HER JOURNEY'S JUST BEGUN
Don't think of her as gone away-
her journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets-
this earth is only one.
Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how she must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of her as living
in the hearts of those she touched...
for nothing loved is ever lost-
and she was loved so much.
E. Brenneman
And babygirl---you are so missed. It's taken me so long to write on here and I am sorry for that. I just had to wait until the right time, then I realized there would never be a right time. You were my daughter, roommate, co-worker and best-friend. I miss you more each passing day, but I know you are in a much better place and that helps take some of the sadness away. Take care my love.....
Love
Mom
STRENGTH
I remember coming over to play at your house and playing with "Fluffy" the white dog. We grew up always playing somewhere together. I remember the summer we went to Grand Lake and we went skiing, boating, etc. Had sooo much fun! I remember Shera being sooo happy and when we lost contact after my wedding, when we saw each other again it was just like we picked up where we left off. I am sooo glad we got to stop and visit not long ago. I am sooo glad when we got to meet and eat with Shera and Kathy when we were in Houston a few years back. I had called Shera a few weeks before she ended up in the hospital and we had a GREAT conversation and I think we talked for about an hour. Shera was sooo strong, and went through so much pain. I take comfort in knowing she is no longer in pain. I pray for you all to find peace, and turn all your cares and worries to God. He will give you strength and peace. Shera will be GREATLY missed, and I will never forget her and she will always be in my heart, as well as her whole family..I love you Shera, and I love her family as well. Rest in peace my lifelong friend...
Love Forever,
Valerie Vandervort/Boyer
Gone From My Sight
Beautiful
Sis will always be the most beautiful person I have ever known. She never judged anybody, and she would stand side by side with you holding hands- just smiling and supporting you no matter what the circumstance was.
Everytime I saw sis, I'd just hollar out "beautiful!" and she'd turn around so fast with a big smile on her face rushing over to come give me a warm hug. I've never felt so comfortable talking to anyone like I have with sis. Words cannot begin to describe how much she will be missed.
We all now have a permanent guardian angel who will constantly watch over us daily.
I love you beautiful!!! and Please come see me anytime you'd like to in my dreams!
A joyful and fearless girl
I had the great fortune of having Shera play a big part of my early childhood. My Mom and Shera’s Mom Kathy are first cousins and we lived in the same neighborhood in the late 70’s to early 80’s. Shera and I were in Bluebirds together and she introduced me to my best friend Kelley. Even back then she knew good people.
One of my Mom’s favorite memories of Shera was when the Bluebirds had decided one Halloween that the girls would clean out and carve a pumpkin into a jack-o-lantern then once finished they would hold a drawing and one lucky girl would get to keep the jack-o-lantern. Apparently there was one girl that made an arse of herself (me) by flat out refusing to use her hands to scoop out the pulp inside, citing ‘Ooh, that’s nasty!" Shera and the other girls went on without me cleaning out and carving the pumpkin. Then when it came time for the drawing, I won the jack-o-lantern. The injustice of the whole incident was not lost on Shera and she was pretty steamed at me. She must have got over it because it wasn’t long after that she was showing me a horny toad she found behind our houses by holding it up by the tail. She would laugh and laugh as I would cringe watching her hold the most menacing looking critter I had seen in person up to that time. She was the same way about food too. She wasn’t afraid to try new things and would tell me to "suck it up" or "get over it" as I would stall and whine about eating asparagus or some other green thing that I was grossed-out by. To this day when I hear someone say that something "tastes like chicken" I think of Shera.
Her family moved to Owasso when we were about 7 or 8 and my family came to visit them. When we arrived there Shera couldn’t wait to tell me that there are crawdads on her block. That word was foreign to me at the time and I can remember thinking to myself that she JUST moved to Owasso and they already have her talking like a hick (which she wasn’t). I soon understood what she meant when she took me down the street and pulled up a piece of plywood in a big puddle revealing these slimy, brownish crustaceans. I couldn’t share her joy in the discovery but I recall being impressed that she didn’t spook easily.
Years later when I was meeting my future mother-in-law for the first time, and she had served me dinner with spinach turnovers, I thought of Shera. How would she handle this? She wouldn’t sit there grimacing, eating around the spinach or whining. She was too classy for all that. So I ate every bite thinking of Shera saying to me, " just suck it up". Even today as I struggle to say something about her that would do her justice, I’ve had to summon my ‘inner Shera’ to find the courage and class that she displayed throughout her whole life. She is sorely missed and I count myself among the truly lucky to have had her in my life.
