8 April...their birthday/angelversary
On 8 April, every year, my husband and I celebrate Roin and Wiin's birthday/angelversary. Always something special is done in their memory...to help us create memories we missed out on, to give us something to remember them by and pass their memory on. These are some memories from previous birthdays...
8 April 2007...Roin and Wiin's first birthday. It was Easter. In our grief, we chose to skip the family celebrations and do our own quiet Easter at our home. We bought a few Easter Eggs to hide and hunt for in their memory and purchased a stuffed animal for their gift. A laughing turtle. When it was "tickled" it'd laugh...filling our home with the laughter we were missing out on. We shot off a model rocket containing notes to them on the wadding that burned up in space.
8 April 2008...2nd birthday. Made a day of shooting off rockets. Celebrated with a birthday cake and little gifts for each of them. Also went to get a tattoo of their footprints on the top of my left foot. So incredibly tiny...but what an impact those tiny toes made!
8 April 2009...Just completed a move in the valley. Spent the day unpacking, but set up a beautiful memorial out on our front porch complete with candles and balloons and a lighted birthday gift. Made an oreo-cookie pudding cake and requested close family and friends to light a candle in their memory at 7 pm and send us the pictures for a collage. It was a quiet and gentle 3rd birthday
8 April 2010...Our boys' 4th Birthday was spent in a darker area of our hearts. The lullaby my Dad used to sing to me replayed over and over in my head. I knew that I'd never get that chance to sing to my boys. A day spent in longing...aching, empty arms, our grief was intensified. Lit candles and did a balloon release. Again, purchased small gifts...but that just added to our despair as the realization hit that they'd never be opened or played with.
8 April 2011. Roin and Wiin turn 5. 5 years since we had to say goodbye. We made a whole day out of their celebration. Went to dinner and a movie and dessert afterwards. Requested our closest friends to take a picture on their birthday of something beautiful, something that blessed their lives and created a beautiful blessings collage. We were surrounded and embraced and lifted up all day long. Our boys were being shared and remembered and loved. It was a very happy day!