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To live in the hearts, we leave behind...

is not to die .

 

This memorial website was created in the memory of our dearest loved one, Abhijeet Singh, 19, born on March 7, 1992 and passed away on August 10, 2011. We  miss you from  our life and the big vaccumm you have created can be filled by none.I wish you knew how much you were loved.

Abhijeet  was persuing Mechanical Enginneering  from Manipal University. He was a strapping young man, 6 feet in height and an endearing smiling face. He was gregarious, fun and outdoors loving person who just loved to be in company of his friends.He was fond of trekking,  mountain climbing, Squash, and football. He was also very fond of clicking photographs and getting clicked.He was very fond of gadgets and new gizmos like any other teenager.He was fond of all things manly like motor bikes, guns, tanks  submarines,  fighter lanes, and other military paraphrenalia.

 His passion was ' Flying.'.. fighter aircrafts... so much so that I assume that in his last incarnation he must have been a fighter pilot. His passion was to soar in heavens. His only aim in life was to join Indian Air Force after his enginnering degree.He would have flown Sukhois and that would have been the happiest times in his life. If only God willed...

Abhijeet was a caring  loving son and a great elder brother to Abhishek. He was a role model and an ideal for his younger brother. He is greatly missed as a grand son and nephew and  as a great buddy to his numerous friends.  Abhijeet had moved frequently with his family and had learned to make friends fast. Naturally humble, and blessed with a jovial personality and wonderful sense of humor, people were quickly drawn to him.Wherever he went, he spread good cheer and sprinkled life and zest with his great sense of hiumour.How polite, compassionate and incredibly funny he was. He oozed maturity way beyond his years.Never did he ever utter a disparaging remark or critical word for anybody. He was the most compassionate and nonjudgemental person I have ever known.


   As a tale,  so is life ; not how long it is , but how good it is , what matters. 

We lost Abhijeet on 10 August 2011. He had gone for a swim in the Arabian sea with his friend Jana Kish. Both of them entered the sea around 3.o clock in the afternoon, never to come out again. And we were left with this deep stabbing pain in the heart and a with a  big question in the mind for the Almighty to answer-WHY?

Why was life snuffed out of a person so full of life and love for life? Why one of us is taken while the rest of us remain to endure the pain? For there are just so many things that no one can explain. The most painful goodbye was bid to him on 13th August and up  went in flames our hope, dreams and future imagined for him.

Abhijeet,we have you in our hearts while God has you in his arms. You have left your footprints on our hearts , and we will never be the same again. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

WHERE LOVE IS , DEATH CAN NEVER BE THE END OF THE STORY.  YOU are MY forever CHILD.

 Life is eternal, and love is immortal,and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

My son is not my PAST.HE IS MY FUTURE. We do not stop carrying those we love in our hearts and minds because we can't see or touch them. Their memories remain alive as an active part of our lives. Honoring memories is about preserving the gifts of love God allowed to grace our lives with on this earth. It's a holy love that dwells in the places carved inside our  hearts by love itself. It's part of the reason we are Who we are.

This  site is  still in the process of construction. Please visit  it  again soon. And please do write something to let me know you were here to celebrate the  living spirit of my Son.

May 3, 2021
May 3, 2021
A thousand moments that I had just taken for granted , always assuming that there would be thousands more .
Wish I knew !
April 25, 2021
April 25, 2021
Horrible times going on . You are my guiding angel . Plse keep all my loved ones safe and sound .
April 20, 2021
April 20, 2021
Just because you are out of sight , does not mean that you are out of my mind .
Ever so close., just a veil away
April 3, 2021
April 3, 2021
Sometimes I want to hug you
SO MUCH
... and then I remember...
you’re gone
So I wrap myself up in a happy
memory
and Squeeze it until,
for a little while at least,
it’s enough
April 3, 2021
April 3, 2021
Wherever you are, I send you thoughts of love and joy .
May your life be filled with unconditional love and happiness. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
March 21, 2021
March 21, 2021
Flowers are everywhere. Nature at its best . But it just doesn’t feel like spring without you. You were the brightest and the biggest flower of my garden. Hope you are creating beauty and splendour wherever you are .
March 7, 2021
March 7, 2021
Happy birthday in heaven to you my love.
Wherever you are , may my blessings reach you . May the Lord shower you with the choicest blessings and surround you with peace and love
March 6, 2021
March 6, 2021
We wish to the new child,
A heart that can be beguiled,
By a flower,
That the wind lifts,
As it passes.
If the storms break for him,
May the trees shake for him,
Their blossoms down.
In the night that he is troubled,
May a friend wake for him,
So that his time be doubled,
And at the end of all loving and love
May the Man above,
Give him a crown."
March 6, 2021
March 6, 2021
Happy birthday eve my love .
You are alive in every breath that I take .
As long as I live , you will never be forgotten..
March 3, 2021
March 3, 2021
I carry you with me
Every where I go
Always
March 1, 2021
March 1, 2021

