49....whaaat?
I wish everyday for the pain to ease. For a moment where I don't hear a song that makes me remember you. Yesterday on your birthday I youtubed all the old stupid commercials you use to sing. What a memory, because you still remembered them as an adult.
So, you are 49 now. I don't say "would have been" because in my heart, you are still very much alive. Momma, Carmen and Winnie probably feel the same. You will never die or go away in my heart. Which is a blessing and a curse. Sometimes I want to run away from myself just to get away from it. Pain and sorrow and regret are heavy burdens to carry around. Yet we gladly do it to stay close to you.
I shed many tears yesterday. I wanted to call you and sing the retarded you look like a monkey song. I still have your cell number and home number. Your cell has been assigned to someone else and from my understanding the home number has changed. I don't know, I've never called it. But you're still in my phone, name and all.
I miss you Gump. I hope you can see down and see your nephews and neices. They miss you too. In true manly fashion, they hold you inside but don't talk about you. The men in this house offer me their hugs (except for Ronnie, he's not a touchy feely person) and love when there is a day like today. I still save my tears until everyone is asleep. Look at your pictures and sometimes, I actually smile. Most of them are like pouring salt in a wound. Still.
I love you. I miss you and wish that you were still with us. Not only did we lose you, it feels like we have lost Garry too. We loved him for 20 years and now he is starting a new life and seems to be pushing us away. In a way I understand, but 20 years....it feels like he is erasing us. So you left and now he is, day by day. Too much losing people. But as you said you are not lost, we know exactly where you are. You passed away, but we will never lose you in our hearts. Ever.
You look like a monkey and you smell like one too......