ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Admiral Joe Aikhomu, 65 years old, born on July 31, 1955, and passed away on February 25, 2021. We will remember, love and miss him forever.

Posted by GEORGE IBOI on March 2, 2021

Am deeply shocked to hear of the death of our highly respected, chief, The Aigbokalo of Esan, Rear Admiral Joseph Aikhomu ( Retired). My own brother I so admire and respect is gone. A great son, father and Chief of Esanland. An approachable and problem solving brother. He loved all human being that came across him in life. Indeed Esan people and the nation has lost a great man. Adieu my brother and may your soul rest in peace, till we meet again at the resurrection day.
Posted by David Omonibeke on March 2, 2021
Oyeka my landlord for two years introduced me to Admiral Joe in street 8, and Admiral received me smiling and was and always a good host I always enjoy his company and we do meet often at the airport always willing to help and I was rudely shocked when I saw the news of Admiral transition. Life is a vapor it only stay for awhile. Rest In Peace Admiral.
Posted by Mnena Bara-Hart on March 2, 2021
Uncle Joe,
We are deeply heartbroken but consoled that you are now resting with the Lord.
You were a father to many of us and your mark indelible in our lives. You were truly a fine gentleman, full of knowledge and laughter as you always found humor in most things. Your kindness, generosity of spirit and humility will live in my memory forever.
May our Lord comfort and sustain your family now and always. May God Almighty grant you eternal rest in perfect peace till resurrection day, Amen.!!!
ADIEU UNCLE JOE!!
Posted by Paolo Marco Felli on March 2, 2021
Dear Joe, you cannot even imagine the pain I felt when I knew you passed away. We were used to call each other "brother", and I know that this is a common expression used among friends, but we were brothers for real. You met my big family in Italy and immediately you became one of us. I will never forget you. May your soul rest in peace. Ciao Joe. A big kiss.
Paolo Marco Felli
Posted by Elson Kgaka on March 2, 2021
God is the answer to everything and He is for ever with you Sir. The family and the entire nation is morning the great man and onld will answering our heavy heart. We love you and we will continue to love you. Our prayers are with the family during this trying time. May his soul rest in peace. Tsamaya sentle. Tsela tshweu .from South Africa
Posted by Solomon Edoro on March 2, 2021
May the soul of Admiral Joe Aikhomu and the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace, Amen.
Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him, Amen.
Posted by Francis Abagi on March 1, 2021
An officer and gentleman. You are greatly missed. St Columbas/Gbenoba Grammar School lost a rare germ.
Posted by Garth Dooley on March 1, 2021
The world has lost a great man, Nigeria has a lost great son, Nigerians have lost a great father, and I have lost my dearest friend. Being friends with Joe Aikhomu was one of the happiest things in my life, We all thank him for the joy he brought to the lives of everyone he met, and I must thank him for the friendship and love he showed to my family and I. It will be a source of encouragement each and everyday of our lives.

Joe was the ultimate older brother, even to those of us who were older than him, age was of no consequence. He was always kind, generous, joyful and supportive to everyone he met. Time spent with him was always full of happiness and laughter, it saddens me that this time has come to an end, but I will be forever grateful for the good times we had together. Rest in peace my dear friend, till we meet again.
Posted by Glory Erere on March 1, 2021
Only "Goodnight", Uncle Joe not "Farewell!"
A little while, and all His saints shall dwell
In hallowed union, indivisible -
Goodnight! Goodnight!!

You made everyone around you very comfortable by your very accommodative disposition.

We may be pained by your transition but are comforted by the great and wonderful memories of your kindness.

Good night Uncle Joe


Posted by Eugene Abels on March 1, 2021
Uncle Joe ,
I was opportune to meet you for the first and last time in January 2021 in your house.
You left a huge impression on me as the perfect host who had no qualms about age nor class but was deliberate about details .
Our God is sovereign.
Sail on into the sunset Admiral
Posted by Gbenga Gbenga on March 1, 2021
UNCLE JOE!!
How did this happen! Somethings we take for granted, Uncle J will always be around abi! Not so, The mightier one than thee will always keep his appointment.
Uncle Joe , you had a happy mien that translated to all. You made us feel amongst and included to be you and yours. You were the jolly good Brother Joe!!

