- 56 years old
- Date of birth: Nov 2, 1957
- Place of birth:
Galveston, Texas, United States
- Date of passing: Mar 22, 2014
- Place of passing:
Magnolia, Texas, United States
|Roger had an unbelievable capacity to forgive and had a sense of humor that could get you through the toughest times.|
This memorial website was created in memory of my beloved brother, Roger McClendon, 56, born on November 2, 1957 and passed away on March 22, 2014. We will remember him forever.
I saw that "anonymous" (which we know who they are) had put a memorial on this website. You would think that people writing a memorial would actually "know" about the person they are writing about. Roger was my brother and we were the best of friends. It was sad that he had to sneak off to see me and my mom or he would suffer wrath from "those that loved him for 29 years". If anyone wants to know why only his "real" family and friends were only allowed to see him and say goodbye to him, it was because he was TRULY loved and supported by us. People who TRULY love you do not mistreat you and then divorce you. They also don't tell you when you pass away that they will take your ashes and throw them in the sewer or in the commode (Glenda). Or how about the message the daughter left on his phone the day he went to his mother's and passed away telling him she was relaying a message from her mother, for him to just stay wherever he was and not come home? (Kandi). Lets not forget the boy that Roger raised from a toddler, who he put food in his mouth and clothes on his back that stood up in Roger's face and told him that he wasnt a "real man"? (Jerry). I have all the recordings. That is the facts. It is pathetic when all someone can say about someone they "loved for 29 years" is that he was the finest in carpet and upholtery cleaning.
Son of Archie Lee McClendon and Mary Anita Estes. Roger was born a twin, his brother, Robert Steven McClendon, on November 2, 1957, which happened to be his parent's first wedding anniversary. Roger lived many places due to his father being in the military and then later on, Roger enlisted in the Army himself. He was discharged in December 1978. He owned Creative Carpet Solutions and had customers for many years due to his loyalty and integrity. Many of the customers would tell us stories about how he would bring treats for their little animals when he came to their homes to work, among many others. Roger had this unbelievable capacity to forgive. He was also kind and compassionate. He was silly at times and could make you laugh until you thought you were going to bust. He was very quiet when it came to his feelings, but the morning of his death, I have a special memory of him telling me all the things he loved about me and he gave me a hug and looked at me with that funny smirk he had. I will always cherish that moment. Roger was married only once, but was divorced at the time of his death. He never had any children of his own. The memorial was with his family that loved him dearly and some very close friends. Roger was cremated and destination of his ashes will not be released. Since Roger was such an animal lover, donations were given in his name to a small shelter clinic. He is survived by his mother, Mary (Anita) Peschon, his twin brother, Robert Steven McClendon (deceased April 4, 2015) and his sister, Anita LeNorman. His father, Archie Lee McClendon preceeded him in death, January 4, 2001.
"It's been a long three years. You've been on my mind every day. The emptiness I feel from not getting to hear your voice or your laughter sometimes is so hard. The only comfort I have is knowing that you are with Jesus and the angels and that you are no longer tortured in this life. I know life was hard for you, especially when I think back about our childhood and how our father was, but somewhere in your heart, you chose to forgive him. You had an unbelievable capacity to forgive, which is why you were so tortured. Somehow I guess you thought that was all you would get out of life, that was until Caroline came into your lie. The joy and happiness I saw on your face, I've never seen. I have to say, she is lovely, sweet and kind. A real blessing. Somehow you knew that she was supposed to be the love of your life and at least you got to experience that, regardless of the time being so short. I miss you so much and wish I could just hug you. Love you dearly."
"Happy birthday Bubba. I was so used to picking up the phone and wishing you a happy birthday. I feel a bit out of sorts that I can't do that for you and hear you laughing. 59.. seems like a lifetime ago.
Caroline and I was talking the other day and we decided to go to the little restaurant that we all loved to go to and have dinner and celebrate your birthday and your life. We talk about you a lot and how much we miss you. You two made a beautiful couple and I could tell when I looked in yours and her eyes how much you both really cared about each other. I hadn't seen you smile like that in years. I wish I could see that smile on your face again and hear you laughing.
Happy birthday Bubba.. love and miss you dearly."
"Good morning Bubba. It has been so long, but seems like only yesterday. Time seems to be passing so quickly, but yet so slow. I can't even begin to tell you how much mom and I miss you. Seems like everywhere I turn, I "see" you in my house and at times, I think I can even hear you laughing. I found some old pictures of you the other day. Talk about memories. I miss those days when we were kids. Re and I talk about you a lot and how you were always doing things to make people laugh. You had such a sense of humor and were one of the kindest people I know. I can't believe that people would mistake your kindness for a weakness and abuse you because you wouldn't do things back to them. I know you made a promise many years ago that you wouldn't put your hands on a woman, even though she more than deserved it, because of the abuse suffered by our mother by our father. That is tough and probably the hardest thing for me to swallow, is the abuse you suffered through, not only by that "woman" (and I use that term lightly), but by the kids you worked so hard to put food in their mouths and clothes on their backs.. ungrateful.. I need to get up off of that because it just angers me.
