. Although you've been gone five years, my love for you is even stronger and deeper than it was on that glorious day. I will love you forever!❤️❤️❤️
September 19, 2018
September 19, 2018
Five years ago today we had a wonderful day together. Pr. Heisley came for a visit, and you joked with him, we laughed, we held hands. Pr. Heisley gave us Holy Communion, then, after he left, you were tired. I said you should lay down while I prepared dinner, as you had missed your afternoon nap. I tucked you in, and kissed you. Then, when I went in to wake you for dinner, you were gone. God had called you home to end your pain. I miss you Nedly, as much today as I did that night five years ago. But you are always with me. I love you, and I know God will return me to you, just as He brought us together on that fateful night in June.❤️❤️❤️❤️
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Happy Birthday Nedly. It's Saturday. What a glorious time we would have had at Gallagher's celebrating your 80th. You will be with me all day and I will raise my glass to you in the evening.  I love you with every fiber of my being, and know that one day we will be together again.❤️
February 17, 2018
February 17, 2018
Happy Anniversary Nedly. Twenty two years ago today, we stood at the altar of Christ the King, surround d by loved ones, and pledged our love to one another. That love only grew stronger over the years, and my love for you has continued to grow, even though you are no longer physically with me. I miss you so very much Sweetheart, but I feel your presence with me every day. I know you are watching out for me, just as you have done since the night we met. Today Katie will be with me. She will be a physical reminder of our wondrous day and the beautiful life we shared. I love you, Nedly, and will love you until the day we are once again together.❤️❤️❤️❤️
September 19, 2017
September 19, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Ned ...
I'll always treasure the wonderful times we had.
September 19, 2017
September 19, 2017
Four years ago today you were still with me in this world. You are still with me and will be always, but I miss holding you, talking to you, laughing with you. There is a hole in my heart that will never heal. You are my other half. I love you, Nedly, and I know one day we will be reunited in God's home.
July 14, 2017
July 14, 2017
Happy Birthday Nedly. I'm looking at your picture as I write this. I see the love in your eyes that I saw every time I looked at you. Today I will celebrate as we always did. I'm remembering your birthday the year we met. You were so surprised that I bought you a gift. You said no one ever fussed over you on your birthday. From that year forward I made sure you were king of the day on July 14. No one deserved it more. I love you and miss you my darling. I will love you for all eternity which we will spend together.❤️❤️❤️
July 14, 2017
July 14, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you Jan as I remember the wonderful birthday celebrations in the past. I will be "toasting" us tonight!!!
February 17, 2017
February 17, 2017
Happy Anniversary my darling Nedly.. Twenty-one years ago today we stood in front of the altar and said our wedding vows, promising to love, honor, and cherish until death us do part. Well, that vow was wrong. I love, honor, and cherish you more today than I did when we spoke those words. Death may have taken your physical body from me, but your spirit is with me always. I miss holding your hand, reaching for you in bed, sitting across from you at meals. But you are a part of me, the best part, and I will just have to live only with your spirit until God reunites us in Heaven. I love you for all eternity.
September 19, 2016
September 19, 2016
Jan ..Will always remember the wonderful times we had sharing Ned's and my mutual birthday ...and what a wonderful friends we all were.
My thoughts and prayers are with you today and always.
Love
Barbara
September 19, 2016
September 19, 2016
Three years ago this morning we were looking forward to Pr. Heisley's visit in the afternoon. We had found out the day before that you had been approved to have an aide on Sundays for eight hours rather than four, so we were going to be able to go to church on Sunday. We were anxious to share that good news with Paator. I realize now, that you were ready to have God take you home. You were in pain, and you were determined to keep that from me. And I worked just as hard to avoid acceptance of that. I wasn't ready to let you go.  I couldn't face life without you. Now, three years later, I still can't. I miss you desperately. I hide it from others as much as I can, but the pain is with me always. I live for our reunion. The move to 71st St. has made my life physically easier, but my life is as devoid of happiness as it was when God took you home. You are my other half my darling. I know God, in Her infinite mercy, will reunite us when it is my time to come home. I love you today and always.
July 14, 2016
July 14, 2016
Happy Birthday Nedly. I will celebrate with Katie today. I am going out to Southold this afternoon and will look out at the water and think of you. Oh how I wish you were with us. I love you with all my heart, and miss you every day. I know you are no longer in pain, and I am grateful for that. Wait for me my beloved. We will be together for eternity.
February 17, 2016
February 17, 2016
Happy Anniversary my darling Nedly. I miss you every day. I know you are watching over me, and one day we will be together again. Until then, I will continue to talk to you, think of you, and love you with all my heart.
February 16, 2016
February 16, 2016
Twenty years ago tonight we were at Yvette's for our rehearsal dinner, thanks to Charlie. Katie came over and quietly asked if she and Tom could order steak--it was the most expensive item on the menu. I assured her it was OK. You asked me what Katie asked. When I told you, we laughed, because my carnivore daughter had returned to her roots. What a magnificent evening it was, knowing that in fewer than 24 hours we would be husband and wife. I love you more tonight than I did on that glorious night. You are my other half!
September 19, 2015
September 19, 2015
My Darling Nedly
Two years ago today we woke up excited. The day before we were approved for a home health aide for 3 full days rather than half days. That meant we were going to be able to go to church on Sunday. And Pr. Heisley was visiting that afternoon. A very good day indeed. 

