Beth Aden-Buie's talk Memorial GA
My amazing, beautiful, funny, full of life mom died on New Years Day from a brain tumor. She died peacefully, and surrounded by family. My mom filled her life with love, laughter, friends and family, and in turn she filled the lives of everyone who knew or loved her. As my children said when describing their Nana "Nana lit up every room she went into, made friends with everyone she met, and was full of jokes and laughter, but at the same time was smart as a whip and incredibly successful. She was a beacon of light to our family. She wasn't afraid of anyone, she stood up for what she believed in, and yes, she bragged about her family to anyone who would listen, but she loved with her whole heart". I agree with my kids, my mom loved with her whole heart. And that love included Germantown Academy. When mom started working at GA in 1969 she had no idea that more than 25 years later she would be leaving behind such amazing memories. She was 38 years old when she started teaching here, a young 38, she would want me to say that and she had already taught at other schools before, including a one room school house in Iowa, but really there was only one school for my mom and that was GA. She grew and blossomed here, just like many of the students do, not necessarily all students as I think my road here at times was a little rocky before I got to the blossoming part. But we both shared a tremendous gratitude towards GA for allowing us to be ourselves, to grow at our own pace and to cultivate our own individualism. My mom was nothing else if she wasn't real and genuine, and GA embraced that, pushed her to continue growing and used her strengths in multiple ways that made her feel special, appreciated and part of this wonderful community.
My mom always felt that she had a voice here and that her opinion mattered. Many times she used this voice whether it was trying to solve the problems that the lunch ladies were having with kids that were not listening or solving the after school issues of the dreaded bus duty. She wasn't just a person who spoke her mind, she was also the kind of person that wanted to be part of the solution, and had a strong dedication to making things better. I don't think bus duty was a popular duty for most of teachers, including at first my mother, but in the end she loved it. It had all the criteria of a great job for her - she had to interact with tons of different people, organizing an out of control situation and the head master asked her to be in charge, which gave her a great sense of pride, especially when she was successful. This pride stayed with her until late in life.
My mom loved being a teacher and her students loved her, not always the first week of school as she was also good in controlling a classroom full of bounding energy, but it didn't take long. She was a teacher at heart, and music and the younger kids were her favorite. She took great pride in watching them grow and learn. She made them sing and dance, and everyone in her class danced, probably at first with some reservation, but it wasn't long before everyone was up and moving because she made it ok to not be perfect. She made learning music into a fun adventure. She was also able to read her classroom well and she would sometimes realize that the whole class needed to "burn some energy" and then the class would be filled with movement and dancing. Other times she practiced meditation with them and the whole room laid on the floor with the lights dim practicing deep breathing and relaxation. What a gift she gave those students for later in life.
My mom fell in love with Germantown Academy's beauty campus. She took such pride in how clean it was and she wasn't alone with this. She walked through the halls like she would walk through her own home, straightening pictures and picking up any piece of trash she found, of course this got her in trouble once when she picked up what she thought was a balloon and gave it to a kindergartner, but that's a story for another time. She was so proud of GA and how beautiful it was that when our relatives came to visit, their trip always included a drive out to GA. This was her school and her pride was palpable
This is a great segue into what really made this place so special to my mom. It was the people. The amazing teachers and administrative staff in the lower school who became her extended family. I would probably be shocked at how much that group knew about my life growing up, but I honor the closeness and the love that those friendships and relationships yielded. They were there for each other through good days and bad days, through sickness and health, through easy students and tough ones. It was a very strong bond. At the time when I was going to school here, I didn't fully appreciate how rare that is in the work place, but my mom always got it. She knew how lucky she was. She loved being a teacher here and working with such amazing people. It wasn't just the lower school teachers that held this magic for her although that was always her home away from home, it was also the maintenance workers, the kitchen staff, the coaches, the parents, the bus drivers and the school administrators, especially Jim Connor who always held a special place in her heart. She loved you all. And nothing could have been more fitting or more special to her then when she became part of the class of 1760. That recognition and honor meant the world to her. It was like Germantown Academy recognized all the extra things she did and all the hours and years she put in and said "good job". For her, this was priceless. Her bond with GA so tight that she kept coming back many years after she retired to substitute teach and also work at GA summer camp. She didn't want to let leave.
So when my dad was trying to figure out how to honor this amazing women that we love so much and means the world to us, there was only one choice. She would be so very proud to have her name on the wall of the school that was so much more to her then just the place she worked for 25 plus years. Germantown Academy has always been such an important part of her life and now she will always be a part of Germantown Academy. We can not thank you enough for helping us make this possible. I will end with one of her favorite quotes-
"If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you." -- A.A. Milne