- 44 years old
- Date of birth: Aug 14, 1969
- Date of passing: Aug 8, 2014
|Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. --Albert Camus (Terry's favorite philosopher)|
This page is in honor of Terence (Terry) John Mullen, who was a devoted and loving husband, father, son, brother, and friend. You can read more about Terry on the tab marked, "His Life."
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to a fund for Daphne and Henry created by Terry's parents. It is called the "Terry Mullen Family" account (account # 447898) at Redwood Credit Union, P.O. Box 6104, Santa Rosa CA 95406. Checks should be made out to Jack or Lorraine Mullen, but write "Terry Mullen Family Fund, account # 447898" in the memo.
"A dear friend sent me these poems today, on the first anniversary of Terry's death. I thought I would share them in case they can give comfort to anyone, as they did for me :
"If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Real love is forever."
"Butterflies hover and feathers appear whenever lost loved ones and angels are near.""
"The last time I saw Terry was in 2012. I've worked with him on a number of occasions.
He would typically show up by himself, driving a Phoebus truck full of gear. It often amazed me how this thin dude could handle all that lighting gear as a one-person crew. Terry would start working as soon as he got on site. But before that, he would make a point to say "Hi" to everyone.
He was very careful about unloading/ loading the equipment, so as to not cause damage.
One thing I noticed about Terry is his calmness throughout a job. When things got hectic, he would hustle but still maintain his cool. I have never heard him complain, yell, or speak ill of anyone.
He just got the job done.
I have this vision of Terry from an actual job - he's at his lighting board with his arms crossed, just waiting for the show to start. He's got some fruit and coffee on the side. (Or was that mine?) He's usually at the controls early, before anyone else.
It was those times when he'd show me the lighting board. Or we'd talk about our families and his BART rides to/from work. When I asked him why didn't he just drive to work given his odd hours, he would say BART was convenient most of the time. I say "You've got live shows to do and you're taking the BART?!!" Yes. Somehow, he magically makes it work without any complaints or issues.
I'm glad to have had the opportunity to work with him. Terry's a classy guy."
"Poem for Terry
This poem was given to me by a friend of Terry's at the Celebration of Life service on Friday September 5th. I'd like to thank the person who gave this to me, it is very beautiful and means a great deal to me now - thank you so much. Shari (Terry's sister)
All Is Safe - by Kenneth Patchen
Flow, water, the blue water
Little birds of foam
Singing on thee
Flow water, blue water
Little stars falling asleep
To thy tossing
Flow water, the blue water
What matters any sorrow
It is lost in thee
Little times, little people
They are safe in thee
The shadows of maidens
Safe in thy singing"
"Terry was such a lovely man. I always enjoyed working with him and glad to see he was on the call. Mostly he was a wonderful person with a kind soul and great energy. Terry rest in peace brother, you will be miss."
"Terry was kind and wonderful, an excellent technician, and a good union brother. I am shocked to learn of his passing and extend my deepest condolences to all of us who have been affected by this loss. He is missed."
"Thank you for sharing these memories. Terry is missed and will be remembered at our future event productions. My sympathy to his family. May everyone remember all the good times and continue his presence i our lives."
"I remember first meeting Terry at a training session on lighting with Local 16. When he saw that I was new to the craft, he went out of his way to share his knowledge with me. I was impressed. Afterward, whenever I worked with him on a call, he was always super friendly and helpful. I will never forget that. Thanks, Terry!"
"I had the great fortune to work with Terry, pretty much daily, for 15 years. He was constantly striving to improve himself and the company. One could not work with him and not be better for it. I also got to see his family grow with the additions of Daphne and Henry and the continued love that he had for Angelique. I will carry his memory with me throughout the Bay Area partially because of all of the events we li over the years, but mostly because of the fine, caring and stand up man that his memory leaves."
"Blessed to work with Terry at Phoebus for 2 years--the "gentleman" in the full sense of that word. Saw him at the protest against our coup ousting Aristide. Remember he had been involved in helping Haitian refugees. Busy with all he did, he found time to walk for Haiti. It was an honor to walk with him. "Hold on to my hand, even when I have gone away from you."
"Terry was, as everyone has said, a kind and gentle man. I met him about 19 years ago, shortly after he and Angelique met, and I was honored to stand up with them at their wedding. He was hard working, helpful, and I knew him to care deeply about the suffering of others. I will always regret that I wasn't able to help ease his suffering. We will always remember him well and keep his memory alive for Daphne and Henry. Rest in peace, Terry."
"I first met Terry around 1995 working on the update of the theater at the Legion of Honor in San Francisco. He was always kind, even though I was inexperienced, and he never resented helping me. Through the years that I worked with him, I saw this unfailing kindness and sympathy over and over. Terry was great at teaching people the skills that he already had. He was a hard worker with a good attitude, and he would make the worst jobs more bearable. I am so sad that he is gone, I will miss him terribly."
"I have known Terry since 1992 or so when we met at SF State. We worked together doing shows in the theater. We worked together professionally on and off till the present.
I have never known a person who was kinder, more generous of spirit and intelligent than Terry.
He was a good man and I will miss him. - Paul Measom"
"I met Terry at San Francisco State while we were both philosophy students and involved with Amnesty International. He soon became a dear friend who I cherished very much – conscientious, kindhearted, and thoughtful. I was always impressed by his commitment to do what he could to make the world a better place, as well as his desire to instill happiness and optimism in the lives he touched. I'll miss him and the friendship we shared over the years we knew each other. My thoughts and prayers go out to Angelique and the Mullen family with the hope of finding solace in the memory of Terry, now and always."
"Terry was my dad. He was my dad, my father, my daddy. He loved to laugh and play Risk and watch the giants games with me. We also used to laugh at dumb radio commercials together. I miss him so much. The house is not the same without him. I wish I could take back every bad said I thing to him. Even though I am in great pain, I know my love for him will never die. I wish I could talk to him again and laugh with him and tell him about school like I always would. Oh Daddy, how I miss you so.
"People may forget what you said, people may forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel."
"After hearing about Terry through Angelique, I met him randomly at Coyote Point a couple of years ago (despite not seeing Angelique for many years) while I was there with my kids, and he was there with Henry. He didn't know me at all, but when I introduced myself and made the connection, he was kind, friendly, and invited us to tour with him (we had not been there before). I remember thinking that he was just as nice as Angelique had said he was, and noted how patient he was with Henry and my kids. I know he leaves a big hole in your lives, and hope that all these stories of his love for his family help in some small way. Hugs and love, Amy"
"Terry was my son-in-law and he was all anyone could ask for in that capacity. He was kind, thoughtful, helpful and fun loving. He was a great husband and father. We will miss him terribly. Rest in Peace my friend."
"Terry was a classmate and a friend from years ago at SF State. Even then, in our youth as undergrads, he was a deep and sensitive soul and had a great moral compass. I trusted his judgment and knew that it came from a place of compassion, fairness and gentleness. He will be missed. Much love to his friends and family as they go through this difficult time. - Frank"
"I remember Terry at Playmates. He was always smiling and willing to help. At one of the auctions, both Terry and Thomas were working set up. Thomas came home impressed with what Terry knew and how hard he was willing to work. It was sometimes hard to find people who actually were willing to do the work that they agreed to do. Love, prayers, good thoughts to you all..."
"Terry was our lighting technician for the Live At Mission Blue Series and the Artist Evening of Sharing for the City of Brisbane. He was a joy to work with - kind, knowledgeable, creative. We will miss him. We all looked forward to working with him each year. Be well Terry. Brisbane lights a candle for you to find your way home. Wendy Ricks"
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