Anyway Bubba.. we miss you so much, and love you more than you will ever know."
"Good morning Bubba. I can't believe it has been two years since you left us. I don't know where the time has gone. It feels like yesterday. They say time heals all but it sure is taking its time doing that for us. We were all talking the other day about some of the funny things you used to do and that funny laugh of yours. We talked about the love you found and how happy we were that you had finally found someone who appreciated and loved you so much. Even though it was for a short time, I was happy to see the smile she brought to your face and the hardness that had softened on your face when you looked at her. The look in your eyes is what I had always wanted for you. At least you had finally had that experience. I do want to thank you for brining one of the sweetest people in my life and now one of my best friends. A far cry from what you were leaving. You chose well this time Bubba.
I know you and Robert are now probably having some of your best times now that you both are together and away from those that made you so miserable. I know that if you both were here, there are some that would have never given you any peace. Sorry to say that there are "those kinds of people" here.
Anyways Bubba.. we all love and miss you so much. You will be forever missed. Until we meet again. *hugs*"
"Mom and I missed you a lot this Christmas, but we know that you had the best celebration for Jesus' birthday. How beautiful that must be and, to be with our heavenly Father and the Angels. I can't tell you how much I miss you, no way to ever put it in words. I love you Bubba and miss you more."
"My sweet Bubba. The last few days have been hard since it is the holidays and how many times I've wished that you were here. We never got to celebrate together like a family does.. but I'll leave that alone. Christmas is coming soon and it is going to be tough getting through that time also without you. I know that you will be celebrating Jesus' birthday with him, his Father and Robert. Merry Christmas to you Bubba.. I love you so much.. *hugs*"
"You and Robert have been on my mind for days. I've missed you terribly and now here it is, another birthday without you. I wish you were here so I could have a party to celebrate. Seems like all I've done over the last few days is look at your picture and go through your things, cry and wish you were here. The only thing I smile about is that you are celebrating your birthday with God, Jesus, the angels and yes, Robert.
Happy Birthday and I love you and miss you so much. *hugs*"
"I've had you on my mind a lot lately. I would give anything to hug you and tell you how much I love and miss you. Those that truly knew you, knew what a diamond in the rough you were. *hugs & kisses*"
"It has been a difficult year. I hope that you are happier now that your brother is now with you. Robert missed you terribly and I'm sure he felt somewhere deep inside a loneliness that could never be filled. I understand that feeling. Now that you and Robert are together now, maybe you both will find some peace. I wish things could have been so different in both of your lives. May you both dance in the golden streets with God, Jesus and the angels."
"Good morning Bubba. I remember the times I could say that to you while you were here with me. I sure miss our time talking and going and eating together. I miss your voice, your smile and your laughter. Mom, Caroline and I finally did something together yesterday that hurt a bit, but I know we needed to do for some time. We took that old wedding band you had and hocked it. It was a little piece of you that was hard for me to part with, but it represented nothing but the torture you received from those horrible people. It meant getting rid of the last piece of those horrible people and thanking God that they are out of our lives and that they could not longer torture you. What they did to you is unforgiveable and I know that one day they will face God and have to answer for the horrible things they said and did to you. We donated the money to the little shelter in your name. A lady called crying because her "baby" could be saved with the money that was donated in your name. That was nice. We all talked about it for awhile and decided it was the best to do. Now when I see Caroline wearing her ring, I can think of the happiness I know you two found in each other and not look at that band and remember the many times you should have taken it off but stayed loyal to the devil and her spawn. What a difference a little thing like that makes. Caroline gave me and mom a beautiful picture of you two together for Valentine's Day. I don't think I've ever seen you so happy, even when you were with Cindy. The smile that was on your face is one I've not seen in years. I miss that. Your one year anniversary is coming up and we are going to celebrate your life on that date. I know you will be with us and be laughing when we talk about all the memories and the funny things you would say and do. God loves you Bubba and we do too. *hugs*"
"Hey Bubba. I was looking at your picture this morning and missing you so much. Caroline does too. We talk about you a lot and how we miss your laughter and some of the funny things you said and did. As I was leaving mom's yesterday, I remembered the last time I hugged you and then watched as you walked across the yard. I was telling someone the other day about some of the funny stuff you did and we were both laughing so hard until tears were rolling down our face. You are always with me and I love and miss you so much. It is really a shame that there are those that really couldn't aporeciate you for the sweet person you were. They really missed out on a lot. At least the last few months of your life, you finally found love and happiness and I had never seen you so happy. *hugs* Even though it was brief, you finally knew what it meant to truly be loved by a real woman."
"Happy birthday Bubba. We wish you were here to celebrate. We love and miss you dearly. *hugs*"
"Bubba, we love and miss you terribly. I'm sorry that there are those that would claim the same, but didn't treat you with the love and respect that you deserved. You deserved so much better. Even though we miss you terribly, one thing is for sure, you can't be hurt anymore."
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