- 87 years old
- Date of birth: Mar 28, 1923
- Place of birth:
Gateshead, United Kingdom
- Date of passing: Jul 28, 2010
- Place of passing:
London, United Kingdom
|He has taken his candle into another room which we cannot find - But we know that he was here because of the love and smiles he left behind|
This website has been set up to remember Tom Gylanders - the best dad in the world, a completely devoted husband, a cherished grandad, a kind man with a heart of gold who would help a stranger as readily and quickly as he would help a friend or neighbour.
At 87 I guess he is not one of the 'Facebook Generation' - but he was writing computing manuals back in the 70s when a mainframe computer (with less memory than your mobile phone) needed its own room. My dad definitely made a significant contribution to the age of technology, and so it is completely appropriate for me to be here starting this website. It's 4.10am and I can't sleep - this is helping.
"Apparently Dad today is the best day of the year to have a birthday.....so though not your birthday....I'd like to think you're having the best day while you watch over all of us. Stay close by...I know you do. Love you and miss you so much. Xxxxxxx"
"Time has helped to ease the intense stomach wrenching pain of losing you Dad but I miss you every day. Happily I can still see and hear you as clear as day whenever I close my eyes. I love you always. xxx"
"Time moves on but it is lovely to have this opportunity to think of you and your warm, wonderful smile. xxxxxx"
"Happy birthday dad, got no words cos you know em, just tears, happy ones....."
"Happy birthday dad - you would have been 93 today and still making the most of simple pleasures and loving life. Wish we were blowing out candles with you. Love you and miss you. Xxxx"
"5 years since you left us and it still doesn't seem real - the old saying you don't know what you've got until it's gone, couldn't be more true. Love and miss you more than ever Dad xxxxx"
"Uncle Tom, you are no longer with us but your spirit lives on in a family you can be very proud of. Hope you and my Dad are keeping up with your singing. Love
"Where has the time gone, it seems like only a week ago Julie rang me from the hospital to give me the news, a day I will never forget, the saddest day in my life. Loved & missed by so many..... xxxxx"
"Four years on from losing you and missing you so much right now ... I was having a little cry in the garden the other day and a white feather floated down and landed nearby ... I like to believe it was you letting me know you are helping me through the challenge I face ... love you dad xxxxx"
"Been looking through pics of you today Dad ... and remembering your face and the sound of your voice so clearly made it feel like you are still with us ... love you xxx"
"Happy birthday Dad missing you still always will....xxxx"
"XXX with tears in my eyes...."
"3 years today since we lost you Dad and still doesn't seem real. It still feels as though there was some kind of mistake because you just loved life so much and we all still needed you here. I have to tell myself how lucky we were to have you as long as we did and I know you are watching over us still. Thank you Dad ... Love you Dad xxx"
"Another Fathers Day is here Dad so I'm sending you all my love today and thinking about you as I always do. I love you and miss you with all my heart xxx"
"Happy Father's Day Dad ... wish I could have a hug today xxxxx"
"How much I wish I was getting ready to come over to 198 perhaps with a new jumper for you Dad and a big hug and kiss to wish you a happy 90th birthday. I'd give anything for that. Miss you so much - wish I hadn't put my make up on before writing this. Love you with all my heart - but always feels as though you are close by. All my love to you Dad Sue xxx"
"Happy 90th Dad ... sitting here with mum talking about you and wishing you were here with us ... miss you more and more as time goes by xxxx"
"Blimey Grandad, 90 years since you were born! Wow!