May you rest well in the bosom of the Lord that has demanded your presence.
Posted by Dr. Oluwafemi Ayewoh on March 1, 2021
They say, death is a necessary end, which will come when it will come. For Joe, my brother of inestimable value, it came much too soon and in this instance, it was most unnecessary.
In Shakespeare's thinking, we are all actors, who strut and fret while on life's stage, take our exit and be heard no more. However, Joe's legacy as a builder of men, great father, trusted friend, a provider of leadership with a human face, will make forgetting him impossible. He'll be in the hearts and lips of Nigerians for generations to come, especially those who were fortunate to have experienced his goodness. He was open hearted, humane and giving.
For a man who has had to deal with the deaths of very close, loved ones, Joe's passing has wounded my heart. Healing will take a while.
To his children and family, may God grant you the courage and fortitude to bear his irreparable loss.
To my dear brother Joe, who gave without expecting anything in return, rest well until we meet again on the resurrection morning. Okinbue omhoe. Osenobula rhi egbe nho fure nhien bhi agba okhun . Ise.
Posted by michael onolememen on March 1, 2021
Rear Admiral Joe Aikhomu was an accomplished sailor, a brother and a profound humanist. You cannot encounter Joe without going away with positive and amazing impressions; His love and care for humanity was infectious.
He was a proud Esan man, an avowed philanthropist, and the Aigbokalo of Esan land.
As a socialite, Joe was an exemplar and treated all that came his way with love and empathy. Indeed, he was an inspiration to many.
Now that he has gone the way of all mortars, it is my fervent prayer that God should grant him merciful judgment and let perpetual light shine upon him,
Posted by Folake Bajomo on March 1, 2021
A great man, A true Father and a mentor to a lot of people. He was the true definition of ‘Love’. He loved everyone regardless of who you were or where you're from. ‘A father to All’ !

From afar you could see and feel that the love he had for his children was pure and genuine. It reminded me so many times of what the bible expects from parents which is ‘Love the children God has placed in your care.

He was a very happy soul, he wanted everyone around him to share out of that happiness. He was a great man not just to his family and friends but his country which he served.

This alone is enough comfort that God has accepted him into his kingdom and that gives everyone of us rest. It hurts that such an amazing man with a positive and welcoming aura is no more, but I pray his family takes comfort knowing how too good he was that his Maker needed him home.

May God comfort his beautiful family and give them the strength to go on living on all the memories they shared with him and knowing that he’s at peace with his Maker.

Rest well Sir
With Love ❤️
Posted by Chuks Iroche on March 1, 2021
Our very own Uncle Joe it’s so difficult to believe your gone it’s like a dream to a lot of us you showed us so much love taught us how boys turned to men . Always happy and accommodating . May your soul Rest In Peace
Posted by Abiye Amakiri on March 1, 2021
My own very dear Admiral, words fail me. But I am consoled by the simplicity of the exemplary life that you lived. You taught us, younger ones, to love everyone we meet irrespective of tribe, tongue or faith. I never heard you speak ill of anyone. God's speed to an eternal rest. May God give your family and all the loved ones you have left behind the fortitude to bear your departure. Rest in glorious peace, Uncle Joe....
Posted by Kolawole Diya on March 1, 2021
Jay 1, I am still in a state of shock & hoping the news will turn out to be untrue. I saw a father who doted over his children like a mother hen. I observed a friend who sticks closer than a brother. I saw a colleague who took up your challenges as his own. O God how does one explain the death of such a good man? How? How?? How??? My dear friend you lived for all & died a fulfilled man. May God repose his soul & grant the countless loved ones he left behind the fortitude to bear this painful & irreparable loss. Amen
Posted by Omobola Bakare on March 1, 2021
A True Father and Leader. I admired him so much. From afar, I saw what it was to be a present Father. I saw a Man who would do any and everything for his Children. He extended that love to his Children’s friends, his community etc. He was a Jolly Good Fellow. He lived a good life and made sure he enjoyed his Life. It truly sucks that he is no more. I know his Name and Good deeds would linger on for a whileeeee. I pray that God grants the Family all the strength and comfort to go through this. It’s hard. But, we thank God for blessing us with someone like him. I pray the memories are comforting enough for the family. May his amazing soul Rest in Perfect Peace. We Love You, Sir ❤️
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Posted by E O on March 31, 2021
Mike Ajukwu shares Additional Thoughts on Rear Admiral Joe Aikhomu.

