This memorial website was created in memory of my son, Robert McCabe, 47, born on July 17, 1967 and passed away on May 9, 2015 in a tragic act of violence. We can take comfort in knowing that he did not suffer and that although Evil may have taken his life, God has taken him home.
Robert was born a country boy at heart. His love for the outdoors from childhood to his untimely death never ceased to amaze me. From the time he was a little boy and I taught him how to fish he was determined he would be able to outfish me and as he got older he felt he could pretty much outfish anyone. He had the gift of gab and always had a quick wit about him. I will miss his fast comebacks on anything I might tease him about. As he got older he learned to love to go hunting as well and always bragged that he could make the BEST deer roast and deer jerky. I'm sorry I never got to try any because he couldn't keep it that long. He loved his own cooking!
He spent four years in the USMC (Marine Corp). After that he tried different jobs but ultimately fell in love with truck driving. Always hoping that someday he would be able to have his own business and be his own boss. The day before his death, his dream was coming true. Now he is driving his Big Blue Razors Edge in Heaven instead of here on earth. So when you hear those deep rolls of thunder on a stormy night, don't fret, that's just Robert blowing his horn to say Hi.
Robert was a loving Dad to his two kids, Myria Leray and Kamren Shane. He was a single dad for many years and did the best he could with what he had and although they had their struggles his kids always knew he loved them from the bottom of his heart. I know he will be with them each and everyday as they move through life and he is so proud of them.
He was a down to earth man, kind, loving, sometimes tempered, but would give you the shirt off his back if you needed it.
If you have photos or videos of Robert, please upload them onto this site. If you have stories to tell as well please post them too. You do need to setup a free account to post anything or if you send them to me, I will post them for you - joyceramus@ymail.com. You can also leave a tribute for him below.
We will be having a Memorial Celebration of Life for Robert on May 30, 2015 at 12 Noon at:
Old Post Road Park Recreation Area & Campground 1598 Lock and Dam Road, Pavilion #8 Russellville, AR 72801
In lieu of flowers please donate to the Arkansas Crimes Victims Reparations Fund, Office of the Attorney General, 323 Center Ste 200, Little Rock, AR 72201. This fund assists victims and families of crimes with various expenses that they incurr when this happens.
Please pray for our family as we go through this tragic loss. We will forever remember his wonderful smile and twinkling eyes, his laughter, humor and spirit. Rest in peace Son, your children are in good hands and will be taken care of. You left us too soon, your dad (Jim) didn't get a chance to do a ride along in your big rig and you didn't get a chance to take me fishing up on the White River again but we know and feel you watching us from paradise and sending us your love.
Your are forever Missed. Forever Loved. Never Goodbye but See You Later.
*Visitors: be sure to go to the Gallery tab and go to videos and see the video of Rob's life.
Tributes
Leave a tributeNow for the bad memory. Getting the news about your murder. Especially on Laura & Norm's wedding day. I know you were with them in spirit. You are always with everyone you loved. I am glad I got to see you again when you and your mom invited us to the cookout at your house. We had a great time.
There is another good memory but not today. Can you believe Tammy & Dave got married on my birthday? He reminds me of you Robert. He loves to fish and ride like you. I am hoping him and Tammy get to move to Arkansas so he can see why we all love it here in the country.
I guess I had more to say than I am thinking about you. I am and I miss you. Love and miss you. Keep flying high. Tell the family up there that we love and miss them too. RIP Robert ♀️❤
Theres a spirit that’s tells me, that I am no fool.
From daybreak to sunset, this spirit is balm,
To my soul and my meaning, the urge to stay calm.
From the source of creation, this spirit endures,
The tears and the torment, to employ the cures.
His notion so regal, his essence so grand,
To see common sense, to force me to stand.
No judging or convicting, no accusing, no blame,
This spirit is loving and guiding in aim.
The backbone of loyalty, the emblem of joy,
The purest of spirits, I’m proud hes my boy.