Happy Birthday! Hope you're having a little singalong. Xxxx"
"Hi Uncle Tom,
A birthday thought, hope you are still walking and singing The Street where you live' with my Dad
Sending love and hugs xx"
"Think about you every day Dad and especially today. Know that you are looking down on us all. Love you with all my heart. xx"
"Hope you're enjoying Christmas with all your family Dad ... missing you from ours though ... xxxx"
"The 28th was a hard day in France - memories are very raw there. But finally able to get into the little village church and light a candle for you there - thinking of you posing for photos outside. I miss you so much, love you with all my heart. xxx"
"Two years since you left us Dad and I still can't fully accept it. When I close my eyes I can see your face and hear your voice so clearly ... I'll be watching the youtube videos of you singing today and I know I'll be smiling with tears running down my face ... Hope you're at peace and feeling our love wherever you are xxxxx"
"Happy Fathers Day, all you could ever want in a Dad, & it doesn't get easier with time xxxx"
"I think about you every day Dad - but especially today. I miss you so much. xxx"
"2nd Fathers Day without you but it's not getting any easier Dad ... miss you so much yet still can't believe you've really gone ... thank you for being the Best Dad In The World xxxxx"
"I miss you so much Dad - your voice and laughter is so clear in my head. Everyday I see your big smile, the one when I walked into the room and stood beside you without you knowing I was there - I can't bear you're not here. I still can't believe I can't have a chat with you whenever I like or see that smile or hear your voice and hug you tight. I love you xx"
"Happy Birthday Dad, miss you more than ever. Still King of the Road xxx"
"Happy Birthday Uncle Tom...Say hi to my Dad xxx"
"Happy Birthday Tom, hope you are having a good old sing song xx"
"Happy Birthday Grandad.We all miss you so much... xxxx"
"Happy Birthday Dad ... love and miss you more than ever ... still doesn't seem real ... wish I could give you a hug xxxxx"
"Our 2nd Christmas without you Dad ... I miss you every day but especially on a day like today ... Love you more than ever xxx"
"One year on and life has settled into a new routine ... everything is so different now without you ... I see men that remind me of you so often and sometimes as they walk towards me I can imagine it is you and my heart lifts for a few moments ... love and miss you so much Dad xxx"
"So hard to believe this day is here.
Sadness so strong despite the year.
My tears have started breaking free
Oh Dad I wish you were here with me.
I love you, miss you so much. God bless xxxx"
"Missing you grandad. xx"
"Happy Fathers Day , love & miss you so much xxxxxx"
"Fathers Day without you here is so very sad. Memories of how happy words in a card would make you - how you'd read them to Mum and say how lucky you were. I miss you so much Dad and love you so deeply. xxxx"
"Happy Fathers Day to one of the sweetest,kindest man I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.XX"
"Happy Father's Day Dad .. although it won't be, without you, this year ... I love and miss you more each day xxxxx"
"To this day I often speak about my first job at 15 years old at FFWSP and of a lovely caring man called Tom who helped me immensely in training to be a compute operator. Always supportive , protective and guided me. You were a very kind man Tom ."
"Don't know what made me Google Tom tonight, but I did. Sad to hear he passed away. I worked for him when I was 19 and I am 63 now, so he must have had an impact on me. A lovely man, kind, caring and with wonderful values that he shared."
"You know Dad .. whenever you were irritating me .. going on about something I wasn't particularly interested in ..I'd think to myself "One day you'll give anything to hear him ... " .. and that day is most definitely here Dad ..Miss you so much xxx"
"Happy Birthday Dad, love @ miss you big time xxxxx"
"Not a day goes by when I don't think about you Dad, whether it's a fleeting moment or a surge of many memories that overwhelm me. Today on your birthday I'd give anything to kiss you on the cheek and hug you tight. I love you so much xx"
"Lots of tears this Christmas and memories too of such special Christmasses made magical by you. I love you Dad with all my heart and miss you so much. God Bless."
"It's not such a Merry Christmas this year Dad ... but we are thinking of you and know you're with us ... love and miss you more each day xxxxx"
"We just received a Christmas card from Mum, Michelle opened it & started crying, I asked what was wrong, then she gave me the card, It just said with love from mum on it, it hit me again that dad was gone, it is still so hard to believe that he no longer with us, merry christmas dad"
"Missing you Dad ... and not looking forward to our first Christmas without you here xxx love you xxx"
"I miss you more everyday Dad ... had my first dream about you the other night ... love you so much xxx"
"On my window ledge I have put a lovely photo of Dad from when he came to France. He's standing with a barn owl on his arm and smiling like a happy child. Have had lots of tears today for the most wonderful Dad in the world, we have been so lucky no wonder we miss him so much. I love you Dad."
