- 69 years old
- Date of birth: Aug 27, 1937
- Date of passing: Mar 16, 2007
|Let the memory of the Gentleman, Ogbueshi H.E. Okonkwo be with us forever|
This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Ogbueshi Henry Okonkwo, 69, born on August 27, 1937 and passed away at Asaba on March 16, 2007. We will remember him forever.
"Remembering you on your Birthday Dad, may your gentle soul continue to rest in peace. We love and miss you always."
"The passing years have not removed you from memory and affection. We remember you and the wonderful times we used to share with you and your dear wife, Phyllis. While those days can never return, we cherish them as priceless gifts that only true friendship brings. One day, one day, Henry, we shall all meet again, in an Eternity, where neither separation nor death exist ... only togetherness with our Creator.
(Sam and Therese Nweke)"
"My beloved Henry, as the River ever flows, so Time runs on. Unbelievably, another anniversary has rolled by on the 16th of March, 2015, making it the eighth since you departed. Yet it looks just like yesterday. The memory of the entire events of our lives together is still very vivid. Looks you have not gone too far, because ever so often, there is always something that attracts my attention to your presence. Often too, the reality overwhelms me and I would realize I have forever missed my soulmate, a good man, so rare to come by. May your soul rest in our Lord's Peace."
""Life's but a walking shadow; a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
(Macbeth - Act 5, Scene 5, 24-28)
Henry, our thoughts are on you, particularly today, eight long years after you left us. What is life?
What is death? Mere transitions! Yes, the higher lies above.
Remembered especially today, 16th March, 2015, by your friends: Sam & Therese Nweke"
"Dearest Daddy, so hard to believe you've been gone for 8 years. It still hurts badly that you're not here with us but God knows best. Continue to rest peacefully in the bosom of the Lord. We miss you and Medua dearly. Lots of love always."
"To a true gentleman and good father-in-law,
We pray on this day as we remember you. May you continue to enjoy the peace of eternal life"
"Today marks 8 years since we got that sharp and piercing news of your passing away. As we mark another memorial of your time and life in this world, we are comforted knowing that you are in a better place - with your Creator, God Almighty. Those you left behind have stayed together, prayed together and strived (and continue to strive) to carry on with the legacy - the legacy of a good name and right values. May your soul rest in the Lord's peace."
"Dear Daddy. It's been 8 years since your passing. I just want to say that I cherish every moment of the life you spent with us. We love you. Keep resting in The Lord's bossom."
"Tears filled my eyes as I saw this.... I remember how you would let me watch tv in your room and chatter away.... Still, you patiently answered all my childish inquiries. Your home was my second home growing up, and you always received us with open arms... I remember ur sense of humOur, your contagious yet soft laugh... Oh, how you are missed, it's been almost 8 years, but ur kindness can never be forgotten. Continue to rest in peace dear uncle.... Love, Nina."
"Brother, as I so fondly called you... You were more than a brother to me, you became a father figure. With love, you accepted me into your family.... Great men are indeed rare. We miss you so much, and we know u are in a better place. Those of us you left behind will ensure your Legacy continues to burn-on strongly.... As you continue to rest in perfect peace... Love, Nene."
"REMEMBERING HENRY: AN UNFORGETTABLE FRIEND
All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages . . .
These are the words of the most internationally acclaimed writer in the English language, William Shakespeare. They ring true today about us all, as they did more than four centuries ago. Ogbueshi Henry Edozie Okonkwo made his entrance on this world's stage, and in due course made his exit. As Shakespeare reminds us, he played many parts - son, husband, father, grandfather, in-law, relative, friend, businessman, employer - the list is truly endless. However, it is in his capacity as a friend of my family that I wish to re-enact my memories of him.
My earliest memory of Henry is that of a devoted, caring and supportive husband to my dearest friend, Phyllis, and a thoughtful, but watchful and responsive father to their children, Edo, Medua, Ifeoma, Chinwe and Kayo. We were all very young then in the 1970s. And Lagos was a good place to be in! Henry, Phyllis, my husband, Sam, and I, used to attend parties and various social events as a foursome. We visited each other's homes, and my children saw the home of the Okonkwos, with rare, lush plants and beautifully appointed rooms, as their second home.
