- 64 years old
- Date of birth: Aug 10, 1947
- Date of passing: Jan 30, 2012
In accordance with her wishes, Phyllis was cremated at Mount Auburn Cemetery in a private family ceremony on Thursday, February 2nd.
A remembrance and celebration of Phyllis' life was held on Sunday, February 5th, at the Cambridge Insight Meditation Center in Cambridge. Phyllis' family wishes to express our warm appreciation to the many friends and family who attended the ceremony.
Phyllis' obituary appeared on page B12 of The Boston Globe on Friday, February 3rd.
Phyllis' story was also featured in an April 23, 2009 New York Times article: "Advances Elusive in the Drive to Cure Cancer," written by Gina Kolata.
Condolences may be sent to Phyllis' family at:
10 Kelly Road, Cambridge, MA 02139
In lieu of flowers, please consider making a contribution to one of the following organizations supported by Phyllis:
The Oneness Family School: International Peace Academy in Washington, D.C.
The Massachusetts Audubon Society
The Kaji Aso Studio, in Boston
The Cambridge Insight Meditation Center, in Cambridge
"Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time passes swiftly and opportunity is lost.
Let us awaken
Do not squander your life."
-Zen Night Chant
"Miss you P! Lucile and I celebrated your life tonight! Would love to hear your comments on this election! Would love to get tips on styling thin hair. Just miss your laugh!"
"I loved going to Aunt Phyllis house as a child. There was always a warm smile and a gentle hug. She always welcomed everyone into her home in the same manner. Her sense of humor made me laugh and smile still this many years later as I remember things she would say and do. I am fortunate enough to spend time with her children and grandchildren whom reminds me of her in so many ways! Miss you Aunt P, but I am blessed I get to receive the same love from Holly and Chad every time I see them. Love you!"
"To Phyllis: Remembering your beautiful smile, heart and art.
- your friends at Kaji Aso Studio"
"Good morning P. Not a day passes where you are not in my heart, soul, and thoughts. Can you believe I'm in my third year at CRLS? I see the smile! Talk to you soon."
"Always in my heart. On August 29, 2015, during my wedding, there will be a special prayer for you P. Love, Ale"
"Remembering Phyllis with the beautiful sunlight of today.
- all her friends at Kaji Aso Studio"
"Phyllis continues to inspire and support me in my life. I feel her holding my hand now that I have metastatic breast cancer. What a shining soul she is."
"Dear P, may your example guide our lives!"
I stare as someone walks in front of me, straight and tall, someone with your poise and grace who reminds me of you.
I hear your warm and contagious laughter from a woman who sounds like you.
I watch as yet another walks towards me, someone with your beauty and likeness.
They bring you back and I rejoice as I watch and listen and I say, "Hi, P.""
"Two years has past.
she still around.
Lighting our memories.
Of great moments together.
Great family of love.
Guided by the holly spirit.
Joined by laughs and light.
Love is in the air.
My love to Loren, Chad, Holly, Edna, Alex and Isabela."
"I pause today to remember a great friend. We had so many wonderful conversations, laughs, meals, and experiences together. Nothing can replace those times but the memories remain a source of support and comfort to me. I send love and continued strength to Loren, Holly, Chad and his fine family, and the many friends who will always miss Phyllis."
"What a vibrant and joyful and funny and warm being Phyllis was, and though we knew each other only a short time, she has helped me as I go through metastatic cancer treatment, as I remember her wonderful example of living a day at a time."
"Forever remembered and loved. - your Kaji Aso Studio family"
"AS I was reading the tribute from Ginny, I felt like expressing my self about Phyllis. As several people here mentioned, she was really a special human been. So positive and friendly. I always remember her. How fun she was, how friendly she was. I miss her a lot. She was and still beenvery special to me. I was luck to meet her on my life. RIP with the angels my friend."
"I think of Phyllis and her mom Helen all the time. Two woman that have touched my life. Very special people."
"As the years go by I still think of you often and miss you Phylly. Every time I go into Central Square I think of our last lunch together. You are always in my heart and in Jose's."
Miss you so very much. I will keep taking strides to be a better person, touch lives positively, and share beauty. As I embark on this next journey in my life, you will be right there with me, as always encouraging and supportive. Love you!"