And before we leave,
Just know that you were not my misjudgement,
Or an impulse,
Just know that I wanted you more than anything else,
Far from an addiction,
Just know that I shall wander on this Earth thinking of you,
Although I might not have a clue and so might you,
Just know that some fragment of us will exist in some fragment of this universe,
Just know that it will forever be there
February 19, 2021
February 19, 2021
Your birthday is approaching . Soon you will be 29 . It is now a decade of missing you . It feels like a lifetime. It has been a brutal journey without you , but I feel and know for sure that you are in a beautiful place all surrounded by love , peace and beauty. Sending you unending love and peace .
February 14, 2021
February 14, 2021
Happy Valentine’s Day
Love you and miss you always
February 7, 2021
February 7, 2021
If I could create
Anything in the world,
What would it be?
I would create a room,
A room of magical memories.
The room would be decorated
Not with pillows, throws, and candles
But with your scent, your giggles,
In the corner, a pair of your baby sandals.
I could go to this room
And feel your tiny arms
Wrapped around my neck;
Once again, mesmerized by your charm.
This place does exist but
It is not a room;
It is my heart, filled with your soul.
It is an escape from the gloom.
No matter where I go,
No matter how far away,
This place of magical memories
Is where, together, we can stay
January 29, 2021
January 29, 2021
Sending you my love .I know you are there somewhere. I send you all the love held in my broken heart . And wishes for happiness and understanding wherever you are .
January 15, 2021
January 15, 2021
I loved you with the utmost love of which my soul is capable and you have been taken from me - yet in the agony of my spirit in surrendering such a treasure, I feel a thousand times richer than if I had never possessed it.
January 4, 2021
January 4, 2021
My mind still talks to you .My heart still looks for you , but my soul knows you are at peace . I miss you every single day .
December 31, 2020
December 31, 2020
Mujhe rahega intzaar tamam umr tera .
Ishq mujhe tujhse hee nahi , tere hone se bhi ha

Happy new year to you . May you always be surrounded by love and peace, wherever you are .
December 31, 2020
December 31, 2020
Enu,

The tribute you posted on December 27th was so beautiful and true.
God Bless
December 27, 2020
December 27, 2020
*_The Earth does not cradle the Sun in her arms nor hold Him tight against her chest. in fact the Earth does not even touch the Sun! And yet, all life on Earth happens because of the Sun._*

*_There is no visible or tangible connection binding the Earth to the Sun. But the relationship between the two is unquestionable! Is it not?_*

*_It matters not if you cannot touch or hold something that your life depends upon. Life does not end because the Earth cannot touch or hold the Sun . Instead the reason that life goes on is because the Earth is touched by the Sun - each day, every day! A phenomenon that will continue till the end of eternity

