ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved Alan, 90, born on October 28, 1925 and passed away on  August 17, 2016. We will remember him forever.

Please tell stories and add pictures.

Lets celebrate his life, his passions and keep him alive through our memories and continue his living legacy through active participation in making the world a better place as he did!


Posted by Alexandra Cassidy on August 17, 2020
An amazing man who served his country in so many ways. He leaves a big legacy and so many people loved him and continue to think about him and miss him.
Posted by Judith Kay on August 17, 2020
Josh is grateful that Alan gave him so much--a great work ethic, a love of the outdoors, and a talent for mathematics and engineering. Judy is grateful that Alan gave us some great vacation memories--hiking on Mt. Desert Island, backpacking in Mt. Zion National Park, and freezing to death in August while camping in Banff, Canada. We loved your chutzpah--you marched right into the hotel on Lake Louise so we could warm up in their jacuzzi. Josh & Judy
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 17, 2020
My darling Alan ! Always thinking of , but especially today when we said farewell in 2016 . I feel your presence every day in all the new work we do every day , including our latest survey " Beyond GDP " , which we did together and with Globescan in 2007, 2009 and 2013 , and this latest in 2020 ! You are with us always, my beloved !   Hazel
Posted by Judith Kay on October 30, 2019
Alan would have been 94 yesterday! Wow. Still appreciate his mind, his twinkling blue eyes, and his vision..... Josh and I send love.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on October 28, 2019
 Remembering my beloved Alan on his 94th birthday ! I still have Alan's US Army dog tag which has not left my wrist since he left us in 2016.
Rest in peace with love and blessings from your partner , spouse, lover, friend and co-author , remembering those 25 happy years together , Hazel
Posted by Alexandra Cassidy on August 18, 2019
Thinking of Alan on this third anniversary of his passing. What a amazing life from the Army of occupation in Japan to all the work done in the name of peace. So glad for the time he and my mom had together.
Posted by Judith Kay on August 18, 2019
Josh and I lit a yahrzeit candle for Alan and Josh said kaddish for him today at services. So proud of his legacy. If he were still with us, he'd be taking on the nuclear arms issue all over again.... Judy
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 17, 2019
 My dearest Alan : Remembering you every day, with your picture in every room in our house. Remembering how we loved to work together, dream together and write together. You would be pleased with what we continue to do to keep moving ahead on our shared goals..in spite of headwinds from the current regime.  Love and hugs, Hazel
Posted by Sergio Lub on May 5, 2019
Alan and I met in 1983 while volunteering to create BENS - Business Executives for National Security. Our motto: "Being dead was bad for business".
I was always very impressed by Alan's original thinking. From the beginning it was clear that he was a remarkable man.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on December 21, 2018
Dearest Alan : Thinking of you at this Holiday time and how much fun we had together. I'm still wearing your US Army dog tag on my wrist and refer to your writings and books . Now your " Eliminating War " will be distributed on the website of "World Beyond War " !   Loving you always,  Hazel
Posted by Alexandra Cassidy on October 29, 2018
Thinking of my amazing step-Dad. He was an inspiration and brought so much love and laughter to my Mom's life. I had the great honor of reading his letters sent home during his time in the Army of Occupation during WWII. A historic treasure trove and illustrative of both his intellect and his sense of humor. He is missed now and forever.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on October 28, 2018
From Hazel Henderson :
Remembering my beloved Alan on his 93rd birthday . He is with me in my heart every day as I write articles with his work and our collaboration in mind. I am grateful for the over 25 happy years we spent together .
Rest in peace , my beloved, for the good you achieved in a life well and fully lived . With love always from your life's partner ,Hazel
Posted by Judith Kay on October 28, 2018
Thinking of Alan on what would have been his 93rd birthday. I wonder so much what his polling efforts would now find. Would he still such strong evidence of the American people's common sense? I hope so! Nov 6 will tell us something.....
Posted by Richard Perl on September 23, 2018
I remember Alan as a brilliant man, generally of few words, and yet who consistently held the place as the second smartest person in the room (after Hazel, of course). His dry sense of humor and skeptical, often insightful contrarian postures were balanced by his big heart and passion for a better world, and full love and support of Hazel, all she stood for and contributed to, and in that context, all of her wildly visionary friends. He continues to stand out as a mover and lover of good.
Posted by Rosalinda Sanquiche on August 20, 2017
A friend recently found this quote at the Computer History Museum in Mountainview, CA: "The way to predict the future is to create it." Alan F Kay. Thank you, Alan for your continuing and inspirational wisdom. A year later and so many of us still often think of you and are glad to have had you in our lives.
Posted by Morton Williams on August 19, 2017
It seems like only yesterday that Alan and I had lunch as we spoke of things that would potentially improve the human condition and the planet:: like yesterday because he permanently resides in me.