"Last Friday at the Shivabalayogi retreat, during med., I had a distinct hit of P s presense, more distilled and potent. She seemed to be meditating right beside me as she did in 2012, only more adept.Later I mentioned the feeling to Mryganka, S s translator. She said" Phyllis was unique, and was the greatest human being I have ever met."I got chills as she said it...Peter Kutt"
"Happy Mothers Day Mama. Oh how I miss you."
"I had her my sophomore year at HHS and she was such a sweet spirited woman. I checked an email account yesterday that i hadnt checked in about 6 years. I found a few emails from her; A few asking how i had been and one telling me that her cancer had returned. I immediately responded praying that everything was alright. Then I found out she passed :( She will always be missed and remembered"
"Thank you for sending this Holly, It is so sweet to remember Phyllis which I do regularly. Her meditation practice continues to inspire me and so often remember her when doing walking meditation which Phyllis and I did so many times together. Best regards to all of the family that I met and also to those I did not meet."
"I can't believe it's been a year, I can still feel her warm, positive energy around me. I have a gorgeous purple hydrangea painting from her, it serves as a constant reminder of her beauty and strength! Miss you P."
"I miss you, Phyllis. I remember you smiling in Chad's kitchen, funny, open, and kind."
"That radient smile, those sparkling eyes and warm heart. Now and always we learn from a life well lived. You are here in our hearts, with love always."
"I miss you and am regularly helped by you to keep my own life effort strong and hopeful.."
"I continue to think of Phyllis so much. In my meditation corner, I keep the beautiful card she painted near the candles, and I invite her beautiful, peaceful, and inspiring spirit to help guide me. I think of her when I read a wonderful book, when I read Mary Oliver's new book of poetry, when I hear opera, when I laugh at something really offbeat...and during the election. love, peace"
"Phyllis has come into my awareness a number of times this week...I continue experiencing gratitude for the blessing of her beautiful heart and Spirit, touching me in so many ways over the years that I knew her. God bless her soul eternally."
An awesome spectre greets the soul,
Strangers entranced by powers
Unmet but not unknown.
A meteor of light to one who walks so well in the dark.
Alluring, invisible precipice so long at my side,
The light moves out over the infinite."
"What a force P was in this world! Vibrant, passionate, kind, generous, beautiful, spiritual, wise, funny, artistic, fearless, and loving. I loved her beautiful blue eyes. Loey, I am sending love to you and your family today and everyday. Love, Jennifer"
"Today I am thinking of my sweet, kind, and wise friend Phyllis, and all those people whose lives were transformed by her being.
Last year, 2012 on this day I was driving home to N C after leaving P and family when I saw this beautiful GREEN SHOOTING STAR
Pass across my windshield. The time was 8:24 pm..."
"NIGHT WALK (new poem; I didn't know at first it would be about P.)
I walk alone accompanied
by winter’s bright stars
that may be dead by now
their light still coming to us.
Are you out there, released
from the body into star stuff
lighting my way
in the indifferent dark?"
"We have photos of Phyllis on the refrigerator and I am reminded every day of her presence (still) in my life. I miss her but feel her spirit always. I am in Brazil today--a place we had often talked of going together--and I honor her powerful life on the anniversary of her death. I'll feel our mutual love for each other always. I send my love to all her wonderful family and our friends"
"Dear missed friend Phyllis I hope you are with the gods and having fun, as usual.
We all Miss you. Ricardo< Eliana and Hugo"
My wife and I send our thoughts and prayers in rememberance of you, especially this week. You touched our lives greatly in the few, all-too brief occasions we had the opportunity to spend time with you in Cambridge and Cape Verde. Thank you, Phyllis. Knowing you has made our lives so much richer."
"I just found out today that Phyllis passed.... we were in a painting class together for several terms (connected to the Kaji Aso Studio)..... what I remember about Phyllis was her amazing determination to heal and to find joy in every moment she was healing...she faced her problems so head on and taught her ways of healing... thanks, Phyllis... Namaste...."
"One persons life can touch you so much..
I think of you and remember you, Phyllis.
