Susan Spoeneman
  • 69 years old
  • Date of birth: Aug 11, 1942
  • Date of passing: Oct 1, 2011
In one of the stars I shalll be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.

We, who love Susan, have created this site for all of her friends and family, who also loved her, to share their thoughts and memories and pictures.  Please feel free to add a short tribute or condolences below or click on the tab above to add a story, with or without a picture. No public memorial service is planned at this time, but many small, private celebrations of her life are being planned at different places and different times, with internment to follow in St. Louis, MO and Tioga Pass, CA.


The quote at the top is from The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery and was chosen by Susan to be used at her memorial.  


 The following is another quote she wanted:

"Death is nothing at all... Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar names. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. All is well" - from Rosamunde Pilcher.


And finally, Susan wrote her own note to all who loved her:

"I've had a wonderful life. Although it may have been cut short prematurely, I've been blessed with adventures and enough disappointments to help me realize just how special life has been. I was fortunate to have a very special husband, loving friends, and of course my family. The love and support has been so fully given. You can no more tell someone not to grieve than you can tell them to stop breathing - but please remember the special gifts that you each gave to me, especially in these past few years."


In lieu of flowers, Susan's wishes were for family and friends to donate to the charity of their choice. If you do not have a favorite charity, one possibility would be to donate a children's book to your local school or public library.  Susan loved children's books and would be happy to know more books were being made available to children in her honor.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Catherine Boyer on 3rd September 2016

"Hello Aunt Susan!
Today I am in the beautiful state of Colorado, visiting Ashley,Jonathan, and Bailey. It is so peaceful, and I am having such a wonderful time. I thought of you many times in this past day and a half and how many times as a child I visited you, then how many times my children visited you. I feel so terrible that I was not a very good aunt to Brandon or Renee so I am trying to be one with Bailey. I am going to walk tomorrow as there is a special Denver Walk for Hydrcephalus. I'm not too sure how my feet or back will feel afterwards, but Bailey has gone through 6 brain surgeries in her short life, so I think the walk is the least I can do. Anyway, I thought I would tell you how much you are missed and how much I love you."

This tribute was added by Catherine Boyer on 11th August 2016

"Well, I thought about you all day!! Vicky got home from Jordan this time and has been here a few weeks now. Marco brought the kids, and I met Vicky and Raegen (she is getting so tall) at Huntington Beach and Marco was there within a few short moments after I arrived!! Elisabeth starts High School, Sarah starts Junior High, Daniel will start 2nd grade, Christian 1st and Raegen 1st too!! Levi off to Kindergarten. I'm sure you see Angela; she is such a joy and a kick in the ass!! SO much like Teresa I take a double glance more than once!! I still miss you so much, especially this time of year. I get your down comforter out and wrap myself up in it and I swear I can still just get a little wiff......."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Koeller on 11th August 2016

"To a fantastic teacher on my staff whom I will never forget."

This tribute was added by Susan Perry on 11th August 2016

"Happy Birthday dear friend!  You are missed!"

This tribute was added by Rogelio Lopez on 11th August 2016

"Happy birthday Susan. You will always be remembered!! Keep a seat warm up there for us. My hope is to some day be up there chatting with you and enjoying the moment once again"

This tribute was added by Melody Price on 11th August 2015

"I thought of Susan several times today, on her birthday.  She was like a mother to me and also like a very good friend and I very much miss her. I re-read the tributes here and am thinking about what a wonderful person she was. I want to be that positive, loving, wise person.  I hope I am becoming just a little like her."

This tribute was added by Catherine Boyer on 11th August 2015

"Happy Birthday Aunt Susan!!
I can't believe it has been 4 years. I look up at the stars and wonder where you are, but then I think you are every where. I miss you so. It is hard not to get weepy thinking of you, and yet I smile at the same time. It is a conundrum I don't think I will ever be able to explain. The kids are all getting so big!! We ALL miss you so, but are glad you can dance your days and nights away with Bob. I think like Melody in that sometimes, I wish I could call you and hear your advice, or just your voice, and get those great big hugs. Life goes on. Love, Love Love you"

This tribute was added by Melody Price on 1st October 2013

"I think of Aunt Susan so often and wish she was still here to talk with me, offer advice, hear me out, and just be my friend. Sometimes I miss her so much! But I feel so blessed for having had her in my life.  I hope I can be that kind of person to some of the other people in my life."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Koeller on 12th August 2013

"Enjoyed reading all the tributes to Susan over the years.  Her legacy will live on through all the lives she touched!!!!"

This tribute was added by Susan Perry on 11th August 2013

"I think of you often, dear friend.  The handmade ceramic heart you made for me is still on my desk in my office so thre you are everyday. Having a "hot dog" lunch with you one day resulted in you showing me the " real way" to eat a hot dog with chips.  Put your chips directly on the dog!!!!  To this day, I think of you when I have a hot dog....with chips on top of course! Loving you..Susan"

This tribute was added by Patricia Hurley on 28th March 2013

"I met Susan at the Garden Club in Lake Arrowhead.  She was always so vibrant and alive and interested in so many things.  The pictures are a joy to watch because they show her love of life.  I miss you, Susan, but know that you are reunited with Bob and having the time of your next life!"