Just like you and me
December 26, 2020
December 26, 2020
You were part of this decade which will soon be over .
The 20’s will start soon . I will though keep wondering what you would have been today
December 24, 2020
December 24, 2020
Merry Christmas my baby love
It was your kind of festival. You loved this time of the year .
Have a great time up there . Sending you tons of love .
November 1, 2020
November 1, 2020
Kya kahu ?
Tum sab jaante ho
It is your bro ‘s birthday tomorrow
He will be 24 tomorrow .
Plse always ensure that he is safe and sound . Protect him from anything which is dark and negative.
Love you so much my baby . See you sooner than later .
September 27, 2020
September 27, 2020
I called you
It says YOUR CALL CANOT BE CONNECTED AT THE MOMENT.PLEASE TRY AFTER SOME TIME .
So when should I call again?
September 26, 2020
September 26, 2020
It has settled deep under my skin, into my bones
the love
the loss
the joy
the pain
September 4, 2020
September 4, 2020
I was looking at the family pics today and still it has not yet sunk in that you will never be part of the pics again . Wish the pics were complete with your presence .
August 19, 2020
August 19, 2020
Sometimes I canot find a reason why you are not there
Sometimes I turn to look back to find you ,
With thought that I would like to share
August 12, 2020
August 12, 2020
Always in my thoughts. I wonder what you are making of this world today, and the dreadful state it's in? Look after your mum and family and show her lots of signs. I will meet you one day xxxx
August 10, 2020
August 10, 2020
Thinking about you Enu and sending a hug and healing prayers.
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
I will always talk about how you brought that specialness to my life
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
I wish I could hug you and keep hugging you till my soul melted with tears.
August 1, 2020
August 1, 2020
Zikr tera hawaon se jab bhi kiya karte hai...
Yaado me teri khushbu ka hum Ehsaas karte hai !!!!
July 30, 2020
July 30, 2020
Door Hokar Bhi Door Tum Nahi Ho ..... ‍❤️‍
Paas Ho Lekin Paas Kyu Nahi Ho ......
July 29, 2020
July 29, 2020
I will love you
Forever
I will miss you forever
I will speak your name forever
I will remember you forever
I will carry you in my heart forever.
July 29, 2020
July 29, 2020
Be close to your mum in these messed up times Abhijeet. Hold us close as we struggle to continue on here amidst the chaos. Love and light xxx
July 28, 2020
July 28, 2020
Looking at your pics these days
All the growing up years
From a cute lil bundle of joy to the young and handsome.
The mental picture of you lying on the beach is still so strong though .
Sending you love . Loads .
July 21, 2020
July 21, 2020
The day of your departure from this earth is approaching. All days are same but still new tidal waves of sadness engulf me every time . I just wish that har Khushi ho vaha , tu jahan bhi rahe. .
July 19, 2020
July 19, 2020
I keep wondering how you would have taken  these trying times of pandemic. I am kind of sure you would have been somewhere posted in some Cantonment.
Miss you always and every time my son . God bless you wherever you are
April 27, 2020
April 27, 2020
Never a day goes by when I do not think about you .
You are loved . You are so missed
March 8, 2020
March 8, 2020
Happy Birthday in Heaven precious Abhijeet. Always in my thoughts. I hope you have a wonderful time with my son and your friends xxx
March 7, 2020
March 7, 2020
Happy birthday Abhijeet! It's hard to forget a person who gave us so much to remember...
You will always stay forever in our hearts
March 7, 2020
March 7, 2020
Abhijeet
Happy birthday in heaven dearest
March 7, 2020
March 7, 2020
Happy birthday dear son wherever you are . Your time here with me was too short . But it will forever in heaven with you . I am gonna find you I promise.
February 14, 2020
February 14, 2020
Aakhir kya Phool detee ma tumko
Tum juda hee tab hue jab drakhto ke haath bhi khali the

Happy Valentine’s Day
May you always find real love wherever you are
January 25, 2020
January 25, 2020
2010-2019
This decade is over . You were there in this decade till Aug 2011 . Now I don’t know any other decade left for me , but what I know for sure is that you will never be in that. This finality is fills me with despair and fresh awareness of your absence
January 23, 2020
January 23, 2020
I never truly understood the meaning of ‘I miss you’ earlier .* I miss you* . Each and every cell of my body knows that I will never be able to see you ever again. That despair that sets in gives a whole different meaning to the simple “ I miss you”.
January 14, 2020
January 14, 2020
I miss the future I was supposed to have with you
January 11, 2020
January 11, 2020
You are loved . May beauty love and more love surround you wherever you are. Fly high, Fly strong . You are there in every beat of my heart.
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March 7
March 7
Happy birthday dear Sonny boy . I raise my life energies to salute your joyful spirit. May you be surrounded by love and laughter always
March 6
March 6
Another birthday that we will not share . You live in me and qll your loved ones . 
I have decided to see you as a source of joy for 19 years rather than source of grief . I will always remember you witg a smile on my lips and even if a lump rises in my throat , i will let it pass with no resistance .
God bless you my child , wherever you are .
January 17
January 17
I'll Meet you
On the days I miss you most
I'll close my eyes and sleep.
I'll meet you in my dreams
in a moment we can keep.

