Sweet Mother was a very Kind,Generous,Caring and Loving Woman with a Heart of Gold. She welcomed everyone into her home with open arms. She never held grudges against someone, when someone offends her in a certain way, she points it out direct to the person that she's been offended and the person should not offend her anymore. Sweet Mother loved GOD our CREATOR and HIS only Begotten Son JESUS CHRIST, Mama prayed all the time for her children and grandchildren and people in her life that she knew, she also prayed to GOD to heal her of the Arthritis and other Infirmities that she had,she didn't know that GOD had other plans for her....Sweet Mother taught me to clean and do house chores. At age 9yrs in Benin City I was participating in washing of my clothes and some of her clothes that were easy to wash with my 9yrs old hands .
At age 9yrs she also taught me how to cook, started learning to cook with yam and beans, it was not easy in the beginning but Sweet Mother guided me and made sure I was always around in the kitchen to check on what am cooking to make sure it didn't get burnt.
Also when she baked cake I always helped to put the cakes in a special size plastic bag and stapled with her labels which was written on it "Nessie"s Cakes". Sweet Mother was also a disciplinarian. Sweet Mother dislikes disobedience,just like every mother dislikes disobedience...
Back then, I thought she hated me because I was the only one receiving her disciplinarian side....Didn't know she was actually preparing me, shaping me for the future by teaching me to cook, clean, do house chores e.t.c. Sweet Mother loved all her children, she raised us all well, taught us to respect elderly people, be kind and be of good conduct, love one another, taught us to cook, clean, do house chores diligently e.t.c.
She had a Sweet side when she made jokes with me and made laugh and also when she sang some songs she heard me playing and she liked it, it became her favourite. Like this Song Ifennacho, by Ishioma and the Luckiers Band of Africa . And Sweet Mother song by Tilda and The Rocafil Jazz International (Original Artist Nico Mbaga). Mama loved these songs alot. Some time in early January 2021 when I Video called her or she video called me, (can't remember who video called who) she was with her Sister in CHRIST, Sister Philomena and she started singing, Ifennacho, Ifennacho Ifennacho ba chom o né nu eh, and I stepped in and started singing the lyrics to her. She loved the song so much and she also loved Sweet Mother, I nor go forget you,for the suffer wey you suffer for me o and she will be dancing with her hands,smiling and shaking her head to the song, because she could not physically dance anymore because of the Arthritis that ruined her legs☹.
And that's why I started calling her Sweet Mother because she suffered for all of us, 4a.m/5a.m waking up to bake cake, meatpie and prepare breakfast for us to eat before going to school everyday, all the sleepless nights she had raising us all up, was not an easy task, because of her I understood that being a MOTHER was the Toughest and Hardest Job on earth because I watched her all my life working hard to make ends meet and raising us and it was not easy Multi-tasking.
Every time I sent her WhatsApp message I write to her, "Ututu Oma o Sweet Mother" And she replies me back "Ututu Oma nwam oma" ( meaning my good child") she loved it when I called her Sweet Mother. One time I told her thank you for all the sacrifices she made raising us and I thanked her for raising me well and she acknowledged that it made her happy for me to thank her and remember all the suffering and sacrifice she made for us,making extra income just to make ends meet.
I was always there by her side helping out, so of course I remembered all the 4a.m/5a.m waking up,standing for hours in the kitchen, Multi-tasking and I thanked her for all the sacrifices and the suffering she did for us.. Sweet Mother was a very hard working woman. She was dedicated to her Husband just as she was dedicated to her Children and her job as a Teacher too. She was Kind, Caring,Loving,Welcomed all into her home with open arms, she opened her home to raise her Sister's Children,Relatives Children and even Stranger's Children and she raised them like she raised her own children, she was willing to send them to school on her own cost, but some of them didn't like school, so she just raised them at home doing house chores.
I remember one time in Benin City, she use to plate my hair, she had this Iron comb that she heats up on fire and used it to comb my hair thereby making my hair all stretched,straight and soft. I dreaded that hot iron comb because somtimes it burnt my scalp and it made me cry, oh my GOD it was my worst nightmare that Hot Iron Comb!! Several times when I was in secondary school in Umutu , I had to go to the farm to uproot cassava, peeled it, washed it and took it to the cassava grinder engine to grind, afterwards I mix it with palm oil after it was grinded in preparation for making garri, put it in a bag and pressed it down to dry overnight with rope and plank, the next day when it was dried, I had to bring it out of the bag bit by bit and sieved it also bit by bit and fried it in the oven (they call it oven igarri), fried it in the hot heat of the flaming fire in the backyard kitchen, that's how I learnt to fry garri and my fried garri always came out perfect after yearssss of practicing, (in the beginning it was not easy o my garri burnt and came out in lumps ), anyway my point is that I fried most of the garri which was sold in the market in Umutu for Sweet Mother to have extra income in addition to what our Father gave her, to pay our school fees, buy Christmas clothes and shoes every December and she also used part of the proceed from the sold garri to put food on the table for her family and parts of proceed from my garri frying,her baking and cooking moi-moi, she used to give my elder ones pocket money when they came home from the University.
She was honest and direct, straight to the point. Oh my Sweet Mother I could go on and on non stop. In a nutshell, Sweet Mother was a Kind Hearted Woman, Honest,Caring, Loving, Forgiving( no matter the offence, she always Forgives and ask not to repeat same offence again), she loved GOD our CREATOR and HIS only Begotten Son JESUS CHRIST, she was Hardworking, never held a grudge against someone, she raised other people's children like her own.
Sweet Mother never held bad thoughts against anyone, she had a Heart of Gold. She had an open mind, she always spoke out what was bothering her in her mind and once spoken, she gets over it and it's out of her mind and forgotten,that was my Adorable Sweet Mother. This is just a few of what I can write about my Sweet Mother, I could go on and on....
It really breaks my heart that you are gone and never to see you anymore in this Realm, I really don't know how am going to cope the rest of my life knowing you are gone Nném Oma. I love❤ you Sweet Mother and sadly☹☹ I miss you everyday since you left this realm. I miss the little things we had and the little moments we had Mama.
Since you left Sweet Mother, every morning when I wake even though I know you are gone, I say Ututu Oma o Sweet Mother in the Heavenly Realm and before I go to sleep after saying my prayers, I also say, Korbor o Sweet Mother in the Heavenly Realm, just as I apped you every morning when I wake up and every night before I go to sleep when you were Alive Mama. I know you are in a much better place,Mama. Sleep on in CHRIST Sweet Mother till we meet to part no more.
I love❤❤❤❤ you but GOD loves ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ you more Mama and that's why HE spared you all the misery and sorrow you would have gone through for years if HE had spared you and kept you Alive for us,our Heavenly FATHER knows the best and I thank HIM for calling you into the Glorious Kingdom of HIS only Begotten Son where there is no more sickness, no more pain, no more sorrow, no hunger, no thirst,no worries, , where you are now in your Glorified Young Body, my Gorgeous Sweet Mother.
GONE but not FORGOTTEN, Mama you will live on in our hearts through all the cherished memories and moments we had with you. I miss you so much, miss your WhatsApp video call and WhatsApp messages,I miss seeing your face and hearing your voice Mama☹☹ ...ADIEU Sweet Mother, Ézhi Nném Oma, Nwa Agolo Okéatu, Nwa Obegene, Ézhinwaéchénigwé,Oshini yé osà lï, ôzü nwa osà, uchà né gbü njï, ègbéze nwunor...Gone but not Forgotten,You will forever live on in my heart Mama,I love you and I miss you so much☹☹.
With Love❤ From Your,
Good Child, Marsha.