I was privileged that such an intellectual giant and gentle man called me his friend.
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Posted by Martin Burger on August 17, 2017
Dearest Hazel and Alan, you both left a loving legacy in your work, but where you really taught me (druming at the pool side in Jacksonville) was the great love you obviously had for one another, and from that personal foundation of love, you were both able to contribute so much to us all.

Your dream for "Wisdom of the Masses, real time democracy," lives in me and the Blockchain. Yes, Hazel, we are now well on our way to the day of the "Information Age", where innovation and knowledge is the new equitable currency for Humanity.

Thank you and till we meet again!
martin
Posted by Ashok Khosla on April 23, 2017
Dear Alan,

As we approach the day you left us one year ago, I simply want to recall the extraordinary light, ideas and support you gave to the world and, with Hazel, to our own efforts at Development Alternatives. In so many different ways the World owes you much gratitude, not least for the creativity, humility and generosity you always exemplified.

Ashok
Posted by Morton Williams on October 29, 2016
As everyone knows, Alan was a gentle and generous genius whose passion was to save the planet from the egregious assaults perpetrated on it by the human specie. Yet he was equally passionate about creating a greatly improved social and political environment that would enhance the lives of the planet’s human inhabitants. The only man I know of who wrote a book titled “Eliminating War”, with a brilliant plan to accomplish this grand goal. Nothing was too big for Alan to take-on and no amount of complexity deterred him. With his extraordinary mind he was sure that he could find a solution.

Alan enhanced my life in many ways and for that I will be eternally grateful. I think of him almost every day. Happy Birthday Alan.
Posted by Beth Binns on October 28, 2016
Dear Alan,
I am thinking about you today on the anniversary of your birth. You gave us all so much...........
Love, Beth
Posted by Martin Burger on October 28, 2016
Alan

You left the world a better place. I will always remember our poolside chat on our return from from OPEC /Caracas and teaching you how to play your new Native Elk ceremony drum. Bless you my friend.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on October 14, 2016
Honoring you, my darling Alan, on this special day of your military honors - October 14, 2016. You are in my heart always.
Posted by Louis Bohtlingk on September 30, 2016
Dearest Hazel,
Bless you in all you are. I am with you and with Alan, whom I only briefly met. I wish him a good transition and send you all love and strenght. A tribute to Alan I cannot write, but surely to the two of you. Bless you both  with very warm greetings Louis Bohtlingk
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 31, 2016
In their letter of condolence, Daisaku Ikeda, President of Soka Gokkai, and his wife share stories of Alan's life. See the lovely tribute under the "Stories" tab and the link provided to the letter itself.
Posted by Elizete Amaro on August 29, 2016
Dearest friend Hazel and family,
Please, receive from all your friends of Amana-Key team in Brazil our deepest condolences for the loss of Alan, a very special and enlightened soul.
With love and care.
Posted by Katherine Collins on August 26, 2016
I have rarely met a person with such towering intellect, such passion for justice, and such deep human kindness - what an honor to have known Alan. Hazel, your love and partnership with Alan has been an inspiration to me and to many, and it is the kind of connection that transcends all bounds of time and space. Sending my love and condolences to you - kc
Posted by Mila Popovich on August 25, 2016
What a life well lived! Your and Hazel's love and life's work have been an inspiration. What a legacy! Thank you!
Posted by Helen Rake on August 22, 2016
While sad, I feel so fortunate to have shared some time with such a brilliant and generous man over the last few years. It was a joy to observe the special relationship he and Hazel shared. They were a true partnership and held each other in the highest esteem. A real inspiration! He will surely be missed by many.
Posted by Margarita Skeen on August 22, 2016
Alan I leave this flower for you. Together you and Hazel have built a living legacy and created knowledge that will continue to bloom for many generations to come. Thank you for all that you gave. May you rest in peace. Peace be with you Hazel and family. My deepest condolences.- Mitzi
Posted by Francis Koster on August 21, 2016
I am very sad. The passing of this humble, brilliant, generous, patient, talented humanitarian leaves the world a poorer place. Hazel, you have our sympathy and support should you need it in the days ahead.

