- 45 years old
- Date of birth: May 6, 1970
- Date of passing: Jun 25, 2015
|Let the memory of Shawn be with us forever|
Dear Family and Friends,
It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of our beloved Shawn on the morning of June 25th, 2015. The loss of her is shocking and tragic.
Shawn was a devoted mother, loving wife, and a fun-loving, loyal friend.
Please take a moment to leave a photo, video, or a memory. Her husband and sons will treasure these memories in years to come.
There is a fundraising campaign for Shawn Marie Mendy- to help with the funeral services and the boys. http://de.gofund.me/xy49h8
Please remember Shawn in any way that would make her smile. Let's continue to celebrate her.
Update, June 30th:
The funeral service for Shawn Marie Mendy will be held on July 10th at St. Peter the Apostle Parish church at 10:30am with reception immediately following. The address is 450 South Stagecoach, Fallbrook, CA 92028.
Update, July 2nd:
A website has been set up to coordinate meal delivery. Please check it out. https://mealtrain.com/vv9rgz. Other than a tomatoe allergy the boys are pretty easy to feed.
"Not a rose, maybe a lily"
"Dear Jason, Eve and I were truly shocked to hear your sad news. I have only fond memories of Shawn having fun and laughing. I remember one of the first Christmas's at PaxVax and the wonderful home-baked gift that you two gave us; very tasty and a lovely connection which I have cherished ever since. I miss our talks about having two energetic boys and can not imagine the pain you and the boys must be enduring. May peace come with time and the wonderful memories of Shawn never fade. Please let me know if there is anything at all that I can do to help. Warmest wishes to you all."
"Shawn Marie and I have been friends since we were 10 years old. Actually to hear Shawn tell it, she was friends with my twin brother Mark first and I was the bonus friend!
Shawn and I had many nicknames for each other. We called each other "Twin Sis" in elementary school because we decided that Mark and I really should have been triplets and she was our other sister. Then we became "Tin Twins" when we both had braces in 9th grade. We loved that we shared a middle name, so to everyone else we were Shawn Marie and Michl Marie. Of course to me, she was also Red, Red Hot, Hot Redhead and the original Fireball!
I have so many wonderful memories with Shawn. She was present for the big milestones in my life – like high school and college graduations; we were bridesmaids in each other’s weddings; and we celebrated careers and motherhood. But I will also cherish the memories of our countless sleepovers, singing at the top of our lungs in her closet to everything from Michael Jackson to UB40, playing fashion show at Contempo Clothing at the Cerritos Mall, and of course, cruising around Norwalk in her Dodge Omni.
Shawn had this amazing knack for making everything fun. Life was an adventure and she lived it to the fullest. She lived with a “Go for it” attitude. You don’t ask permission, just forgiveness if necessary. She was also one of the most positive people I’ve ever known; staying strong even when she had every right not to be. And she gave the best hugs. Shawn’s hugs were not catch and release. She bear-hugged you, and that audible “Umphh” and then came the wiggle. What I would do to have one more of Shawn’s hugs??
Shawn showed us by her example to love like it’s our last day. We never know when we will run out of time. Nothing is promised to us in this world but we are promised an eternal kingdom together if we believe.
So my sweet Shawn Marie, how can I possibly honor our 35+ years of joy, love & friendship? How can I honor how you poured sunshine and music into my life? I can try to share your joy. I can pass it on. I can find a way to turn this broken heart into compassion and service for others like you did so easily.
So I promise Shawn, I will continue to pray for stronger faith for me and everyone who loves you. I pray we all believe that sunshine and music will come back in our lives even in this darkest hour.
I will continue to pray for Jason, Jaxon and Talon for their health, peace, faith and happiness. And I will pray that you Shawn Marie will be in our hearts forever.
This is not goodbye. I know we’ll meet again.
This is just me saying, “I love you my forever friend.”"
"I am so saddened to hear of Shawn's passing. My prayers go out to her husband Jason and their two boys. May God comfort your hearts and bring you peace. Keep Shawn close to your hearts always. She will always be there. To all my NHS friends...you had such great memories of her. Cherish them forever. My favorite memories were when we did track together. Those were fun times. Blessings to all of you. Love - Jen "Jayfer""
"My Dearest Shawn Marie –
You gave to those closest to you the biggest gift possible – your enduring love, smiles and laughter - I will never forget the beautiful sound of your whole hearted (“hearty”) laugh! Oh what memories and wonderful times we had: the beaches, night swimming, horse races, watching our children’s performances, singing karaoke - and the way you belted out “You Give me Fever…”.
So much of yourself was poured out to those you love – always with kindness, warmth, inner sweet sparkles and big hugs!!
