September 5, 2021
September 5, 2021
Alex,
I was on TikTok last night and by divine chance, the first thing I saw was Michelle’s post. I had to watch the video about 10 times before it hit me that it was indeed you (I can recognize that handsome face anywhere). For the next few hours I had an absolute out of body experience as the memories of the time we spent together flooded back in an incredible tsunami-like fashion. What hit me harder was just how I was thinking about you and contemplated on reaching out, (despite my extreme social anxiety), just earlier yesterday evening. I had no idea you went, and I am sorry that you have, I should have initiated reaching out more often than I did, and I am filled with regret and sorrow. So here I am, the next morning, writing to you.
I met you on a dating app before going on many wonderful dates with you, spending the bulk of the time talking for what must have been 16 hours or longer, up all late nights, discussing everything and anything, days filled with undivided attention only to break for some sleep. We traveled the universe with discussions of spirituality, Joshua tree, climbing, adventure, music, love, helping others, the magic of life, the darkness of our mental health battles, and our love for the Animaniacs (and how shows these days lack the quality of writing they once had). I can not think of a single subject we could not find common ground on. You looked me in eyes when we spoke with such respect and even when calls or text messages would come in, you never failed to ask if it was alright with me that you let the person reaching out know that you’d return their communication back soon. The regard you had for others is unmatched. I remember how you did not hesitate when I asked you to come out with me and my friend’s group for boba, and how you made everyone feel seen and even when I left for school and later to the other side of the country, you never failed to keep in touch often starting conversations with your sweet and goofy “hello hello”s. I loved your deep, soulful eyes from the moment I met you and that voice which was therapeutic on its own. You’ve healed me with your hands and with your profoundly deep mind and light spirit. I remember telling you how I had never met someone who romanticized life the way you did and you lit up with that full-faced blush and smile. Looking back now, the times where I questioned why you still kept in touch, because no one seems to do so these days, or how you never seemed to forget not only the important details of me but the little, often disregarded ones as well, the times you asked when would be my next visit to California, or wishing me the happiest birthday, I now know how rare of a gem you truly are. I felt so important and I wish I had returned the favor in such a way and more. I can see I am not the only one and that even beyond mortal life, you are still reaching out to me and the lives you have touched, Alex, I cannot thank you enough.
Recently, I have been going through a dark time where I had questioned my own existence, it had been going on for some time (and even in the grim times of this pandemic, you still reached out, your help is endless and the impact you make truly echoes). I asked the universe for a sign early yesterday, to show me that life is so much more than the mental anguish I have been suffering through and I truly believe you spoke to me last night. I hear you loud and clear! From it all, I learned that even when we feel alone, we are not, and that our lives are worth more than the low value we may drum up for ourselves at times because of our internal misery. Your passing has not only been devastating for me to learn, especially so late, but moreso in the direction of the light you are, it has changed something within me in a deep way, even under this very tragic circumstance, and today I woke up with eyes full of dried tears, but a heart bursting with love and gratitude. This is the first time for me in what feels like forever. I felt that something had healed within and because of you, I will, from here on out think twice before ignoring a communication or failing to check in even with the ones who may not be the closest. I will listen more carefully when someone tells me that they are going through a rough time, even when it is regarded as past tense, and especially when they say that they want to go somewhere else and start over again. Even if it has been many years since I have seen you face to face, your ability to quickly make me feel like we are old friends is an example I intend to take with me for eternity. Here it is, proof that love is timeless.
I had the pleasure of speaking over the phone with Michelle (and boy, she is wonderful and her empathy and kindness is truly a reflection of the good of, in, and around you) and we cried and laughed and reminisced about you and the impact you have made and continue to make. She helped me begin to heal through her understanding and kindness even after I apologized for my struggles which I had felt abashed by initially because of the stigma. May we have a world where it will no longer be the case one day, for it would be a chance to save an angel like you. It has become very real to me that asking for help is also a way of protecting others from the darkness we face, as sudden loss may be one of the heaviest one can bear. I made a new friend through you, and I really needed it, thank you again. Though you were deeply loved by many, as you have understood for me time after time, the depression is tiring and wherever you may be in your next journey, know we miss you so much and may you find peace. But for now, I will stay here and you will remain a piece of me that I will keep alive through your exemplary generosity of love and care. I intend to follow that example, though I may never live up to your level, and today forward I will embrace and love life just that much more. I have had enough of being stuck in my own world and I am now looking to have so many wonderful adventures in the pursuit of living, I know you will join me in spirit.