Be in peace"
"Missing you today and every day Mama. Wish you could be here to celebrate your birthday. I honor this day, and the life you gave me. I honor the lessons you taught me and how you loved me. I try to follow your example and live with an open heart. I love you Mama."
"As Phyllis' teacher for two years in 1957-59 during which she was a key student-assistant in a classroom ranging from 32 to 42 students, with reading levels spanning 10 years I devised a reading program in the second year using student group leaders enabling us to achieve a 11/2 years average growth in that second year.
It would not have been possible without Phyllis!"
You are in our memories today and every day."
"It could look like is late to leave a tribute to my loved Phyllis, but the truth is I think about her almost every day, remembering her smiling, her positivism, happiness and fun. Really, for me she was a reference. Even during her tufest time she would open a smile for any person. I missed her a lot.Loren, Chad, Holly, Kids,Edna. You guys were luck to have her around. Me to. Love ."
"I send my love and deepest sympathy to Loren, Chad and Edna and their precious children, Holly, and to all of Phyllis's family and all who loved her. My heart has been so heavy since I first heard the news. I met her more than twenty years ago, and I consider myself so very fortunate to have been among her wide circle of friends."
""I met Phyllis when she came to San Diego to spend time with her brother Matt who was living here at the time. My heart knew upon meeting her that she was an old friend... I could feel it in her hug. We shared many heart-felt conversations and her brilliance was alive in her eyes as well as her mind. Thank you God for blessing us with the light and love of dear sweet Phyllis."
"Phyllis, you were a force of nature! Committed, charismatic, inspiring as a teacher. You taught with passion. My deep heartfelt thank you for your work at Fayerweather. "Gone too soon" - so much more than a cliche - I am 5 days older than you. A true pleasure and privilege to have known you."
"Nha sentidu pesamo pa bó i pa tudu bu familia.
Paz i descanso eterno pa si alma na eternidadi.
Um grandi abraço di fraternidade di bu amigo
"Dear Loren, Chad, Holly, and Family,
We are so sorry about Phyliss' passing. She has been such an inspiration and we were glad to have her in our lives. We will cherish the time we spent together on the Cape and will remember her spirit and love of life.
"Chad e Familia
Desde Cabo Verde, Cidade da Praia, vai Sentidos pêsames de Lú, Arte, Yannick, Kevin e Lissa para toda família enlutada
Paz e descanso eterno a alma de Phyllis Kutt.
Um forte abraço de pesares e sentimentos"
"Nós sentidos pêsames pa tudu família.
Nu recebi noticia k txeu tristeza, ta manda um abraçu di coragem pa nhós tudu e ki nes momentu di dor deus ta da nhós consolaçon.
Um abraçu ben apertadu di Cabo Verde di Cláudia, Naigué, Kathy e David pa nhós tudu, nhós recebenu k carinho"
"Dear Loren and family,
I just wanted to know how deepley I am sad for you and your family. My fondess memories of Phyllis and sharing books with me the 4 yrs I worked 4 you. And giving my going away gift, a book before we moved back to Chicago. I have great memories of returning to Boston and having a wonderful dinner at Limoncello with U and Phyllis."
my thoughts are with you, especially today. P was really special, I am glad she had a great family with whom she shared her life, I am glad I met her. If she wasn't so special, this wouldn't have been so hard.
Condolences to you all.
With love, Alessandra"
My deepest heartfelt sympathy. I feel my Life has been richer for having known Phyllis. She touched the lives of many. I will carry memories of her in my heart. “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
figment719 Eskimo Proverb quotes"
"Loren, Chad and Holly,
I am saddened to hear this news and think of Phyllis's smile and friendliness on Kelly Road.
I am thinking of you all and send my condolences."
"Dear Holly and family -- I'm so sorry not to be with you at the gathering today in honor of beloved Phyllis.....I've been in bed with a bad cold and have finally decided it best not to put others at risk. You are in my prayers and in my heart. In loving and great appreciation of Phyllis....Monica"
I wish so that I could be there today. I will be in Vermont with another friend who has fallen ill. You and the family have been heroic and you and Phyllis a wonderful embodiment of living a day at a time, fully, with brimming love and joy, and we have all been enriched by being in your orbit. What a rare being Phyllis was."