I start by thanking the fine men and women of the Navy for their service to our Country. You are our anchor when the waves come crashing down. Thank you for your noble service.

Rear Admiral Joseph Omozuya Aikhomu loved the Navy. As a collective,we have lost a profoundly decent man and the Navy lost one of it's finest Ambassadors. Yes, the Navy lost one of it's finest Ambassadors. Rear Admiral Joe humanised the military in the hearts and minds of so many .
This day is a hard and painful one for all of us gathered here. It is so much easier to mourn in silence. But silence or not, one thing which binds us, bringing all of us together is Joe--a man we all loved as a colleague, a friend, a brother and a Father. I am certain of two things though: Rear Admiral Joe would have wanted us all to be here, full glass of cognac in hand, sharing our happiest thoughts of our time together. Therefore, in pain and in tears, let us celebrate the very impactful but tragically short life of this fine officer. Second, Joe is still here with us strongly in spirit--it is so palpable.

I will talk about Joe by referring to two passages in the bible. These passages neatly encapsulate the essence of his life on earth. The passages talk about the Love of God and the love of neighbour. The love of God and the love of neighbour. Joe Aikhomu was a genuine Christian, free from pretence and hypocrisy. I am confident attaching the word genuine to Joe's name because I have seen and experienced his heart. I have also seen, and read of, the massive outpouring of emotions and pages of warm tributes, the deeply felt sense of loss and grief. In part, and I confess, I decided to put my eulogy in writing because speaking extempore would have been an emotional challenge.
From the gospel of Mathew, chapter 22, verses 35 to 39: an expert in the law tested Jesus by asking : Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the law. Jesus said to him: you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important commandment. The second is: you must love your neighbour as yourself. You must love your neighbour as yourself.

Joe honoured both commandments. He honoured both commandments. Proving that he honoured the first commandment is certainly above my pay grade, and will defer to the Rev Fathers on that. But God gave us the second law as a litmus test for the first law. And I ask, who were Joe's neighbours? Very simple, very straightforward: everyone he met, no boundaries of faith, religion or tribe. I repeat : everyone he met regardless of faith, tongue or tribe. It is often said, partly in good taste and in jest, that a true Sailor is one who finds love at every port. Joe hated not loving and his passion was friendship. He never met a stranger he did not love. Joe never met a stranger he did not love.He embraced friends and strangers with his heart. He demonstrated his love for God by putting others before himself. Indeed, he reintroduced me to the word " welfare" not as pejorative adjective but as a term of endearment for the least able among us. The least among us had a special place in his heart.

Joe was truly a good man, a genuine Christian and even that is an understatement. I saw and experienced his love of God and humanity; his cohort at the Defence Academy are deeply pained by his death and their outpouring of grief has been monumental; his neighbours at Bar beach towers continue to tell of his graciousness; to his friends and neighbours at Nicon Estate he was a beacon of light that gave a warm glow to life. The core of this fine Sailor was aptly captured in the words of Maya Angelou. I paraphrase roughly: you may not remember the incident, the occasion or the circumstance but you never forget how he made you feel. You never forget how he made you feel. I still recall with a drop or two of tears many cheerful and happy moments of more than 30 years ago. One of my favourite poems is the Soldier by Robert Brooke which is associated with a romantic image of England. I quote in part: If I should die, think only this of me: that there is some corner of a foreign land that is forever England . My friends, I speak for many when I say there is a corner of our hearts that forever will be Joe. We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.( an old navy saying) Our beloved Joe adjusted the sails and lived his best life. Tragically short but long enough to teach us the lessons we needed to learn, most especially the love of neighbour.