with deep respect, and grief

Fran Koster and Carol Spalding
Posted by Morton Williams on August 21, 2016
I have lost a dear friend, a friend who generously indulged me with his profound knowledge and his lighthearted wit, a friend who shared with me his compassion for the planet and his passion for "Eliminating War"

I was flattered that a man of his towering achievements and monumental intellect would spend his precious time with me and consider me his friend. All the while I knew that Alan was one of those rarest of human beings who wanted to make our world a better place and who had the extraordinary courage and ability to accomplish that goal together with Hazel his dynamic partner and adoring wife.
Posted by Ken Fink on August 19, 2016
Blessings to you Hazel and your family on this great loss. The world is certainly a better and more compassionate place because of Alan. My last memory of him is quite happy, you turned on dancing music in your atrium and Alan jumped up and danced with abandon, to our collective joy.
Posted by Eva Willmann De Donlea on August 19, 2016
A gentle, loving, generous soul, and a right gentleman, this is how I knew Alan, with a deep curiosity for life. It has been an honour to have known him while walking on this earth. Dear Hazel, you two made such a formidable team, I have no doubt he continues to watch over you. With a loving hug from across the oceans, Eva
Posted by Kim Curtin on August 19, 2016
Blessings to you Hazel and your entire family for the loss of Alan.

I'm confident that he will continue to be with you all. Hazel keep listening for him to root you and your amazing and transformational work on because he certainly will.

Sending love and light.
Posted by Beth Binns on August 18, 2016
Dear Hazel, Alan's children, grand children, step children,
Alan is very dear to me. I feel his spirit so strongly. His intellect, his kindness, his softness, his passion for just causes, his love of walking, his love of Hazel and his family, his love of reading and writing and swimming. I will really treasure every quiet moment I ever had with Alan. Be strong everyone. His spirit is with us all.
Love, Beth
Posted by Tessa Tennant on August 18, 2016
Thank you Alan for being Hazel's partner. I only met you two times but your kindness, intelligence and big soul came shining through and the encounters are strong memories to this day. What a blessing you found each other, and lucky the world in everything you did together.

