My sweet, precious Randi!
Not an hour goes by without missing you. It's your birthday, a memory blazoned on my mind. This September 12 will be 10 Yeats full of grief. A lady whose purse I liked said her daughter wants to SHOP IN HER CLOSET for purses, like you did for shoes, purses, and clothes. This is just one of my many memories. I thought about how you and Ron loved the toys from Palm Springs: the talking robot and the toy that played back the notes you played. I regret ever accepting money from you for the Life cycle and your stereo. My regrets are too many to list. I am 78 now, that much closer to being united with you, Baume and Phil. You called my mother "Baubs." I am useful in this empty life by financially helping Claire, Dustin and your dad. I also help Monica when ì can and talk to her every few weeks. My nephew David and my ex-sister in law Marsha round out the list an a new one, your cousin Jeni. I even help Bonny out. I just gave her $400 for food and was glad to do it. I tried to assuage my loneliness by visiting Ralph's brother in Florida, but I still miss being loved. I believe I see you all the time as honesty of the angels who surround me. I am so grateful for that. My girlfriend Pphyllis and Monica called me on the important days in your life, which are painful like every day. I hope if and when I get to heaven that the wrongs and regrets will not keep torturing me. Till then, I live day to day. I wish so much that we could communicate but I believe you hear me and protect me. My desire to live is in jeopardy but I don't want to cause guilt and regret in my survivors. Earned or not. I miss my beautiful, wise, intelligent and caring daughter I will see again. I count on it.
Love with all my heart and being, Mom

My Sweet Randi,
Happy Birthday today in heaven. I know you are having a lovely birthday and feeling good. Miss you so much and think of you all the time with love and joy. You Mom misses you very much and wishes you were here. She is ok. Love you and know how very special you are, today and forever. Love, Phyllis xo

Randi,
It has been 9 years today that you left us. We all miss you, especially your Mom, who loves you dearly. I am sending prayers and thinking of you today, and all the time, sweet girl. I love you Randi. Always will. Love and kisses and hugs. Love, Phyllis Spital xo

Oh my God, Randi!..This year will be 9 long years since you are gone. I know life was disappointing for ou like it is for me. My heartbreak and tears are always here and ready. No use now acknowledging all my regret. My only solice Chicken, is that I am 77 and won't have to wait long to be relieved of my pain. I hope to be united with you, Mom, and Phil, so much a part and love of my more recent life. I also ache to see beloved Dad, my odol Rita, Nathan and Ilene. I am so lonely as I sit here wearing your favorite housedress. Ì miss your love, protected Ness, your laugh, hobbies, singing and love for all creatures. If Baube is right and our being ends, I welcome the relief from his pain. I can leave knowing Ron is happily married and doing well, and the grandkids are geniuses. I love and will not part with your prized bakelite, jewelry and supplies, notes from school, radios and anything you prized. We could have been living together! Often I sit immobile, not caring to do anything. I look every night for you and my other angels but I don't always see you. For sure you all are visible when I rr to read eye chaŕts!your suicide began my loss of self, heart, and life
Of course I forgive you. Please enjoy all the beauty and love heaven has to offer. I won't take my life. I don't want to punish Ron, Claire and Dustin the pain I suffer. I do keep in touch with Monica and onetime send her money. You know that she watches dogs for a living. I hope Herb and Eyebrows are with you and you and Rita, your namesake, enjoy each other. Be sure to include Baube. Every night I tell all of you good night, I love you, and God Bless You. I love and miss you with every breath and beat of my heart. Beloved bright, wonderful Randi.