I have never been good with words, not that there are any to express how much you are missed and how much you are loved ❤️. You have an amazing family my heart aches for them as for all of us your friends, your chosen brothers. I had pictures come up on my phone from a good time in our life that contagious smile and laugh of yours that brighten everyone day. The key to holding us all together. We are all still here going on as you would want us to but please know we all have a piece missing and it's you.
I have several red birds dairy and I find comfort that one of them is you and as always you have a ton of friends and you say let's go check on " Charlie" and here you come and entertain us daily.
Love Charlie and Berry
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
'Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven
Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?
I'll find my way through night and day
'Cause I know I just can't stay here in heaven
Time can bring you down, time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart, have you begging please, begging please
Beyond the door there's peace I'm sure
And I know there'll be no more tears in heaven
Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
'Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven
You know this, but, I need to remind you that Kamren is really missing you right now, and he needs you. Please visit him, dad.. Please help me assure him that everything is going to be okay, and that he's a fighter, just like us. He misses you so much.. and, he reminds me more and more of you every single time that I get the opportunity to talk to him. Reach out to him, please.. Help him find his next stepping stone, if you would.
<3
If I'm being honest, like you'd ask me to be, it's not easy hearing that voicemail and knowing that if I leave you a message, you'll never be able to return the call.
It's almost been two years, dad; two incredibly long, and drawn-out years, without you. You're on my mind today.. just like every other day, but more so today. Why? I'm not sure.. maybe it's because I dreamt of you last night.. I dreamt of you and I wanted to thank you for visiting me. Of course, dreams never last as long as we'd like them to. I never thought I'd be so thankful for something as minuscule as a dream, but I am. I got to see your smile, and hear your laugh.. two things that I've been missing for a very long time, now. I hope this means that wherever you are, you're smiling, and you're laughing.
I wanted to give you an update on my life, dad.. so, here goes:
Dominic and I bought our first house. I know that you'd love it.. and something about the process told me that you played a hand in the result. It's beautiful, but it needs some "character". So many times, I've gotten the idea to call you, and to ask of your advice.. I'm not sure why that happens, but it does.. it does, as if you're still here, as if you're still reachable. I know that you were good at this kind of stuff, so I hate that I can't pester you about "the right way of doing things". Luckily, all of those times that you nagged me into helping you with renovations around our homes payed off.. I absorbed most of what you taught me. Thank you, dad. Thank you for everything that you taught me. You were one of the most creative people that I have ever known.. you knew how to turn a house into a home, and I regret not being more thankful for everything that you did for Kamren and I. I hope you know how much everything that you did for us means to me, now.
I'm still in school.. still learning, and still trying to love every second of it. I might be on what seems like a slow train to nowhere, but I know that I will make you proud someday. Everything that you wanted me to do, I will do.. I will. I'll do it for you.. for Kamren, and for our mother.. for our family, dad. The three of you mean more to me than anything else in this world. Our memories--the good, the bad, the ugly--I cherish them all. I promise you, I will not let you down.. But, I need you to continue to share the strength that you were famous for with me.. At least for a little while longer.
I love you, daddy. I love you so much.
As I'm sure you already know; you've been on my mind pretty heavily lately. It's nearing almost a year since you were taken from this world.. But, time plays no factor in my missing you. It feels like it was just yesterday, dad. No, I can't tell you that I've accepted it; you know me.. I'm stubborn.. just as stubborn as you were.. if not more. (I can thank you for that.) I don't want to accept it. I want to wake up to the realization that this entire thing was merely a nightmare. I know.. it's silly; clinging to such an ignorant idea. But, how can I accept that you're really gone? I'm trying.. trying to face reality; it's hard. I want you to know something, dad.. I'm ready to let myself begin to heal. I know it's what you want.. and I am sorry that I have been fighting it so hard. I know that it's time..
I need your help, dad. I need your help more now than I ever have previously.. I need you to push me.. help me pull myself together.
I hear you in my dreams.. telling me, "not to worry about it, sissy." There's a comfort in that.. A comfort in knowing that even though you're gone, you still want to take everyone's worry, and make it your own. You were always like that.. You could be fighting a battle internally, and no one would know it. You were so strong, dad.. No matter the mistakes you made, I will always believe that. You wanted to believe in the best in people..