Painfully, we have to say good bye to someone who has been an integral part of our lives for decades. How do we reconcile ourselves to the heart breaking reality that our very dearly beloved Joe is no longer physically present with us. I am literally numb and struggling to process my thoughts and emotions.
In conclusion, I implore all to say a prayer everyday in Joe's memory for the safety and welfare of his family and of the men and women of the Nigerian Navy. And may the light of Jesus and the Angels bring peace and salvation to Rear Admiral Joseph Omozuya Aikhomu. May he rest in peace knowing that his soul belongs to God and God only. . God bless you all and may his memory be a blessing to family and friends . Amen

Mike Ajukwu
Lagos
29th March, 2021
Posted by Maddy Onochie on March 31, 2021
TRIBUTE TO THE GAME CHANGER - OUR BROTHER & FRIEND UNCLE JOE AIKHOMU.

AND THE HONOURABLE MAN LEAVES FOR A BETTER HOME.
••YES THE KIND HEARTED MAN IS GONE
•• WHEN HE STEPS IN THE SCENE CHANGES.
•• HE TOUCHED ALL WITH HIS MAGIC SMILE
•• YES HE IS THE GAME CHANGER.
••STAY WELL "OPEN MIND""

TINNA MALECHI ORAEGBU
Posted by E O on March 30, 2021
JOE AIKHOMU DIES, - AND MY HATRED FOR DEATH DIES

By DR. OKEY ANUEYIAGU


When Joe died, I began to hate death again. I hated death for the first time when I was barely 12 years old and growing up in Kano. It was the day our young handsome pediatric doctor-neigbour was murdered by young Hausa-Fulani rioters during the pogrom and massacre of Igbo residents in Northern Nigeria. This young Igbo doctor, who had just returned from medical studies at The John Hopkins Medical School, in the USA was captured at the Nasarawa Hospital where he was delivering babies from pregnant Hausa-Fulani women, was tortured and killed by Northern hoodlums.
When I witnessed his lifeless brutalised body lying bloodied in the frontage of his home next to ours, I hated death, and its fetid accomplices. The next time I would hate death was when my mother died. She was only 61 years old, and in the prime of her life. The body of the most beautiful, most loving and most angelic woman that I ever knew, made me hate death some more and with ineluctable and lugubrious intensity.
Now, as Joe dies, I begin to ask myself how do I know that in hating death I am not like people who got lost in early childhood and do not know their way home again? This question takes me back to my college days study of philosophers. It takes me directly to one of my favourite Chinese philosophers, Zhuangzi. He dealt extensively with the anxieties and stresses of death – our fear of death. This great Philosopher wrote that since we humans really know nothing about, or of death, we need not fear it. He argued that the fear and hatred for death that disrupts our natural state of tranquility are often unfounded and baseless. Why do we fear, worry and hate what is ultimately real, what awaits us after death, or other insoluble puzzles or uncertainties? My belief, which I have tried to substitute for my hatred for death, is that by relinquishing such fruitless fear and hatred, I, and possibly others, can find and achieve happiness while alive.
In fact, I consider the lessons I have drawn from the death of Joe and the hatred of death, to have formed my mind and body to think of life itself as strange, a confusing and complicated state, and death as a return home.

Joe told me countless stories. He repeated these stories and each time with perfect accuracy. He never missed a word – it was as if he had electronically recorded these stories in his head or in some compartment of his memory bank. He once told me the story of how as a young High School student he had visited his uncle, Admiral Augustus who was himself then a young Naval Officer living in the Navy Barracks in Apapa. After spending several boring days at his uncle’s house with practically nothing to do, Joe, the rascally inquisitive boy set out after breakfast to “know” Lagos. Without any idea of what he was doing and where he was going, he wandered off on foot into the streets of Lagos. He found himself in unfamiliar territories after walking for over 12 hours. He was lost, tired, hungry and did not remember his uncle’s address. He became delirious, confused and began to retrace his steps back home. The more he walked, the more he was lost. When darkness began to fall, he began to panic and his attempts to get help or food and water were unsuccessful. He did not have a penny on him. He was knackered, as his hubristic and pertinacious attitude began to fade.
Joe continued to walk. He told me that he then remembered that he hadn’t asked for God to intercede. He then began to pray. He was too hungry and tired to mouth- out his prayers – he was only able to recite his prayers in his heart as his face was drenched with tears and his eyes bleak from the fading daylight and the impending nightfall and darkness. His day was dangerously gloaming. As he walked, he continued to pray, and suddenly he found himself in front of the Navy Barracks to the welcoming and worried arms of his uncle and his wife.
My friend and brother Joe Aikhomu found his way home, and in dying, he exchanged the uncertain and frightening state of feeling lost and unsafe in life, with a journey free from all worries and anxieties. He knew what harbor he was making for, and he had the Right Wind. His mind was tranquil and impervious of any disruptions, as he sailed home.
Good Bye, brother.