Randi I've missed you everyday of the remainder of my life you've been gone 8 years now and I can hardly believe it I have so many memories that go through my head all the time someone I thought was a close friend told me to get over it, get some therapy and put it behind me. Randy, I will never get over it I will never put it behind me and no therapy can never do that the only time I expect to stop grieving is when I die and even then if I see you in heaven that will be the answer to a prayer. If I don't I will be buried with Phil with no longer grief plaguing me. I will never ever ever get over your loss and never ever ever stop thinking about you

Randi, I miss you so much and know you are in my heart all the heart. I will always love you. The wolrld, especially your Mom Nancy, misses you every single second. I love you forever. Love, Phyllis xoxoxoxoxo

Randi,
Happy Birthday sweet girl. Mazal Tov. I know you are celebrating your birthday in heaven today. I miss you so much and so does everyone, especially your Mom, who knows you. I love you and always will love you.
                         Love, Phyllis (Adopted Mommy)

Sweet Randi, I want you to know that I am thinking of you today, the 7th anniversary of the day you left us here. Miss you so much but you are always in my heart all the time. You are still part of the sunshine of my life, knowing you since you were a little girl, and dancing in a school play. Your Mom misses you most of all, but she is ok. I love you Honey and always will.
                                Love, Phyllis Spital :)

Remembering Randi today for some reason, I found this tribute again.
Hard to believe so much time has passed since She passed. We spent a short time together 89-90, I remember going to her swimming class at college as her guest once, we tried Peruvian Food together, tried to relax once in her Appts Jacuzzy, but her wacky roomate wouldnt leave us alone. Hung out with her and Liz, who I know really misses her. I just remember what a nice person Randi was and being afraid of falling in love so soon after a recent breakup. Soon after I worked out of town for a year or so and never saw her again. 

Happy Birthday in heaven, Randi, the most beautiful of them all. Celebrate the best birthday and know how I am thinking of you and everyone else too, who know and love you. Always remember how wonderful and loving a human being you are. Miss and love you. Love, Phyllis Spital xoxoxo

When I'm hete alone, do I miss my friend, and I say very much. When I want to go out, do I miss my friend, yes very much, I am very much alone. When and if you could only see how few of us remain, all my friends are dead. Please god, please protect me. I'm so scared. Please Dear God please help me and reassure me and Randi's friends that we will meet again, and that I can find myself again as I remember my best friend. Please Sleep and Rest Well, Ms. Randi Skolnik from Jr. High and carpool. I miss you already. Peace. I'll see you soon. Bye.

Randi, Thinking of you today beautiful girl and so is everyone who knows you, especially your Mom. Cannot believe it has been 5 years since you left home, but I know you are at peace. You are always on my mind and in my heart. Love and Millions of Kisses. Love, Phyllis xoxoxo

My precious Randi,
I miss you so much but will love and forgive you forever. Over the years I have found things people write about losing a loved one and saved them. Here they are:
A lifetime of regrets, words I should have spoken, actions left untaken, the sad process of mistakes made by me, (and your father) who should have known better. Regrets have grown sharp as a razor's edge.
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With Randi gone, I have suffered as never before. I am conscious of my loss every single day; I live with the terrible aching loss every hour; my mind constantly replays images of my daughter's lifetime together. How is it possible to love another person so much that you would rather die than live without them?
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Did any mother ever get used to living without her child?
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Those we have held in our arms for a little while we hold in our hearts forever. Know that you are lived, my legacy in heaven.
Love for eternity, Your mother

Randi, How I miss you. Happy 49th Birthday sweet Randi. I know things are good in heaven, Your Mom misses you every single day. I love you and thinking of you. You will always and forever be in my heart. Love, Phyllis xoxoxo

My precious, beautiful, compassionate, sensitive and bright daughter Randi,
On your 49th birthday you are ever in my heart and part of my life. I see Gerard Butler, the actor we loved in Phantom of the Opera. I talk to your best friends Monica, Nicole and George who also feel bereft of your love. I speak with you every night and recount my memories, tell you about my day, and play your favorite songs, including Happy Birthday today. I honor you with 3 dozen Rose's and the Yarzeit prayer as I light your candle. I hope you enjoy your Baube in heaven and my sister Rita, with whom you are so alike. Life has lost its luster for the rest of my life but I am trying to experience your love and presence from across the veil. Your influence on my life is profound and all emcompassing. I thank God that you know how much I love and admire you for all eternity.