I miss you more than words.. more than any emotion I could possibly portray to the world.. but, you already know that.
Love,
Your little girl.
I can't believe your gone. I ran into you last at Pizza Pro in Atkins and it was so good to see you! I remember messing with you about your truck one snowy day asking "That thing got a HEMI" ha ha. You were such an awesome person thank you for making me feel like part of y'all's family. You will be missed
Just wanted to let you know your buddy is doing Ok but is missing you so, He can talk about you now sometimes with out crying but yesterday was really hard for him he feels he should have been there to help you protect you he loved you so or I should say we did. I am rambling I know but I guess this is the place to do that. I just love your Mom I talk to her quite often she is so sweet I even call for advice I hate that I did not meet her before. Just know we love you
Berry
I have waited to post because the minute the music starts the tears flow and I can't find the words...there are no words to describe how much you are missed...your buddy your chosen brother misses you so much I find him looking at the sky and talking to you...there is not a day gose by you are not talked about a story a memory !! We love you,
Berry and Charlie
Though I know you will not be reading this, I believe you are listening to my thoughts as I compose this message to you. I would be lying if I said that I have already accepted the fact that you are gone. I am stubbornly clinging tightly to the smallest idea that I will see your face again soon, or hear your vibrant laughter. The hardest part of this is knowing that though I am thinking those things, they are not realistic. You are not a phone call or plane flight away. You are unobtainable to me in this lifetime. I thought I knew what heartbreak felt like. I thought I knew what pain felt like.. But, I was wrong. On May 9th, of 2015, I felt both of those things for the first time in my short lived life. It is true what they say Dad.. You never know how much someone means to you until you lose them. Please know that I love you, and I always will. I am trying not to be regretful. I am trying not to dwell on what I could have done differently, or what I could have said when I had the opportunity. I keep reminding myself that those things do not matter. What matters now is how I choose to live through you, and for you. It is disheartening to know that you will not be there to witness me graduate college, walk me down the aisle, or hold my future children in your arms. I have to remember that you will always be in my heart, and as long as I carry you, you will always be with me. I want to say thank you. Thank you for giving me life. Thank you for always loving me. Thank you for the time that I got to spend with you, and for the memories that you gave me to keep forever. I keep telling myself that if I become half of the person that you were, I will have done something right. However, I forget that half of who I am already, is you. I will continue to be strong, and hold it together. I promise to always be there for Kamren, and remind him how much you loved him, and how proud of him you were. Daddy, I miss you. There are a million things that I want to say, but I will save them for later. We have a lot of talking to do. Goodbye for now.. Love Sissy.
Love U ~ Uncle Lee & Aunt Jan
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Missing you son!
Angels from above
Today I have 2 angels that talk to me everyday... Liz and Robert tell me they will see me one day. That when my time comes, they will be there to greet me, to hold my hand and guide me through the pearly gates. I find comfort in knowing that Liz is not alone, that her Uncle Robert is standing by her side. I have so many regrets, I tell them and they tell me not to cry, that all that doesn;t matter when you're on the other side. Forgive and love that is what they say... they help me through these trying times, make me stronger to survive this life so that one day I will see them both for my eternal life. It makes me realize what's important. That all this is left behind and all that really matters is did you live a good life. Not material possessions or money in the bank, but how you spend your time with your loved one's and how you live your life.I love you Robert and you will always be with me. I try to be strong because I know you want me too buit times like this make it hard whenever I think of you! My wedding day, you should've been there, I was thinking of you a lot that day and I wanted you to know, it would have made me so happy to have you there. I will think of you on every wedding anniversary and will celebrate your life. I know all you ever wanted was someone to treat me right.... the last time I saw you, you said I did good and that you like Norm and that I've finally found someone that deserves me. I love you Big Bro!
Love,
Your Little Sister
Laura
Growing up with My Brother
I remember growing up Robert Mccabe would watch karate movies (Bruce Lee ) and practice his karate on my sister Laura and I. He would also rub his hairy legs on us. No baby messed with my sisters and I. In school everyone would say that's Mccabe's little sister. He would always tease me and tell me to open my eyes.