This tribute was added by Marilyn Koeller on 1st October 2012

"As i said last year, Susan was one of a kind.  Her students were so fortunate to have had her as their teacher!!!!"

This tribute was added by Catherine Boyer on 1st October 2012

"Today is a celebration. My husband and I celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary, which Bob and Susan were such a big part of. Also, today is my granddaughter's 5th birthday. What a celebration of life. 7 years ago during the same week, Susan found out she had this cancer that took her from all of us. She did what she could and left the rest out, meaning she LOvED life!!"

This tribute was added by Melody Price on 12th July 2012

"I'm missing Susan so much today.  Everything around me seems to be reminding me of her. Truly, she is part of me, but I still miss her voice and advice and comfort."

This tribute was added by Dee Wood on 1st November 2011

"Susan was a huge influence in my teaching life.  She shaped so many of us with her knowledge and passion to be a better educator.   She made a huge impact on teachers in schools in West Orange County.   She'll be remembered with huge love and admiration for all she gave to us.  Thank you and rest in peace, dear friend and colleague, Susan."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Koeller on 24th October 2011

"Susan was one of the fantastic team at Vista View school while I was their principal from 1975-1981.  Their support for one another was a source of comfort for all."

This tribute was added by Mark Spoeneman on 21st October 2011

"As a wife, as a friend, as Grandmother, seemingly whatever she endeavered to do, Sue always did it well. Well done, good and faithful servant, your work is done, now go in peace."

This tribute was added by sharen martin on 18th October 2011

"We have such special memories with Susan & Bob in our Christian Small Group. After Bob's passing Susan was always so brave & positive with her outlook of life.
Heaven is so fortunate to have her come home."

This tribute was added by Virginia Brier on 13th October 2011

"To honor your memory, I am planning a week of service learning tutoring in the Navajo Nation Schools in Tuba City, Arizona.  I will remember you each time I see the twinkling stars in the Arizona sky."

This tribute was added by judy jackson on 10th October 2011

"I've lost my very dear friend of 24 years.  Yes, she was my "boss" for twelve of those years but she was, more importantly, my friend.  Susan enriched my life with her wisdom, her sincere caring and her love.  My life will continue to be enriched with  24 years of memories."

This tribute was added by Ellen Bye on 9th October 2011

"I will never forget you Susan and you will  always remain in my thoughts and memories. Your courage was profound and my admiration for you astounding. Peace to you my friend."

This tribute was added by Rogelio Lopez on 9th October 2011

""Whenever I was around Susan I always felt a sense of peace and caring.  The way she was engaged in whatever conversation we were having gave me that sense that she was totally there in the moment.""

This tribute was added by Rogelio Lopez on 9th October 2011

""As a fellow teacher we shared many things in common regarding education and life in general.  Her passing only saddens me in knowing that we won't have any more of these talks this side of heaven."

This tribute was added by Rogelio Lopez on 9th October 2011

"My joy comes in knowing she was a sister in Christ and that some day we will meet again on that Celestial Shore.  "Now we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands." 2 Corinthians 5:1"

This tribute was added by Marilyn Carpenter on 9th October 2011

"The highlight of Susan's visits to Spokane was the time we spent sharing the newest children’s books I brought home for her to see. She always had a wonderful insight or observation I missed.  Those times are a treasure to me."

This tribute was added by Tori Lopez on 9th October 2011

"I will always remember Susan as an extremely positive person. She was my third cousin, but she was like an aunt to me. I had the privilege to spend time with Susan at the beach about a month before she passed. Susan accomplished many things and I will never forget her."

This tribute was added by Linda Chapel on 9th October 2011

"Susan was a wonderful teacher of teachers. The Teacher's Center was a unique program that ensured some of finest teachers in California.  We have Susan to thank for so many quality staff development programs which teacher's chose to attend! She has left a legacy so few will have."

This tribute was added by Janice Wilhelmson on 8th October 2011

"Dearest Susan, I don't know if you ever understood how you were admired and loved. You were one of if not the most courageous women I have ever known. You were beautiful on the inside and on the outside. I can see you now in Heaven with the love of your life, till we meet again"

This tribute was added by Susan Perry on 8th October 2011

""I am forever blessed in knowing you dear Susan.  The laughter and giggles we shared while you sat in a chair taking your chemo like a trooper, and, me on a stool beside you is still so fresh in my mind.  You were truly an inspiration to everyone who was blessed in knowing you.""

This tribute was added by Lois Irwin on 6th October 2011

"I feel so privileged that I could live with Susan these past 9 months.  I feel her joy inside me, am relieved she could let go so peacefully from her failing body.  Tell a funny story or share a memory with us all!
(Susan's sister)"

This tribute was added by Michelle Price on 6th October 2011

"I will always remember Great-Aunt Susan's warm supportive spirit. She always made me feel welcomed and gave amazing advice about life and love."

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