Henry, in his long Citroen, the latest edition of the car (tokunbos were unknown then) was elegance personified. I can still "see" him at one of the many diplomatic gigs we attended in Old Ikoyi and Victoria Island, before these suburbs were permanently despoiled by commerce and the ubiquitous high-rise. Drink in hand, feet tapping to calypso or steel band rhythms at one of Ambassador Patrick Edwards's famous parties, before he took to the floor - that's how I like to remember Henry. Slim and debonair from head to toe, Henry Okonkwo was never one to put a wrong foot forward.
Witty, and at times cynical, with a caustic tongue when provoked, Henry was a well informed and rounded individual. He could hold his own anywhere, and needed no Ph.D or a string of academic certificates to validate his intellectual acumen. His views on politics, religion, economics and business were objective, robust and clearly emanated from careful observation and thought. In some respects, Henry Okonkwo was unashamedly conservative, but in others he was ahead of his time. He encouraged his wife to exploit her talents to the fullest and ensured she used her many scholarships to study abroad and score high in her discipline.
One of the most refreshing aspects of Henry was that he knew whom he was through and through. He was not given to unnecessary airs and graces, even when he had made money and was quietly successful. He was kind, unaffected and genuine; and was impatient with those who were not. My husband and I respected him for all this and always treasured his advice. There was a time we lost touch, as chronic ill-health forced me to be away from Nigeria. Henry's death on 16th March, 2007 met me travelling from Chicago to Central America. Much, much later, it all came to me as an unwelcome shock. I kept on saying in my mind: No! No! No! Not Phyllis's Henry, tall, handsome Henry; at times diffident, yet sure of himself!
Now I know for a fact that Henry Edozie Okonkwo of Asaba is indeed gone ahead of us all. Still, the space in our lives that he filled will forever remain his alone, untouched and unscarred by the ravages of either age or time. Requiescat in pace.
"My dearest sweet daddy,
7 years has gone by now when I last saw you, but I will never forget you. You will always be in my heart. My angel, my guardian, my confidant. I remember you in my lonely moments and cry for the loss of a wonderful father, who worked hard to ensure his kids had the best. I know you are in a better place now dad, but it still will not stop we who you left behind from missing you terribly.
Love you always.
"Dearest Grandpa, I was only five when you passed on. Your in a better place, resting in perfect peace with the Lord. You will forever remain in my heart. Love you always.
"To the memory of Grandpa-
It has been 7 years since your passing and I miss you so much. I hope your soul continues to rest in perfect peace
Your grandson, Nonso"
"Henry, my darling, another year has rolled by making it exactly seven years since I last saw you. All this while, hardly a day passed without something reminding me of you. You are forever present in my heart. Moreso, each time I play on the piano, some old tunes we enjoyed together, your portrait I had placed on the piano seem to be looking at me and smiling. - so consoling.. I cant stop lovivg you, the most handsome and refined gentleman in the whole wide world. May the Divine Favour of God continue to sanctify you. Amen."
"Dearest Dad, you've been gone 7 years today and we miss you dearly. You're forever in our hearts. May your soul continue to rest in perfect peace. Amen"
"To the memory of Ogbueshi Henry Okonkwo - as we remember you today with prayers and thanksgiving for the life you spent here on earth, we know by faith that you are in a good place with the Lord. We continue to treasure the time you spent with us. may you rest in the the Lord's peace."
"Daddy. Today was quite amazing as a whole load of wisdom and maturity came over me. I felt you spoke to me. Miss you much. Keep resting in The Lord's bosom. Amen."
"I believe the Eternal Favour of God has sanctified you whilst you rest, making you remain very alive in my memory. I am ever conscious of your radiating eyes, often stopping me from making wrong moves. Miraculously, on a few occasions, in visions or in shallow dreams, God had allowed you, obviously, in times of emergency,to hurry down, in spirit, to leave instructions..."
"......in a loud familer sound and with visual aids that I believed saved lives at different times. Seems your selfless love for humanity îs preserved peacefully. For sure, I can't stop living in memory of the quality time we both had."
"Dear Daddy. I miss you so much. I miss all that you stand for. Truly wish you were here with us. You will indeed forever be missed.Keep resting in the Lord's Bosom."
"Dearest Dad, even though you're gone, you're always in my heart and I cherish the fond memories you left behind. I miss you so much and pray that your soul is resting peacefully in the bosom of the Lord. Amen."
"You poured out your love on us like a good father would. We miss your stories, your advice, your profound sense of dressing, your finesse. We will always treasure the time you spent with us. May you rest in the Lord's peace."
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