I knew Ben most of his life. He was a wonderful little boy. Then he grew into a wonderful man. You could always count on him. I know your having a wonderful birthday in Heaven

I can only imagine what you are doing today on your 29th birthday. I miss you so bad. No one will ever know how my heart hurts every day. You are the sunshine of my life. So close to Thanksgiving and the Bible tells us to be thankful in all things. Even in your death, I am thankful for the wonderful 28 years you were given to me. For all of the good times, bad times (which were not that many) no mom could be as proud of one son as I am of you. You taught me many things in life but you never taught me how to live without you. I know that you are no longer in that horrible pain that you were in while you were with us here. I know that you are visiting with friends and family that have gone on before after you left us. I know that you are waiting for me and guess what, I am waiting also. You are endlessly forever in my thoughts. I hope you have a wonderful Happy Birthday Son. You are in my heart at all times. You are loved by so many many people.  Mom - November 18, 2010.

On Jan 18, 2008  Ben and I met at a mutural friends house and we started talking and one conversation led to another and before I knew it we were talking about me and the kids coming to spend the night on the weekends so we did. This went on for a couple of months then Easter rolled around and so did Spring Break then Ben said Baby why don't you come down for the week and we will do something with the kids. So of course I loaded up and headed down here. After that week it was time to go back home but, I just found it hard to do. I cried and said I don't want to go home. He said well go get the kids stuff and yours and just drive back and forth to work and I will help you out with the gas. So the latter part of March I was here to stay. Ben asked me to MARRY him at work one afternoon and I said YES I WILL MARRY YOU !!!! We were to have Dinner with his Brothers and their wife/Girlfriend and his parents and he was going to do it then but Ben just could not wait to do it at dinner. Next thing came along was Ben was having stomach issues and I finally got him to go get it seen about in May. Dr Gill took out his gallbladder thinking that is what it was. Ben continued to have pain and throw up. I took him to Montgomery in June to find he had a 20lb tumor and 17 inches of his intestine's had to come out. So needless to say he had the surgery and we waited for two days to get the results back. The dreaded words "CANCER" came out of his Dr. mouth. That throw us for a whirlwind. In July of 2008 Ben began taking Chemo and it made him so sick. He was feeling pretty good the end of July so out of the clear blue he said come on girls it is time for a ROAD TRIP. At 6:30a.m. we are up getting ready to go on a ROAD TRIP.....Guess where?????? Yep to Get MARRIED in Columbus, Ga....JULY 30,2008 Ben and I became MR AND MRS BENJAMIN LAMAR STALLINGS!!!!! I tried to do all I could to keep him at ease and peaceful during this dreaded disease called CANCER!!!! I LOVE and Miss You Ben You will ALWAYS live in my heart and the kids as well. You are a WONDERFUL Man and God said your time here was done and needed you there so he called you home on May 11, 2010. R.I.P BEN "SPLASH" STALLINGS

SPlash was a big part of my life for the last 4 years i did not get to really know him until i started dating my husband (Dee). He would always stop by our house and ask for a cig or a beer or most of all to use our bathroom. He watched us get married he watched our baby girl in my belly and he watched her grow for 2 1/2 years. He always helped if we neede help doing anything, he would stop and sit on our porch and talk and talk and talk for hours. He interduced us to his wonderful wife and kids when they met and we fell in love with them as well. We watched his family grow and yall watched our family grow. And we also watched his wonderful life end Me, dee and the family and alot of other friends had a very hard last couple of weeks watching Splash go be with our FATHER. We knew it was time for him to go but none of us were ready to let him go.That was the hardest thing i have ever had to do i have never ever watched anybody pass way it is awful, it was awful on Dee as well i have never seen him the way he was when he lost you. you also have a wonderful wife and kids that did everything just the way you wanted it done we all listened to how you wanted your special day to be. It is not ment for us to understand right now whay god callls the people home that he calls but we will understand oneday and we will see you again. Now that i sit here and write this story i think about andrea telling us Splash was going to send us red birds when he left us and he did thats all we saw for weeks was red birds and it makes me think how Ben is not here to see us have our second baby and watch this baby grow as he did mylittle girl that he loved so much, but i think Ben sent this baby to us Because me and dee have been trying to have another baby for a little over a year and a month after he passed we got pregenant with our second baby so thank you Ben we love you and miss you so much there is no other like you were we know you are watching over us everyday and we will see you again soon.

Well my family. Was friends with another family that knew Ben. And we said we would meet him. We met him. My mom and Ben started talking and before we knew it they were dating. We moved in together . And Made a family. And that basicaaly how we met