You will be so missed my dear friend; your spirit will live in our hearts always. We lost a precious soul on earth and Heaven gained a phenomenal angel. Jason, Jaxon and Talon, please know we love you and will always be there for you. The Meisterlins"
"Jason, I am so sorry, old friend. Shawn's kindness, love for all good things, laughter, and hospitality were passionate and relentless in this life. I remember dearly how she always made sure I had something to eat during some tough times. We had rejoiced with you Jason, and though we now mourn with you brother, her spirit and stories will never cease in our hearts. You, Jaxon and Talon remain in our prayers. Much love and kisses to you Shawn-meister!"
"So shocked to read this and my thoughts go out to you and your family, Jason. You have our deepest sympathies and condolences."
"When I think of Shawn Marie's beautiful, caring and adventurous spirit, it makes me smile. She was fun and funny, beautiful and smart, courageous and nurturing and I am a better person for knowing her. I am grateful for the time we had together. I am here for you Mendy boys for anything, anytime. Do not hesitate to call me."
"Unfortunately the only time I was able to see Shawn was at the soccer field. Unfortunate as it may seem, the smile and support that she presented and passed along is something very rare...and I see alot. My heart goes out to Jason, Jaxon and Talon because who have lost someone who is very dear...but keep her alive in your hearts...it's a place only she has touched and that void will forever be there...believe me!"
"To the Mendy family,
I am very sorry for your loss and understand there are no words to express the way you feel. Many of us loved Shawn and her family and morn alongside you all the way. May God bless you and may Shawn rest in peace."
"Jason, Jaxon, and Talon we are so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Shawn Marie was a beautiful person inside and out. If there is anything we can do for you please don't hesitate to call.
Love, the Carlile Family"
"My Dear friend I have countless memories with you I can't wrap my head around your passing. I promise you I will CONTINUE living life the only way we know how with PASSION, LAUGHTER AND LOTS OF LOVE. I LOVE YOU MY FAVORITE RED HEAD, LOVE ALWAYS YOUR FAVORITE MEXICAN."
"My sweet friend. I can't believe you are gone. In every memory I have of you there is a giggle, a laugh, or a smile that's just how you always were. I'm so glad we reconnected. I feel very blessed to call you my friend. I can picture you making the angles laugh now the way you made all of us. When I look up at the sunshine I'll think of your smile."
"Jason, Jaxon, and Talon-there are no words to express how we are feeling. The passing of Shawn has left us in shock. We have lost a wonderful lady and part of our Warrior Family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Jen, Kevin, and Dylan Glatt"
"Jason, Jaxson and Talon, our prayers and love go out to you. Please know that we are all here for you and love you all. She was such a wonderful dedicated mama. She loved you all so much! May you find comfort in the beautiful memories that you have.
Shawn Marie your smile was so contagious. Your hugs were sincere and your words were always so sweet. Thank you for always being so kind. We will miss seeing you at the pool and walking your dog. May you rest in peace and love.
Jessica Hendrix and Family (Zahra's mama)"
"Jason and family.... Shay and I are so sorry to hear this news. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers. Shawn was a breath of fresh air and such good energy. May you all find peace and comfort. Love and hugs.... Shay and Dina Weiss"
"One of my favorite Bonsall moms! My heart is saddened to hear such terrible news! My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who loved her, especially her 3 boys! She was an amazing, devoted mommy and I'm sure an amazing, devoted wife! I will miss seeing her at school and having our "kid" talks. Jaxon, you have a sweet, funny, loving soul just like your mama! Stay strong and take care of your little brother Talon! Lots of hugs and love from "Mrs.Cabrera""
"Shawn, I am so shocked you are gone. You have always been a smiling face I could spot out of the crowd. You have always seen the glass as half full and done all you could to comfort me in my time of need. You have always been an absolutely outstanding and hands-on Mom and an example for me of how I want to be, a good role model and friend. We will miss you greatly but will do all we can to help and look after the boys <3 We love you forever. Enjoy Heaven my beautiful friend!!!!"
"My favorite baseball team mom of all time. Eternal rest grant unto Shawn Marie, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and all souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen."
"Irene and I are so sad about your passing. You were always so good, kind and always welcoming to us. Even though we did not know you much, we will miss your smile, laughter and always willing to welcome us in.
May you rest in piece forever. Love Tom and Irene"
"Sending my prayers and thought. Heaven has a new Angel."
"My condolences to the entire family! I am so shocked and sorry for your loss. Boys your mother was a kind, fun loving lady who never turned a friendship away. She was warm and welcoming and the life of the party. She loved you and your father tremendously. She will forever be in God's embrace and watch over you as your guardian angel. Love to you all."