Dr. Okey Anueyiagu.
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An Angel Among Us

Shared by Dr. Olusola Oguntolu on March 15, 2021

"The worst Solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship"
                - Sir Francis Bacon


The passing to the great beyond of this truly great man, a mentor, a friend, a teacher and confidant is beyond the capacity of ordinary humans to comprehend. Having faith that the almighty called him home for greater service, his sojourn here completed soothes the pain and void.

"My Admiral" as I fondly called him defined what true friendship ought to be. He was an angel walking among us even if we did not know it. His unfailing delivery of daily devotionals first thing in the morning followed usually by a text or a phone call, sharing his wisdom and wit will be greatly missed.

The love and devotion to his family was self-evident. He was immensely proud of his children and the wonderful, confident yet humble adults they became. He celebrated each milestone and accomplishment with such pride, I know he is at peace knowing he guided them to a place of clarity and fearlessness for what the future may bring.

I had the honor and privilege of being an advisor particularly on matters related to his well being. His humility and deference to the wisdom of others despite his deep knowledge and status is instructive. 

The near endless magnanimity to all who come in to his orbit is legendary. My fondest memories are the prayers and messages of goodwill that he and my dear departed mother sent through me to each other - even though they never met. It was especially painful that I lost both of them within days of each other, but I am uplifted by the brilliance of the joy they shared and will celebrate their memories.

I hope the Almighty assists us all in carrying forward the message, wisdom, wit, knowledge, deep faith and philanthropy as he did. His memory will live forever in the hearts of all that were fortunate to have crossed paths with him.

My Admiral...Sun 're o. 


THE GENEROUS ADMIRAL

Shared by MOROUNMUBO AMODA on March 5, 2021
  I had gone NNS QUORRA while the Admiral was a Captain and the CO of the Ship. He saw me through his office window walking towards the classroom block. He called me to his office and showed suprise that I would passby without stopping to see him. I excused myself that I would have done so after completing what I came for. 
  He was having photoshot in his of. He insisted that I should have a shot. I told him that I wouldn't look good since I wasn't prepared. He asked the photographer and his team if it won't be an honour for them to take such a beautiful officer. The answer was, chorus Yes.
  After the pictures were taken. The CO realised that I had no watch on, he took off his own wristwatch and put it on my wrist. He asked for the pictures to be taken again. By now everyone was laughing and I that was reluctant to take pictures was now posing. 
  By the end of the exercise, he asked me to go with his watch but I said no and had to explained to him that I took off my watch in my office to washed my hands; and didn't remember to wear it before leaving my office in NNS OLOKUN(BEECROFT).
  That's how generous the Admiral could be.


Shared by Frank Ihekwoaba on March 1, 2021
I am invited to my neighbor's house for the first time. So I walk in tentatively,  sit politely, and prepare to speak in hushed tones in the home of an Admiral.  Then he comes down, took one look at me, called me by my full name and there was the beginning of a friendship.  A man who carried no airs, loved humanity, generous to a fault,  laughted at everything, never a dull moment, a first class mind you feel deep down not in your face. The kind of man you never, never ever associate with eulogy. So why, why oh God am I writing this about The Admiral now.  Well, because you Father know best and you know tomorrow which no mortal can see or understand. Adieu wonderful father,  Adieu great friend,  Adieu fantastic neighbor that never fails to bring a smile to the faces of fathers, mothers and children.  Adieu to the man the host of heaven must be smiling to welcome home. Adieu Admiral Joe Aikhomu.