Beautiful Randi...happy 48th birthday....You will remain young and vivacious in the minds of those who love you. As always....please save spots for us....we'll be along - sooner than can be imagined. Hugs and kisses.....Elly...a SO GRATEFUL student of your Mama.

Happy Birthday in heaven to you Beautiful Randi. We are celebrating your birthday in our hearts today, by all those who know you. Love you sweet girl and you are definitely in my heart every single day. Happy Birthday..           Love, Phyllis xoxoxo

To my special friend, Randi Skolnik, I remember you and the things we use to do, and although we sometimes were wild, we always remained true. You are the reason, I visited Albuquerque, and you are the reason, that I find myself alone.All my friends, are disappearing,and so I lay this flower over you. Take care, Randi. From Elizabeth Gonzalez

Wow.. I can't believe so much time has passed since your passing and still to this day I wonder how you are doing and that you are doing ok. I miss you greatly and treasure some times we had together, and think of all the wonderful places we use to go. All I know is that I just feel like talking to my best friend. Miss you greatly.

Randi,
I miss you so much. The world has not been the same without you in it. But you will always and forever have a special place in my heart and mind for you. Your presence is with me today as well as with your Mom and Phil. Have a beautiful life in heaven and know that you will never be forgotten by me or anyone who knew you. I love you forever. Love and Millions of Hugs and Kisses, Phyllis xoxoxo

Let us concentrate upon all of the joy and laughter that this wonderful young lady possessed AND shared. Yes...she is truly missed, but we know we will ALL be reunited one day in the future. Rest in peace, Randi, and please....save us a spot! We love you, and thank GOD for your being a part of our lives.

Randi, cannot believe it has been two years since you have left us. I think of you often and want you to know that this world has not been he same without you. But you are in my heart every day and I know you are at peace. Your Mom and Phil keep you in their hearts every single minute. I miss you sweet girl. Love, Phyllis Spital xo

Happy Birthday sweet Randi. I miss you more than you will ever know. Your Mom is doing ok but misses you terribly. Do not worry about her because you are always part of her heart forever. You are in my heart too and think of you all the time. Have a Happy Birthday in Heaven. I love you.            Love,  Phyllis Spital xoxoxo

I am thinking of Randi today, one year since her passing. She will forever be in my heart and sending love to her in heaven. Her passing was the worst loss for all of us, especially her sweet Mom, Nancy, who was so close. May Randi be at peace and know I loved her.
             Love, Phyllis Spital xoxoxo

Beautiful Randi is now one of the brightest stars in the galaxy, and her radiance will shine forever. Thank you, Nancy, for gifting humanity with her charm, intelligence, wit, and inquisitiveness. SHE knows, now, what the rest of us have to wait to experience.....Randi.....save a place for us, we'll be along as GOD calls.

I'm so sad to learn of Randi's passing. She was a very dear part of my young adulthood, as we helped each other heal from my cousin Nadine's passing. I will never forget her bright smile, and caring nature, and will carry these loving memories of her in my heart for all time. Rest easy, my beautiful friend.

It's six months after my daughter's suicide but it seems like yesterday. The world is so lonely without her, the joy gone. I am trying to live one day at a time but those days are hard. When I feel better, I will post happy memories.
Nancy

So Sad to see this, just searching a name I remember from the past. Very smart, very nice person I only knew for a short time, but will never forget.....

To this day I still have dreams of you, its as if you were trying to communicate with me before your depression and your passing, and you were trying to tell me even after that you were ok. I still remember the kindness you showed me, and your love of turtles. I wrote a small note in memory of you for Patrick Henry High and well I hope is alright. Forever blessed and now sorely missed.