I'll meet you with a hug
and with things I want to say.
I'll meet you under the sun
or a different place each day.

I'll meet you by the river
or back at our old home.
And at the times I cannot find you
In my dreams i shall still roam.

I'll meet you in the coffee shop
or at your favourite place.
I don't care just where it is
as long as I see your face.

I'll meet you at a park
so you can watch the children play.
You can take their laughter
back to heaven every day.

I'll meet you on each birthday
we no longer get to share.
I don't care just where it is
but I'll meet you there.

I'll meet you in the sunshine
or in the pouring rain.
I will walk through any storm
just to see you again.

I will meet you in my thoughts
a million times a day,
along with every memory
I am lucky to replay.
Recent stories
July 28, 2023
There’s an order that life is supposed to follow.

An order of breaths we are supposed to take,
as if we are passing a torch from one generation to the next.

And our torch is supposed to go out before our child’s flame is extinguished.

We are supposed to watch them take their first breath.
But not their last.

We are supposed to hear the thud-thud of their heart when it starts beating.
But never the silence when it stops.

That heart that we once carried inside of us. That breath that we gave them. That life that we kept safe, protected.

So when the order of life is disrupted,
when their torch goes out before yours,
it is as if you too have been robbed of your breath
and as if your heart has stopped beating as well.

There is nothing that can make it less painful.
You would happily blow out your flame if it meant theirs could burn. 

But you can’t. Even though that’s how it should be.

So all you can do is carry them inside you - 
like you did once before. 
Except now they have to stay in your heart forever.

And though it hurts,
just know that they are safe there. 
They are protected.

Because a mother’s love is unending.
Because it burns forever with every breath you take and 
with every beat your heart makes.

Because a mother’s love
is a flame that can 
never
be extinguished.

Beautifully written by Becky Hemsley
September 24, 2021
— You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once —
You lose them over and over, 
sometimes many times a day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up, 
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken, 
so does your memory, 
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.

Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.

Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea, 
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every day, 

for a lifetime.

August 10, 2021
 I  miss my son today. That goes without saying, I suppose, since I miss him every day. But on this day the pain is particularly sharp, the ache especially deep. I miss my friend, I miss my brother, I miss my protégé. I miss the son of my youth, the delight of my heart. I miss seeing him and hugging him, I miss teaching him and learning from him, I miss the sound of his voice and the cackle of his laugh. I miss having a son at all. I just plain miss my son . 

The time between now and when he went to heaven has passed so quickly, yet so slowly. It often feels like it was just yesterday that we received the phone call, just yesterday that we endured the cremation , just yesterday that we watched your body being claimed by orange yellow flames and the  pervasive smell of death.
 But at the same time it feels like it was a lifetime ago. We were different people back then, a different family with different desires, different assumptions, a different understanding of life and death and the God .
And just as the time between now and when my Son went to heaven has passed both quickly and slowly, I expect that the time between now and when I go to heaven will pass both quickly and slowly. This life is a dash, a blip, a vapor, yet just as truly a slog, a marathon, a long and wearying pilgrimage. I have often observed that while the brevity of life is best seen in retrospect, it’s the slowness of life that tends to be felt in the moment. It may be brief as we look back on it, but it’s long as we live it.
And it feels long today. It looks long today. It looks long as I gaze into the future and see a road laid out before me that may well lead through months, years, decades. It looks longer still as I consider the heavy burden of grief God has called me to bear. I am confident I can carry a great weight for a short distance, but far less confident that I can carry it for many miles or many years. I just don’t know how I will bear up under this sorrow if I have to carry it all the way to the end.
And just so, while God has called me to bear my grief for a lifetime, and to do so faithfully, he has not called me to bear the entire weight of it all at once. The burden of a whole lifetime’s grief would be far too heavy to bear and the challenge far too daunting to consider. But the God who knows my frailty has broken that assignment into little parts, little days, and has promised grace sufficient for each one of them. My challenge for today is not to bear the grief of a lifetime but only to carry today’s grief  that he has spread out before me.My  God-given task began this morning and extends only until tonight. Then, when I awaken with the dawning of a new day, I will awaken to new blessings, new strength, and new grace that will allow me to be strong  through that day as well. 

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