I love you, Alex, until we meet again.
I was on TikTok last night and by divine chance, the first thing I saw was Michelle’s post. I had to watch the video about 10 times before it hit me that it was indeed you (I can recognize that handsome face anywhere). For the next few hours I had an absolute out of body experience as the memories of the time we spent together flooded back in an incredible tsunami-like fashion. What hit me harder was just how I was thinking about you and contemplated on reaching out, (despite my extreme social anxiety), just earlier yesterday evening. I had no idea you went, and I am sorry that you have, I should have initiated reaching out more often than I did, and I am filled with regret and sorrow. So here I am, the next morning, writing to you.
I met you on a dating app before going on many wonderful dates with you, spending the bulk of the time talking for what must have been 16 hours or longer, up all late nights, discussing everything and anything, days filled with undivided attention only to break for some sleep. We traveled the universe with discussions of spirituality, Joshua tree, climbing, adventure, music, love, helping others, the magic of life, the darkness of our mental health battles, and our love for the Animaniacs (and how shows these days lack the quality of writing they once had). I can not think of a single subject we could not find common ground on. You looked me in eyes when we spoke with such respect and even when calls or text messages would come in, you never failed to ask if it was alright with me that you let the person reaching out know that you’d return their communication back soon. The regard you had for others is unmatched. I remember how you did not hesitate when I asked you to come out with me and my friend’s group for boba, and how you made everyone feel seen and even when I left for school and later to the other side of the country, you never failed to keep in touch often starting conversations with your sweet and goofy “hello hello”s. I loved your deep, soulful eyes from the moment I met you and that voice which was therapeutic on its own. You’ve healed me with your hands and with your profoundly deep mind and light spirit. I remember telling you how I had never met someone who romanticized life the way you did and you lit up with that full-faced blush and smile. Looking back now, the times where I questioned why you still kept in touch, because no one seems to do so these days, or how you never seemed to forget not only the important details of me but the little, often disregarded ones as well, the times you asked when would be my next visit to California, or wishing me the happiest birthday, I now know how rare of a gem you truly are. I felt so important and I wish I had returned the favor in such a way and more. I can see I am not the only one and that even beyond mortal life, you are still reaching out to me and the lives you have touched, Alex, I cannot thank you enough.
Recently, I have been going through a dark time where I had questioned my own existence, it had been going on for some time (and even in the grim times of this pandemic, you still reached out, your help is endless and the impact you make truly echoes). I asked the universe for a sign early yesterday, to show me that life is so much more than the mental anguish I have been suffering through and I truly believe you spoke to me last night. I hear you loud and clear! From it all, I learned that even when we feel alone, we are not, and that our lives are worth more than the low value we may drum up for ourselves at times because of our internal misery. Your passing has not only been devastating for me to learn, especially so late, but moreso in the direction of the light you are, it has changed something within me in a deep way, even under this very tragic circumstance, and today I woke up with eyes full of dried tears, but a heart bursting with love and gratitude. This is the first time for me in what feels like forever. I felt that something had healed within and because of you, I will, from here on out think twice before ignoring a communication or failing to check in even with the ones who may not be the closest. I will listen more carefully when someone tells me that they are going through a rough time, even when it is regarded as past tense, and especially when they say that they want to go somewhere else and start over again. Even if it has been many years since I have seen you face to face, your ability to quickly make me feel like we are old friends is an example I intend to take with me for eternity. Here it is, proof that love is timeless.
I had the pleasure of speaking over the phone with Michelle (and boy, she is wonderful and her empathy and kindness is truly a reflection of the good of, in, and around you) and we cried and laughed and reminisced about you and the impact you have made and continue to make. She helped me begin to heal through her understanding and kindness even after I apologized for my struggles which I had felt abashed by initially because of the stigma. May we have a world where it will no longer be the case one day, for it would be a chance to save an angel like you. It has become very real to me that asking for help is also a way of protecting others from the darkness we face, as sudden loss may be one of the heaviest one can bear. I made a new friend through you, and I really needed it, thank you again. Though you were deeply loved by many, as you have understood for me time after time, the depression is tiring and wherever you may be in your next journey, know we miss you so much and may you find peace. But for now, I will stay here and you will remain a piece of me that I will keep alive through your exemplary generosity of love and care. I intend to follow that example, though I may never live up to your level, and today forward I will embrace and love life just that much more. I have had enough of being stuck in my own world and I am now looking to have so many wonderful adventures in the pursuit of living, I know you will join me in spirit.
I love you, Alex, until we meet again.