We were having salmon for dinner, one of your favorites, but you said you were tired. You hadn't had your afternoon nap. I said that was no problem; we'd have the salmon the next night. I tucked you in. You said you wanted just a short rest, then we'd have some soup and watch TV. I went into the kitchen to put dinner things away. Then, when I went in to check on you, I found God had ended your pain. He had taken you home and Heaven welcomed a new angel. 

You are with me every day. While I can no longer reach out and touch you, or hear your loving voice or see the love in your eyes, I know you are with me. Your love gives me the strength to go on. And I am secure in the knowledge that we will be together again when God decides to bring me home.

I love you, Nedly, and give thanks every day for the love you gave me every day of our lives together.
July 14, 2015
July 14, 2015
Am remembering you and all of the wonderful mutual birthday celebrations we had. Will be toasting “us” and your beloved Jan tonight.
XX & OO
Barbara
July 14, 2015
July 14, 2015
Happy Birthday my Beloved. Today I celebrate your birth 77 years ago. I give thanks to your parents, Loretta and Walt, for raising you to be the most special person that you were. You were my best friend, my husband, the love of my life. I miss you and love you every day. You are with me today and will be with me each day until God reunites us for eternity. I love you with every fiber of my being.
February 17, 2015
February 17, 2015
Happy Anniversary my darling Nedly. Nineteen years ago today you made me your wife, and made me the happiest woman on earth. Thank you. I loved you that day, I love you today, and I will love you every day of my life.
February 16, 2015
February 16, 2015
Nineteen years ago tonight we were at our rehearsal dinner at Yvette's. Charlie Walther, your best man, graciously hosted the dinner. Katie lost her vegetarianism that night and had a big steak. We were surrounded by friends, all of whom would be there the next day when God blessed our union and we became husband and wife. I love you my darling Ned.
September 19, 2014
September 19, 2014
It has been one year since God ended your pain and took you home. As hard as I try, I can't seem to make a life without you. You are my other half. I love you even more today than when we married. But as much as I miss you now, I know you are in God's arms and will be there to hold me when God calls me home. I live you Nedly.
July 14, 2014
July 14, 2014
Here's to us on our mutual birthday. I will cheer you as we always have done. You're still the best!
XX & OO
Barbara
and XX & OO to your beloved Jan....
July 14, 2014
July 14, 2014
What a lovely picture of Ned this is, Jan. Mischievous, twinkling eyes, and ever-ready smile. But what does not show in the image, but we both know so well, is the deep love you had for each other and how happy you made him. That he KNEW--and nothing is more important than that. On this, his birthday, I send you a warm and loving hug, Yvonne
July 14, 2014
July 14, 2014
Dear Jan, thinking of you -- and dear Ned -- on Ned's 76th birthday. With love, Tim
July 14, 2014
July 14, 2014
76 years ago today Loretta and Walt welcomed a beautiful baby boy into their world. I thank them for raising that baby into the magnificent man I married. I will celebrate today with love and thanksgiving for the love we shared. I love you Nedley!
February 9, 2014
February 9, 2014
Hello my darling. Eighteen years ago we were so very excited; in just one week would be pledging our love in front of family and friends. I will spend this coming week holding those memories in my heart, where you are with me always.  I love you with all my heart and time will never dim that love.
February 1, 2014
February 1, 2014
Jan. Although we have never met, please accept our condolences on Ned's passing. I am a cousin from his fathers side. His father Walter and my father Arthur were brothers. We lost touch around 1960 when my family moved to Texas. I have inherited several pictures of when we were kids which caused me to do a google search to see if I could find Ned. Again, sorry for your loss.
October 1, 2013
October 1, 2013
Dearest Jan -

You know how I treasured the good times we three spent together - some of the best times of my life! My heart goes out to you at this difficult time - much love - Suzi
September 27, 2013
September 27, 2013
Ned: always a good sport and full of good humor; such a good man!