"I can't help but shed a tear each night when I go to bed, when I turn off my puter the last thing I see is a beautiful picture of my mum & dad smiling together, they both look so happy.I miss not hearing your voice."
"Been thinking about you a lot these past few days Dad. The family got together today for Mum's birthday and it felt strange and sad without you there. Loving and missing you xxxxx"
"I say a prayer and speak to Dad every day. And Dear Robert the flat may be empty but I'm going there often -each time I think Dad will be there to say Hello and though he isn't I feel his happiness - the flat does not feel sad. I actually talk to Dad all the time I'm there - and can smile now when I do instead of crying."
"I still find it hard to take in that I can't talk to my Dad on the phone anymore, In my mind I just picture an empty flat in Tooting Bec, still so very sad."
"Time is passing by so quickly Dad ... can't believe its almost a month since I last saw you ... you're on my mind this evening ... love you Dad xxx"
"I love and miss you Grandad"
"Sadly I never got to meet Tom but if he was anything like his brother and my grandad Vincent then he must have been a very special man and now they will be together again in heaven x x"
"Uncle Tom, you were such a kind and lovely man. I have wonderful memories of you singing with my darling Dad Vincent. Please give him a hug from me. xx"
"Thinking of you, Tom, as you are being commended into God's care. May you rest in peace. xx"
"Thank you for all you did for me. I miss you so much but I still feel you by my side. One day I will see you again Grandad - please watch over me until then. xxx"
"When I married John I gained an uncle. A special man, who I loved for his wit and wisdom, his kindness. You always treated me as one of the family. A dear man, sadly missed and loved, Sandee."
"Uncle Tom you were a second father to me. Such a kind, gentle man, with an intelligence I always admired and a joy for life that was infectious and never wavered. I`ll miss you. Love John."
"All my memories of Tom are happy ones. Despite being a friends parent, he was never scary, just a kind, warm, funny and loving man. Your legacy of love will live on through your family. God Bless you."
"Tom was a lovely colleague, having worked with him for a few years at CRD. He was very kind and helpful and always able to put his hand to anything, nothing was too much trouble. We will miss him."
"Tom was there at FFWSA in St James Park when I joined in 1967, and also later at CRD. He was ever helpful and patient, and his memory will always endure."
"Very sad news and my sincere commiserations.
I remember Tom vividly when we worked together at FFWS and SIA (and on our subsequent meets at reunions).
He was a great colleague and friend."
"U were the best grandad ever, a great grandad to my son & i will miss u forever. Il forever hold ur hand <3 Nanny will b fine and i promice to always look after mum.. Night Grandad, Il always miss u x"
"Tom was a lovely man, a true gentleman, caring, conscientious and considerate. It was a pleasure to know him and he will not be forgotten."
"This candle will have to burn so brightly if it is to be anywhere near as bright as my Dad, bright in thought, bright in kindness, bright in love and bright in mind. I love you so so so much"
"There are not enough hours in a day, days in a week, weeks in a year to explain what my Dad meant to many people, especially us, his kids & grandkids, he loved us all unconditionally. Miss ya big time"
"michael gylanders lit a candle on 31st july
so much love to you dad thanks for all the loveley
blessings you gave to everyone you came across in
your much valuble life"
"Rest in peace Tom, I will always remember the good times in the Thrale pub with your singing! You were such a lovely man and Heaven has now received a wonderful angel. xxx"
"I hope you are singing still and keeping everyone entertained.On the street where you live is the song i remember most.Peace be with you.xx"
"I hope you are enjoying seeing your family again Dad - but I wish you'd stayed with us longer. I love you and miss you - it hurts. xxx"
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