Boosted by reflections of your life... we continue with the great endeavour.
Posted by Elsie Maio on August 18, 2016
Dear Hazel, my condolences. I see from this and other tributes to Alan what a light he was for so many people and for the world. I know from your sweet words about him and how you cared for him over these past years what a light he always will be for you and your family. My heart goes out to you, dear, at the loss of him in this physical dimension. Blessings, Elsie
Posted by Janis Williams on August 18, 2016
Alan was such a sweetie, endowed with a privileged brain and the power of concentration to use it for its highest and best use. He was forever kind and so very thoughtful, and Morton and I will remember him always with great affection.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 18, 2016
My beloved partner, spouse and soulmate of 28 years, Alan F. Kay, polymath, mathematician, inventor, pioneering entrepreneur and green investor, left us peacefully on August 17, 2016 at the age of 91. Alan loved our mission at Ethical Markets, kept us encouraged and helped envision and build our Henderson-Kay-Schumacher Library and conference room – for deep conversations with planetary aware global citizens we met in our travels around the world. Our work continues and is dedicated to Alan’s vision which we share every day for the peaceful global transition now underway toward inclusive, equitable societies based on cleaner, healthier, knowledge-richer, green economies embodied in the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals and the next stage of human evolution: the Solar Age.
Posted by Nancy Sikes-Kline on August 18, 2016
Alan was a good father and faithful husband. He was kind and fair to his many friends in St. Augustine. He cared deeply and passionately about building a livable city through thoughtfulness, dialogue and citizen engagement. He was generous of his time and resources to build an equitable future for all. His contributions had a tremendous impact on many of us who were fortunate enough to know him. He will be missed.
Posted by Simran S on August 18, 2016
My deepest condolences to you, dear Hazel. Sending love and light to all the Hendersons and Kays and lighting a candle in honor of the bright light of Alan.
Posted by LaRae Long on August 17, 2016
My deepest sympathy is extended to Dr. Kay's family. His legacy and care for humanity will forever live in the essence of his work for public interest.
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 17, 2016
Alan was a quiet, kind, gentle man with deep passions for peace and justice. I am privileged to have known him.
Posted by Brian Jacobson on August 17, 2016
Thank you Alan for your friendship ~ you served your country and humanity well. I was happy to bake & sneak you some oatmeal cookies. Rest in peace.
Posted by Martin Burger on April 29, 2016
A great man with a lasting contribution who will be missed dearly.

Martin

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Posted by Alexandra Cassidy on August 17, 2020
An amazing man who served his country in so many ways. He leaves a big legacy and so many people loved him and continue to think about him and miss him.
Posted by Judith Kay on August 17, 2020
Josh is grateful that Alan gave him so much--a great work ethic, a love of the outdoors, and a talent for mathematics and engineering. Judy is grateful that Alan gave us some great vacation memories--hiking on Mt. Desert Island, backpacking in Mt. Zion National Park, and freezing to death in August while camping in Banff, Canada. We loved your chutzpah--you marched right into the hotel on Lake Louise so we could warm up in their jacuzzi. Josh & Judy
Posted by Hazel Henderson on August 17, 2020
My darling Alan ! Always thinking of , but especially today when we said farewell in 2016 . I feel your presence every day in all the new work we do every day , including our latest survey " Beyond GDP " , which we did together and with Globescan in 2007, 2009 and 2013 , and this latest in 2020 ! You are with us always, my beloved !   Hazel
Recent stories

Your life contribution of realtime democracy still lives

Shared by Martin Burger on October 28, 2018

Alan,

Bless you my friend as long as there is a breath in me, that work will be done.

AutEx Memories

Shared by Candy Mixter on November 19, 2016

My sincerest condolances to the entire Kay family for the loss of a truly wonderful individual as I know you will continue to feel this loss forever.

My memories of Alan come from the early days of AutEx, as I was employee #13 and worked in the company for over six years.  I was hired as a receptionist, my first job following college, and was promoted to Alan's administrative assistant before the end of my first year.  I worked for him directly for three years, married & moved to Los Angeles where I was the office manager for the very newly opened West coast office.  I then returned to the home office two years later and Alan gave me a position in the Public Relations department until I left the company a year later to become a stay-at-home mother.

What a wonderful experience it was to be involved in the company working towards the go-live date. We all worked long hours but always under the direction and on-going encouragement of Alan.  Even my small contributions were noticed and appreciated.  Having little business experience, when he'd leave me hand written notes to transcribe, I didn't think it was unusual to have two lines of hand written text for every line on the page...how my eyesight survived, I don't know!  Alan was a stickler for punctuality and I learned to be on time each day, a virtue I've carried with me to this day.  I learned so much about business protocol, how to value everyone's talents and to always show kindness all from Alan.