"I am so sad that you are gone. I remember the day I met you in 3rd grade. You were always so nice and funny. Your laugh was so very contagious. I lived down the street from you and we walked to school everyday and it was always so fun and adventurous. Who knew that we had made a friendship that would last a lifetime. My heart breaks that you are gone. Everytime I think of you tears come and I think of your smile and your sense of humor. You will always be in our hearts . Sending prayers and hugs to your family. We all love you Shawn."
"Shawn Marie, I am at a complete loss. I can't articulate the right words to say. I remember when we first met. You were so welcoming and took me right in. I remember karaoke nights. I remember watching you as a mother and thinking what a great mother you are and how the boys are so lucky to have a strong, fun Mom that would do anything for them. You were so loving to your niece and nephew. I remember many our many talks laughing about our ridiculous intake of Tums. I remember what a good sport you were in listening to my country music even though you hated it (but I think you secretly loved it!). I remember many conversations we had having to stick up for our ugly toes...but we all know that my ugly toes dont have anything on your hammer toe! I also love that we have had many laughs at our husbands expense when joking with them that we were "demoted" when marrying a Mendy (you previously a King and me previously a Sargent). We've been through a heck of a lot over the years my sister. One thing is for sure, you are my sister. I love you. I am deeply saddened by your loss! There is a piece of our family missing. You were an energetic, happy, strong passionate Mom, wife, sister, daughter!! We love you! I promise you, we WILL take care of your boys and Jason. They will never be without support and love. We will honor your memory in their life. I love you sister. We are just heartbroken."
"I'm so very sad for this loss. Shawn-Marie and Jason opened their heart and home to me many years ago; I've met so many great people, developed lasting relationships and made so many wonderful friends because of them and their kindness and love. Shawn was an amazing wife, mother and person; a true 'fire of life' and will be dearly missed. -Jason and family, PLEASE let me know if you need anything that I can provide to you and your family. My heart is heavy. Love you."
"As I write this I am still in shock and disbelief that this is even real! I keep thinking that this is all a terrible dream. My heart and prayers go out to the whole family. I am so greatful that I got to spend time with Shawn, hear her laugh, see her smile and be able to joke and tell stories with her. Before she left Michigan to go back home her last words to me were "I love you, love!" And gave me a giant hug. That it one memory I will never forget. Love you and Miss you already, may angels lead you in!"
"People comes to your life for different reasons and Shawn Marie crossed mine to brighten it. I'll never forget our time together. You were an angel that touched many hearts and You'll be always in my heart. We'll meet again someday my friend and we'll laugh together again. I love you very much."
"Truly an amazing, vibrant person; full of life. My heart goes out to everyone who knew her; as she touched the life of everyone she met. My prayers and condolences to her family. Your light will forever shine in our hearts Shawn."
"I'm still shocked and at a loss for words right now about Shawn Marie's passing. Man... I am so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news, and I want you to know I will do anything I can possible, if you and Jaxon and Talon need anything don't hesitate to ask. She was a very kind and wonderful person with an incredible soul and sense of well being. And that laugh, I'll miss it for sure. You are all in My, Darlene and the girls thoughts and prayers. Stay strong, hug your boys and know that you have a lot of people who care and love you all. Peace."
"I woke up feeling like I was in a fog when I read the news. All day long I have been looking at your photos and I still can't believe my sweet beautiful friend is gone. I love you so much and I miss you already. You were a bright light and I am so blessed to have called you my friend. I am sending your family prayers of strength and I promise to always check in on them. Keep shinning bright up there in Heaven and give your mother a kiss from one of her "international" children. I'll never forget you and until we meet again. XOXO"
"Jason, Jaxon, and Talon, there are no words to describe how really sorry we are for your loss. Shawn Marie was one-of-a-kind, full of life person who loved her boys. All three of them. That makes it even harder for us to understand. We have all of you in our prayers as always. We love you.
Aunt Ceci and Uncle Bill"
"I will miss your smile! Our love to your boys.
Alan & Wendy"
"There are no words to describe the loss we feel. I loved you like a sister Shawn and can't believe your really gone. You were always there for us and your enthusiam for life was contagious. Jason, Jaxon and Talon, please know that we are here for you always. We love you!"
"We are so sorry for your loss Jason, Jaxon and Talon. We loved your mommy so much. She was a beautiful and wonderful person. We miss you already Shawn Marie....sending all you all our love...the Browns xoxo"
"I am so, so very sad my sweet friend to hear of your passing. I will never forget your smile, your laugh and your amazing frienship. I love you and am already missing you. Jason, Jaxon and Talon; the Malone Family is sending you all of our love."
"My beautiful wife and mother of our two boys, Jaxon and Talon, was a true light in this world. Her kindness, energy, vivacious nature, and love for people will always be remembered. She will live on in our hearts forever and ever. I love you with all my heart, mind, and soul my sweet Baby Shawn Marie!"
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