"We were not blessed to have known Pyhllis personally but knowing Loren and Holly we got great insight into what an amazing woman she was and how much she was loved. I know she will live on in the hearts of all those who dearly loved her. You are in our thoughts and prayers now in the months to come. Love & Sympathy
What a heart has known it shall forget"
"I want to say thank you to Holly and her family for inviting me into such a sacred circle at such a sacred time. I give thanks for such meaningful moments with Phylis and being a witness to her story. She gave me a deeper sense of meaning in my life and I am a better person having been in her presence. I am eternally grateful and honored."
"I'll forever be grateful to Lucile for introducing me to Phyllis and Loren. I'll always remember the smile as wide as her heart and the respective attention she paid when conversing with someone. Her tenacious struggle with illness was exemplary and never dampened her unique sense of humor. And her dedication to neighbors near and far remain an inspiration to me, Thank you, Phyllis."
"Phyllis graced 4 years of my life as a parent at Fayerweather with two of my children, Darcy and Colin Brennan. I treasured her gentleness, patience, her magical impishness, humor and wisdom. She made me wish I was still a teenager with all life's adventures still waiting for me.
Such a gift of love and living."
"Sweet Phyllis. Our lives crossed on cancer's journey in 2007 branching off into long rambles of joyous conversation in hospitals, clinics. and waiting rooms. Your chemo sessions became a celebration of our womanhood, our families, our friendship. You gave full attention to those who passed your way and you nurtured the Buddha in me .Our lives diverge again.The love of your light shines on."
"A few years ago at my first week-long retreat in Barre, I stayed put after one of the sittings, overtaken by emotion as sometimes happens there. When I finally got up and left the hall Phyllis was sitting in the back and she smiled at me with her eyes, "we are all in this together," they seemed to say. At the end of the retreat she hugged me without warning and said,"We made it." Metta, P."
"Hi Chad and Family,
So sorry to hear about your mother. She was a lady with a wonderful, unique style, and a welcoming smile. She always made people feel very comfortable around her. Please know that I am praying for you and your family.
"The beauty of Phyllis’s spirit is that it is a total embrace of life and everything. Her love was liberating, a supercharge to us, literal inspiration of the richness of every second and iota of life. It was magic in her classroom: ignorance and disrespect seemed to vanish, the thrill of learning obvious. My head will always turn to see her, the joy of her voice always in my mind."
"Phyllis has been part of my life for over thirty years. We are family, and her death leaves a hole in my heart. I am inspired by her positive attitude and the graceful way she faced her mortality. For me it is a timely lesson, and one by which we can all benefit. I will miss her always."
"AS a teacher, Phyllis was an inspiration and an example of how to live a spiritual life. Her prescence and energy will be missed her for those left behind: she is at play and awaits us...."
"Dear Loren, Holly, Chad, Edna & all of Phyllis' family and friends. I have known Phyllis since 2000 when our family moved next to her mom, Helen, who to this day I think about every day & miss deeply. I know you have suffered a great loss. Phyllis is an unbelievable person just like the rest of the Kutt family. I know she fought hard, but she will be in our hearts forever. Love you Phyllis"
"Phyllis was a bright Light, a beautiful soul. She had a way of seeing beauty in people, treasuring them, creating beauty for them. I so enjoyed our times together when she would come for her Reiki sessions. She always had something wonderful for us to ponder together, laugh about. She touched my heart and soul. What an honor to have shared time. Job well done Phyllis! Welcome home."
"from Toilers of the Sea by Victor Hugo
"someone at my side says, 'There, she's gone!' Gone where? Gone from my sight, that's all. She's just as large in mast, spar and hull as she was when she left me...Her diminished size is in me, not in her...there are other eyes and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, 'Here she comes!'""
"Dear Loren, Please accept my deepest sympathies for your life partner, Phyllis. I am sure that even though this is the saddest time of your life, just know that her body and mind is finally at peace. May God give you strength at this time, to look ahead to the future and may you take comfort in knowing that she is in a better place."
"Phylli's kindness and warmth have lived with with me for 30 years. Her loving gesture contributed to who I have become. May her spirit live on and MSRIP."
"If you realize that all things change,
There is nothing you will try to hold on to.