Jan, your tremendous loss is shared by so many. You remain in our thoughts and prayers, and Ned's name is written in our hearts.
With sympathy and love, Tim and Eric
September 23, 2013
September 23, 2013
Dear Jan, I was so sorry to hear about Ned. He was a lovely man and he will be missed. Sincerely, John Anderson
September 22, 2013
September 22, 2013
Dear Jan, 

I will always remember Ned for his gentleness and kindness; the consummate gentleman. I know how much you loved him and how hard the loss of this loving relationship will be for you. He will be missed.  Much love, Kathy
September 21, 2013
September 21, 2013
Ned was a warm and kind man with an easy smile and laugh. He was always so sweet to my children. He will most certainly be missed.

Jan, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and hugs,
Heather Mann
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February 17
February 17
Twenty seven years ago today we became husband and wife. It was a beautiful ceremony and a great party. We were surrounded by family and friends, but when I pledged my love to you, it was as if only you and I were there. I remember every moment of that day as if it was yesterday. Every year we were together, our love grew. You had to go home way too soon, my darling Nedly, but you still live in my heart, and I know we will be together again!❤️❤️❤️❤️
September 19, 2023
September 19, 2023
Ten years ago today we had a great late afternoon visit from Pr. Heisley. You were your wonderful, cheerful self. After Pastor left, we watched the evening news. When it was time for me to go into the kitchen to fix dinner, you said you were tired. You had missed your normal afternoon nap. I walked you into the bedroom to rest before dinner, promising to wake you when the salmon was on the table. But when I went into bring you to the table, you were gone. God had sent his angels to end your pain and take you home. My life will never be the same. I love you, and I miss you, but I know we will be together again, and will spend eternity together.

God joined us together in this life, and he will join us again in the next!
July 14, 2023
July 14, 2023
Happy Birthday Nedly. I thought of going to Gallagher's this evening, where we always went for birthdays, but going alone isn't any fun. I'm supposed to have dinner with Alice and Margo tonight at Arté, where you an I often went for brunch after Church. If I go, I will definitely toast you with a very dry, Bombay Sapphire martini, shaken, not stirred, with three olives. And I will feel your hand in mine and see the love in your eyes. Peace, my darling, until we are together once more. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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October 1, 2013

I remember how giddy with happiness Jan was from the very first day she met Ned - their love was meant to be!  I was fortunate to have been welcomed to their warm and beautifully-decorated homes (courtesy of Jan!) both in Chicago and NYC, and Ned's hospitality and generosity were ever-present.  As time went by, their love grew, and it was gratifying to witness their mutual adoration.  Since Ned's passing, I know how much Jan is grieving.  But, I also know that her spirit is resilient, and she will be strong in the knowledge that she will never be alone - Ned will always be with her.

September 27, 2013

Ned and Jan together, which for me was most often witnessed on Sundays at Holy Trinity Lutheran Church after their move to NYC, was a brilliant illustration of great love and affection.  It was impossible not to notice the terrific time they had with each other and the tremendous care they took of each other.  I am most grateful for these exemplary role-models.  Thank you, dear Jan and dear Ned!

Tribute to Ned

September 22, 2013
Dear Jan,   We are so dismayed to learn that your beloved Ned has died, and both Peggy and I extend to you our heartfelt condolences and sympathies in your time of such deep loss.  Ned's was such a valiant struggle against all that was working against his health and well-being, but in my conversations with him he never was anything but upbeat and very strong in his faith.  His body may have been gradually failing, but his mind and his sense of humor was always sharp and quick.  I remember fondly from my times as interim pastor at HTLC his avid participation in Bible study and afterwords discussions; he was, however ailing, always interested in the subject under study and always into the discussions.  What a good and faithful person Ned was.  You can be thankful to God, in spite of losing him, for the time you had together.  None of knows how long we will have on this earth, but his memory will live on for you and for all of us fellow members of the Body of Christ who have been privileged to know him.  May our gracious God help you as you grieve and sorrow to be of strong faith and courage.   There is a comforting text in the book Wisdom of Solomon 3.1-2 I want to share:   "The souls of the righteous are in the hand of God, and no torment will ever touch them.  In the eyes of the foolish they seem to have died, and their departure was thought to be a disaster, and their going from us to be their destruction: but they are at peace. . . .their hope is full of immortality."      God bless and comfort you, Jan, in this time of sorrow.   With love,  David & Peggy

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