Happy Birthday Randi, in heaven. I will be thinking of you today and want to tell you how much I love you. You are a beautiful girl, inside and out. May the sun shine on you. Miss you. Love, Phyllis Spital xoxo

I didn't have the privilege of getting to know Randi, but have rejoiced, over the years, of knowing her MARVELOUS MOTHER, and grieve with you, Dear Nancy. We're not programed to lose our children, but I know how determinedly strong you are, and with the help of your faith, and knowing the love your friends surrounds you with...this, too, will sustain you.

Randi was my student in the Grossmont College Cardiovascular Technology Program, bright and capable. I am deeply sorry to hear that she has left us, and hope her loved ones can find some measure of peace.

Dr. Reynolds and family, I am sorry for the loss of your shinning star. She's only gone physically and surrounds you day and night. There are no right words, you just have to keep on with the next step and find peace for yourself. Yes your shinning star left early but as her mom, you know she left wrapped in your love. She's still a shinning star.

Please accept my condolences at the loss of your daughter, Randi. I never met Randi, but I share her struggle with depression as do many of my family members. It is unfortunate that the mental health system let her down, especially when she was reaching out so desperately. There should have been some option for Randi. I hope that you will find support in dealing with her death. As you already know, this will be a painful journey for you.

As I woke this morning, I asked myself what day is this, what did I do last night, why do I feel this way, and I realize I feel ok. Then as things in my life go, I realize I am being handed a newspaper with the obituaries, and for some reason, I find myself stoned, meaning, I am emotionless, and rigid. My friend, close, has passed. I often if not weekly or daily thought of her and my other friends from the passed, and why I no longer ran into anybody. I visited her in Albuquerque when she moved out, I was friends with her since Jr. High and High School, visited her in HollyWeird, as she use to say. She is the one that would laugh and call me her Lizard Breath. I will miss her dearly and deeply, and I cannot believe I still remember her phone number 697-0070, and I tried if not once often in my mind to contact her, but it always rang as fax. I am sorry you could not find help in time in your crisis, I think if I would have or could have known this we could have remained and made better friends, and you would see my crisis also similar to yours running a little over 10 to 14 years. Here's to you my friend, I Love You. Sincerely, Elizabeth Gonzalez

My heart goes out to you and your family Nancy. I am so sorry for this terrible loss of Randi. I remember when she was a little girl So sweet and cute. I have sweet memories of her. I only wish life was sweet for her and she was still here. Nancy, you have been the best Mom ever and Randi always knew that. May all of Randi's beautiful memories give you strength at this difficult time. I love you. Love, Phyllis

Phil and Nancy Reynolds are heartbroken to share the loss of our daughter, Randi Michelle Skolnik, who left us at age 44 on September 12, 2014.

Randi was an accomplished cardiovascular technologist at Cedars Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles and at Sharp Chula Vista in San Diego. She leaves behind her parents, her brother Ron and her niece Claire, 12 and nephew Dustin, 6. She is also survived by her father, Marshall Skolnik, and her beloved grandmother, Lee Hudak, age 95.

Randi was an exceptional person who lived life with integrity, generosity, unswerving devotion to her family, and a unique sensitivity. She once cried when a bush was removed from the yard; she felt bad for the bush. She was perceptive, appreciative and very intelligent, a shining spirit in life. She was active in pet rescue and felt strongly about adopting pets from shelters rather than from puppy mills.

Randi loved her pet dogs and found joy in jewelry making, collecting bakelite purses and jewelry from the 1950’s, stamp collecting and even growing pollywogs into frogs. She had a large collection of music and antique collectibles. She was very lonely and regretted losing contact with former friends because she lived out of town so long.

Randi battled depression and sought help from Kaiser Hospital. They let her down, as health care has failed to help so many like her. She waited for rehab care and a bed for weeks but the system never found her one. She called Mesa Vista Hospital again and again, even on the day she died. No bed.

We miss her desperately. Her mother and brother have dedicated a memorial web site you are invited to visit at

http://www.forevermissed.com/randi-skolnik/#about

This site will be constantly updated as photos, slides and films become available. Her mother can be contacted at nanskol@hotmail.com.