If you aren't afraid of dying,
There is nothing you can't achieve. (Tao te Ching)
And yet, and yet, the heart must break before it can build itself big enough to bear the loss of one so loved. My heart goes to yours."
"I first me Phyllis when Holly was my student at Vanderbilt. Phyllis was full of light and life. I don't think she has ever met anyone she did not like. Her smile was infectious. Phyllis knew how to live in the moment, stay focused on what is really important, and I am so thankful I got to know her. She will be greatly missed by everyone she touched. Love to Holly, Loren, Chad, & Edna"
"I sat in awe each day across a classroom from Ms. P and watched her rebirth one student after another, leading them to the light and the beauty that had been hidden from them. The brightest, those struggling, the new arrivals and the searching colleagues, everyone's story was drawn out and decorated with her gems. Each of us reborn wearing her love as a crown."
"Dr.Wilson and family,I am deeply sorry for your big loss. I never wanted this day to come.Everytime I saw Phylis in the office she brought a lot of brightness to my life.Her love,kindness,thoughtfulness,positive attitude and strength was one of kind.Even her illness didnt take this away from her.I will miss her so much.But I know she is in a peaceful place."
"Loren, Holly, Chad and family,
Our deepest sympathy to you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely, Charlie and Jane"
"I am greatful that I had the wonderful opportunity to meet and know such an amazing woman who lived life to the fullest who always made everyone feel awesome. Phyllis always lived each day like a new day something I would love to learn from her......will be missed dearly."
"I remember Phyllis saying, "Even if we might not win, we must give it a good fight." The good fight and not giving up against the odds says so much about Phyllis ~committed yet playful and full of life. Soooo many memories of P on her knees at the beach making drip castles with my daughter and her niece, Ariel... Loren right there on the sandbar too. Phyllis, a beautiful woman! oxox lila"
""...And that’s why I miss you so much, because of the peace you carry with you and you bring to the people around, because of the unconditional love you give, and the way you always find to make us feel special. That’s what makes you more special than everyone else. And being so far makes me feel like I’m losing a little bit of something so great every day. So I miss you...""
"I am a friend of Holly’s and never had the chance to meet her mother. I’ve been reading these posts and keep thinking how wonderful she must have been. I always say that when I pass I just hope people remember me and say “she was a good woman”. The love, respect, adoration, warmth and sadness reflected on this page leaves no doubt in my mind that she was that and more. My most sincere condolen"
"Loren, we are so sorry to hear about the passing of your wife, Phyllis.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Gary, Moose and staff"
"I had Ms. Kutt as a teacher in APAS at HHS from 03-04. I spent many hours rewriting papers, cover letters, and applications with her help. I would not be where I am today if I had missed the chance to have her as a mentor. She forced us to open our resistant eyes to the world and expected more from us than we did from ourselves at 17. She was a selfless teacher and an inspirational woman."
"Dear Phyllis was the steadying influence in all of our metastatic breast cancer support group meetings. She brought warmth, humor, and experiences with both the darkness and the light, but mostly she shared the light, her light. I miss her terribly."
"I was honored to teach next door to Phyllis for 4 years at Hudson High School. She was a wonderful teacher, and brought in the best breakfast treats for her class, and always had the coffee going first thing in the morning.(And would always come to my classroom to wash her dishes since I had a sink) I will always have fond memories of the kind, gentle person she was. What a great teacher."
"E com muita trisreza que recebi esta noticia.Minhas sentidas condulencias a familia enlutada.Ficara na nosa memoria o carrinho que a Sra.Phyllis demostrava sempre para nos,e tambe o abrasu bem aperdado que nos dava sempre quando ali iamos,simbolo de amizade e carrinho.Descance em paz."
"Dear Auntie Phyl, You are and will always be so very special to all of us who knew you. For all who had the pleasure of knowing you for a lifetime or a very short time. Your kind, loving, gentle ways leaves an everlasting impact. Your strength and determination is something we can all hope for. You will be forever loved and missed. Love, Greta, Hal, Zak, Sumner and Steve"
"I first met Phyllis in the fall of 1988, when Chad and I were freshmen in college. Since then, Phyllis has been a constant source of warmth and joy. If life is measured by the effect one has on others, Phyllis's life was an overwhelming success. Loren, Chad, Holly, Edna, Alex, and Isabella, you were all so blessed to have Phiyllis in your lives. Love to you all."