My Sweet Sweet Grandaughter
I have thought for many days what I would write for you and my thoughts keep going back to the day when you were about 18 months old and we were baby sitting you and Shawna. Craig had just gotten a new Chess Set, which you were facinated with, and you kept going in and picking up the pieces and I would tell you "No No", but you looked at me and turned around and picked up another piece. I smacked you a couple of times, but you would not relent. You were a darling Child and a Sweet grown up. You loved your children Blaine and Jacob so much, and they loved you. You were so kind to Grandpa and myself. I remember how Grandpa loved teasing your Mom and one day he was talking to your Mom and said something about you and turned to your Mom and said "Whats her name". Made your Mom so mad cause she thought he really couldn't remember your name. We will both miss you very much. The memories we have of all of you living in Tulsa will be with us always. Love Grandma
Musical Tribute
My Beautiful Friend....
To My Beautiful Friend...
My head is so full of the memories that we had together. Your spirit has always and will always live in my heart. Even though your amazing spirit is no longer here with us, I know you are in a better and more peaceful place now. Today I feel such great sorrow trying to type this with flooded tears running down my face and your special spirit will help me through this time. Your heart and your strength that you had can only be an example for all of us here.
So today My Beautiful Friend I have to find your strength to say goodbye..but we will meet again but tears of joy instead of tears of sorrow today.
I Love You My Friend, Tammi
Her Son Blaine
My mom was a kind hearted Loveable person..She allways saw the good in things. Even though I was out of my moms life for a couple of years, She was on my mind the whole time..The whole family was..And I know she missed me. I am going to miss her so much but I know she is watching over me and she is in a better pkace,,. But I was so happy I found Her and got to spend those couple of days with her..I thank the Lord so much for that.
The Girls in my Boys lives
The Girls, Shawna and Shera, cousins to J.C. and Guy Warner. They spent holidays together all the time in Tulsa. Life was good.
So many memories when we think back. We all grew up and moved on and lost track but never forgot about one another, ever. At times we hunted and talked about where everybody may have gone to but it was not until Facebook that we were able to locate the Childers'. The timing was unexpected and the grieving continues.
A beautiful flower is our Shera and she will live on in our hearts, like those precious that have gone before her.
We will continue to Whisper Her Name in Love.
Linda and Jim Warner
My Daughter's Best Friend......
I wish I would have had the pleasure of knowing you as April did. You made such an impression on my daughter. Not always does one find a true friend in life and you were that "true friend" to April. This has been rough on her but her faith will get her through this and she does understand that you are at peace and that you will never have to be in anymore pain. I just want to let everyone know what a wonderful person you were and a sincere friend you were to April. Thank you so very much for touching April's heart and being there for her when she needed that special friend.......April's Mom, Suzy
Shera as far back as it goes!
You know I cant think of my childhood much at all with out Shera, We would spend every summer, Christmas, well all holidays. I used to find the colored Easter eggs that grandma Warner put out for her and I would hide them where she already found one so she would have to search and search. grandma had a shed in back I would play house with her I remember thinking even at that age she knows what to do. Grandpa Warner would take us to the country club and leave us all day WE LOVED IT!!!!! Except we were the same age but, the guys would check her out and then see me and look away, she would say" guy get away".
Shera as a girl would chase in Shawna's foot steps and Kathy and Joyce would drag me to all theses pageants she hated them but she would go and shine, me I would watch her frown, and smile cause I was the only boy there and she would punch me.
Grandma Warner had a huge wall in her back yard and me and shera would spend hours wondering, dreaming and talking, my cousin was a beautiful person all the way to the bone, but that wall was were we smoked our first cigarette that we stole from grandma Warner's freezer. This wasn't the only thieving we did together. Sand Springs IGA Our parents picked us up after being caught shoplifting I think we were 12. After that brush with law we grew up.
Our lives then grew as well spouses, children it wasn't long before we lost touch as adults. This I say in confidence shera, was in my life all the way back to my first memories ever. Shera was without a doubt the best friend I ever had before cell phones and Internet as a child what we looked forward to was seeing each other and family. I can stand to say that for sure she must have lived her adult life to much the same tune..... her own!!! Never did she want to be missed and in my heart she has never Left. I love you! shera. Guy Warner
Christmas
One year Shera celebrated Christmas Day with our family and she was such a sweet guest. When she opened just a small gift from us she was so appreciative and raved about the chocolates forever. She was also intrigued (and surprised) by the British food we were preparing and thought it so kind of us that she didn't have to help herself buffet style, but that we served it to her. She absolutely fell in love with the English Trifle too and just had to take some home with her.
It's so hard to believe that this lovely girl is no longer with us, she was just way too young to be taken away and didn't deserve the suffering she has lived through. She was selfless to the end as well. When visiting a short while back, she was obviously in pain, but she put all her worries aside and was so interested to learn about how we were and how our children were growing up. She loved looking at the childrens photos and spent time admiring them, I wish now they had got to see her too.
Rest in peace Shera, you will be terribly missed by all your loving family and friends.
The Jenner family.