His generosity with the staff was very memorable.  He opened his home to us very often whether it was a pool party on a hot summer night, having a hanami to show us the beautiful flowers that he tended with such loving care, or just telling everyone to go home early for a long holiday weekend.   I can also remember being put forth by the other women employees as the agent for change to get his permission for us to wear pantsuits to work.....they had just come into fashion.  He didn't hesitate for a minute in his agreement!  

One of my favorite memories, well over forty-five years old, is an evening we had dinner together.  It ended up being just the two of us and the main topic of discussion was how the Vietnam war was being waged and how very, very wrong it was.   My end of the conversation could not compare with the depth of feeling and passion that Alan displayed, but I have never forgotten that night.  His compassion and understanding was something I had not then ever experienced.

I know that my memories are not comparable to those of his peers around the world, but these simple thoughts are shared in the hope of showing how deeply his humanity touched all of us who had the privilege of knowing him, at whatever level.

My condolances to all of you who knew and loved him as he was a remarkable man.

In sincerest sympathy,

Candy Parker Mixter

For Alan's Military Memorial Service

Shared by Hazel Henderson on October 17, 2016

IN PRAISE OF ALAN F. KAY, PhD

Like many soldiers, Private Alan F. Kay, US Army 42187381, after personal encounters with the obscenities of war, became as he would say, “a peacenik”.  As I look at the precious memento on my wrist of Alan’s US Army tag, I recall how much his World War II experience as a 20-year old shaped his life’s journey.

Alan’s war experience was as a Japanese language translator in the command of US General MacArthur’s occupation of Japan in 1945.  Alan’s keen observances of conditions in that defeated country are preserved in hundreds of hand-written letters home to his parents Harry and Ceil Kay in New Jersey.  This treasure trove came to me, since fortunately Alan’s mother Ceil kept every one, and they were returned to Alan at Ceil’s passing in her 93rd year.

After I said my last goodbyes to my beloved Alan on August 17th, 2016, I and Alan’s stepdaughter, my daughter Alexandra Cassidy, spent a tearful day reading Alan’s letter from Tokyo out loud to each other.  How miraculously healing it was to engage with Alan so vividly – as he described his daily encounters, duties and his first explorations of the Japanese culture he had studied so deeply along with the language at the University of Minnesota.  Along with Alan’s letters were many of his essays on Japanese history, art, music and cultural traditions.  This priceless collection will be donated to an appropriate institute, as a living archive of US-Japanese relations – available for study by Japanese and US scholars.

Alan Kay’s World War II experience sparked his lifelong interest in international relations, peace research, conflict resolution, diplomacy and the United Nations – and his passion for perfecting democracy.

Alan Kay witnessed General MacArthur’s exemplary occupation of Japan, fostering the writing of their constitution still in force today with its focus on human rights and equality and renouncing of military aggression.  This led to Alan’s major social innovation which he proudly launched, spending $2 million of his own funds: public interest polling.  Alan deeply believed in the collective wisdom of informed voters and rule by “we the people” as paramount.  These goals brought me and Alan together in Washington, DC, in the mid-1980s, since I was serving as a science policy wonk advisor to several US Agencies and the Congress.  We soon joined forces and remained soulmates until my beloved Alan departed this life in 2016. 

He is now in my heart every day, in the Henderson-Kay-Schumacher Library and private conference facility we created together in St. Augustine, Florida.  As I continue our work together, each day I see his picture in every room, and remember his hard work, his books and papers.  I pledge to keep his vision fresh and spend my energy as Alan wished, so our joint efforts will continue.  Alan lived his life to the hilt as he describes in his biography Militarist, Millionaire, Peacenik: Memoir of a Serial Entrepreneur (Cosimo Books, NY, 2008).  This volume and all his other books and papers will remain in our Library and available to scholars.  I am deeply inspired and full of gratitude for the 25 years Alan and I worked, lived and loved together – and for his silver bracelet US Army tag, a gift from his parents, now always around my wrist.

Hazel Henderson, October 14, 2016