"Her spirit shone brightly, I recognized her soul to soul. We shared Love in it's purest form.
She represented Love incarnate and her legacy in my life from knowing her is just that;an inspiration and an invitation to be Love incarnate. Her life has touched so many, I am one of them.
I treasure my memories of her strength, her wit, her resilience, her beauty, her heart."
"I met Phyllis when she came down to San Diego to spend time with my co-worker Holly. Automatically our introduction was with a hug. I knew where Holly's smile and "go get it done-ness" came from. We talked about everything under the sun in the short time she was in San Diego. It was like she was an old friend instead of a new one. Thank you God for letting Phyllis be a part of our lives."
"O, Phyllis. Rock of deep joy, drummer of life, seer with the heart's perspective, listener, movie buddy. You've lived well. You've always inspired me to live fully, and to follow my heart. I send all my love to your beautiful family. I love seeing you with your grandchildren and family in these photos. I know you fostered their spirit, and you'll always, always be with them."
"Loren, Holly and Chad,
My condolences to you all. I was so sad to hear the news. I will always remember Phyl's open heart, her joy in life , and her courage . I miss her intense listening, her kindness and her generoristy. She may not be walking among us but she will always be in with us."
"Dear Edna and Chad,
Eduarda and I send you our deepest condolences. We feel blessed to have known her and will always keep her in our hearts never forgetting the kindness, warmth and friendship she extended to us in Cape Verde and our visit to Boston."
"I have been sad since Edna told me that she was with hospice. I know exactly what is the feeling because I went through the same things when my sister passed at age 27 on October 2007. However, I know that there are things that cannot be taking away. They will make you smile, laugh and cry when they coming to your mind. These are things that will keep her alive in your heart."
"I also had the pleasure of meeting Phyllis in Indianapolis at a metastatic breast cancer symposium. Our online group has suffered many losses lately; Phyllis' voice through her posts truly will be missed.
I wish your family comfort in the courage that Phyllis so well displayed."
I am saddened to learn of your dear wife's death. Fully aware of the deep and lasting bond Phyllis and you shared thoughout your life together, please accept by sincerest condolences."
"We are very sorry to hear the sad news about Phyllis. Phyllis's memories will always stay with us and our hearts go out to you and your family in this difficult time."
"From Polina and Alex Grinberg
- Your smart greenish eyes
- Your warm hands touch
- Your kindness and smile
- You left it to us…
We will remember You.
We will visit on Sunday"
"So sorry for your loss, Holly. Your mom looks like a wonderful woman who left her spirit with many."
"so grateful to have know Phyllis and met many of her wonderful family. She was and is a shinning light . Wishing her family so well. Phyllis was so loving and so loved. People were drawn to her light it was palpable. I feel it still. So sorry that I can't make the Celebration on Sun but will be participating from Brooklyn where I will be visiting my mother"
"Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the quick uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night."
"Oh, My P. You have taught me so much about living and loving. I will carry your spirit and light forever with me. Thank you, my friend, for all you have done for all of us. There will always be an empty space at the table."
"Oh those impossibly green eyes! Seeing this photo reminds me of the first time we met and you insisted I teach you and Lucile how to wear your hair wrapped up in a scarf! You were so full of mischief and spunk--I loved you from the start, love you now...and know your love lives on with all who need it most. Shine on in peace, sweet sister Phyllis. Thank you."
"Dear Phyllis, your spirit and lightness, your joy and your courage have instructed me and inspired me over these years. I will always think of you when I walk on Bound Brook along the bay, of you and Lorne and our four legged friends, and I will think of you at Barre, and at CIMC, and I suspect you will be in my heart everywhere I go.Journey on, wonderful spirit that you are..."
"I knew Phyllis through her posts on bcmets.org. I met her once at a breast cancer conference. She was an elegant, vivacious, and kind lady. We will sadly miss her contributions to our group. My condolences to her family and friends. The world has lost another courageous lady."
"Peace to Phyllis..
A wonderful spirit that she shared with so many...
"I'll be there on Sunnday afternoon."
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