Peter Maynard Wilson was a great many things to a variety of people. Husband, father, brother, son, friend, hero, pilot, dog lover, avid reader, whiskey enthusiast, western movie fan and countless more. But for me, he filled the role of my Grandad.
When I was little, given my narrowed scope of the world and people, I neglected to grasp the idea that not every grandfather was like mine. I took for granted that when other people looked at their grandads and spent time with them, that they felt and experienced similar gifts I did. Before I can remember, my Grandad bestowed me with a nickname. Being the first born grandchild - I was so dubbed "Number 1". It was probably something he did without too much thought and carried on using the name because "it stuck". But to me it is a singular and small example of infinite ripples my Grandad set into motion during his lifetime by just being himself. With this gesture, he found a way to connect with me and make me feel special, firmly establishing my place in his world. As I got older, and exponentially in the recent days since his passing, it has been evident that my grandfather had a way of doing this over and over again with countless people he encountered in his life personally and professionally.
However, unique, and above all other relationships in his life, ranked the one he shared with my grandmother. Their relationship spanned 65+ years, continents and countries, children, grandchildren and a great a grandchild and set a near impossible standard of partnership. Their love, friendship, fierce loyalty, laughter and life together not only endured through the decades, it grew with each passing day. In the great many things I learned from Grandad, perhaps the greatest was in his deep and abiding love for my grandmother and his ability look at her every single day with adoration and appreciation.
As I write this now, I can't help but think about how wholly uncomfortable these words would make him. Humble by nature, such attention would surely make him blush and downplay all these sentiments and facts about his life and impact. This, in turn, exposes another lesson I learned from Grandad. To journey through life making decisions and taking action based on a strong moral compass and commitment to my fellow human beings, as it is the right thing to do and needs no acknowledgement or praise.
The hole I feel in my universe since his passing, and the associated grief, is a result of the space he filled up for the 35 years of my life that I was lucky enough to have him. The pain that absence brings is a price that I am more than willing to pay for the incredible gift I received in exchange.
During my lifetime, I will likely fill several roles myself, but one of the very proudest and luckiest will always be that of Peter Wilson's granddaughter.